Jman06:
I thought as much!

Male siblings and their selfishness... Only a few care about their siblings. I'm sure it's because of one lady you want your siblings out! All these other excuses of needing your privacy and cleaning your house are just hogwash! I know that adults are supposed to cater for themselves and all that, but don't forget we are in Nigeria where the society works differently and wise siblings carry themselves along to achieve greatness together. That is how many great families achieved greatness! Through cooperative interaction (Those in sciences might understand that term better). What have you done to help your siblings get jobs or get good education or vocational training I'm sure you have done nothing in that regard! Don't worry! Very soon that lady would start showing you pepper and then you'll realize how important your siblings are.

It seems you're squeezing a sibling out of space

men, see as people dey dot out experience. me think say na only me dey face the same issue OP they experienced sha.

though i have two siblings staying with me, by God grace i have find job for them, but i still finance above 60 percent financial expenses every month. the formula i use is i have called them privately that event will soon change, so they should work towards having reasonable saves and so. Me have decide not to form our elder brother is capable to do it alone.

Op act wise, but don't use food as weapon at all, bcoz if at the end of the day, u could not achieve some of ur dreams due to overburdened from ur siblings u will have urself to blame.

happy New month folks

Hidemyface:
I like my space and quiet but recently my siblings have encroach. My expenses have increased as well cause I am family oriented though still single. Right now I am intentionally leaving my fridge naked cos they've disorganized my food plan and neatness is paramount for me so I clean my apartment regularly. How do I tell them I need my peace back cos they are adults already and don't want their continued dependency as it is now affecting my ability to care for my mother the way I want to.

I just change accommodation that's all ....
At times, I maintained two accommodations, one for me and me alone .... and the second for them ....... Especially, if you are a professional student, they will disrupt your life plans and books unless they are also very serious about their school!

Shynerman:
I am presently in such mess with a friend not even a sibling. All you need is patience pending the time you will get married.

same with me... Anyway I gave my friend till this coming Saturday... He only ask for just 2weeks and it is over 3month now, he doesn't want to leave.... I will never try that again

It's good to support your siblings but siblings should understand that you deserve some space.

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I will holler gerrarah here alllll of you

Mine was that: my immediate younger one of 33 yrz wont show me respect, like washing one of my shirts when washing his. Even if I asked him to take money and buy food stuffs n cook, he will give an excuse. The annoying parts are: he tries to make himself better than me b4 my neighbours n others. He brings home girls. Is that not disrespectful? I got fed up and asked him to quit, since he was not humble.

Though I regret ever saying that to him. But I couldn't bear it anylonger since he wasn't going to change.

I hate it when someone who is supposed to show more respect is even embarrassing you b4 everyone.
I love sibblings who are wiser.

Hmm...my elder broda systematically forced m out of his hus Bcoz hé needed his privacy in a 3 bed room flat.w Dnt slip in d same room yet nt comfortable wit m stayin wit him but i noticed dat hé always regrets his action weneva w mit.Now i hav à room actually hé gav m 20k Wen i wanted To liv but dat was nt d ryt tym fo m .nw his power over m has really reduced hé cant control m anyhow unlike b4.I stil respect him though but God givs him d privilège to assist m Wen i needed him but hé fail Bcoz hé made m xprience so many bad thing d first few month i left his hus..Now To ur case if u send em packin Dnt think thy cant find means To survive for emslvs thy wil definitely find in a hard way but thy wil never fgiv u unless u can find à place for dem nd giv em excuse y u want To get em à plac .

From the response here, it appears that a lot of people are inconveniencing either one of there sibling or friend...

That is why they are indirectly supporting it.

Ramos16:

Oh we Africans, why should it be anybody's duty to take care of another, just because they were unfortunate to be born from the same parents, don't get me wrong take care of your siblings if and when you can, but not at your expense. The only people you should take care of unconditionally, even at your own expense, are your children or wards.

Sounds selfish!

Ceasardgreat:


Sounds selfish!

Well... You are free to read meaning to my post as you wish, but it is the truth, I don't think it is selfish, and mind you, what I said is that you down own anybody any responsibility to take care of them, except the children you are taking care of. If you still think that is selfish I cannot convince you otherwise.

Family is family. Remember that. I suggest y'all sit down and lay down some rules. Living together with family can be fun even though it's neck breaking at times. The earlier you assist em find their feet the closer you are to your much needed privacy. Good luck

Someone who keeps his fridge empty when he can afford not to, just so his siblings won't eat, isn't a kind of sibling I'll want to have, MBA biko!

I don't envy your siblings at all.

emmysoftyou:
that means ur brother do you well Na?

If not, u for just relax there and time dey go..
Naso my Yoruba friend dey complain sey him friend wey come pay visit no wan go again instead carry woman come him house.
The guy sey him go live the house for him sey him dey find apartment now.

Yeah. He was bold enough to ask when I was leaving. That's what your friend should do rather than run from his own house.

CarlosTheJackal:
i can imagine your thought that day but the truth is that sometimes we need that little push. I'm happy that today you know that the push of yesterday made your today worth it

Not just that day. Till today I still guilt trip him with it.

Hidemyface:
I like my space and quiet but recently my siblings have encroach. My expenses have increased as well cause I am family oriented though still single. Right now I am intentionally leaving my fridge naked cos they've disorganized my food plan and neatness is paramount for me so I clean my apartment regularly. How do I tell them I need my peace back cos they are adults already and don't want their continued dependency as it is now affecting my ability to care for my mother the way I want to.

nonsence don't try to use ur mother as an excuse.if want them to not say with u, look for an apartment for them also try to be paying the rent. As for ur mothers nothing will be best for her than helping ur siblings. The Bible also acknowledge this. If u love me feed my flocks.

stuffs4me:



This OP is very wicked. How can you keep your siblings hungry. You deserve to be shot in a firing squad.

Come and fire me na. for being 'wicked'
But on a serious note, don't jump into conclusion. I still have half bag of rice that I bought since December last year which has not gone halfway and still struggling to eat cause I don't eat much, there is beans, oil, fresh tomatoes and pepper, condiments, a carton of noodles, potatoes, cereals, beverages and cooking gas. Nothing stops them from cooking and I restock my fridge with at least 20k for the month. Let me stop here cos I believe you get the point now.
I have never asked anyone to help me take care of any exp. As human you get tired shouldering responsibility especially when you started it at a tender age of 17. I also worked to pay my way to get a degree. Like I said earlier, I pray for more grace and money in order not to complain.

deavicky:
nonsence don't try to use ur mother as an excuse.if want them to not say with u, look for an apartment for them also try to be paying the rent. As for ur mothers nothing will be best for her than helping ur siblings. The Bible also acknowledge this. If u love me feed my flocks.

OK seh! But this your Bible quote no be for this mata and I want my mother to start enjoying the fruit of her labor.

JuanitaJames:

Not just that day. Till today I still guilt trip him with it.

Madam Emotional blackmailer i dey hail #Lol

JuanitaJames:

Yeah. He was bold enough to ask when I was leaving. That's what your friend should do rather than run from his own house.

my friend doesn't like his current place though and that's why he wants to abandon the place for the new guy who has overstayed his welcome.

@Op. The sooner the better. They should find their ways if you can't cater for them.

AgentGoat:





You should ashamed of yourself

Okay, I'm ashamed.

emmysoftyou:
my friend doesn't like his current place though and that's why he wants to abandon the place for the new guy who has overstayed his welcome.

That's good too. But most importantly is to avoid other people taking that advantage of him even in his new place.

CarlosTheJackal:
Madam Emotional blackmailer i dey hail #Lol

You trace me come here?
Anyway if I don't black mail him who will?

JuanitaJames:

You trace me come here?
Anyway if I don't black mail him who will?

This is where i started before i checked your profile.


I like the type of your own blackmailer. #Lol.


I will tell your Bros to call your bluff because you are dancing etighi here for your EB

JuanitaJames:

Yeah. He was bold enough to ask when I was leaving. That's what your friend should do rather than run from his own house.

I remember during my University days how the guy i harboured brought in the gf and impregnate her there. I had to leave the house for them and move to a friend place. The guy was surprised and he respected me for showing him love. Today the baby is 12years old and still calls me Uncle

CarlosTheJackal:
I remember during my University days how the guy i harboured brought in the gf and impregnate her there. I had to leave the house for them and move to a friend place. The guy was surprised and he respected me for showing him love. Today the baby is 12years old and still calls me Uncle

Ndo. Belle everywhere.

CarlosTheJackal:
This is where i started before i checked your profile.


I like the type of your own blackmailer. #Lol.


I will tell your Bros to call your bluff because you are dancing etighi here for your EB

See you he recently did me well again. I am his only sibling oh. We are adult orphans. lol

JuanitaJames:

See you he recently did me well again. I am his only sibling oh. We are adult orphans. lol

Can i send my account number so that you can do me well also.

Account Number

01654378 Chase Bank. Mark Stone.



But you get mouth oooooo

JuanitaJames:

See you he recently did me well again. I am his only sibling oh. We are adult orphans. lol

Can i send my account number so that you can do me well also.

Account Number

01654378 Chase Bank. Mark Stone.



But you get mouth oooooo..

CarlosTheJackal:
Can i send my account number so that you can do me well also.

Account Number

01654378 Chase Bank. Mark Stone.



But you get mouth oooooo..

I will think about it. Send me 20 copies of your application letter and proposal stating in clear terms how you intend to utilize the money if given to you.

JuanitaJames:

I will think about it. Send me 20 copies of your application letter and proposal stating in clear terms how you intend to utilize the money if given to you.

Lol. Funny gal.