We got married in 2018,we have an awesome baby boy.God blessed us. We have successful professional careers. We are very confortable. It started when we were dating. She hardly put out. I thought it was just because she was very religious. After we got married she finally opened up. She was assaulted when she was 10, now she finds sexual intercourse extremely painful. In fact the thought of sexual intercourse makes her sick.We sought Medical and Psychological treatment for her to no avail . In two years of marriage i have only succeeded thrice. Luckily God blessed us with our Son through C Section. She understands her duties as a wife and my needs as a man. As she can't fulfill them out of no fault of hers. She feels very guilty and tries to make it up to me. By encouraging me to get it elsewhere. The dream of every man right? Getting such a free pass.I thought so at first. I would go on a 'banging spree'. After all, it was a free pass. Until mid last year , i noticed she struggled to hold back tears each time i left the house.We got talking and she told me it kills her inside knowing i get to be with other women. She has been depressed since we got married. And she has been contemplating suicide as this is not the life she wanted. I love my wife and family so dearly. Ever since i got to know this , i feel very guilty hanging with other woman. We now try every other thing to get sexual satisfaction. Except intercourse. I can tell you, It is quite unfulfilling. Until last month, when i traveled. She packed Condoms in my traveling Bag. I saw it as another free pass. I tried hooking up with other women several times but couldn't get it up because, each time i was filled with so much guilt i ended up dressing up and leaving the place. With my wife am good to go anytime, but i cant do much with her. But with other women i lose interest as soon as i pick up a condom. We have such a complicated marriage.
Please any one with this kind of experience advice us on how to get through this because am now depressed too and i don't want to lose my wife.

You knew she was not into sex b4 u married her, wich definitely means u are OK wit her lyk dat.. For dos of u wu feel u can change sum1 once u get married to dem, u beta learn from dis

Fake story, I have seen this before.

Ummm

I don't know what you were hoping to get out of this thread - this is a matter between you and your wife

Why did she get married since she detest sex? One of the advantages of getting married is be banging freely and legally. If you can’t get that from your supposed wife, then you’re not married yet!!

genq:
I don't know what you were hoping to get out of this thread - this is a matter between you and your wife

It's a fake story.

The guy na upcoming blogger

Fake story
You think two years of therapy is enough to ease the trauma?

Why didnt she open up before marriage? She is deceptive.

Awwwwww...how romantic

brownsugardr:
We got married in 2018,we have an awesome baby boy.God blessed us. We have successful professional careers. We are very confortable. It started when we were dating. She hardly put out. I thought it was just because she was very religious. After we got married she finally opened up. She was assaulted when she was 10, now she finds sexual intercourse extremely painful. In fact the thought of sexual intercourse makes her sick.We sought Medical and Psychological treatment for her to no avail . In two years of marriage i have only succeeded thrice. Luckily God blessed us with our Son through C Section. She understands her duties as a wife and my needs as a man. As she can't fulfill them out of no fault of hers. She feels very guilty and tries to make it up to me. By encouraging me to get it elsewhere. The dream of every man right? Getting such a free pass.I thought so at first. I would go on a 'banging spree'. After all, it was a free pass. Until mid last year , i noticed she struggled to hold back tears each time i left the house.We got talking and she told me it kills her inside knowing i get to be with other women. She has been depressed since we got married. And she has been contemplating suicide as this is not the life she wanted. I love my wife and family so dearly. Ever since i got to know this , i feel very guilty hanging with other woman. We now try every other thing to get sexual satisfaction. Except intercourse. I can tell you, It is quite unfulfilling. Until last month, when i traveled. She packed Condoms in my traveling Bag. I saw it as another free pass. I tried hooking up with other women several times but couldn't get it up because, each time i was filled with so much guilt i ended up dressing up and leaving the place. With my wife am good to go anytime, but i cant do much with her. But with other women i lose interest as soon as i pick up a condom. We have such a complicated marriage.
Please any one with this kind of experience advice us on how to get through this because am now depressed too and i don't want to lose my wife.

By now she would have overcome that rape issue

Why is she still wallowing in it

Her matter tire me ohhh

The trauma is too much bro from what happened. Counselling can help but that thing is deep set. It will be v diff. No easy answers.