Happy Easter to you all.


What you are about to read now is my own personal experience and I'd so much appreciate whatever advise(s) you would give to me.


We've been together for the past five years and this is a lady that I promised my future with.
She got all the qualities I've ever wanted in a partner. We had a discussion on moving our relationship to the next level around December last year and as fate may have it, we came to a conclusion of meeting with her family after the Easter.

Two weeks ago, I got the biggest shock of my life that I'm yet to get over. She broke up with me for a lady that's way older than her and they've both relocated to another state.
Where do I start from now?
What should I do Nairalanders?
-Please note-
I knew this other side of her but I was blinded by love. I didn't see it as a threat not until it happened.

You knew she was a lesbian?

FortifiedCity:
You knew she was a lesbian?

My brother, I was only acting civil so as not to cause a scene. See where it has landed me.
What do I tell my people now?

Go to brothel you will see the one that's not homosexual

WhiteFish20:


My brother, I was only acting civil so as not to cause a scene. See, where it has landed me.
What do I tell my people now?

Let her go, and never make the mistake of taking her back

Oshin56:
Go to brothel you will see the one that's not homosexual

I don't visit brothels and I've never been there before.

FortifiedCity:
Let her go, and never make the mistake of taking her back

I wish I can let her go just like that. To be candid, that lady has shattered me.
Till this moment, she's refused to take my calls.

My frd let it go who nose dis nite u might meet Someone better

WhiteFish20:


I wish I can let her go just like that. To be candid, that lady has shattered me.
Till this moment, she's refused to take my calls.

Drop her no here let me call her for you!!

PrinzCarter:
My frd let it go who nose dis nite u might meet Someone better

Bro, e no easy like that o.
I clocked 34 last month and you can imagine how depressed I am when I've thought of settling down with my woman only for her to do this to me?

guy relax, it's better u found out now and not when u may have had kids and this happens, how then will u feel? thank God almighty for revealing her true self to you earlier on. And pls stop being a sissy and take up yourself and get a better person. Many beautiful and we'll behaved ones are coming out and you are there pitying yourself. SMH

Let her go. Don't chase after her.

Please don't be sad or depress.
This isn't a disappointment but a blessing.

Not only are you both not sexually compatible, she is an untrustworthy woman. Starting a family with someone like her is always a terrible idea. You'll be caged in hell!

I have to say though you brought this upon yourself.

Keeping her jailed for 5years was wrong likewise —
Forcing genuine love or loving blindly, its a foolish thing.

I hope you've learned your lesson.

Please don't visit brothels or give into alcohol or drugs!
You've hit a hard rock, at this point, you can easily get hooked on any of these. Stay far away or regret for life.

I recommend taking a break from relationships.
Give yourself time to heal.
Don't force things. Eat well.

If you choose to not move forward, well it's your choice.
Anyway, nothing stays the same. . .

If you deserve love... It'll come knocking at your door.

5 5 5 years relationship...

You're not serious.

If she's my sister, I'll buy a crate of stout to celebrate her freedom

nothing serious.

there are many women out there, the thing is if one doesn't agree, the next will.

Ejike07:
guy relax, it's better u found out now and not when u may have had kids and this happens, how then will u feel? thank God almighty for revealing her true self to you earlier on. And pls stop being a sissy and take up yourself and get a better person. Many beautiful and we'll behaved ones are coming out and you are there pitying yourself. SMH

God bless you, bro.

SageMK:
Let her go. Don't chase after her.
Please don't be sad or depress.
This isn't a disappointment but a blessing.
Not only are you both not sexually compatible, she is an untrustworthy woman. Starting a family with someone like her is always a terrible idea. You'll be caged in hell!
I have to say though you brought this upon yourself.
Keeping her jailed for 5years was wrong likewise —
Forcing genuine love or loving blindly, its a foolish thing.
I hope you've learned your lesson.
Please don't visit brothels or give into alcohol or drugs!
You've hit a hard rock, at this point, you can easily get hooked on any of these. Stay far away or regret for life.
I recommend taking a break from relationships.
Give yourself time to heal.
Don't force things. Eat well.
If you choose to not move forward, well it's your choice.
Anyway, nothing stays the same.
If you deserve love, I'll come knocking at your door.

Bro, you just said it the way it is. Thanks

oweniwe:
5 5 5 years relationship...

You're not serious.

If she's my sister, I'll buy a crate of stout to celebrate her freedom

My brother, don't conclude yet. Did you know long I've asked for her permission to come see her people formally and she told me I'm rushing things with her not until last year that she finally agreed?
Trust me, money was never the problem.
She on her part, invested a lot in our relationship. Her major commitment made me overlook her excesses.

But how she got the heart to ditch me for her fellow woman now that we're about settling down, is what I can't tell.

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missyojo:
Op,sorry for your predicament. Thank God you get to know on time before its too late. Pick the pieces of your life and move on, thou it's not easy as have been there before. Don't stay idle as you may want to start remembering how the whole process happened, keep your mind busy. With time you will get over it. Associate with positive minded people and I bet it, you will smile again. I wish you the very best and I pray you heal soon.
Happy easter!!
Cheers ��

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I'll bounce back, for real. Thanks for those words.

Op,sorry for your predicament. Thank God you get to know on time before its too late. Pick the pieces of your life and move on, thou it's not easy as have been there before. Don't stay idle as you may want to start remembering how the whole process happened, keep your mind busy. With time you will get over it. Associate with positive minded people and I bet it, you will smile again. I wish you the very best and I pray you heal soon.
Happy easter!!
Cheers ��

I know it's difficult but it's just a fiancee... No heavy ring was attached to it... u can start all over again... and do not overlook any trace this time or look at things in a rosy spectacle.. .. if it walks like a duck..talks like a duck...swims like a duck... it is definitely a DUCK..

It's not a guy with benz this time around

Richy4:
I know it's difficult but it's just a fiancee... No heavy ring was attached to it... u can start all over again... and do not overlook any trace this time or look at things in a rosy spectacle.. .. if it walks like a duck..talks like a duck...swims like a duck... it is definitely a DUCK..

You're right, sir.
I learnt mine the hard way.

ambivert27:
It's not a guy with benz this time around

At least, I'd have known a guy beat me to it. And that would have made me to step up my game.

This particular case just messed me up, big time.

No be even man your wifee dey lash.

you knew she was a lesbian and yet you still carried on?....have sense now..how many ladies will marry a guy who is gay?..

I want to understand something please. Did this happen in Nigeria? Please I'm just curious.

Free up your mind joor. You were too loyal. How you take a lesbian serious beats my imagination. Learn to accept losses. If you have no side chick just hang around a club or some where cool, 5-10k will get you babes that are hotter than this babe, ease off and move on. The issue here is that you are still struggling. Bros is there is money you will meet any woman of your dream within 6 months and get married if marriage is the issue.

Good for you, man. Invite me over let's drink to that

greatme2good:
I want to understand something please. Did this happen in Nigeria? Please I'm just curious.

What you read is the experience I had in my relationship and I'm forced to ask if people go through worst or is it just me?

WhiteFish20:


What you read is the experience I had in my relationship and I'm forced to ask if people go through worst or is it just me?

I just want to know if this happened in my mother land.
Anyways don't be too hard on yourself since you did everything right in the relationship. You sound like a good man and I assure you a better lady who deserves you will definitely come your way. She made her choice so move on. If my BF leave me for a man, I won't bother myself...seriously. Her eyes will clear in no distant time.

WhiteFish20:


Bro, e no easy like that o.
I clocked 34 last month and you can imagine how depressed I am when I've thought of settling down with my woman only for her to do this to me?

34 years old, and you don't understand how sexuality works

Can you be gay for a day? Forget lifetime, just a day?

You've got a lot of growing up to do so get on with that!

It's like me falling in love with a openly gay man, not DL Bro but an honest man