There are so many things that are not automatic.
In some homes, the mother practically give her 'life' to see the children prosper while the father follow side chics or drink bear and party away.
You as the author, you will appreciate the one who give most and best to you. You may be writing base on your background, where fathers and mother jointly contribute to the life of the child but in many homes it is not like that.

TheUpsetGirl1:


can your mom take care of those basic needs?

be unbiased biko, nothing like secondary needs
just that Dads are too strict.

no,am not talking about being strict or not..
There are some mothers that are more strict than fathers..
So what are we now saying??

My advise to men is that we should be more closer to our children not only in finances but in everything. Some fathers play their roles perfectly well at home yet they are not appreciated. Be your child's friend and he would appreciate your effort.

That's y i will not divorce cos if i divorce i will divorce mother n children not just mother.
I cee many divorced home children always talk abt mummy but wen problems land mom will not b heard any more it will b wer is our father.
To me its d duty of d women to direct der children well cos most men are not always around.
When i was in school when ever my dad sent me money my mom would always asked if had tnk my dad for the money.

Maxcollins042:
Why dear?

he never cared he left

daveP:
Any good reason why?

he left

ITS SIMPLE NAAA... DADDDYY JUST BRING THE MONEY N DAZZ ALL

Rozaytee:
he left

thats painful. I hope you understand why, even if it wasn't supposed to be so?

A father figure would always be there.... trust on...

Divay22:

When it comes to a child's love for his parents, it can never be equal.
The bond a child and the mother share, start right from the womb, so when the love is 20% for the mum, for the dad it might just be 10%.
So deal with it...... It can't be equal.

not always true

Not really. Moms are amazing
https://momsall.com/family-family-categories/

DoTheNeedful:



op is not talking about bad marriage here. You can open another thread about that.

@topic, Fathers are usually underappreciated. However, I think this goes to show that money is not everything. There are some psychological and emotional needs mothers provide for their children better than fathers that money can't buy.

The OP did not specify good marriages.

I gave one of the major reasons why fathers are unappreciated.

Like I always say, if a father did well, his children would appreciate him. Even if they have a demonic mother, they will grow to appreciate their father later.

Maxcollins042:

Madam this is a faulty generalization. Some fathers do a great parenting more than the mothers in a bad marriage. The greater part of the statistics tilts to either party involved.

A generalization? True.

Faulty? No.

bukatyne:


A generalization? True.

Faulty? No.

The generalization is still faulty and baseless. Maybe you had a familiar experience and that's not enough reasons for you to make such assertions.

Make your research to get more facts. I know few women that are exhibiting the character that you are painting the fathers in here.

My Father shows me unhidden love as equally as my Mom do. I don't know about you.

bukatyne:


The OP did not specify good marriages.

I gave one of the major reasons why fathers are unappreciated.

Like I always say, if a father did well, his children would appreciate him. Even if they have a demonic mother, they will grow to appreciate their father later.

Absolutely!

From my own experience, in our family we love and cherish our fathers and grandfathers. My grandfather was everybody's darling. His children and grandchildren did not only love him but literally worshipped him. This man did not only provide money, he spent every free minute with us. He took us to his shop, he let me sit on his lap and steer the wheel of his car, he bathed us, cooked for us, dressed us, took us with him everywhere and would beat the f*** out of anyone who dared to insult or touch us. Family was everything to him and he could see no fault in any of us, unconditional love was what he stood for. This is where I learned that it exists and what it feels like. Until this day, everyone, even the men in the family, have watery eyes when remembering him. No woman in the family can compete against him though there is no competition. He died at home surrounded by his family and he was pampered till his very last breath.

RIP my first love

Mindfulness:


Absolutely!

From my own experience, in our family we love and cherish our fathers and grandfathers. My grandfather was everybody's darling. His children and grandchildren did not only love him but literally worshipped him. This man did not only provide money, he spent every free minute with us. He took us to his shop, he let me sit on his lap and steer the wheel of his car, he bathed us, cooked for us, dressed us, took us with him everywhere and would beat the f*** out of anyone who dared to insult or touch us. Family was everything to him and he could see no fault in any of us, unconditional love was what he stood for. This is where I learned that it exists and what it feels like. Until this day, everyone, even the men in the family, have watery eyes when remembering him. No woman in the family can compete against him though there is no competition. He died at home surrounded by his family and he was pampered till his very last breath.

RIP my first love

RIP to him from here.

Don't mind them. If a man is good to his family, they will appreciate him.

I have seen children appreciate fathers who did not have smooth relationships with their mothers.

Greene66:
Many fathers are useless.

Few mothers are useless.

So yes, #TeamMoms

If this is based on the impression your dad created...bro you are wrong.

toprealman:
If this is based on the impression your dad created...bro you are wrong.

Nope. I remain correct as long as you do not have any material point to tender against my claim other than commenting about my father whom you do not know.

Ladyhippolyta88:

You don't say?
You got to be kidding me

only if you choose to be a kid...

Mothers contribute love and affection during the child's formative years, when it does not appreciate that the father works and pays school fees, buys food and pays for the hospital fees. The child only knows that it is his mother that hugs him at night when he is sick, it is his mother that puts food on the table, and it is his mother that helps him with his homework. At this point, the child cannot understand what happens financially in the background, hence does not appreciate it.

If you want your kids to appreciate you, cry over them at night, bathe them every morning, sit with them and feed them when they are hungry, clean up their faeces from the floor when they make a 'whoopsie' and hug them to sleep and play with them all day to give your wife the chance to attend all the wedding parties she wants to, or to go out with her friends every evening (just like no one can question you if you want to do just that). If you feel that this is difficult, then let them appreciate their mother more...she deserves it.

My parents are simply the best, when my dad was alive he took his fatherly roles seriously with he and my mom both contributing to the upkeep of the home but since we lost him my mom stepped into his shoes and have been doing marvellously well without support from anyone except God. So it depends on your background cos it tends to affect your individuality.

My wife wonders why I love my dad more than my mum. The reason is simple, my dad makes the money while my mum spends it on us the kids and on herself. My mum accumulates the bills while my dad pays the bills. Why then should I love my mum more? I am a very fair human.

bukatyne:
In general, mothers will do far more for their kids especially in a bad marriage.

It is their curse and the recognition their reward.

well I grew up in a stable home...my dad was the hero of the home n even paid the ultimate price. Left legacies for us. So I'm confused here

NwaAmaikpe1stSon:
Bleep fathers.



I know there are good fathers out there, but what i pass through my dad's hands, make me to believe that all fathers are the same.


Maybe just maybe it wasn't his fault, maybe it was step mum that manipulate him, but hell no! he is the man of the house...i tagged him aweak man.




The only good thing that happened to me in this life, is my Mum.... that woman is a supper woman, she deserve every bit of respect from me. she sacrifices for me, so my days be better than hers. So fuccck fathers, i said Fuccck Fathers to hell.

all these ones raised by single mother's sef........always tlkn like women.. Guess ull b a mother someday.

Ladyhippolyta88:

"Overhyped" you say?
Go and get pregnant and wait for nine months then you would understand the bond a mother and child shares.

u carry for 9months. Whtbout 21 fvckn years. Duhhhh.

makavel7:
I was speaking to a friend of mine the other day who wickedly abandoned his father and was dotting all over his mum even recently took her on a trip to canada while the Dad is wallowing in abject poverty.

The Mum actually poison the mind of this dude cause she and his father were having a little misunderstanding. It pains me so much cause I know the Father in question and go over to see him once in a while. Whenever He starts talking about what his son my friend is doing to him I can really feel the pain and hurt in his words.
Men please dont ever abandon your father for any reason at all because tommorrow you are going to be someones father, think how you would feel if your own children abandon you in old age just because your wife turned them against you.

your friend is a fool. Yes dear hen you're young we all tend to tilt towards our mums but as u grow older n develop a mind of your own.... You learn to separate facts from emmotions. Thts wen u become a man.

Jeferious:
Exactly. Fathers don't care about the appreciation. Even if they do, they act like they don't need it. Plus their general strict nature and business-like attitude towards their kids. It's absurd to see a father solicit appreciation from his children. It kinda makes him a sissy. Of course he is the god in the house, and a god is not supposed to depend on his worshipper(the children in this case) for anything. That's the thing with Fathers. They act as though that they are above the kind appreciation, thus it is useless to them.

Meanwhile, the favours that moms do come with some drama and emotion(Women and manipulation are like 5 and 6). It is this stuff that play on the childrens' mind to elicit those appreciation and encomiums mothers get all the time. In the end, it doesn't matter if the dad provided more favours; the mother always get a lion share of the praises.

It was as I got older that I began to realise that men endure a lot. To be a man is not easy. All men worldwide, both my enemies, (and minus kitten niggas that worship women)...I hail and respect you all.

thts y i look down on men tht their mums brainwashed. Really sissy guys tht can't discern.

Danhumprey:
Mr Xynerise, please can I talk to you in private. Through mail. It's urgent.

Go ahead

xynerise:


Go ahead

I just sent you a mail.

kunmisola:
My parents are simply the best, when my dad was alive he took his fatherly roles seriously with he and my mom both contributing to the upkeep of the home but since we lost him my mom stepped into his shoes and have been doing marvellously well without support from anyone except God. So it depends on your background cos it tends to affect your individuality.