A lady friend just came crying to me about a huge fight she just had with her husband.

They were re-arranging their house and throwing things out.Her husband showed her a card.When she looked at it she smiled as she remembered it was a card she had given him while they were courting.She handed over the card to him and before you could say 'Jack Robinson', he had torn the card saying it would create space.
However as they continued she noticed he took some pictures and hid them between a book.She quickly snatched the book and lo and behold they were pictures of his ex-girlfriend who he had told her about.When she saw them she angrily tore them to pieces to also "create space" and there began the wahala.
They ofcourse had the hot exchange, raised voices and she told me she was sure their neighbours had heard them arguing violently for the first time.
She said she told her husband she knew she was wrong to have torn the pictures but he also had to see her own point of view and he replied "I dont care about seeing things from your own side". She felt especially bad because her 2 little kids saw their parents fighting for the first time.
They are not on speaking terms now. She came to me on how best to break the ice.

Abeg wetin make I tell her.I have always had the impression her husband was every lady's dream husband.

the heading say my husband and me


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inside you say your friend

well she is stupid , it is like this if one kicks you chill to avoid a fight if you kicks back there might not be some holding back from the other and yourself

she should have shown her mature side by not tearing them apart but asking him to throw them away and explain how she is dissapointed

she acted like the stupid like husband

now we see them both as not being mature but if she has chilled the husband would have only be labelled a thick arse

Her husbans is wrong and very selfish, he tears her card yet can hide pictures of his ex girlfriend, see that is what makes everything a big deal, why do you have picutures of the ex girlfriend, instead of her acting like she did something wrong she needs to change it around, she is in the right, he is wrong and if he cannot see that, she should show him, the silence is killing him slowly inside, she needs to be strong, if u do not show a man u are strong and can handle your own they will walk all over you,

Your friend did nothing wrong by reacting that way

personally i dont think your friend did anything wrong because the husband should not be keeping pictures of his ex while ripping a card his wife gave him to shreds. she has appologised and he is still being a baby. tell your friend to give him space and not say anything more and take care of the kids he will come to his senses

THE TWO LADIES ABOVE

are you saying the wife aint wrong too?

i say she is

why ? picture this husband bitches he is caught does wife have to bitch too to prove a point? ot make him see that he is wrong ?

the wife is wrong for acting out of anger YES, however the husband is really wrong because he should not be hiding photos and even at that he has the nerve to tear her card but he keeps ex photo, i would have done more than tear

Aww how sad. . . . the kids seeing them argue part, really got to me  

True,two wrongs cant make a right,she should have held her peace and not tear the pinshures,prolly talk to him about it but as there is no need crying

over spilt milk,the deed's done already. . . let her just approach her husband,talk it over and end it there.

why should she approach him to talk it over? when he is very wrong,

aminalib:

the wife is wrong for acting out of anger YES, however the husband is really wrong because he should not be hiding photos and even at that he has the nerve to tear her card but he keeps ex photo, i would have done more than tear

hubby has no defending at all

i guess the card did not mean anything to him he is the one who bought it, but to the woman it means alot

I used to know that they say 'two wrongs don't make a right'. The deed has been done, she has to go and apologize to her husband.

It doesn't take nothing to say 'sorry'.

specialist, why should she go apologize, was she hiding pictures of her ex? but it is she thought should beg right?

ZIM, he did not buy the card, she bought it for him while they were courting,

two wrongs they say cant make a right

both parties were wrong but i freaking got pissed whereby the woman was trying to correct her wrong and the man acting like JANDO

damn at some men that feel or act as if they are god to the wife

exactly@y me, he knows he is wrong yet he acts as if she did all wrong, that is mind games that guys play on weak women, if she was strong trust me he would be begging and pleading,

The Husband is selling fish

@ ZIM DRILL. She bought him the card when they were dating. She said he replied that he tore other cards too and since she had given it to him it was now his property and it was his business whatever he chose to do with them.
She said he was just complaining that those pictures could not be replaced.It made her really start to question whether she could trust him.

aminalib:

ZIM, he did not buy the card, she bought it for him while they were courting,

thats a tricky one

guys we dont normally keep cards i guess he found no reason to keep it but the wife wanted it kept

which is tricky becoz you cant force people to keep things becoz you are the one who bought it for them

he should have found a way to ask wife if they should keep it


by the way was those things inside the husband's box or container ?

ZIM DRILL na wa for you oohh!!!
ok you guys dont keep cards only ex girlfriend's pictures

how does knowing where he kept the things solve the problem at hand?mmmshew!!!

aminalib:

specialist, why should she go apologize, was she hiding pictures of her ex? but it is she thought should beg right?

thats the problem. He tore the card, she wasn't happy she went to get the picture where he kept it and tore it just to get even and you say she is right. Come on.

where did you read that SHE WENT TO GET THE PICTURE? from what i read they were clearing things to clear space and after he tore her card, she then found pictures he was hiding between books, so how did she go get it, ? they were cleaning, like i said i would have done more than tear that picture, but then again my boyfriend knows i am crazy after a series of events

silvasurfa:

ZIM DRILL na wa for you oohh!!!
ok you guys dont keep cards only ex girlfriend's pictures

how does knowing where he kept the things solve the problem at hand?mmmshew!!!

there is nothing to solve here dear both should apologise to each other

the reason i asked about the box is this people we kept personal things that mean something to us and the box is yours no one should tell you what you should keep in it aslong it ainy something to do with your EXs

though am not trying to defend the guy

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Amina.

From what i read she saw him keeping something inside a book, She snatched the book she saw it was his ex then she tore it. End of story.

Specialist900:

I used to know that they say 'two wrongs don't make a right'. The deed has been done, she has to go and apologize to her husband.

It doesn't take nothing to say 'sorry'.

Please poster,tell your friend to go and apologize to her husband now now now! There are a lot of desperate gals out there who'l massage his ego and break that home.
Me i'l say,write,sing and act sorry to keep my man.

@MOBO444 Its because of some people like you that some decent people never post on NL.
I am a happily maried mother of 2 who doesnt need to make up a story to have her one day of popularity.

Thanks to everyone that posted.About to give the sisterly advise to her.

Odunnu:

Please poster,tell your friend to go and apologize to her husband now now now! There are a lot of desperate gals out there who'l massage his ego and break that home.
Me i'l say,write,sing and act sorry to keep my man.

no wonder some men will continue to abuse women

they both wronged each other they should apologise each other

not only her to cover the wrong doing of her man by her only apologizing

you are the type that will stay in relationship out of fear than love

ZIM DRILL:

no wonder some men will continue to abuse women

they both wronged each other they should apologise each other

not only her to cover the wrong doing of her man by her only apologizing

No man who is born of a woman can abuse me.I'l never tolerate that.
If the husband of ths woman had come to me for advice,i'l ask/beg him to go and apologise and make up with his woman. But since its the wife i'm dealing with now,i'l also advice her the same thing. We must not always count who is wrong and who is right. You and I knw that ths is a minor thing that could have been overlooked and nipped but they jointly allowed it xplode until they gave the kids 'free to air' drama.
It can break a home the way they are going but since 'i'm sorry' wil calm nerves/tempers now,why go to bed in anger?
Please,ask my sister to go and apologise jor,its not too much to do.

Odunnu:

Please poster,tell your friend to go and apologize to her husband now now now! There are a lot of desperate gals out there who'l massage his ego and break that home.
Me i'l say,write,sing and act sorry to keep my man.

thank you.

Odunnu:

No man who is born of a woman can abuse me.I'l never tolerate that.
If the husband of ths woman had come to me for advice,i'l ask/beg him to go and apologise and make up with his woman. But since its the wife i'm dealing with now,i'l also advice her the same thing. We must not always count who is wrong and who is right. You and I knw that ths is a minor thing that could have been overlooked and nipped but they jointly allowed it xplode until they gave the kids 'free to air' drama.
It can break a home the way they are going but since 'i'm sorry' wil calm nerves/tempers now,why go to bed in anger?
Please,ask my sister to go and apologise jor,its not too much to do.

dear who in the world would ignore photos of an ex in his/her house this aint a minor thing dear

your are talking of a comedy movie


both are wrong but the wife shouldnt apologise over the fear of loosing her husband she should apologise for the anger especially in front of the kids

abuse doesnt mean you tolerate even if you dont tolerate abuse can happen to you and it will be still called abuse whether you tolerate or not

ZIM DRILL:

dear who in the world would ignore photos of an ex in his/her house this aint a minor thing dear

your are talking of a comedy movie


both are wrong but the wife shouldnt apologise over the fear of loosing her husband she should apologise for the anger especially in front of the kids

abuse doesnt mean you tolerate even if you dont tolerate abuse can happen to you and it will be still called abuse whether you tolerate or not

Now we both have a meeting point in the boldened.
For whatever reason she gives herself,let her go and make peace. I've learnt never to go to bed angry,but thats for everyday r'shp. How much more a r'shp thats forever and ever. Let her massage his ego and both wil be happy.

It doesn't cost one to say sorry for life to continue. then why the hell are we looking for who is right and who is wrong? At times we have to play the fool for peace to reign.