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Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by appsdope(m): 9:28pm On May 21, 2018 |
Na only you get family sef? All your family problems you go carry am come here. First one na school wey u no go. Now na financial wahala. Oga abeg carry your issues go. U nag a lot 1 Like |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Didi2d(m): 9:28pm On May 21, 2018 |
Let's what this guy has to say |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by geekybabe(f): 9:28pm On May 21, 2018 |
SalamRushdie: Paying them back for what? Did u read this 1 Like |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by abuhusna1: 9:29pm On May 21, 2018 |
When your mother was taking care of you she told no doll not to talk of human being now that it is your turn the whole world have known. Keep taking care of your mum it's a blessing and no amount of goodness you do for your mother you can't pay her back all she has done in your life I can't tell of your younger ones they can fend for themselves 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Abagworo(m): 9:31pm On May 21, 2018 |
You need to leave but don't neglect them completely. |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by mediclife1987(m): 9:31pm On May 21, 2018 |
Ezkid: Thank God you already know your diagnosis... |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Angelawhite(m): 9:31pm On May 21, 2018 |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by mediclife1987(m): 9:32pm On May 21, 2018 |
Ezkid: Thank God you already know your diagnosis... |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by lilyheaven: 9:33pm On May 21, 2018 |
Is not easy to live in a family house, your whole income will end in feeding, you won't be able to buy ordinary shirt for yourself. Please just move out. Be a man. There is a proverb that says," is only when you sit comfortably that you can consider to lean back, x you fall" 1 Like |
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Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by bejeria101(m): 9:34pm On May 21, 2018 |
Ishilove:This one is strong! |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by chloride6: 9:37pm On May 21, 2018 |
You dont need nairaland You need Renmoney Collect Renmoney and move out guy |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by AlfaSeltzer(m): 9:42pm On May 21, 2018 |
Do you pay rent? |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Nobody: 9:43pm On May 21, 2018 |
So being a born again is now a full time job? I don't wanna talk ill of your mum but she doesn't mean well for you. A good mum will encourage his son to save and plan his future family not drain him. My advice is move out of that house, hunger won't kill them if you do. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by ChiefSweetus: 9:44pm On May 21, 2018 |
Whenever I go to work, I'll come back to meet my mom waiting for me at the balcony with a story of how she's been praying for someone to buy her favorite dish for her since morning 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by chronique(m): 9:45pm On May 21, 2018 |
different strokes for different folks. if my family askes me for money and i cant give,i end up feeling depressed and sad. whenever i am asked and i give,i feel excited and happy that i can give. i dont know how you guys were raised and as such,i cannot judge you. do whatever you think is right though. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Cisco2(m): 9:45pm On May 21, 2018 |
Guy u are lucky, am in ur kind of situation but i still endure. my dad is late beign d 1st born i took my family and we are living happily now. so dont run away they are still ur family. Keep up with your work and pray for a better tomorrow. As for ur mom, am speechless sha. na d tin with all this mumu churches deceiving people. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Apina(m): 9:45pm On May 21, 2018 |
Alot of persons are looking for ways to move out, this bobo decided to move back in 4 Likes |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Hennepin: 9:46pm On May 21, 2018 |
Ezkid: Hard to read. The grammar is plenty, gave up after the first sentence. |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Ishilove: 9:48pm On May 21, 2018 |
bejeria101:Mo ni eleyi gidi gan ooo! 1 Like |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Divay22(f): 9:49pm On May 21, 2018 |
I wonder how some parents can sit comfortably well and be eating their child's future (savings) I just hate it. Op it's either you leave the house or try and do daily contribution with your money and give them what is left at home.. Save before spending. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by tiredoflife(m): 9:51pm On May 21, 2018 |
Its the entitlement mentality Dem no send u I was like u They will clean u out And when u loose that job or source of income They will be the first to ask u what u did with all ur money If u tell them u feed them They will tell u See dis one U don feed yourself finish wey u wan feed me Run for ur life 5 Likes |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by holartosin: 9:53pm On May 21, 2018 |
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Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Nobody: 9:53pm On May 21, 2018 |
Oh buddy, you need a little lesson on Expense Management on your level. Pay attention. No problem is given to a man except it is known that he has capacity to face it. Do not make yourself less than you are. Firstly, you are emotionally distraught because you do not have a written-down budget, if you have a budget, then you must pray over your budget and ask yourself to obey that budget. Let's say you set aside 40% of your monthly income for your dream in your savings account, not to be touched. Then take 60% and deduct your transportation and your personal effects expenses, than what ever remains, say 30%, which is fair as half of your net income becomes Family Support Grant. Call your Mother as a man, and sit her down with your siblings and tell them a little story. Not about your saving, in fact do not tell them you have savings but a little moral story, that your salary is now low because the salaries are regulated by your office, what ever story that regulation will be, is your little white lie. Then tell your mom that the money you have (30%) is your monthly contribution to the welfare of the family and its all you've got and you are willing to contribute that amount monthly to support the family. Then each time you take your pay, you give that 30% to your mom. Then invite your Dad over, for a meeting with your mom. They are both failing in their responsibilities, your mother needs to be a mother and not another daughter and must face her responsibility and not depend on faith without work. This should work, yes. It depends on you. You must learn to enforce these limits. Lesson a lesson from a mountain, you cant move it an inch away from its boundary. Note: There is an exception to this rule if you smoke weed or drink alcohol. Because you can easily change your mind. 2 Likes |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Nobody: 9:53pm On May 21, 2018 |
step1: Move out Step 2: Man up and take a stand on what you can spare to help them(you aren't married yet). |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by newoffer: 9:53pm On May 21, 2018 |
You will soon be soliloquy about town because of your family. They will not die of hunger. You are the problem of your family. if u take bold decision they will wake up. Begging na job u know! |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by lilyheaven: 9:56pm On May 21, 2018 |
you saw the future I remember one guy that took his fiancée to see his mum, the woman told the young Lady " please don't turn his eyes from us , he is the breadwinner of this house, even his younger ones school fees" This younger ones are still in secondary schools. My question was, " how much is his salary " Is not easy to be first born in some homes. Earthbound: 1 Like |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Nobody: 9:56pm On May 21, 2018 |
Op, a lot of people have made similar mistakes and are seriously regretting now. Please, leave that house and stop forming savior because if you lose that job, no one, I repeat, no one in your family will give a shiiit about you. In fact, you will become a houseboy regardless of your age. Move the f*ck out!!!!!! 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by gnykelly(m): 9:57pm On May 21, 2018 |
brother you're not the only one in this kind of shut. this is time your people need you most. give them as much as possible. don't frank at their needs. you supporting them will never be forever. you just tasting what your parents went through to train you. |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Nobody: 10:05pm On May 21, 2018 |
Giving your family money and you are grumbling. What kind of child are you? You should be happy they all look up to you. Your mother is enjoying the fruits of her labour and your dad as well. Take care of your family while you can, when you have the means to. Family is Family. Nothing can change that. For all those telling him to move out, when things go bad.. It's still the same family he wants to run from that will accept him. Lost Generation. 3 Likes |
Re: I'm Experiencing Emotional Blackmail From My Family! by Sheunma: 10:05pm On May 21, 2018 |
Many first borns are in this same predicament in present day Nigerian society. This is big lesson for modern day young guys and ladies to have moderate size families that we can train adequately and still conveniently secure our future so we don't repeat this ugly trend of depending on our older children to fend for their younger ones. 3 Likes |
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