We4all:


Your story is quite inspiring, and I'm glad things worked out for you. But encouraging people to tow your path doesn't hold sway, cos it may backfire. I know a guy who did something similar, and 10 years down the line, he is poorer than he was.

The truth is, if you can afford a flamboyant wedding, by all means, do it! This is because, weddings are memorable, and are expected to take place once in a life time.

There are three chapters in one's life:birth, marriage and death. If people celebrate births and funerals, then weddings shouldn't be less celebrated.

Nevertheless, if you can't afford a loud wedding, then opt for something small with few guests. But make it simple and classy, and don't be like the OP, cos serving his guests biscuits was in bad taste.

Being poor is one thing, planning right is another. @OP, you shouldn't have entertained your guests with biscuits,(cos I assume they were all adults). Instead, 2 mudus of rice served in take away packs could have done the magic. And if there was less money for malt, then you could have opted for zobo drinks which is cheaper and even more delicious than malt drinks.

The problem most Nigerians have when it comes to weddings is that, while they can afford to cater for only 50 guests, they end up inviting 500, just so they can have more contributions from them.

If your budget can only entertain 50 people, then plan for that number and don't end up inviting more numbers so you don't serve them biscuits just like the OP.

I love this line of reason.

Your case for weddings to be observed flamboyantly isn't strong though. It can't because those other events mentioned were observed flamboyantly, should weddings be observed in a similar manner.

There's no logical case to be built for its flamboyance. Your emotions are only taking stock of new memories dramatically.

That is a good move.

Y did u now use of other couples? Why couldn't u use yours? Abi na lie u de lie?

Anybody encouraging this dangerous trend is mad

It takes determination

KosiGee:



You spent less than N30k on your wedding but instead of posting photos of the N13k clothes you and your wifey wore on that day, you uploaded photos of other people from the internet!

Are you being serious? You are encouraging and attempting to motivate other potential couples yet you have to steal wedding photos of foreigners to tell your story.


I feel like calling you fraud.

That's exactly what he comes across as. Those bouquets alone in those pictures cost more than the testimony he's appearing to preach.

I'm 100% for cutting your coats according to your
clothes. I'll advise he takes down those pic and post his own reality so those he is willing to inspire can actually follow his "recipe".

We all know it is every woman's dream to have a beffiting wedding, though, I would personally say this should only be based on what you, your spouse and your family can afford!

That you cannot afford an elaborate wedding today does not mean you won't be able afford an even more expensive wedding anniversary or wedding vow renewal in the near future.

dawnomike:
This is pretty nice and it takes a whole great deal of will to pull that off!!!... Kudos

Would you have even thought it possible.You can imagine the kind of argument when someone asked if he could marry with #30 000 earning.

Change is inevitable.

AwkaetitiBabe:
One can marry with less sef. You both just gotta agree.


You'll get cute rings on Aliexpress for less than 1500 sef

Hope you know 5$ is 1,500 is around 4$ .. what sort of mindset is this �

then you could have opted for zobo drinks which is cheaper and even more delicious than malt drinks.
.[/quote] ..LWKMD..guy ahbeg speak for urself

you marrying with little money isnt the issue on ground
what of the the conditions behind marriage?
are you willing to be patient during worst days
are you ready to control your anger when provoked?
guy free the money matter
marriage no be joke matter
no come day talk about you marrying with little money
ask us question about how to deal with serious situation when you encountered one and itz a must you will encountered many

Never despise little beginnings!

elektra:
I also don’t want a wedding reception.
I want to go to registry and go for my honey moon.

I have noticed that weddings are only enjoyed by the visitors. The couples families always end up stressing and fighting. I’ve not heard of any wedding that family members did not fight or were unhappy about something. Somebody must complain about something!
I am unwilling to spend obscene amounts of money entertaining and feeding a bunch of people, while the people most important to me are more stressed than happy.

So true. Nigerian cultures put a lot of pressure/expectation on people when it comes to weddings, christenings and funerals, but mainly for selfish and greedy reasons so that family and friends can leech off the celebrants.

Same way our society pressurises politicians to steal when everyone expects them to provide handouts to family members and constituents

Abeg is your wife a Nigerian? Because I know my people.

I'd take you seriously when see your pictures

bindukwe:


I love this line of reason.

Your case for weddings to be observed flamboyantly isn't strong though. It can't because those other events mentioned were observed flamboyantly, should weddings be observed in a similar manner.

There's no logical case to be built for its flamboyance. Your emotions are only taking stock of new memories dramatically.

flamboyant ,flamboyantly, flamboyancy

as 4 me, i dnt like big wedding, anytime i am ready to settle down,i wl inform my grl of my intentions,any wedding that wl cost me more dan 500k is a no going area 4 me,d parent should jst marry their daughter,

This is super story..........

Let's see pictures of you and your said pretty wife!!!
A nice smart-phone should cover photographer's budget.

We4all:


Your story is quite inspiring, and I'm glad things worked out for you. But encouraging people to tow your path doesn't hold sway, cos it may backfire. I know a guy who did something similar, and 10 years down the line, he is poorer than he was.

The truth is, if you can afford a flamboyant wedding, by all means, do it! This is because, weddings are memorable, and are expected to take place once in a life time.

There are three chapters in one's life:birth, marriage and death. If people celebrate births and funerals, then weddings shouldn't be less celebrated.

Nevertheless, if you can't afford a loud wedding, then opt for something small with few guests. But make it simple and classy, and don't be like the OP, cos serving his guests biscuits was in bad taste.

Being poor is one thing, planning right is another. @OP, you shouldn't have entertained your guests with biscuits,(cos I assume they were all adults). Instead, 2 mudus of rice served in take away packs could have done the magic. And if there was less money for malt, then you could have opted for zobo drinks which is cheaper and even more delicious than malt drinks.

The problem most Nigerians have when it comes to weddings is that, while they can afford to cater for only 50 guests, they end up inviting 500, just so they can have more contributions from them.

If your budget can only entertain 50 people, then plan for that number and don't end up inviting more numbers so you don't serve them biscuits just like the OP.

You missed something about the OP, which is visionary planning... how many girls will adopt this kind or go for a guy like the op?

Certainly not all these internet ones.

The woman in the OP's case is not your regular social media chic, but one from modest upbringing...

My advice
Take the OP's advice at your own risk...

Just sha observe that he did not get married and start to give birth ratatatatattaa

Marriage was just to seal the love.

Congrats

Amanee:
It's good that it worked out for you both

Truly he that finds a wife has found a good thing

Like Say If na You, You Go Gree..

Op, where are you actually from? this one you a roaming the north with my Rivers Sister..

But Bros things don dey expensive for this Bubu regime o

KosiGee:



You spent less than N30k on your wedding but instead of posting photos of the N13k clothes you and your wifey wore on that day, you uploaded photos of other people from the internet!

Are you being serious? You are encouraging and attempting to motivate other potential couples yet you have to steal wedding photos of foreigners to tell your story.

I feel like calling you fraud.

kai bro,so you believe dis story you surprise me a lot

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

please sir, if u have any job link, please help me with it, am tired of applying these online jobs, no connection, nothing nothing. I stay here in kano too

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

i tap into ur testimony

womenareapes:
fake story

Why not put your ugly wife and yourself picture?

This story is bullshit

Why you dey vex

And u are showing us pictures with nice wedding gown and suits..U should have posted the 13k suit to encourage the readers more haba!!!

jackyraw09:


Hope you know 5$ is 1,500 is around 4$ .. what sort of mindset is this �

Well, I'm just saying.

SecretSpy666:
I registered on this platform to tell my story and encourage other Nigerian youths who may have humble background like me, not to give up.

I did one of the craziest wedding in human history. I can’t stop laughing now as God has changed our story

COST OF THE WEDDING IN DETAIL:
Statutory marriage (court wedding) – took place in December, 2015

The court wedding was contracted at the marriage registry of Kano State, opposite Emir Sanusi’s palace, Kano municipal. Here are what I spent:
1) Wedding Certificate fee N8,000
2) Wedding ring N1,500
3) Clothes for the wedding for both of us (including sewing) N13, 600
4) Two crates of multina N5000
5) One carton of Digestive biscuit N600
6) Transport for both of us (kake napep) N200 (to and fro)

Total: N 28,900

No reception

Few invitees and no much celebrations


TRADITIONAL WEDDING:
I spent about 35,000 including clothes.

HOW IT STARTED

I was posted to Kano for my NYSC in 2014 August, Batch B. I fell in love with this beautiful lady and we had similar historical background. Before I completed my NYSC, I got admission to Bayero University for my master degree programme (march, 2015). I didn’t have what it takes for marriage and there was no help from anywhere. I really wanted to dump her and focus on my study but she never let me go.

She told me she want to go for master too, we hurriedly applied for her during the late application period, she was lucky she got admission to study community health. She took me to her parents who are based in Kaduna but are from Okrika in River state. Her parents are educated and gave me good advice and encourage us to get serious with our studies. The father told me to pay N5,000 as bride price and I spent about 30,000 for a very quiet traditional wedding.

In Kano, we live in a single room (self contain) opposite Bayero University gate, going to school together. I started a part time teaching with Al-Furkaan Science Academy with 18,000 salary and also work it for her to be teaching there too for 15,000 salary. The school management did not know that we are couple. Some teachers there were even trying to talk to her….
After our coursework, as if God was waiting for us to complete the coursework, boom!!! I was called by an agro allied company based in kano for interview. I applied online for the job. I got the job and we were both happy!!!

Three months later, my wife got a job with an NGO working in communities in Kano and Jigawa. Not long after, we moved to a two bedroom flat and got a car. We had a baby boy now and building a house in Otukpo, Benue state.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY……
Start little and God we increase it…
I was so ashamed then and the people laughing at us them are now coming to begg us for money and support.

Now my wife is saying we should do a flamboyant, expensive, and gorgeous church wedding and invite all the people we invited during the low-key court and traditional marriage...and invite all friends, foes and all the people laughing at us at that time....

My Dear in-law