Officialgarri:
Your mum is a gold digger and I see the trait in you too

Officialgarri:
Your mum is a gold digger and I see the trait in you too

LuciferRedeemed:
1. Your father remarried but your mother couldn't shows that she is the one with the issues
2. Your mother is materialistic
3. Your mother wants you to remain as miserable and unloved as she is (a feminist trait)


Verdict: Your mom is bitter she cannot keep a home and doesn't want you to get a happy & long-lasting marriage - something she doesn't have.�



*spits

Officialgarri:
Your mum is a gold digger and I see the trait in you too

LuciferRedeemed:


I doubt if she agrees with her mom - reason she opened this thread.
She is obviously battling that African mental slavery notion to always "obey one's parents" no matter how illogical their actions may seem.

Pinkie2018:
Exactly. But right now I don't think her blessing would matter.

PuZZyNegro:


Since you have concluded that her blessing doesnl't matter right now , WHY ARE YOU HERE?

Pinkie2018:
reasonable advice pls

Pinkie2018:
I'm a 24 year old lady and currently in my finals in a higher institution. My parent are separated since my early childhood. My dad remarried but my mum refused to remarry. Back in 2017, a guy came for my hand in marriage, my father was supportive but my mother refused outrightly even without meeting the guy claiming he's from Owerri, his house is a stone throw to us and saying he hasn't completed his house(Under construction then, 4 bedroom flat) and his job wasn't lucrative enough.
Last year another one that came back from USA came back to marry me, she refused too without meeting him claiming he isn't a graduate and hasn't built a house. That same year I showed her pics of the one in Malaysia, immediately she said she doesnt like him.This year again another one came, he is a business man living in lagos ,he spoke with my father and he likes him but immediately I called my mother the first question she asked me was "Has he built, if he hasnt tell him to go? ". I'm confused, should I let him go or go ahead with only my father's approval because I love this guy and he is taking care of me. His whole family like me, my sister, father, step-mom and other relatives are supportive but my mum is ever non bulging. I feel she doesn't want I and my sister to get married. Pls I need your sincere advice

keepingmum:
Either your mum is setting poor standards for you, or you are being economical with the truth
X3 of your “ex” suitors are “abroadians” – what do they do for a living? You don’t know. Are they married in the abroad and only interested in marrying you as the Nigerian hen, only good for laying Nigerian eggs? You didn’t answer.

Now your mum keeps hamping on about “has he built his own house”?

Where there relatives living with your parents during their marriage? Did your father’s people contribute to the demise of your parents marriage? Living with inlaws is a no –no , most ESPECIALLY during the first 5 years of marriage which is often the delicate times.
These men who express interest in you, do they intend marrying you into their family homes and then “return to the abroad to work on your papers?”
The one that came from Lagos, what type of “business” is he into?
How well do you know any of these “suitors”?
You are only 24, my advise is simple, don’t disregard your mum’s advise but at the same time, draw up your ideal man, your ideal marital situation and have a heart to heart conversation with both your parents…..finally, NEVER rush into marriage

Pinkie2018:
Exactly. But right now I don't think her blessing would matter.

keepingmum:
Either your mum is setting poor standards for you, or you are being economical with the truth
X3 of your “ex” suitors are “abroadians” – what do they do for a living? You don’t know. Are they married in the abroad and only interested in marrying you as the Nigerian hen, only good for laying Nigerian eggs? You didn’t answer.

Now your mum keeps hamping on about “has he built his own house”?

Where there relatives living with your parents during their marriage? Did your father’s people contribute to the demise of your parents marriage? Living with inlaws is a no –no , most ESPECIALLY during the first 5 years of marriage which is often the delicate times.
These men who express interest in you, do they intend marrying you into their family homes and then “return to the abroad to work on your papers?”
The one that came from Lagos, what type of “business” is he into?
How well do you know any of these “suitors”?
You are only 24, my advise is simple, don’t disregard your mum’s advise but at the same time, draw up your ideal man, your ideal marital situation and have a heart to heart conversation with both your parents…..finally, NEVER rush into marriage

MrBottle:



Adanne, all this ya suitors get K-legs somehow.

List out what you want in a husband but first of all exclude this guys for the meantime

Okey Malaysia

Edu China

Ome ego na America

Akunwata na Lagos

Akunwafor na Brazil.

ifyalways:
Lol but OP you be hot cake sha.

The way you attract and discard ndi Obodo Oyibo


So what the purpose of this thread

Pinkie2018:
What if I see the one that has built mansion tomorrow but he doesn't want to wife me or wants to wife me but I don't like him?? I'm really in dilemma

Pinkie2018:
What if I see the one that has built mansion tomorrow but he doesn't want to wife me or wants to wife me but I don't like him?? I'm really in dilemma

Pinkie2018:
his family actually contributed to their separation but my mum is taking everything to heart even after many years. A man mustn't own his own house before marriage. I just want to settle down. My mum troubles my life, she doesn't give me a breathing space under her roof

Pinkie2018:
Exactly. But right now I don't think her blessing would matter.

nwanneniiii:
Lol.see her broke face
If you dey this young and you dey show poor like this,I wonder what your mum will look like
I wonder why a man Will hustle and come back only to come and marry a poor person.
Gold digging dirty thing!

victorian:






Sorry but you are not ready for marriage . You are as materialistic as your mum, if not ? You would have gotten married since !
U should be in your early 20s, don't worry u have enough time to wait for a man who has built a mansion and love you so much.

So be patient , such man ? God is still creating him. Be patient biko.

To live for mansion is the in thing now o.

Smhhhh.

Keep waiting u here?

Gloriagee:
I had to read her post again and cant see where she said , a mansion is a criteria, so come off your high horse. She said her mom has been harping on if any of the suitors have houses. Not once did she mention if any of them do. Basically, shes wondering how a mansion translates to marital bliss and also thinking its likely that bloke can have a mansion, be well mannered et al and still decide shes not his spec. So, I concur with her as those are valid concerns.