in many parts of nigeria, its forbidden for a woman to buy /own land or to buy or build a house. often times if she wants to build or buy she has to do it in her brother's name or husband's name! which means the certificate of occupancy is in someone else's name. that is risky oh! besides you arent allowed to tell anyone that you built the house and not your husband. which kind mumu culture be dis abeg?

most of my parents' stuff is in my mother's name.

Then again my mother was never a door mat slowpoke.

@ thiefofhearts.

funny! good one!

My mom owns her house, even my granny owned her home before she passed on, my first car was my mama's old car. moms rock

I don't think its forbidden in W Nigeria

@debosky
yeah i kind of notice that among yoruba women its a bit different. but did ur mum and grand mum have it in their names?

@topic

I don't know anywhere in Nigeria that women are not allowed these things.Please enlighten us on these places

What century are we referring to?

@ spoilt, yes they have it in their names

kellorah:

What century are we referring to? 

Na too much Discovery Channel

What I think she means is what happens when a woman is widowed.In many cases the male relatives try to muscle in on the hubby's property especially if the children are still young.

That is a different thing altogether and happens a lot with poorer people

i own a house and when i bought it some people, who i will not name challenged me that why did i buy it in my name. that dont i know its forbidden as a woman in naija culture. i decided to throw it open cos i thought naija was waaaay past that now.

forbidden??
they should show me were it's written


all they have to say is 'can i have ur land/house' bad belle ppl

na wa for this misleading posts.
Where is it forbidden for women to build houses or own property?

One chimanze dude on Nairaland was going on about how unhappy his mom is about her name not being on any of their property and how the dad buys her stuff to shut her up about it so I assume such things exist in Nigeria, just not in my family that's for sure

The whole thing about widows being bothered by the husband's family still exist and you people should stop pretending that it doesnt.


Moral of the story: Marry someone whose extended family are either dead or all literate.

Moral of the story: Make sure you get a will written hard and fast and kept securely by a lawyer.

spoilt:

i own a house and when i bought it some people, who i will not name challenged me that why did i buy it in my name. that don't i know its forbidden as a woman in naija culture.

Did you ask them to tell you who forbade it?

lol thiefofhearts  


more like marry an educated person who knows that such 'laws' don't and shuouldn't exist

kellofish:

more like marry an educated person who knows that such 'laws' don't and shuouldn't exist

If this educated person dies, the wife will be left with his illiterate pack of wolves family.

omg dat's harsh



he'll b educated enough to leave a will then!

@ rookie

my dear i asked them to show me where it is written and they were just hammering on culture ,culture.
i tire oh! they said it makes women swollen headed and blah blah. that you shd do such things through men in the family. i know women who own lots of property. so maybe they meant village women who have no rights. i am emancipated oh and i told them to f--k off!.

what if they poison this lawyer with juju?  

spoilt:

i own a house and when i bought it some people, who i will not name challenged me that why did i buy it in my name. that don't i know its forbidden as a woman in naija culture. i decided to throw it open because i thought naija was waaaay past that now.

Who are these people? Some village dudes looking to dispossess you of your property by lying through their teeth?

There is NOTHING like naija culture, we have more than 100 different ethnic groups iin nigeria and certainly all of them do not have a universal culture. That one tribe has a particular outdated rule should not be extrapolated to mean this occurs every where.
I know female family members who own their own houses independent of their husbands.

@ debosky

if you ask your husband to write will in advance the guy will think you are planning his death.  

i am emancipated oh and i told them to f--k off!.

Now that's the difference between a footmat and a human being. You go girl!

Tip About Making Wills: they can sieze your car or house, but they can't seize your dead husband's life insurance.

keep a copy of the will in a safe deposit box, properly notarised

I won't think so, my family is comfortable thank God, so I dont think they'll be after my property,

but I will write a will not long after i'm married.

the best thing is to have some things in his name, and some in urs

Lucky j girl  

spoilt:

@ debosky

if you ask your husband to write will in advance the guy will think you are planning his death.  

That is true  

@spoilt

what parts of Nigeria does this actually apply?

My parents are amazing - if they don't own something together, they put in our names (children) but they still control it.

i live outside the country now and its good to know that naija has moved forward oh! progress!

spoilt:

i live outside the country now and its good to know that naija has moved forward oh! progress!

kai!!! Next time investigate before you hyperventilate!

why should she investigate something that happened to her by fellow Nigerians. Plus she DID ask a question on whether it's still going on here or not.

@davidlyan

na you know.