courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

Nothing is wrong with getting off once in a while as long as you are buoyant enough to maintain it. The only thing I will find wrong is if you've lost self confidence in approaching your choice woman and see the prostitute as easy way out.

You better use your head and stop seeing ashawo as normal women...
Even scavengers visit that very same ashawo you they dic.k
Almajiri visit same ashawo
Agbero visit same ashawo
You graduate of yeye school with no class visit that same ashawo.
As swear if you can sit down and watch those that will visit that your same ashawo, you will be surprise.
I strongly believe that you know more than me that they don't allow you go with the condom used after sex giving excuses that people use it for ritual that they will dispose it themselves. OP that is a total lies. Go search for confession of real ashawo.

Avoid pornography. Pornography has turned into a billion-dollar industry, and viewing it is more acceptable than ever. This makes pornography difficult to ignore, but as it rewards sexual urges, it is best to avoid viewing it if you are prone to troublesome sexual urges. [2]
You may wish to put browser extensions or parental controls on your computer to make it difficult to access pornography on your computer. You could even have a friend or your partner install it and not inform you of the password.
Throw away any pornographic magazines, books, or movies you may have.[color=#000099][/color]

HRHQueenPhil:
ur bible advises u 2 get a wife. do so na.30+ means u are ripe for marriage. dont be too picky. she is a christian, laughs at ur jokes and is quiet is enof qualification

my brother this thing about marriage is not easy oh. especially when there is need to rush into it. it makes me worried honestly. im 30± too and i have no one in mind. it seems the older we grow single, the more hope we loose in women. who do you suddenly get married to really. like a building on shaky foundation

Solutions

1. Pray & always tune to sermons.

2. Dont be conscious of that (thought management)

3. Stop visiting brothels.

4. Bend ur will towards marriage.

You must be definately so pained by my comment to have the time to go through my profile.....I didnt mean to hurt you...but the truth truely hurts....for the freebies, N1000 made legimately online is better than N1000000 made through scam

donshaddow:


Opened your profile to see who you really are, and hey! You're one of those freebies low life ranger.

Ishilove:

Immerse yourself in the word of God. Even when you fall, dust yourself and rise again. To wallow in that vomit.

1st Pet 1 vs 13- 'Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober'

It means control your thoughts and don't give in to temptation.

so madame Ishilove is a christian? Unbelievable Ah World dom better oh

See your doctor. Consider having an exam to rule out any physical problems that may be causing your sexual urges. Sometimes, illness or disorders can disrupt hormones and can make you feel hypersexual. [11]
Your doctor may ask you to see a psychologist or psychiatrist to get you evaluated for any mood disorders. For example, a high desire for sex is a symptom of bipolar disorder. [12]
Be honest with your doctor about your sexual urges and express your concerns. Estimate how many times a day you think about sex or act on a sexual urge. For example, you might say, “I watch porn and masturbate four times a day.” Your doctor can help you determine if your behavior is problematic or within the range of normal.

Its not easy but thank God u are willing to change & I pray u find a virtuous woman

1. Delete all the numbers of the girls that you have sex with, especially, randomly.

2. Don't go to night clubs or joints where prostitutes hang out or to brothel with a drinking bar.

3. Quickly redirect your energy and channel it to work that you like. If your job is not engaging you full time, quickly get an additional work or hobby that will engage you.

4. Realise that nobody on earth has enough time for any good thing so don't waste yours on useless ashawo venturing.

5. Know that at 30+ & unmarried, you are already late for a lot things and will only realise that when you're 40.

Good luck man!

Get a girlfriend. You keep returning there because you are only and you have excessesive sexual urge

aaronson:
This has nothing to do with God, prayer or curse, It's just a habit you picked up over time and now it's hard wired in your brain to think about and deeply rooted in your mind to forget.

The bad news is any form of sexual related habit is very hard to quit, Again very hard! It could be sex with prostitudes, gay sex, måsturbation or even regular sex with random partners. This is the reason why it's hard to quit. Food is what to the stomach what Orgåsm is to the brain. Meaning, Orgåsm is food to the brain, The brain doesn't care how you achieve it (could be sex with prostitudes or otherwise), so long as it releases chemical hormones for you give back Orgåsm, he is fine but what kills you as a person is the limitation of societal approval towards some type of way people reach Orgåsm hence approves of only marriage and two, risk of getting infected with deadly diseases.

How then can your quit your deadly habit?

I'm Sorry, You can't just quit an habit just with a decision of the mouth because it way beyond your words but more of the brain activity hence the reason why you go back after saying you quit. And it's even more worst because you can't quit sex since you sexually active. Celibacy is a joke to a man raging with hormones.

The only way around it is replacing an old habit with a new one, first move to a new environment as this would subconsciously make you aware you starting starting a new life. Secondly, Get a flesh light off jumia or other online sex shop or wherever, Get a girl friend and admit being guilty of addiction to prostitudes, basic point is talk to somebody about it and in this case, A girlfriend should be the best go to person to confide in, Be sure to get a nice girl who would care enough to listen to you and help work through it. And when this feeling/thought of sex with prostitudes comes up, call her straight away and talk about it. You would be good.

Note: you not quitting sex, hence the reason for the fleshlight and a girlfriend who would regulate your sexual habit by talking about it and her denying you sex sometimes to reconfigure your brain. You would be just fine and would save more.

I wish you victory on this battle between you and your brain. This brain has been winning following the frequent episodes and relapses now i charge you to win following these tips I had written out.

Reqards

Op! This is the most truthful and practical solution to your current predicament.

God cannot be mocked! All we need to overcome our evils in life, He has given to us all freely in ourselves and in those around us.

HRHQueenPhil:
ur bible advises u 2 get a wife. do so na.30+ means u are ripe for marriage. dont be too picky. she is a christian, laughs at ur jokes and is quiet is enof qualification

THIS IS HORRIBLE ADVICE. PLEASE DON'T GET MARRIED TO GET OVER ADDICTION. MY GOODNESS

courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

Get married fast, to a woman with good character godly bla bla bla but who also tickles your fantasy sexualy .a sex goddess . Avoid watching anything erotic or sexualy suggestive. Avoid drinking or smoking.thank me later.

Ishilove:

Immerse yourself in the word of God. Even when you fall, dust yourself and rise again. To wallow in that vomit.

1st Pet 1 vs 13- 'Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober'

It means control your thoughts and don't give in to temptation.

Just to corroborate on Ishilove's words- Bro! After all the prayer, fasting and trying to abstain, in the final analysis it all starts in the mind. The mind can sometimes be likended to a high throne from where Satan officiates.

U may need to try and meditate in prayer to go deeper beyond the conscious mind, ask the holy spirit to help you understand this defect and vice and to help you obliterate it.

It would be a gradual process cos the root of that vice is in lust and lust is a capital defect that the human soul is entangled in.

You have to work for it, as such, you will be tetsted physically and internally, to the extent that u pass those tests, u can begin to weigh your progress..

You will understand all this with practise. You will surely get through as long as you are genuine and sincere. Good luck.
Never forget the holy spirit in all this.

Soul: Love Depleted, Love Absent. Requests Love.

Program: Love Request Command Sent.

Body Command Center: Finds Love, Flirt,,,, Flirts, flirt ....searching, praying...searching flirts, flirt....

Processing: Locates Lover, Lovers, Love, Love Found.

OutPut: Loved, Loved, Love Requirement Capacity Completed.

Program: Abort Love Request

Soul: Love Available - Request Complete.

Op, that is the <Program Data Log>, there are two easy ways you can handle this.

Either you get married, but if you are not yet ready, then you need two girls, two bisexual girls to put you on a Tantra massage with meditation once a week. You'd meet your Soul Love Requirement. But if you can not deal with two, then get one girl that is great at Tantra massage and be sex partners. You'd be good.

Note: The above response is not for religious people, but Spiritual People.

It is possible to deal with that attitude brother, was once a self service man too , got so so deep in to it that I couldn't grow out of it for yrs, I am an introvert by nature so flowing with women was a no no, shyness and my not wana be with the ladiea despite' their ever wanting to be with me' was my reason. I got lots of them ladies on my roll o,lots of them I must say. my sense of humour and looks no dey fail but trust me ,I am not good with scoping ladies and count such as a total waste of time.Always in the church setting so I no be unbeliever but once I get any evil space ,na to masturbate .It really was killing me until God showed up for me, I cried un to HIM and kept up some strict principle,had to stop erotics too ,no corner dark reasonings (if you know you know),got my heart engaged by more stable thoughts and nice Godly books to read. Got a pretty woman to go along too, very humble very submmisive so no chasing any pussy out there.I am now well ok ,serving God and enjoying Him ,and all those are past now.You must be fully determinesd to stop If possible make a convenant with your creator and tie a curse to it too.most of those strange ladies are possessed with legions of demons o, so your destiny is at stake if you must know .I won't go more public with this since we gat lots of hippocrites here in Africa , very religious righteous people ever learning but never coming to the truth, we can pretend a lot añd do worst ,so do the needful, and Jehova will help you

Christian background doesn't make you Christian. If you have given your life to Christ,then desire a relationship with the holy spirit. Read Josh 1:8 and meditate on it. The help of God's word and spirit is all you need. Ask the holy spirit for help. I did with smoking and I stopped cold turkey

Train yourself in willpower, discipline,control and change your current perception of sex.

Why throw away your sexual energy with some random women in the name of fun?

Raise the standard bro and work towards it.

Bro, if u know your way to any spiritual bible believing church where spiritual battles are the focus like MFM-Mountain of Fire, u better do, cos all those oloshos dey take glory o; and hope u know oloshos visit Alfas and babalawo a lot.

[quote author=gidig post=67920740]What I am about to tell you is how to fight the flesh.

You will not do so by just the power of your own will. When you hit a low point, you will fall back.

What iam about to type may sound weird but it is the only way of true freedom if you have experienced Christ.

If you are born again, it simply means you human Spirit had come alive. He is the one that must be empowered to strengthen you against the flesh. Your flesh is currently winning the battle.

Look through the scriptures for God's promises on righteousness and right living. Scriptures thar talk about your body being consicrated unto God. Use a concordance if you must.

Write down those scriptures and declare them with your mouth in a personalized format.

For example, if you want to use the s ruptures that says that 'don't you know that your body is the temple of God' ; you declare that ' my body is the temple of God and I therefore do not yield my body to sexual sins. The same Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead dwells in this mortal body. It quickens my body such that desire for sex is within my control. I do no have any urge to have sex with prostitutes as my urge us to do the will of God alone.
I come against every demonic spirits that I may have opened myself up to. For this cause I list the son of God made manifest that he may destroy the works of Satan. The works of Satan in any area of my flesh and life is destroyed. I am the righteousness of God through Christ Jesus. I DO NOT Yield My Members To lust of any kind. I AM Holy

Memorize these promises. Even when you find yourself walking to the place of the prostitutes, keep saying it the battle is between your recreates Human spirit and your flesh. It is your duty to keep the flesh under- not God's. Use your mouth.
After a time of doing this, you will see that the desire to do this Wil become so repulsive to you that you will wonder why you were going there in the first place.
By the heart we believe but with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. God had forgiven you. Don't let am Satan or any religious person condemn you. God wills that you use all He has made available to access his freedom for you. [/quote

I love this confession...Sounds like Pastor Poju Oyemade's.. Do you attend Covenant Christian Centre?? A right confession for the right moment! Thanks and God Bless you brother...

well i can assure you that there is nothing wrong with fuvking prostitutes, i have used prostitutes numerous times and still using, i ve also had girlfriends got married and divorced twice. prostitutes are clean, humble and are not hyporcrites unlike most girls people call girlfriends.

Anyone who has a girlfriend as long as they are not married that his girl friend is a prostitute!
Anyone who is a girlfriend to any man as long as they are not married is a prostitute including my own girlfriend, there are no difference, so carry on fuvking prostitutes.
for those of you hyporcrites who would quote and judge me, maybe you should try fuvking a prostitute trust me you will enjoy it, otherwise Bite my ass!

you need a professional counsellor who will talk to you naturally and get to know your personality well and remain non judgemental. But hold the self conviction that you can overcome it.
Am a counsellor but my ethics wont permit me to counsel you openly,cos there somethings we need to discuss one on one
and we cant simply do that here.
But the good thing is first admitting the problem.

Come to LORD CHOSEN CHURCH at ijesha bus-stop lagos, there is program coming up on 16-17 TITTLE AN THE ENEMIES SUBMITTED come that enemies we submitted in your life in JESUSname.

courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

You will be amazed the amount of men that visit prostitutes. Some are bored with their sex life, some wouldn’t know how to ask their wife for what they were into, some had wives that wouldn’t have sex with them and some of them are very happily married, having regular sex, as you are, so please don’t think you are the only person out there that has this issue.

A prostitute can be a thrilling experience. You can pretty much have your pick of the girls and you could have sex with a girl that in reality, you may not have had the opportunity to. It’s living the dream and the fantasy. It’s also easy for this thrill to become an addiction which sounds like what has happened here.

With a prostitute, you will find no judgement, it’s quick and easy and you may even find that they are able to offer you some gentle therapy and counselling. You throw in the fact that you are pretty much guaranteed an orgasm, including sex that is primarily about your pleasure and whatever turns you on, it’s an explosive situation and that’s why men keep coming back.

With any addiction, whether it be to sex, prostitutes, gambling, drugs etc, you can’t just go quit overnight. Well, you can, but it usually ends badly. You need to wean yourself off what your addiction is and find out the reasons behind it.

See what your triggers are. Do you want to visit a prostitute when you have lots of money in your pocket? Ok that’s a trigger. When you are having a stressful day at work? Ok that’s another trigger. When it’s a Wednesday as you always see that same girl at the same time on a Wednesday? Ok that’s a trigger - Find out when you are most likely to get that urge and record it somewhere private. Find out what is happening in your life and then you can find a way to work around that.

If you visit a prostitute once a week, how about try and go just once every 2 weeks. If you visit a prostitute when you’ve had a bad day at work, how about you reward yourself with another type of treat that doesn’t involve sex, maybe going to see a movie or having a drink after work or taking a drive around town etc.

Slowly replace your trigger points with additional activities and gradually fade out your use of sex workers. If having lots of cash on you makes you go, then try and only use card wherever you can. You could even get another basic bank account and transfer your weekly spending money into that account and give yourself ‘pocket money’ so that you have less to spend on girls.

If you are struggling with the addiction, I would recommend speaking to a therapist as you may have a sex addiction. It’s very common and it is NOTHING to be ashamed of whatsoever. You are not alone in this! This does not have to dominate your life. You clearly want to make a change for the better for yourself and your future relationship, and as simple as this sounds, admitting you have a problem is the first step.

Good luck

Young man God will see u thru. I perceive U re under de manipulation of marine powers n their negative spiritual energy constantly overides your will-power. Apart from the practical steps you should take, try n locate a mountain of fire church n pass urself thru their deliverance process. Meet the pastor there for counsceling too n get prayers against the spirit of sexual perversion and de dog. Soak urself in those prayers after deliverance.

Any habit or indulgence that will not make sense when I do it at 50 years old and above, I won't start it or even engage in it at all. This formula has helped me a lot.
It helped combat peer pressure.

courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

I'd the same problem, it's nothing spiritual.
It's been 3 years since I patronised them. You just have to decide, then a lot of self control would help too.

my brother you have to first of all make a personal strong decision using job chapter 31 till the end,just vow with whatever that always lure you into such life,
after the decision just know that a step towards your vomits will destroy your entirely ,
I have a book for on PDF format 'every man's battle ,
chat me up on whatsapp 08063968513
it's just a strategies to overcome sensual sins .

Trying on your own wont get you far, even getting married like now wont help either, you will keep tripping back BUT surrendering your will and emotion to the the HolySpirit's help will save you.

Just as the Bible said in Genesis that God put an enmity between the seed of the woman and the serpent, he can do same for you too.
Pray and tell him to create a great distaste for that craving inside of you. Just like someone that's in a rehab, the urge will keep coming but he will keep helping you to stay pure day after day.... IT'S A PROCESS not an INSTANCE but gradually you will find yourself cutting off from it.

Avoid everything that draws you back to that feat e.g. Pornography, lewdness, trash talk, visiting around their vicinity, masturbation and likes.

Let me end by saying this.....EAT THE WORD DAILY, SNACK ON IT, CHEW IT DAILY.....There's a caption i saw in a Molue long time ago and it read "ONE CHAPTER OF THE BIBLE DAILY TAKES THE DEVIL ONE KILOMETER AWAY FROM YOU."

buy a sachet of salt, open it and say a prayer on it a prayer against sexual immortality and bad luck add the salt to ur bathing water place ur hand upon the water and say prayers
do this every morning and night for 7 days
you will be free from forces that controls ur urges

courage2702:
I need practical help to overcome my struggle against the use of prostitutes. I picked up this terrible habit shortly after my graduation from university sometime in 2012 and it is a vice that has wrecked my life. The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one[b][/b] before i had a sad event in my life that made me go back to my vommit. Any body with practical advice should please come up with it.. yesterday I went down on my knees again to ask him to give me another chance to fix my life for good. But I really need to take practical actions as faith without work is dead
I have an amazing future but this lifestyle may cut it off if don't fight it headlong.

I am 30+ old man that really wish to settle down but not until I quit this habit that has disconnected me from God as well as made my life miserable.
I am from a Christian background.

The last success was 13 months without any sexual involvement with any one. That's were the problem resurface, you shouldn't have starved urself of sex that long.