LadySarah:


Yes and 100 percent normal

I don't think this works with all women. But this is the age of fast pace where everything is not normal.

dazzlingd:


This same stupid mentality is responsible for the menace in the society, over population, poverty and poor family planning ......gerrout of here

Abortion is still not the best option... You too get out from here.. Make your point and leave, must you be sarcastic or vent your anger.... If you're frustrated or tired of life... Then move on to the next world!!!

femi4:
But they ve tried to abort without success. The available option is to allow the baby come to this planet

OH. Didn't read that. Wish them d best

OSUigboFlatHead:

I see why good things eludes you...
Keep growing in frustration

Elude..... Hahaha, keep deceiving hopeless urself. Use ur time to improve ur low mentality and stop disturbing me.

madridguy:
You want to adopt q baby

Yeah.. I love babies.. I'm a babysitter.. It hurts me when I hear stories of abortions, I know the economy is bad and all that jazz, but I strongly believe it's gonna be better..

As a lactating mother she might also lose her baby as a result of abortion.

Withdrawal plus ovulation calculation(when very safe) plus condom(occasionally when not sure of safety) is the best pregnancy prevention.
In case of a new nursing mum who isn't menstruating(not sure of ovulation), condom on the husband's part is the best. This was my case.

My first is 5 year's old now, and I am just a few weeks pregnant. That was our desired spacing.

To achieve this requires a deep understanding on the part of both husband and wife, determination, selflessness and above all, having a set goals.
I am not totally against family planning pills/implants but hubby is.
To the poster pls keep the baby don't abort.
we learn from our mistakes and others too.
An uncle of mine was in the same situation 7years back, the wife became pregnant with a baby less than 2months.
Those two are like twin now.

johnmattew:
u are obviously and undoubtedly the most useless husband of the year....

u didn't let ur wife recover from stress of childbirth and allow her breast feed ........pity ur wife ,she isn't a wood

some nigerian husbands are useless and selfish

What if its the wife that wanted the sex?

IamR:

The title is so annoying; he is subtly putting the blame on his wife. Some men ehn!

How? N.a. wa for you o!

I hope the OP will leave the baby for your sake. If you love baby then you need to have yours.

Lamanii22:



Yeah.. I love babies.. I'm a babysitter.. It hurts me when I hear stories of abortions, I know the economy is bad and all that jazz, but I strongly believe it's gonna be better..

Rajman45:
U get wahala ọ, after just 4 months... U start de knack her

ahn .. How long should he have waited before knacking her.. I don't think I'll wait for one month sef......

madridguy:
I hope the OP will leave the baby for your sake. If you love baby then you need to have yours.

I'd be glad... I'm not married yet o but I'll have mine some day... When I'm married..

That is a great lie, I did it and it work for me, because I have plan for my life.
Am living happily and enjoy my life now

Charleys:
Family planning is for people who have no plans for their lives..... At all.

People who plan their lives won't go for family planning.

ayando:

I don't think this works with all women. But this is the age of fast pace where everything is not normal.

You took the word out of my mouth, but the fact remain, its not possible.

AntiBrutus:
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No woman should take this advice seriously from a human with a third leg.

Aunty, take your feminist issue elsewhere. Everything with una is always fight against men. LAM's rule and effectiveness is a research that was borne out of years of study and peer-reviewed by reputable organizations like WHO (World Health Organisation). Take your anti-male frustration to World Health Organisation!

Rajman45:

Most sources acknowledged Ur arguments

First of all, thanks for this.

Rajman45:

but i have interact with so many women that undergo exclusive breastfeeding and still got pregnant.

Like I have said before in my previous posts, they probably didn't follow the rules to the letter and failed. It's quoted below:

1. Your baby is less than six months old
2. Your menstrual periods have not yet returned
3. Baby is breastfeeding on cue (both day & night), and gets nothing but breastmilk or only token amounts of other foods.

More emphasis on number 3

It looks quite easy but very hard to follow, not with hubby breathing on their neck for sex barely two weeks after giving birth, the irregularity of the menstrual cycle after giving birth and the ability to breastfeed on cue especially at night when the nursing mother needs to rest. Just one day of not breastfeeding the baby is enough to render LAM useless. LAM rules states that a woman who is separated from her baby for more than six hours regularly should not expect LAM to be effective. How many present-day women can achieve with the stress of having to return to work as early as two to three months. I won't blame the women that much. It's not that easy on the women at all.

Rajman45:

Even science will always tell u that is not 100% certain.

Well, there was nowhere in any of my posts I stated LAM to be 100%. Its effectiveness reduces till the sixth month when it becomes useless. It's quite obvious why LAM will no longer be effective by the six month as the baby keeps growing and can no longer be sustained on breastmilk alone, this means less sucking and ovulation will therefore no longer be suppressed.

Fountainofyouth:



That is to tell you the kind of diickheads we have on nairaland.

i guess you can't help oozing like a pvssy @times, a woman grown enough to be a wife should know when to take precautions ... why are you not pregnant for ur bf yet ... do you take precautions or rely on his own precaution, c'mon.
There are times my GF jus look @me n she will be like; if i really wana get pregnant i will .. forget all these ur redrawal antics .
it woman as the major role to play hence d subtle blame

Vkemay:
Withdrawal plus ovulation calculation(when very safe) plus condom(occasionally when not sure of safety) is the best pregnancy prevention.
In case of a new nursing mum who isn't menstruating(not sure of ovulation), condom on the husband's part is the best. This was my case.

My first is 5 year's old now, and I am just a few weeks pregnant. That was our desired spacing.

To achieve this requires a deep understanding on the part of both husband and wife, determination, selflessness and above all, having a set goals.
I am not totally against family planning pills/implants but hubby is.
To the poster pls keep the baby don't abort.
we learn from our mistakes and others too.
An uncle of mine was in the same situation 7years back, the wife became pregnant with a baby less than 2months.
Those two are like twin now.

I was 4 months when my mom took in for my younger sister.... People advised her to take it out since things were not financially good but the she vehemently refused.. Today we are both graduates and mom keeps thanking God she didn't fall for the temptation of abortion...

Rajman45:

Elude..... Hahaha, keep deceiving hopeless urself. Use ur time to improve ur low mentality and stop disturbing me.

Olodo
How many times have you Googled that word to know the meaning?

Hello, I understand how this may be hard for you. I would advice you to stop breastfeeding the baby at hand int he next 1month. You need to take the baby elsewhere to your in-laws or to your mother. Please make sure to take care of his or her upkeep till your baby starts walking and always stay with them. Next thing to do is to continue having sex with your wife till she delivers the baby.

Now to your question of further recurrence, please avoid the family planning method. DO NOT USE IT. They fail completely. You need to study your wife's ovulation cycle and menstruation cycle after she has delivered her baby. Study your wife safe period and her unsafe period. During her unsafe period, you need to always do the the withdrawal method when making out with your wife.

CONGRATULATION IN ADVANCE.

Adebowhales:
My baby is just 4 months old and my wife is pregnant again. We tried the family planning methods but it failed.

Presently, we cannot afford to leave the pregnancy. What can we do to prevent further re occurrence and to terminate this one.

Thanks.

Medics in the house.

So you and your wife could not wait before you start fucking again?

Rajman45:
U get wahala ọ, after just 4 months... U start de knack her

So, is 4 months now to fast or too late. When is the proper time after giving birth. Abegi. Talk another thing jare

He sounds irresponsible. Why should he not take the blame personally, as if the wife alone manufactures the pregnancy? And he's even contemplating abortion. What manner of man is this?

Adebowhales:
My baby is just 4 months old and my wife is pregnant again. We tried the family planning methods but it failed.

Presently, we cannot afford to leave the pregnancy. What can we do to prevent further re occurrence and to terminate this one.

Thanks.

Medics in the house.

I will just give you one advice. You and your wife should please download “Glow app” or “Flow app”

Make sure you and your wife take the app serious & monitor the app.

You can only have sexx after her ovulation like 3 or 4 days after her ovulation at least that’s what I do and trust me you’d be back to thank me.

Kindly do not try the abortion thing, it could create a very big problem for you in the future, keep the pregnancy, your child will probably be 11 months by the time another one arrives as the pregnancy must have been 2 months by now.

ericsmith:



i guess you can't help oozing like a pvssy @times, a woman grown enough to be a wife should know when to take precautions ... why are you not pregnant for ur bf yet ... do you take precautions or rely on his own precaution, c'mon.
There are times my GF jus look @me n she will be like; if i really wana get pregnant i will .. forget all these ur redrawal antics .
it woman as the major role to play hence d subtle blame

So what you're saying is, women delibrately get pregnant right? Case in point this thread, the wife, still breastfeeding a 4 month old, deliberately got pregnant abi? What was her reason then, since she is to blame cos she produced the sperm and poured it into her pùssy, na you be the bosses of diickheads here

Honestly Men deserve birth control method More than women. 0ne Aboki police man had children almost in all the 36 states and many of them does that too.

Awoo88:
So you and your wife could not wait before you start fucking again?

Lol me and partner started having sex the very first month so?
Really it’s not even about when but getting to know your partner.

2019 and men don’t take their girlfriend,wife or partners circle serious.
The painful thing is most of this fertility apps are free.

Although with nursing mothers you can’t predict their fertility which is my own case we did use protection until her mp.
After that we got back to making use of the app.
No raw sex until after ovulation.
If we must before then it has to be with protection!

Good morning, my advice to you is this

1. Children are heritage from the Lord.
2. There's a reason for this to happen, you have to stay calm and ensure your wife is healthy.
3. Don't go ahead with the abortion because she might not be fit and it might be dangerous.
4. I won't encourage you to go ahead with murdering the baby.
5.

Are you currently in Nigeria? If yes, what part of naija..you look take away.

Lamanii22:



I'd be glad... I'm not married yet o but I'll have mine some day... When I'm married..

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kevoh:


Aunty, take your feminist issue elsewhere. Everything with una is always fight against men. LAM's rule and effectiveness is a research that was borne out of years of study and peer-reviewed by reputable organizations like WHO (World Health Organisation). Take your anti-male frustration to World Health Organisation!


First of all, thanks for this.



Like I have said before in my previous posts, they probably didn't follow the rules to the letter and failed. It's quoted below:


It looks quite easy but very hard to follow, not with hubby breathing on their neck for sex barely two weeks after giving birth, the irregularity of the menstrual cycle after giving birth and the ability to breastfeed on cue especially at night when the nursing mother needs to rest. Just one day of not breastfeeding the baby is enough to render LAM useless. LAM rules states that a woman who is separated from her baby for more than six hours regularly should not expect LAM to be effective. How many present-day women can achieve with the stress of having to return to work as early as two to three months. I won't blame the women that much. It's not that easy on the women at all.


Well, there was nowhere in any of my posts I stated LAM to be 100%. Its effectiveness reduces till the sixth month when it becomes useless. It's quite obvious why LAM will no longer be effective by the six month as the baby keeps growing and can no longer be sustained on breastmilk alone, this means less sucking and ovulation will therefore no longer be suppressed.

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More trash. No woman shoud take this seriously...

Abortion is a sin!
Keep the pregnancy. We had a similar issue but keep the pregrancy. The baby is a girl, intelligent and very beautiful. She is 4 yrs now
Every one has the right to live!

madridguy:
Are you currently in Nigeria? If yes, what part of naija..you look take away.

Awww thank you... Yeah, Lagos...