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Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 6:28am On Jul 14, 2019 |
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Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by PoliteActivist: 6:35am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Poor kid. Be strong. U r the first born. It comes with trials and tribulations. But if u can withstand all that and survive you'll be on top 3 Likes |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by yeyeosoronga: 6:39am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Only your dad knows why he did what he did. Anyway, I hope you won't be tricked into taking anything from him again or even go visit him alone again. 2 Likes |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 6:44am On Jul 14, 2019 |
PoliteActivist: It's hard, brother. I haven't a clue how to even justify myself. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 6:47am On Jul 14, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: I can't go there ever again. Well until by some miracle, I am cleared of this mess. I feel like I'm ruined for life. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by PoliteActivist: 6:56am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019: Bros, it comes with the territory. Some say it is spiritual. But history shows that if u survive to a certain stage you'd be on top. Advice: Don't fight your father. Despite everything never disrespect him. Just be a loyal son while he continues to be a bad dad. Inside his heart will be flogging him 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 7:04am On Jul 14, 2019 |
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Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by PoliteActivist: 7:21am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019: U r not under any curse. Don't believe that. But there are forces against u. BUT there are more powerful forces on your side. FIGHT and your forces will support u. But u have to lead the fight. Don't take anything lying down. Example, this accusation, get on all social media, publicise your innocence far and wide (without making it a war with Dad). Your own forces will kick in and you'd be surprised how it will disappear. Also don't sacrifice yourself for your mum or anybody. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 7:25am On Jul 14, 2019 |
PoliteActivist: Quite insightful this is. Bless you brother. I shall work on it. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by yeyeosoronga: 7:34am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019: Don't feel like that and you're not ruined. Even if you stole from your father, there's no point in him spreading your tales about if he's not malicious. Afterall if you truly stole from him, it just also points out his failures as a father in raising you (pls, I know you didnt steal from him) 1 Like |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by PoliteActivist: 7:39am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019: I added "don't sacrifice yourself for your mother or anybody". Important because first borns tend to do that. And ignore comparisons to your richer younger brother. You r still the first not him. Also remember these things change. Focus on your own stenghts - example, u can write and spell quite well. Never in any way feel inferior to anyone simply because they have more money. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 7:45am On Jul 14, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: Bro, it just feels like the man wishes his extended family were actually his immediate. He wastes no opportunity at telling them about the flaws at home (exaggerated and skewed versions often) forgetting that this portrays him and the rest of our family in bad light. For many years, he's done it with my mum and now it appears he's come for me as well. This is a man who could think up anything just to ruin you. I've heard rumour of him telling his sister that the reason my mum and I are close is because we are having a sexual relationship. Good grief! |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 7:48am On Jul 14, 2019 |
PoliteActivist: I didn't miss that part, sire. It's something I personally have been thinking about. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by SageMK: 7:50am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019: Good. Cut him off. Your Dad is toxic. Stop seeking for validation from an abusive man that's incapable of love. Nothing will change him, even old age. Those who truly matter in your life believe & stand with you so never accept that you are ruined because of him. Your reputation is safe. His words hold no water and he doesn't matter. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by PoliteActivist: 7:58am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019: Maybe I am one of those "forces on your side" (smile). But you had to do your part for me to come out - you posted this thread. Always believe everything will work out in your favor. Your belief will make it so. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by LadySarah: 8:05am On Jul 14, 2019 |
I feel for you.Pls Dont let what he said get to you.As long As your conscience is clear,anybody that talks Rubbish to you,shout on his/her face,and lastly,go and make legit money.It will keep them on your side,fear and respect you. I have someone close who has gone through that so i know what i'm saying. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 8:08am On Jul 14, 2019 |
SageMK: Thank you my brother. I guess I can only love him from a distance from here on. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 8:10am On Jul 14, 2019 |
PoliteActivist: I guess you are You've been so much helpful that I feel I can actually solve this problem already. Bless up |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 8:14am On Jul 14, 2019 |
LadySarah: Thanks a bunch, sis. I sure need to get my power back. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by PoliteActivist: 8:21am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019: I just made FTC in sports. Check my siggy and give me your congrats 1 Like |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by yeyeosoronga: 9:41am On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019: Just keep him at arms length. Such people can drive you crazy and ruin your mental health. Unfortunately, not all families are perfect. Na so life be 1 Like |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Nobody: 10:03am On Jul 14, 2019 |
1. Give him the N43,000 as soon as you can. Yes, he only gave you N20,000 and this was a loan, not a theft, but for peace to reign give him N43,000. 2. Have proof of the above exchange so he won't continue lying that you're yet to return his 3. To prevent him from continuously defaming your character, distance yourself and do not accept anything else from him, even if he says it's a gift. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 10:48am On Jul 14, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: Funny thing is ever since we separated, I had kept him at arms' length, restricting interactions to just phone calls, until recently when he called for my help. Well, na so life be sha. Some families do have them. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 11:00am On Jul 14, 2019 |
theButterfly: His 20k is intact. I haven't spent a dime out of it. If I had any 63k (the loan plus the phantom 43k} to spare right now, I'd gladly transfer it immediately ; but then again, won't that be misinterpreted as some sort of restitution ? My siblings strongly advised against doing that when I presented the idea. It's an admittance to a crime I didn't commit. Thanks for your input, baba. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by LilMissFavvy(f): 6:40pm On Jul 14, 2019 |
Are you really sure your dad is mentally Sound? He's an old man and you never can tell, he might not be okay health wise. Although he might have truly lost his money, but that was not enough reason to talk bad about you among so many people. Keep off the old man, it's like things can never get well between you and him. You did the right thing to have been protecting your mum years back. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Deepfeel(m): 6:59pm On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019:You are the first son? Reasons your dad hates you but love your junior brother could be deeper than what you think, maybe he has doubts if you are truly his biological son 1 Like |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Nobody: 7:18pm On Jul 14, 2019 |
Doyou2019:Whether it's N43k or N63k, try and give it to him and don't accept anything from him henceforth. 1 Like |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by meezynetwork(m): 9:12pm On Jul 14, 2019 |
I understand how u feel. Just try and work hard and make your mum proud. Make legit money 1 Like |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by ifyalways(f): 10:46pm On Jul 14, 2019 |
Your dad is old. Memory fails. He could have misplaced the money somewhere in the house, or even spent it and have forgotten, you are the only person that visited so he's not totally wrong to ask you. If he outrightly hated you, he won't loan you 20K. If you can, visit him again and try to make peace with him. He's an old man, people around him are the problem, not him. They feed him bad information about you and he's acting on it. 2 Likes |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by xavuv: 10:48pm On Jul 14, 2019 |
Be strong @OP. Dont try not to think much about these negagivities from your dad, because, in reality we attract what we fear most. PoliteActivist: @activist. I have read through your comments here on this topic. Im more than impressed. I feel like you are infact addressing what has been been botheribg me all this while. Now i need more wisdom from you. I would like to share some personal things with you and i want you to advise me on it. Email will be ok, of you don't mind. Thank you. 1 Like |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 9:17am On Jul 15, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: He is very sane; only that he has a very skewed perception about other people. Doesn't have friends because of his untrusting nature. His only friends at the moment are his family and I don't think they care very much about him. It might interest you that while I was there, he never brought out any money when I was in the room with him. He'd send me on errands and by the time I'm back, poof! There's a thousand Naira on the bed for whatever else he wants me to get for him. He once accused us of stealing the papers of his house and when he eventually found the document, he just kept mum. He's not the type of parent that can vouch for any child, let alone his significant other. That's why he's there in the village, alone. |
Re: Fighting False Accusations And Ridicule From A Father by Doyou2019: 9:21am On Jul 15, 2019 |
Deepfeel: Well, this must mean that each one of us is a bastard then, as we all at one point or the other have found ourselves being treated like trash by this man. I'm only enraged because I thought at over 70, he should have 'simmered' down a bit. 1 Like 1 Share |
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