Kindly help! a friend of mine is confused on what to do on either paying his steps's son's school fees or celebrating his only child that is about clocking a year's birthday. He loves his step son like his own. Married his wife a few years back without any child fully knowing she had one out of wedlock and taking responsibiity of this child from when he knew him. Having sending him to Pry Sch and now about getting admission into high school after having passed his
entrance examination. The problem here is that he just moved into an apartment he bought and is cash strapped but could afford either of the two cos the admission and his legitimate son's birthday is just a week apart.

Should he go ahead with the birthday of his son or Pay the step son's school fees? If you were in his shoes what will you do?

Damoche10:

Kindly help! a friend of mine is confused on what to do on either paying his steps's son's school fees or celebrating his only child that is about clocking a year's birthday. He loves his step son like his own. Married his wife a few years back without any child fully knowing she had one out of wedlock and taking responsibiity of this child from when he knew him. Having sending him to Pry Sch and now about getting admission into high school after having passed his
entrance examination. The problem here is that he just moved into an apartment he bought and is cash strapped but could afford either of the two cos the admission and his legitimate son's birthday is just a week apart.

Should he go ahead with the birthday of his son or Pay the step son's school fees? If you were in his shoes what will you do?

Very daft he should have seen it coming

Pay the school fees. His step son is old enough to know if he chooses against him, he will be devastated and what about his schooling. The birthday boy is one?? How will he even remember or know whats a birthday or not. Better waiting til he is old enough to know whats going on. Education is more important than a party that the baby will not even be aware of.

Pay the school fees, goddamnit. Birthday ko, birthday ni - do something lowkey and get on with life

Who hides a child, a human being but a fraud?

Anwyay, it goes without saying that school fees would be a priority, what is a birthday party again?

lol. . . wat kinda party do you want to throw for a year old pikin ? owambe ?

pay the school fees and use the change to do sommin small for the pikin no matter how small even if its cabin and coke

This is making some sense.

Pay your step-son's school fees. Get a birthday cake and take pictures of your son. You can celebrate in arrears.

Damoche10:

Kindly help! a friend of mine is confused on what to do on either paying his steps's son's school fees or celebrating his only child that is about clocking a year's birthday. He loves his step son like his own. Married his wife a few years back without any child fully knowing she had one out of wedlock and taking responsibiity of this child from when he knew him. Having sending him to Pry Sch and now about getting admission into high school after having passed his
entrance examination. The problem here is that he just moved into an apartment he bought and is cash strapped but could afford either of the two cos the admission and his legitimate son's birthday is just a week apart.

Should he go ahead with the birthday of his son or Pay the step son's school fees? If you were in his shoes what will you do?

If he truly sees the boy as his own son, he won't be asking that question! I beleive he knows the right thing to do . .

Fisrt tyme i love all the comment on a post. to u all

Pay the fees!

Pay the fees!

I've never had a birthday party before

Me : Hey dad, today's my birthday
Dad : Yeah yeah go phuck yourself
Me : *Runs of crying*

.

Does he even need to think in a case like this, hasn't he heard about a word called priority?

Pay the goddam school fees man.

HeHehehe

This is very disturbing, I'm shocked this question is even here . He should do what any loving and caring person would do and pay the school fees. At the end of the day he may not be blood to your friend but he his still a son and they should be treat equal, after all he looks up to him as his farther. Please advise your friend not to hurt him or his mother by letting them know his thoughts.

SCHOOL FEES!! this takes priority, the younger son can have a party when hes more comfortable.

There's too much common sense being exhibited on this thread so far.

I would say do the birthday jo. The one year old would be traumatised for life if he doesn't have his party.

The step child can always take a year out and do work experience.

omo~fat:

There's too much common sense being exhibited on this thread so far.

I would say do the birthday jo. The one year old would be traumatised for life if he doesn't have his party.

The step child can always take a year out and do work experience.

I love your irony and sense of humour. You no well

I can see step son indeed. If the decision were to be between her (own) sons she would def pay her other son
school fee without even thinking.

Most likely, this person is Yoruba. These Yoruba people can throw a party for anything including buying an okada.
I hope my wife doesn't see this cos she Yoruba. I don't care jare

Throw a very big party for your son and don't pay the boy's school fees if u like.
Nonsense

Ha ha ha, pls when is the birthday party going on? Hope I'll be invited. Can't miss it for anything like a step's son school fees.

is it a must that d birhtday will be celerated at the exact date? he can leave it till maybe a month or 2 months time? hey it's someones future that we are talking about,

Your biological son is ONE, he wont remember the party anyways. You need to get your priorities right and pay your step sons school fees. That is way more important than some birthday party. Especially one that the boy wont even remember. You have a responsibility to your step child to take care of him when you married your wife. Get your priorities straight my friend.

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Just in case this is a legitimate question, please pay for education over party.

Questions on Nairaland.

Damoche10:

Kindly help! a friend of mine is confused on what to do on either paying his steps's son's school fees or celebrating his only child that is about clocking a year's birthday. He loves his step son like his own. Married his wife a few years back without any child fully knowing she had one out of wedlock and taking responsibiity of this child from when he knew him. Having sending him to Pry Sch and now about getting admission into high school after having passed his
entrance examination. The problem here is that he just moved into an apartment he bought and is cash strapped but could afford either of the two cos the admission and his legitimate son's birthday is just a week apart.

Should he go ahead with the birthday of his son or Pay the step son's school fees? If you were in his shoes what will you do?

No he does not .Now he knows that saying something (declaration of love) and actually facing the practicality of it in real life are not the same.

He should pay for the baiday. Baiday should come first.

something is terribly wrong if this question has to be asked.

spend the money on the birthday cake and shove it in the step son's face.