Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

Alpha001:
Happy new year NL.
I am posting this here because i really need help and i know a lot of people visit this section. Please i need urgent help as i don't want to continue like this in this 2019. Don't come and start insulting me please.

My problem is that i easily get angry and my anger doesn't go away easily. Very little things make me angry. Things that are not supposed to make me angry.
I can live in a room with a person for one year or even more without saying a word to the person just because he/she angered or did something bad to me.

I'm a quiet guy. People say i'm an introvert. I always try my best to avoid trouble. I am in my mid twenties buy have never been in a relationship.

This my problem of easily getting angry and keeping malice has been troubling me. I don't like it but still can't stop it. It is affecting my relationship with my family and close friends. And how can i even go into a relationship with this issue i'm having.
I find it very difficult to completely forgive.
I always envy those who are sociable and who don't easily get angry. I always wish to be like them.

Please i need your help/advice. Please this is not a spiritual problem, so don't start telling me about deliverance.
I would appreciate if this can be moved to the front page.
Thanks.

You need medical help. Seriously jokes aside, you are not normal.

You display signs of schizophrenia. It's a mental illness

If you don't get treated you will find it hard keeping friendships or relationships. You are a perfect example of a loner and it's not a good thing

Anytime u start to feel angry,take a very deep long breath and ask urself if what u are getting angry over is worth it.

GODPUNISHUNA:


You need medical help. Seriously jokes aside, you are not normal.

You display signs of schizophrenia. It's a mental illness

If you don't get treated you will find it hard keeping friendships or relationships. You are a perfect example of a loner and it's not a good thing

Nothing like medical help here,oga get issues wit em self esteem, na 4 relationship wit d opposite sex e dey even vex am pass,I was once lyk u,although when I was abt ur age and its affecting me till date but mine na only towards ladies and few males.as u dey grow u go dey improve.
If u dey take alcohol any tym wey e b u lyk say u wan vex ,1 or 2 bottles go do d magic,after a while d beer no go dey hungry u again and u go dey totally fr3 both frm anger and beer!worked 4 me.

You're just like my mom. For you to to even know something is wrong with you makes it easy to cope with you. My own mom doesn't wanna agree she's getting it wrong and she's so alone, doesn't relate with people.

Well I'll advice, the best way to overcome yourself is to make sure u mix with people more and let them hurt your feelings. As they hurt you, keep relating with them again..don't stop and don't get discouraged from relating. If it means crying in ur closet after being hurt and back to relating again...do it

If you keep to yourself alone, it will get worse.

Good luck!

me too

You don`t have a problem.

Getting angry and keeping malice are damn common with introverts.

First thing you need to know, malice hurts the brain a lot, it clouds the mind, and restricts your peace, you don't achieve anything with it, it's not worth it. You will be doing yourself a lot of good if you let malice go, letting go is not the same as forgiving, so it's easier. Also, speak out your mind as much and reasonably as you can

About anger, it will almost always be there, you can only manage it, although never be aggressive

Agboki:




Nothing like medical help here,oga get issues wit em self esteem, na 4 relationship wit d opposite sex e dey even vex am pass,I was once lyk u,although when I was abt ur age and its affecting me till date but mine na only towards ladies and few males.as u dey grow u go dey improve.

Sir, i don't believe I will get better with age. It's even getting worse. It's not just with opposite sex but with everybody including my family.
I can be with my family for days and the only words they hear from me is greetings. This is killing me inside.

Oluromantic:
You're just like my mom. For you to to even know something is wrong with you makes it easy to cope with you. My own mom doesn't wanna agree she's getting it wrong and she's so alone, doesn't relate with people.

Well I'll advice, the best way to overcome yourself is to make sure u mix with people more and let them hurt your feelings. As they hurt you, keep relating with them again..don't stop and don't get discouraged from relating. If it means crying in ur closet after being hurt and back to relating again...do it

If you keep to yourself alone, it will get worse.

Good luck!

I am so alone bro. I find it hard to still relate with them when i'm hurt even thought i always want to. My heart never stops reminding me of how i was hurt.
I try to relate with people but i'm always afraid of getting too close for fear of being hurt and because i know i will eventualy lose them one day.

Lalaticlala,your attention is seriously needed here.This guy is a time bomb ticking.He needs help.

ToyinDipo:
First thing you need to know, malice hurts the brain a lot, it clouds the mind, and restricts your peace, you don't achieve anything with it, it's not worth it. You will be doing yourself a lot of good if you let malice go, letting go is not the same as forgiving, so it's easier. Also, speak out your mind as much and reasonably as you can

About anger, it will almost always be there, you can only manage it, although never be aggressive

It's really hurting my brain and restricting my peace.
That's why i'm seeking for help.

GODPUNISHUNA:


You need medical help. Seriously jokes aside, you are not normal.

You display signs of schizophrenia. It's a mental illness

If you don't get treated you will find it hard keeping friendships or relationships. You are a perfect example of a loner and it's not a good thing

Okay sir. Thanks a lot

You have problem

Drink kerosene any time the urge to become angry surface

Thank me later

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VOTE OUT BUHARI

You get angry easily because you expect a lot from people.

You expect a particular response, treatment etc.


Once u get anything contrary, it pisses u off no matter how insignificant the deviation is.



1. Lower expectations from people and learn to give room for mistakes.



As for malice, you are still expecting a kind of remorse and response from the people who offended you.


2. Apply STEP 1 and Learn to let go and just continue talking as if nothing happened earlier.

it is well..everybody has their own for body...just minimize yours..it cant be eradicated

GodIsFoolish:
YOU'RE NOT ALONE

Una need a good friend

That is a big problem which can even block someone blessing. But thank God you are the one that discovered these by yourself.
My brother is so simple always try to free your mind and also try to accommodate people irrespective of their characters.
Also try studying words of God and table your life in his hands.

You're bless

englishmart:
Have you ever killed someone? Just asking for the ex of my ex.

be reasonable.so if yes he should state it.then how will u help if yes.u see something this serious pls if u don't have advice Waka pass

You must be a hater

Eyaaa!
So what happens if someone online gets you angry as I'm about doing now? How do you keep malice online?

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honestly I can relate with your situation..
what changed me was the set of people that entered my life very crazy peeps

You must be related to Buhari...



Nonsense people!