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Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by anthoniaz(f): 2:22pm On Sep 11, 2014 |
bizzybii: @omega, its not like my mum is enjoying it, her eldest bro has asked her to leave and that he wld not be alive to see his sis suffer in anymans hand. My late aunt said the same thing, now she's 6 feet.In her own case, the husband wasn't abusing her physically but emotionally. Please, tell your mum to rent a house and stay on her own, you guys need her, if something happens to her in your father's house, another woman will still take over. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by sigmundfreud(m): 4:59pm On Sep 11, 2014 |
Ujujoan:I agree with most of what you said...but spousal abuse is NOT typical of most Nigerian marriages! Yes women might appear subdued and submissive, a host of them have learnt how to deal with their husbands. Don't be too quick to box Nigerian marriages into your ready made stereotype... |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by Nobody: 8:52pm On Sep 11, 2014 |
bizzybii: @omega, its not like my mum is enjoying it, her eldest bro has asked her to leave and that he wld not be alive to see his sis suffer in anymans hand. if ur mum looses her life in d process of the usual beatings what she is protecting wil be left in d hand of another woman.is stil dosnt make a difference either she leaves or not.. is it not better she struggles tru to take care of u nd later enjoy the fruits of her labour than untimely death that wil leave ur fate in the hands of a stepmum who might not av ur interest at heart. those constant beatings will pile up nd generate to sometins else at her old age.d woman body after giving birth to kids has a limit of pressure it can handle. when there is life there is hope. when one dies thats d end.nd life wit ur dad will surely go on. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by mcpat(m): 11:20am On Sep 12, 2014 |
Ujujoan:This is not a time for feminist talks, what is wrong is wrong. There are scenarios where the man is treated like a douchebag.. She has reasons to still be in the marriage thats why she is still in it. @Poster I am not married and am even in your age bracket but i think dad has not forgiven mum for something she did sometime ago, you and your brother should try talking to your dad together and put it in prayers.. ANY foolish extended family that comes in to say trash should be seriously dealt with.. Its your family and you should work toward protecting it.. If this ugly incident continues, Mum should leave.. Her children are all grown up and she doesnt deserve what she is currently been served.. People say "You actually dont know what you have until you loose it".. My two pence!! |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by Nobody: 10:52am On Sep 13, 2014 |
Ujujoan: I saw this post in my 'share notification' and it caught my attention. The two bolded lines are in bad contrast. You see, you are yet to break away from the nigerian/african women mentality. If you are saying she shouldn't leave him, you are as well saying she should stay and endure the maltreatment... 'cause most time such men never change, so even when she demands for her due respect she gets beaten up for challenging the man However, the truth is that most nigerian women are financially unstable and some see such maltreatment as an alpha trait in men, so they tend to cherish it. While Some endure such to avoid the stigmatization associated with collapsed marriage. |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by nanalady(f): 12:41pm On Sep 13, 2014 |
My mum left after 25 years opf marriage ..thank god for his mercies..she picked up the the pieces of her life and moved on...now she's living in peace....encourge ur mum to choose life.. 4 Likes |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by nanalady(f): 12:46pm On Sep 13, 2014 |
My mum left after 25 years of marriage ..thank god for his mercies..she picked up the the pieces of her life and moved on...now she's living in peace....Encourage ur mum to choose life.. |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by kelzmaniga: 1:00pm On Sep 13, 2014 |
sayso: sorry but I think your mum is a stubborn womanMr man for making this statement may all your daughters marry men that would abuse them physically beat them frequently then your eye would clear. every man in his right thinking senses knows that it is absolutely wrong to beat a woman no matter what she does. if u know u are thirsty for blows and punches why not visit one of those boxing rings lets see who d man is in the ring. Nonsense 2 Likes |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by kelzmaniga: 1:03pm On Sep 13, 2014 |
bizzybii: my house is always on fire wt quarells, my parents still fight till 2moro, he still beats her no one seems to listen to advice, they hv been married for over 20 yrs and the kind of things that make them fight is amazing. they are not setting good examples for usMy dear I also grew up in an abusive environment where my mum and dad were always fighting my parents re 29years in marriage and my dad beat my mum 2 years ago if I am not mistaking. My best advise to you is to pray about it. that is the only weapon to defeat this situation my siblings and I tried it and it is working perfectly for us. Just tell it to God pour out your heart he would help you trust me. |
Re: My Dad Still Beats My Mum After 24 Yrs Marriage by EfemenaXY: 4:25pm On Sep 13, 2014 |
bizzybii: my house is always on fire wt quarells, my parents still fight till 2moro, he still beats her no one seems to listen to advice, they hv been married for over 20 yrs and the kind of things that make them fight is amazing. they are not setting good examples for us Kids born, bred, and brought up in an environment where 'effective' communication is via the fists tend to be seriously messed up and see nothing wrong with violence as it's the norm as far as they know. @OP: Do you believe marriage is a do-or-die affair? |
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