yvyy:

my dear, those who r born again and truely understand d biblican meaning of marriage wont have dat issue at all.they will have d full understanding that in d marriage its no one's personal moni but OUR MONI.


having that in mind irrespective of who brings in more,its our moni and beside marriage shldnt be among two greedy people ,ofcourse.there is also no place in d bible God stated that d man shld bring more moni.but the word of God states that d man is d head and d woman a helper.

so its our forefathers that made us believe that men shld earn more for a marriage to be happily ever after.but look around u in this age we are in,70% of d married women earn higher than their hubbys but only those that keeps their mouth open r them u will notice it from.

so my dear,it really doesnt matter. just have d understanding that its our moni.

yvyy:

my dear, those who r born again and truely understand d biblican meaning of marriage wont have dat issue at all.they will have d full understanding that in d marriage its no one's personal moni but OUR MONI.


having that in mind irrespective of who brings in more,its our moni and beside marriage shldnt be among two greedy people ,ofcourse.there is also no place in d bible God stated that d man shld bring more moni.but the word of God states that d man is d head and d woman a helper.

so its our forefathers that made us believe that men shld earn more for a marriage to be happily ever after.but look around u in this age we are in,70% of d married women earn higher than their hubbys but only those that keeps their mouth open r them u will notice it from.

so my dear,it really doesnt matter. just have d understanding that its our moni.

MrLoverMAn:


Is This a personal issue that is affecting you.

Ujujoan:

What if it's becoming a real issue in the family? I asked some questions in my OP, how can they be addressed?

Nope! I'm not married . . . just curious! Mainly becos I have a friend who's having problems in her marital home cos of this _{I'm assuming the question was directed to me!}

Inked_Nerd:


Why would anyone pay money into their husbands account because they make more money? Is it that persons fault that they make more money? Its not an issue when the husband makes more money so why should it be an issue if the woman makes more money? The decision making should be equal but I don't believe that a woman should pay money into her husbands account of allow him to manage her money because he makes less money. I know a man who's wife makes 5 times more than he does and he is perfectly fine with it. He sees nothing wrong with it. The man is a high school teacher and the woman is a lawyer.

its not an issue as long as we make all decisions concerning major expenditures together

seedord247:

I never pray of such

Fear.com:

My wife earns more than i do? . . . .so?no big deal.But once it gets to her head and she starts actin' up. . . . . . .then we have a problem.

yvyy:

my dear, those who r born again and truely understand d biblican meaning of marriage wont have dat issue at all.they will have d full understanding that in d marriage its no one's personal moni but OUR MONI.


having that in mind irrespective of who brings in more,its our moni and beside marriage shldnt be among two greedy people ,ofcourse.there is also no place in d bible God stated that d man shld bring more moni.but the word of God states that d man is d head and d woman a helper.

so its our forefathers that made us believe that men shld earn more for a marriage to be happily ever after.but look around u in this age we are in,70% of d married women earn higher than their hubbys but only those that keeps their mouth open r them u will notice it from.

so my dear,it really doesnt matter. just have d understanding that its our moni.

JUO:

ONEDAY SHE GO TAKEAM TELL U WORD

yabadabado:

firstly am not married but u could still find sense in my opinion.

i have a question for ----can you husband allow u to track his account for no reason without feeling choked? if yes , put a considerable amount in his account and let him lead as GOD DECREE , if no, talk it out and start a joint ACC.
if your man is not financially intelligent help him with books and other materials .

i think a considerable amount of the money should be put into a joint accunt or his account if you really love him and if u are still fresh into the marriage.
then , let him lead with you beside him , making all the decision that require money.

and if the money is being mismanaged talk it out with him {a joint account makes it easy for u to follow the account}

freshera:

Its not a good situation, the man is supposed to be the main provider, the woman is supposed to help in case the man is sick or dead, or is down financially or so that the man will not kill himself with work-related stress. The man should aim to earn higher than her so it will be a temporary situation not permanent.

If there is a good relationship/frienship between them, she should first take her savings/tithe/personal allowance/contribution/siblings allowance, etc from her salary, then give the remaining to him to decide on how to spend or put it in a joint account if they use that. He should make all final decisions with enough input from the wife.

If he does not spend it well, she can now complain and then they agree to a formula of contributing for example 60/40, he gives 60 percent of money required for the home's expenses and she gives 40 percent.

Some African women allow it to get to their heads though because traditionally a woman is supposed to be dependent on the man. Thats why single rich ladies are not respected because they are not under a man and may not easily get married.

So if she now finds herself in big money and already a Mrs with kids, she can tell the man to get lost and even question what he is useful for. But not every woman is like this especially if the man is her best friend.

lovejo:

NO MATTER HOW MUCH SHE EARN, I WILL TAKE UP ALL MAJOR FINANCES, MY INCOME WILL AWAYS BE ABOVE MY FAMILY RESPONSIBILITIES.

Do you pay your money into your husby’s account and let him manage your finances (even if he does a not-so good job) OR do you keep the money in your account and issue the cheques as you deem fit or if/when you feel likt it

Do you get to make major decisions like where you live, what schools the children attend, which cars to buy e.t.c. since you make the money anyways OR do you operate a joint account and make financial decisions together (and sometimes ignore times when you know your money is being mis-managed).

emmatok:

I agree with the joint account stuff.

The couple should have a joint account were they can both deposit certain amount of their monthly pay equally at the end of every mouth, for family expenses like .bills, feeding school,children stuff e.t.c.

Then they can keep their personal accounts for their own private use .