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Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by onatisi(m): 8:16am On Apr 14, 2018 |
PurestBoy:this must be a joke . so you are not happy that your boy doesnt cause you unnecessary medical bills 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by juwoonn(m): 8:18am On Apr 14, 2018 |
PurestBoy:Your son is just a little hyperactive than my 2 year old daughter. She does almost everything you've written. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by ChisomDgreatest(m): 8:20am On Apr 14, 2018 |
adaksbullet: Jesu! |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by scobyy2007: 8:24am On Apr 14, 2018 |
This is a joke abi adaksbullet: |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Nobody: 8:32am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Tellemall: Offer your suggestions without generalising or bad mouthing your countrymen, Nigerians aren't a bunch of 'dumbos'. Being civil transcends actions, words matter too. That was my opinion oga , not a consensus or professional opinion. You need to chill, you offered a good suggestion but it's veiled in contempt. 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Nobody: 8:50am On Apr 14, 2018 |
kense88:lol na so |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Indelibleage: 8:58am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Bring the child or the two of them to Centre for Learning Disabilities, No. 43, Rwang Pam Street, Jos. We'll treat him there. Thanks |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by oshunloye: 8:59am On Apr 14, 2018 |
A Psychiatrist is the best for you to take the child and not a Paediatrician. You will thank me later. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Tellemall: 9:19am On Apr 14, 2018 |
onatisi: Is there a problem? The OP is describing something he finds different from other children, surely he knows how normal hyperactive children are. He believes his child is behaving in a strange manner. How do you think people with children who have mental issues know that their child has issues? Is it the child that will tell them or the parents that seek solutions at an early stage? Drop sentiment here. If a parent feels their child is overactive they probably know what they mean, at a parents age they have encountered all kinds of children to know what's the normal and not. Autism is more common than people think, so is ADHD. Giving such a child drugs will help them to be functional and not turn them into this "mumu". You appear to be angry about something unrelated to this. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Tellemall: 9:27am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Lucid1: @bolded, you're generalizing And no, I did not refer to Nigerians as Dumbo's(you made that statement), but you have to have noticed that almost all Nigerians do not really understand things of this nature because there is poor mental health awareness in the country. It's not bad-mouthing, it's a fact. Go through the responses and see for yourself. If this were another country the parents would've been notified by teachers with a list of places they could visit for help with the problem. Getting professional intervention and administering medication to a person who it could help is better than assuming it is a phase. Hopefully the contemptuous appearance of what was stated is ironed out. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Adanne9110(f): 9:29am On Apr 14, 2018 |
You can start by reducing the quantity of sugar that u give to him,,,sugar has a way of increasing ones hyperactivity ,I have such tendency and I was told so by doctors,,,including soft drinks |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Lincoln275(m): 9:32am On Apr 14, 2018 |
lonelydora:I think nowadays kids are like that especially boys , my son is just 11+ months but so active to the extent that I had to consult my father and he told me that I did more than that when I was small. I think there is nothing to worry about. he will soon overgrow it . 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by KingAfo(m): 9:36am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Ahmeduana:8 months old? Too early to say. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by neonly: 9:38am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Der is one herb that they use here in Yoruba land it called iletutu don't know if I got d spelling right sha but try it I had a similar experience with my 14 yrs old son too when he was young but it helps sha get a mature person to use d herb 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by zela(m): 9:43am On Apr 14, 2018 |
In as much as I believe in Medicine... I also strongly believe in Science... That Behaviour might be Genetical ie Hereditary.... Check out urselves as parents and find out How you were at that age... Please Stop Saying Sugar Causes Hyperactivity... It is not proven... Sugar only gives the child enough glucose for action..so he never gets tired... My advice will be for you to introduce the child to Video Games(Intellectual Ones) Or Let Him Involve himself in Intelligent Activities... Cos too much Mental Activity can cause one to be physically active... I have been like that all my life... I hardly sleep or rest... If I don't get active in a minute...then my life is unstable... And then please stop beating Him... It will lead to stubbornness... The boy will develop ways to be rebellious... Just Love Him and Have Fun with Him Not Forgetting to Tell Him The Truth About Life... Thanks |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by martineverest(m): 9:43am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Teeisaac:not all the time.... I'm still suffering from it now....I use yoga meditation to control it tho |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by wiridina: 9:46am On Apr 14, 2018 |
just like a kid I know.his parents always tie him down.he is stubborn as hell. same age. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by CaesarDon(m): 9:48am On Apr 14, 2018 |
@PurestBoy Ur son is most likely suffering from ADHD ADHD is not just a disorder to joke with cos it's effect are lifelong and all round, pls don't treat this with kid gloves I know this cos my bro has it 1. Let him sleep on time at least 7 hours 2. He should take omega3 fish oil 3. He'd listen to brain wave entertainment 4. Be strict with him with regards to being calm and meditation(this may sound complex 4 his age but realizable) 5. Take more fruits, no sugar, less carbohydrates, no sweetened drinks with aspartame or.... he could take Aderall from a doctors prescription(lifelong) |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Funkybabee(f): 10:03am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Go and buy cane(pankere) though am not saying beating will stop him but the fear of it will make him cool whenever he want to react ,I have cousin that his wahala can kill person but I always notice whenever their mom bring cane out mehn man go low ooo. It's normal!!kids thing 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by teemanbastos(m): 10:10am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Lirqur:lool true talk bro. I can relate |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Psoul(m): 10:17am On Apr 14, 2018 |
PurestBoy: 5 Ways to Handle Hyperactive Kids by Engaging their Body and Mind 1. Channelise their energy Find means to vent their energy and calm their minds. Children need to run around and play a lot. Invest in classes which help them use up their energy, physical activity, and soothe mind. You can also get your child an activity box to help them engage meaningfully and focus on play-based activities. This will help boost their memory skills and concentration – not to forget skill development as well! There are several companies that produce discovery boxes – one such is Flintobox. They make theme-based activity boxes for children between 2 and 12 years of age. Each month’s theme is unique and they produce a limited number of boxes every month. 2. Talk to your child in a simple manner Give them your complete attention and lend an ear to their concerns, interests, and apprehensions. Also get them to make to-do lists and break down the instructions given to them. 3. Help them deal with their feelings Children with hyperactivity find it difficult to handle anger, sadness, and worry. Help them to deal with their feelings and tell them what is good and what is bad. 4. Make them relax Minimize distractions and screen time. Take them out to green surroundings. Just be patient, take a deep breath, be determined to calm him/her, and put his/her high energy levels to good use. 5. Behaviour therapy Reward them for good manners, listening to you, sticking to a routine, encourage them to establish order, and let them know what is expected from him/her. The best way to deal with a hyperactive kid is to engage his mind and body, and channelise their energy. TV and video games do little to channel energy and are a major distraction. Here are 7 Games and Activities to Keep Children With Hyperactivity Busy and Motivated: Karate/Martial Arts To Channelise Energy ‘Karate’ means empty handed. When kids learn karate, they do different postures and ways to channelise their energy. It also helps them to concentrate and calm their minds. Building confidence, learning to focus, and developing enhanced coordination are just a few of the benefits of martial arts for hyperactive kids Outdoor sports for Constant Activity Outdoor sports like football, basketball, volleyball, baseball, and badminton are great activity for hyperactive kids as there is no standing around time in these games. Your children will be constantly moving and using large muscle groups, keeping them focused and energy-drained. They also get to learn about team spirit, sportsmanship, and competition. If you can’t put them for any outdoor sports, make them take up running, which offers constant movement, health benefits, and a sense of accomplishment. Music to Calm the Mind Music is a great way to unwind after school. Music exercises both sides of the brain at the same time. Thus, calming the brain, which in turn makes your kids multi-task and store information better. When they are part of a band, or sing/play chorus, they learn to be a team player. Swimming for Self-Discipline Olympic gold-medalist Michael Phelps was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 9. He took up swimming to master a sport and vent his energy. Swimming is a great exercise for hyperactive kids as it offers constant movement, self-discipline, and calorie-burn. Theatre for Creative Engagement Drama or theatre is a creative activity to engage the hyperactive kids. It needs practice, co-ordination, sharp memory, stage confidence, and people skills. It helps the kids to take personal challenges ,and hone their public-speaking skills. Nature trails to Soothe the Body Nature has its own ways to soothe a hyperactive child. And trust us, kids will love to be in natural surroundings. Trekking, hiking, rock-climbing, rowing, etc. are great options for your bundle of high-energy. Thinking Games Games like scrabble, chess, matching pairs, etc. are a great exercise for brain. These are engaging options for hyperactive kids as they make them sit in one place and concentrate. These type of games are ideal for kids with short-attention span and high energy to build their confidence and interest. Read more here: https://flintobox.com/blog/parenting/handle-hyperactive-kids 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by ststyreal(f): 10:31am On Apr 14, 2018 |
chineduemmao:Sure, I know of one! |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by ststyreal(f): 10:37am On Apr 14, 2018 |
OmoAlata1:Well, I am talking from experience. Austism is wide, some kids own might be that of loss of speech, echolalic(meaning repetition of words), being hyperactive, meaning they can injure themselves while playing, they are always on the move, they hardly feels pain etc. While some could be social behaviour. My friend, have you ever seen a severe austistic child? Hmmmmm. Any way, I only offered an advice. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Nobody: 10:44am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Ahmeduana: Sometimes it's a habit that they grow out of. Sometimes it's not and may be due to neurological disorders. At this stage, you really can't tell.Most kids tip-toe when they start learning to walk. After that they start walking normally. Avoid bare feet. Always put on socks for her or comfortable baby shoes. What you can do is try to encourage your child to walk on her heels if you notice she continues doing it by the time she is 2. This way you can help prevent it from being a habit. There are exercises online that you can both do together. There are also shoes that make funny noises when they walk on heels that kids like or the shoes that light up when they walk on their heels. These can help. If tip-toeing is the only thing you notice, there is usually nothing to worry about but if you also notice Speech Delays, then you may need to have her checked when she's older. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Nobody: 10:55am On Apr 14, 2018 |
OmoAlata1: You were able to rule out Autism and diagnose ADHD from the same write up? You realize the Autism Spectrum is very broad and some of the characteristics are as described by the OP. Only a medical professional can evaluate the child and make that determination. Also, for the people saying the OP should stop worrying that it is normal. You all realize that he may be witnessing signs that made him come here for ideas? Everyone knows kids can be defiant and overactive but sometimes if you notice things out of the ordinary, it is best to have them checked because EARLY INTERVENTION is key. If there is nothing wrong, no HARM done but if something is wrong and you WAIT and keep saying it is normal, you may regret the decision later in life. Best thing is to have the child checked if the OP suspects anything out of the ordinary. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by frozen70(f): 11:14am On Apr 14, 2018 |
PurestBoy:Funny enough mist kids of his age range are like that. My advice every holiday most especially take him to a relation whose kids are in the same age bracket or a little bit Senior to him let him spend his holiday their. Inform the parents of the home that he is hyperactive that you want them to help you calm him down as he watch other children how the behave calmly. By the time he comes back from the holidays there must be changes,while he is on holidays don't visit him there until the day he is going back to resume on Monday, keep doing so until he gets to secondary school then you put him in a mission school where ther is strict discipline eg Catholic schools. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by awhydot: 11:15am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Good day. Though hyperactivity may be age-appropriate, it shouldn't significantly impair a child's overall functioning (not only academics) nor cause significant distress in the parents. If your child is in school and the teachers also complain about his hyperactivity, u might need to seek professional help. Teachers are in constant touch with a lot of similar aged children and if your child's hyperactivity is not age -appropriate, the teachers can tell. If it's age-appropraite, he will outgrow it. In Ibadan, there are specialist child psychiatrists in UCH. They can help with an assessment and determine if he needs intervention. They will definitely give valuable advice to parents and teachers on how to help him modify his behavior and hyperactivity. They may or may not prescribe medications depending on the severity. They will also rule out other childhood developmental problems that may present with hyperactivity. Wishing you and your son the best. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Rapfrick(m): 11:21am On Apr 14, 2018 |
PurestBoy:get him into a soccer academy he just might be a combination of Ronaldo and messi in one vessel but if he is not passionate about football a boxing gym is another point of call he might be a combination of ali and mayweather,which everone it is a camp is in ur house hold dont try to tame him help him discover his potential and work hard on it, u might not be cool with it but discovering and grooming talent at young age sets de worlds best champs in a pinnacle, probably ur vision for him is to become a doc or eng but bro aside de oil sector no other sector pays higher dan de entertainment sector |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Habakus: 11:27am On Apr 14, 2018 |
Op, I want to assure you that you have wonderful children there. They have the stuff that wonder kids are made of. I am favored to have a 5 year old niece like that, and I already see her as a blessing to the entire family. All you need is just patience and a little bit of enforcement. Enforce the right rules to them and make sure they follow them. Also, don't hesitate to spank them (with love) when necessary. Those kids would surely make you proud - you can bet on that. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Bsideboi(m): 11:33am On Apr 14, 2018 |
This is me u just describe as a kid.Im left handed too. Trust me he'll be cool as ice as he grows older.Im not sure about the AdHD thing but you will have to take him to see a specialist. All you need do is show him love and care and ensure he doesn't hurt himself and other people around him.Most importantly,avoid beating him unnecessarily. |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by Azii: 11:51am On Apr 14, 2018 |
PurestBoy:you had better be happy and thank God for giving you healthy children!!! If you don't agree with me then take a walk in the children ward or ask parents of imbeciles, then you will be grateful!!! |
Re: I Need Help For My 4-Year-Old Son by cchiagom(f): 12:11pm On Apr 14, 2018 |
FishLegs:Hahaha you wickedooo. |
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