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Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by CharleyBright(m): 9:00pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
sacramento1212: Yes, you are right, my inlaws and their village people capitalized on my ability to pay. Paying over N1.2M for traditional marriage 12yrs ago was much. I had to make a choice : Pay or walk away from the marriage. I paid by giving them all they requested on their silly list. It badly ruined my white wedding budget which was 2 wks after. But one thing i have resolved over the years is that - No damn Village person or family head or Village head will determine what happens in my daughters T.M. I wont even invite them. My kids arent growing up in the village or anywhere close to it and I dont give a damn about any silly tradition. After all, none of them village people is contributing a kobo for their education now. So why will i go and pay homage to them during my daughters TM? Damn them and their traditions. . 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by NoToPile: 9:05pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
INDUSTRIALFAN: That's the problem, what is making all this lists bogus is majorly the items for the village people. I am of the opinion that whatever is brought by the groom is strictly for the family. The brides father family and the brides mother family.(it's shared equally where I come from) if it's one sachet of salt that reach you you accept it with all joy. All these village association stuff will put young men into debt. I am always amazed when I hear some village associations are requesting for this, one distant relative is the one determining that, are they the brides father? With this economy a lot of young men can't afford all these. 1 Like |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by sacramento1212: 9:11pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
CharleyBright: I'm glad you admit that your paying over a million naira 12 years ago to marry your wife was bourne out of the fact that they knew your financial worth and also their greed. I completely disagree with you as per the aspect cutting off your family elders when your daughter(s) is or are getting married. You cannot do without them but just try to play the politics to avoid wahala even though you as the father is financially responsible for them. Tradition is Tradition and must be respected or else you kill yourself for nothing. If it's your Son, you can do without them but not your female children. Ku yak mbio idung e edwok mbiam uno or ekud ekpo yak adu mia awod all because of ignorance. Wisdom is golden bro 1 Like |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by emperorblog(m): 9:12pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
HungerBAD:
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Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by lonelydora: 9:17pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
dingbang: Tell your people to refund my money or give me my airtime |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by udysweet(f): 9:26pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
Just burial only o, of my late mum which incidentally is 7years this month, I know what those village people kept requesting, so I know what they are capable of doing. Recalled my Aunty(she's a widow ) who came to Lagos back then to buy some drinks among the list given to her from the village when her daughter was about to get married. When I took her to where she could get nice ones she refused, saying we should buy those cheap ones under akpogbon bridge for those who know Lagos island well, that after all they don't know how she took care of her kids after her husband died so she will buy anything her money can afford. All the food, drink, clothes etc they haven't gotten in years they'll collect it on the bride's head. May God have mercy. Is it me that's looking up to God for my own at this delicate hour, they will now bring this type of list? Well ete Uduak will not try it, you go see where I'll go find a new father as this one and him kindred abi kinsmen go wan cause stumbling block for me na 1 Like |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Arkmanbuddy(m): 9:34pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
joeruano: Abi o! Let them try IMO women to see list. Dem go fear fear! 1 Like |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Podolskie777: 9:37pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
Generator dey among d list self chai ds pple self ...na page 1 be ds oo hw page 2 go b.. only God knws hw many pages 1 Like |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by CharleyBright(m): 9:49pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
sacramento1212: Its like u dont get me. What is my business with village people or tradition? Do i eat or dine with them. Is it not those you associate wit you dine with? i follow them chop their children TM money? Do they even know my daughters? I live thousands of miles from home, so when they grow up to marry, i go pack my daughters go home to go meet village people to draw up stupid list for me? I go allow people that dont add value to me hold me or my daughter to Ransome? Say wetin happen? That aint happening!!! I know how it felt to be held to ransome, i cant allow any silly tradition hold my daughters husband to be when the time come. Am not a Traditional person, i dont align myself to it ( especially when it is outlandish). Damn Silly extortionist traditions. Who it hep sef?? 8 Likes |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by thorpido(m): 9:50pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
DaddyNimo:A mind is a terrible thing to waste. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by sacramento1212: 9:57pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
CharleyBright: Since you also do not see the points i made in my previous post, let us leave it at that. You have concluded that when the time comes in future God willing, that you will be fully responsible to see to your daughter's traditional rites and not carry your family along since according to you, you no follow chop their child TM money, you don't believe in anything Tradition and also live miles away from village,etc Good luck in advance eyeneka. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Giyerte(m): 10:12pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
legitnow: Akwa ibom doesn't spenk Biafra language nor call themselves to be Biafra |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by eleojo23: 10:16pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
CharleyBright:
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Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DaddyNimo(m): 10:19pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
thorpido:lolzzzz akwa hoes |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by EricBreezy(m): 10:21pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
The interesting part is that when you look into these gatherings of "family elders" in the villages who draw up these lists, they are constituted largely of subsistence farmers, palm wine tappers, bicycle repairers and retired nights watchmen. Most of them wouldn't be able to afford what is on the list even if they could gather their entire life's earnings and their own sons who live in the villages are not given such lists when they want to marry among themselves because they know what they can afford, it's about being from the city, once they know the man is coming from the city they believe he's rich and they prepare to milk him dry. They like to claim it's their culture, but to me it's just a poverty mindset. 6 Likes |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by eleojo23: 10:28pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
CharleyBright:Nobody can answer this question o. The way people hold on tightly to things sef.. Tradition... tradition and our quality of life has not improved over the years. In fact, it is some of these traditions that have kept us in the dark ages. I believe in doing what works at a particular point in time and not holding on to what worked for people in the past and calling it tradition (whether it be for White people or black people). Some of the things we call traditions today were invented by people because that was what worked for them at that time. If it doesn't work for us anymore, let's discard it, yes, discard it! After all, nobody goes to the afterlife with any tradition. Life is too short for us to worry and weary ourselves with so called traditions. 6 Likes |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by mechanics(m): 10:52pm On Sep 07, 2018 |
hahahahahaha, even if she sees the list, she won't do anything, she should have acted earlier, so they have joined Imbaise people. |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DateMynd44(m): 12:17am On Sep 08, 2018 |
urose93:lol nice one Ediye mbakara defending our dear state. no mind all these Yorubas |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DateMynd44(m): 12:21am On Sep 08, 2018 |
Truths22:gbam. your user name says it all. you nailed it |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DateMynd44(m): 12:22am On Sep 08, 2018 |
InvertedHammer:lol freebasic dey for them ni |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DateMynd44(m): 12:24am On Sep 08, 2018 |
AlanSugar:confirmed akwa ibomite, na hin you be |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by caseone(m): 12:24am On Sep 08, 2018 |
Thou the list is long and expensive but if you really love the woman you can renegotiate via your woman and ensure it is reduced to what you can afford then you can also monetised most of the items and pay gradually .I married from Uyo ( Oron ) and II has been so good don't missed their woman ooo they are the best ... |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by mansoura(f): 12:27am On Sep 08, 2018 |
Too long a list! |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DateMynd44(m): 12:32am On Sep 08, 2018 |
unyimecc:na so uyai ma. abadie? |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DateMynd44(m): 12:36am On Sep 08, 2018 |
DaddyNimo:I can see your mother is only useful for sex. thunder gbuo you dia. awon oni iranu oshi. oponu jatijati |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by Diamond23(f): 12:37am On Sep 08, 2018 |
Interesting......... |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by DateMynd44(m): 12:41am On Sep 08, 2018 |
sacramento1212:@ emboldened. so true, it happened to someone i knew. it may not even affect him but his daughter. those men are so fetish an heartless |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by 2buffagain(m): 12:58am On Sep 08, 2018 |
Hanseel1: Every major progressive move came as a result of a revolution. Nigerians are loud people, but they are weak and timid when it counts. They are incapable of properly rebeling against tyranny... be it political or village wahala. If people cannot free themselves from the bonds of something as pointless and pathetic as "village-placed burdens", how can they hope to free the country from more weightier oppressions? Black man never start! 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by jimcaddy(m): 2:31am On Sep 08, 2018 |
Hahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!!! Abeg no kill me here stasiaannie: |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by nattyGENT: 4:39am On Sep 08, 2018 |
Tradition is tradition. I am an Akwa Ibom indigene too, I just collected a marriage list with items that is tripple your own but no shaking, why? Because items on the lists are left for bargain by the suitor especially items for the father & mother except those of relations, women, youths and village items to avoid issues. It's a pity that what you did may run in your own family, that is, your children too may be married this way (with ebod usongenyin) which is not dignified in our culture. I am busy studying the list to reduce it to what I can afford. It's usually a thing of joy and respect upon the family and suitor. 1 Like |
Re: How Akwa Ibom Makes Their Daughters Unmarried Via Marriage List by AndikanEssien(m): 5:40am On Sep 08, 2018 |
legitnow: People like you don't even get married |
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