I want to shake tables this afternoon so many women may be angry or not agree. But the truth won't change even if the whole world disbelief it, or won't agree...
Don't Compare Yourself With Your Husband. He is the Head!
Your husband is your head. You cannot compare yourself with your husband. He didn't make himself the head. God made him the head. Don't rival the position of headship in your home.
The root of the problems in many homes is that, the woman has refused to see herself as a subordinate. In the order of God, a woman is a subordinate to her husband. We can not query God. The minute you start to see yourself as a subordinate to your husband, there will be solution to so many other things in the home.
Your husband is your king, let him reign in the palace of your home. Let him make decrees, let him make orders, let him make laws, and let them be and stand.
Worship your king, honour him, respect him, adore him and take good care of him as a queen.
Pride, envy, strife and jealousy always hide in the heart of the woman that will not allow a man to reign as a true head.
The word of God instead told us to beautify ourselves with a meek and quiet spirit which will reward us with a great gain from God. We are losing great grain if we refuse to do this.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
1 Peter:3:5
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
1 Peter:3:6
Who argues with a king Whether he is wrong or right, he has spoken.
Modernisation has change the order of God. But he that want a godly home and want to obey God, will not disallow the standard of God. We cannot modernise the standard of the word of God but other things.
Now, let every woman begin to give their husband a new reference as a King. Have a new mind concerning your husband. There is no woman than can honour her man as a king, that God will not honour. Why? When you honour your man, you have honour the word of God and of course, you have honour God. God himself will lift you up, because you are humbled in heart.
God bless your homes! repogirl cococandy safarigirl

Marry first

Nice Sunday blog

Oh! How you just so love 'Plagiarism'!

To the topic, you narcissistic and egocentric African men can go to hell for all we care! It's always about you people.

You are all just so obsessed with 'Submission' but you won't foot the bills 100% or help with chores but let the women in your lives slave away from now till eternity and call yourselves 'Real African Men'. I wonder what sort of species you all are.

Women should start waking up!

UyaiIncomparabl:
Oh! How you just so love 'Plagiarism'!

To the topic, you narcissistic and egocentric African men can go to hell for all we care! It's always about you people.

You are all just so obsessed with 'Submission' but you won't foot the bills 100% or help with chores but let the women in your lives slave away from now till eternity and call yourselves 'Real African Men'. I wonder what sort of species you all are.

Women should start waking up!

A godly woman won't try to usurp her husband's god-given authority simply because she brings a percentage to foot bills. She's is helper.

Buy an ungodly wicked rebellious woman will suddenly become puffed up with pride simply because she rendered help in footing bills.

If you don't Accord your husband the respect God made him deserve, your children too won't respect him. How can you teach your children to have respect for him which you do not have? You only give what you have.

This might be worth replying to if you had the intelligence to write it yourself or credit your source.

alBHAGDADI:


A godly woman won't try to usurp her husband's god-given authority simply because she brings a percentage to foot bills. She's is helper.

Buy an ungodly wicked rebellious woman will suddenly become puffed up with pride simply because she rendered help in footing bills.

If you don't Accord your husband the respect God made him deserve, your children too won't respect him. How can you teach your children to have respect for him which you do not have? You only give what you have.

A godly man would be the head indeed.

@Bossjakande.

A man is the head of the home hence linages are mostly traced on the patrilinearly.

A man finds the woman he wants to build a home with, share common vision etc.

I am sure that is where the agreement ofour definition of headship ends.

I do not understand the unquestionable demigod persona Nigerian people keep painting in alignment of the Bible.

All through the Bible, not once did I see a man take a decision alone and the one person not sure ( same Abraham we all parrot) asked God what he should do.

The position of headship is not a privilege to do as you deem fit: it is a call to lead your home to righteousness, train your children and be a godly example. A man who cannot boldly say 'follow me as I follow Christ' has failed as the head. After all, it is the duty of the husband to wash his wife clean. Is he going to do that with hands stained with adultery, pride, hatred, gross irresponsibility, lack of provision, lies, spiritual darkness and malice amongst others?

Even the role of training children is the fathers' hence God did not question Eli's wife when the children were unruly.

As per provision, apart from financial provision (where they decide what they want), it is the duty of the husband to lead his family to Christ through prayers, teaching the word, his stainless conduct, constant discipline (in love) so they are not frustrated and impeccable attitude. He should also provide emotional stability, mental stability and his genuine show of love which will naturally boost the family's self esteem.

He should also be able to provide sound advice and decisions for the good of the home.

He also provides security of love, affection etc. which helps their emotional growth.

A true head is also trustworthy as that is the only way his wife can fully submit to him.

A wife should submit to her husband, yes. This submission (putting him first) is in response to his love as st(putting her first) . The kind of sacrificial love a husband is expected to have towards his wife and family, only her submission /respect/love/ putting him first would be a balance for it.

This strange cultural expectation where the wife is the spiritual pillar, moral pillar and financial pillar of the home making men figureheads that has crept into the church MUST be destroyed. That is actually what keeps destroying our homes and children turning out wayward.

If you want to go cultural, go cultural. But if you claim to be the head biblically, better be ready to do what He expects of you.

The demonic practice of women running about praying for men who should give them peace and be their priests is just that, demonic.

Nowhere was it recorded that amongst godly households, the wives were running about praying for their husbands.

The ones recorded praying did it together.

.... Every man proclaim of his own faithfulness:a faithful man, who can find?

They always come up with this filth every freaking time and still end up dying like paupers. King this, king that, yada yada yada!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.


What about the queen? You forgot that both the king, the queen and the subjects makes up the kingdom, with each having its own role specified. If you keep on lording your kingship over your house hold, one day it will cease to exist, just like for instance the fall of the French monarchy under Louis XVI and the more popular Marie Antoinette, who was the last Queen of France before the French Revolution.
They were both enigmatic in their own rights, with each trying to outwit and outsmart the other. Louis was handed a monarchy on a platter but his frivolous lifestyle (which was also helped by that of Maria Antoinette) costs them their heads and the French Kingdom. Up till this present day, every other monarchy from the low countries of the south and the Prussia-Brandenburg in the north had learnt from their mistakes and had minded their business by staying clear of the state affairs unless it is absolutely necessary -(Belgium, Denmark, Luxembourg, the Netherlands, Spain, Sweden and the United Kingdom). Most of this countries practices pseudo-democracy for survival, to stay afloat and relevant.

Choose wisely the system of government in your home. Democracy still overrules.

The Man As The Head Of The Home

I LISTENED to a discussion recently that ended with the emphasis that the man is the head of the home. This article does not aim to disclaim this age-old belief, but we would like to say that only that man who is well prepared for this role can do it successfully, as it is not enough that belonging to the male gender makes him automatically a good leader, which a household needs to run smoothly.

Note that we say a leader and not a ruler, for the ruler demands that his house goes on the way he wants, whether right or wrong, because he wants to maintain ‘authority.’

He may want peace and he may desire a happy home, but he achieves the opposite because he uses high hand. He thinks a man must not appear to be lenient. He is many times able to manage his family by being too severe in his love and through the desire to be seen to have a disciplined household.

But some men become who could be described as despots, who are feared by their wives and children.
To be the true head of the home, therefore, the number one thing he could do would be to choose his life partner carefully.
Many men look to marry wives based on skin-deep qualities, like beauty and youth. The pretty wife is good to look at and the much younger one, apart from her vigour, should be easy to ‘control’ is the general opinion.

But they discover that these are not enough, as beauty may just be only skin-deep and a partner who agrees with everything he says would not be easy to meet, if you want a long-term relationship.
It would take a wife to make him a family, so the one he marries, even if she thinks that the sun shines out of his eyes, he should be able to look on her as his equal. She must be able to help him provide a happy and harmonious home environment.

Many men are aware of this already and they treat their wives with respect, knowing that leadership in the home is not achieved by showing who is stronger physically.

And we may also say that leadership is not all about who provides the food, because children know only the parent who shows them love. If there is no issue about money at home, they would not know.

We like to compare the past with present, but if we could only look objectively into the past, we could see that couples practiced equality, although the woman could be said to have been a bit slow to realise her importance.

By nature, the man was equipped with a powerful and rather rough stance to play the role of the hunter or farmer. Some people argue that this roughness was to enable him survive as a caveman in those days. The woman could not have been able to work outside the rough terrain, they say.

He would be too tired to cook his food and clean his home and since he could not have children either, he married a woman who did all these and made the home comfortable for resting when he came home from his toil.

The arrangement has hardly changed, these days. The man is still aware of his limitation and wants to have that someone who provides all these and emotional stability. He knows a wife provides them; the one who makes him complete.

The change is that the woman since those times past has made a career outside the home and despite her success, she wants a relationship, and who she wants is that man who is confident in himself.
She wants that man who strides surefooted, could take decision about repairs in the home and cares about his children wellbeing.
She does not dream about a man she can manage as a husband, but wants a relationship where she can contribute subtly and respectfully without being seen as too assertive.

She accepts her place as the other half and wants a man she can look up to as the leader.
The head of the family is the one that cares to protect his family’s name by teaching the children the right value. He loves them and they love him back. They do not go into hiding when he comes home, but rush to greet him.

As the woman can take care of the family these days, we should help the man to earn his place in that high position by not harping so much on who must be head. We should not unwittingly create figureheads in marriage as an institution.


https://www.guardian.ng/guardian-woman/relatonships/the-man-as-the-head-of-the-home/amp

UyaiIncomparabl:
Oh! How you just so love 'Plagiarism'!

To the topic, you narcissistic and egocentric African men can go to hell for all we care! It's always about you people.

You are all just so obsessed with 'Submission' but you won't foot the bills 100% or help with chores but let the women in your lives slave away from now till eternity and call yourselves 'Real African Men'. I wonder what sort of species you all are.

Women should start waking up!

did u answer ur mom name or dad name. wen ur mum do traditional wedding did she kneel down or not. ur jump as a parrot wotout understanding. dis is not to say women are slave but DAT dere is understanding wen she respect her hubby

bukatyne:
@Bossjakande.

A man is the head of the home hence linages are mostly traced on the patrilinearly.

A man finds the woman he wants to build a home with, share common vision etc.

I am sure that is where the agreement ofour definition of headship ends.

I do not understand the unquestionable demigod persona Nigerian people keep painting in alignment of the Bible.

All through the Bible, not once did I see a man take a decision alone and the one person not sure ( same Abraham we all parrot) asked God what he should do.

The position of headship is not a privilege to do as you deem fit: it is a call to lead your home to righteousness, train your children and be a godly example. A man who cannot boldly say 'follow me as I follow Christ' has failed as the head. After all, it is the duty of the husband to wash his wife clean. Is he going to do that with hands stained with adultery, pride, hatred, gross irresponsibility, lack of provision, lies, spiritual darkness and malice amongst others?

Even the role of training children is the fathers' hence God did not question Eli's wife when the children were unruly.

As per provision, apart from financial provision (where they decide what they want), it is the duty of the husband to lead his family to Christ through prayers, teaching the word, his stainless conduct, constant discipline (in love) so they are not frustrated and impeccable attitude. He should also provide emotional stability, mental stability and his genuine show of love which will naturally boost the family's self esteem.

He should also be able to provide sound advice and decisions for the good of the home.

He also provides security of love, affection etc. which helps their emotional growth.

A true head is also trustworthy as that is the only way his wife can fully submit to him.

A wife should submit to her husband, yes. This submission (putting him first) is in response to his love as st(putting her first) . The kind of sacrificial love a husband is expected to have towards his wife and family, only her submission /respect/love/ putting him first would be a balance for it.

This strange cultural expectation where the wife is the spiritual pillar, moral pillar and financial pillar of the home making men figureheads that has crept into the church MUST be destroyed. That is actually what keeps destroying our homes and children turning out wayward.

If you want to go cultural, go cultural. But if you claim to be the head biblically, better be ready to do what He expects of you.

The demonic practice of women running about praying for men who should give them peace and be their priests is just that, demonic.

Nowhere was it recorded that amongst godly households, the wives were running about praying for their husbands.

The ones recorded praying did it together.

.... Every man proclaim of his own faithfulness:a faithful man, who can find?

God bless u dear I always like d way u type.so matured. but I think u are fast too much. so hard to understand. type it slowly and small small. wat I mean is a woman who want her marriage to succeed will surrender herself to her hubby in love.not as a slave

QueenSekxy:
Marry first

continue mocking me as am not married. let see when u will if not at Shiloh u end praying for hubby at 45

Bossjakande:
continue mocking me as am not married. let see when u will if not at Shiloh u end praying for hubby at 45

Lmao.
Go and marry first. When I reach your age, we can iron it out.

donogaga:
The Man As The Head Of The Home

I LISTENED to a discussion recently that ended with the emphasis that the man is the head of the home. This article does not aim to disclaim this age-old belief, but we would like to say that only that man who is well prepared for this role can do it successfully, as it is not enough that belonging to the male gender makes him automatically a good leader, which a household needs to run smoothly.

Note that we say a leader and not a ruler, for the ruler demands that his house goes on the way he wants, whether right or wrong, because he wants to maintain ‘authority.’

He may want peace and he may desire a happy home, but he achieves the opposite because he uses high hand. He thinks a man must not appear to be lenient. He is many times able to manage his family by being too severe in his love and through the desire to be seen to have a disciplined household.

But some men become who could be described as despots, who are feared by their wives and children.
To be the true head of the home, therefore, the number one thing he could do would be to choose his life partner carefully.
Many men look to marry wives based on skin-deep qualities, like beauty and youth. The pretty wife is good to look at and the much younger one, apart from her vigour, should be easy to ‘control’ is the general opinion.

But they discover that these are not enough, as beauty may just be only skin-deep and a partner who agrees with everything he says would not be easy to meet, if you want a long-term relationship.
It would take a wife to make him a family, so the one he marries, even if she thinks that the sun shines out of his eyes, he should be able to look on her as his equal. She must be able to help him provide a happy and harmonious home environment.

Many men are aware of this already and they treat their wives with respect, knowing that leadership in the home is not achieved by showing who is stronger physically.

And we may also say that leadership is not all about who provides the food, because children know only the parent who shows them love. If there is no issue about money at home, they would not know.

We like to compare the past with present, but if we could only look objectively into the past, we could see that couples practiced equality, although the woman could be said to have been a bit slow to realise her importance.

By nature, the man was equipped with a powerful and rather rough stance to play the role of the hunter or farmer. Some people argue that this roughness was to enable him survive as a caveman in those days. The woman could not have been able to work outside the rough terrain, they say.

He would be too tired to cook his food and clean his home and since he could not have children either, he married a woman who did all these and made the home comfortable for resting when he came home from his toil.

The arrangement has hardly changed, these days. The man is still aware of his limitation and wants to have that someone who provides all these and emotional stability. He knows a wife provides them; the one who makes him complete.

The change is that the woman since those times past has made a career outside the home and despite her success, she wants a relationship, and who she wants is that man who is confident in himself.
She wants that man who strides surefooted, could take decision about repairs in the home and cares about his children wellbeing.
She does not dream about a man she can manage as a husband, but wants a relationship where she can contribute subtly and respectfully without being seen as too assertive.

She accepts her place as the other half and wants a man she can look up to as the leader.
The head of the family is the one that cares to protect his family’s name by teaching the children the right value. He loves them and they love him back. They do not go into hiding when he comes home, but rush to greet him.

As the woman can take care of the family these days, we should help the man to earn his place in that high position by not harping so much on who must be head. We should not unwittingly create figureheads in marriage as an institution.


https://www.guardian.ng/guardian-woman/relatonships/the-man-as-the-head-of-the-home/amp

God bless u bro. a man is d head as a leader d woman is to love him to get love back in return

QueenSekxy:

Lmao.
Go and marry first. When I reach your age, we can iron it out.

it shows u are not really a friend u know dis is wat hurt me most yet u use it to mock me

cococandy:
This might be worth replying to if you had the intelligence to write it yourself or credit your source.

parrot mouth which year u marry I laugh. u begin to know wat marriage is after 10yrs now is still I love u u love me stage.as Patrick dole Chris oyakilo wat went wrong. if not for anything at least respect my age. any marriage witout challenge is fake.d best marriage is wwn u fight yet got ability to settled it

alBHAGDADI:


A godly woman won't try to usurp her husband's god-given authority simply because she brings a percentage to foot bills. She's is helper.

Buy an ungodly wicked rebellious woman will suddenly become puffed up with pride simply because she rendered help in footing bills.

If you don't Accord your husband the respect God made him deserve, your children too won't respect him. How can you teach your children to have respect for him which you do not have? You only give what you have.

God bless u bro

Bossjakande:
it shows u are not really a friend u know dis is wat hurt me most yet u use it to mock me

Jaks you mocked me with 45 years and Shiloh too.

[quote author=Bossjakande [/quote]

u dey too emotional but i don wan believe say na like dis u de do for real. somebody way de do like u na emotional blackmail ihm go use cage ever body wey dey around am

QueenSekxy:

Jaks you mocked me with 45 years and Shiloh too.

baby girl am sorry I Neva wish to do DAT I was mad at u. I think u shd apologized to me too for insulting me

[quote author=DukeofNZ post=77965955][/quote] am not emotional my guy I only feel dis way wen I got issues wit a peson I care about

Bossjakande:
baby girl am sorry I Neva wish to do DAT I was mad at u. I think u shd apologized to me too for insulting me

Lol. Oya sorry jaks.

QueenSekxy:

Lol. Oya sorry jaks.

hmm. Its OK dear love u dear.gud night

Nice blog Boss.