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Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Vyvyanvyvy: 10:44am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Sunnyb10:I am ready to do anything for my children even ready to loose my marriage for my son sake. I even regrets marrying him . A man who came with all those sweets words I love you and your children they are my children I will take care of them better than their deadbeat dad. Now he doesn’t want my son he is saying he should stay with my brother or go to his father family forgetting everything sweet he has said when we were courting 15 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Divay22(f): 10:45am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:Why not send him to a boarding school for now, while you keep talking to your husband. But make it a point of duty to go see him every visiting day, with enough words of encouragement and love. Who knows before holiday comes your husband mind might have settled towards him. Please don't fail that child most especially when you're still much alive and doing well. Save your child now that it hasn't gotten bad else he might end up becoming your worst nightmare. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:45am On Mar 13, 2020 |
letskeeptalking: As in! What some women go through to get and retain the Mrs title eh! It's so appalling. She doesn't know the hate she is creating in the heart of her son. It would have been better she did not birth him. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by decision01: 10:46am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Belafonte:I believe u are a woman...I pray you don't be like the woman's sister inlaw because i smell heartless & wicked woman here..zombie |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by DonMekino(m): 10:47am On Mar 13, 2020 |
ur husband knew u had them before marrying u? if yes, one thing with reality is that it will come to take it's place one day. ur brother provided the initial shelter now it's time to give the boy(12yrs) what children of that age require, a peaceful home. the biological dad, u didn't tell us the circumstances that made him leave u and the boy and absconded...that issue will come up one day when ur son is fully grown and these ppl here will start blaming u for not giving him access to his son..... back to the issue, plead more with your husband and then sit the boy down and advice him on how to behave well...this period is precarious before u ppl will lose this boy to juvenile deliquency....the street is very bad to a boy entering teenage years....I feel ur situation but I just wish ur husband will reconsider.... bringing up another person's child is not easy, he's already doing it for ur daughter. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Olatara(f): 10:47am On Mar 13, 2020 |
hakeemhakeem:She shouldn't yet. That boy needs mother's love to be able to curb those bad habits. If not he will be worst. He needs his father or a father figure. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by vivypreety(f): 10:47am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Richy4: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by nnamdiosu(m): 10:47am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Davash222: Deep wisdom 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by jaxxy(m): 10:47am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: A 12 year old boy needs care and direction. I feel sad he’s left on his own when he has parents. U can’t force ur husband cos he tried bt u can find a way to plead with him or strike a deal with him and he gives conditions on which the boy can stay be it temporary or permanent. Or atleast let the boy come for holidays and go back. Find an arrangement that works for everybody. Cheers. |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by OROSUNBOLB(m): 10:48am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: He doesn't have a father or what ? Your husband has made his position very clear; he doesn't want your boy in his house. Pls allow sleeping dog to lie down jejely. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by tiwiex(m): 10:48am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Oyindidi:What's she doing here if she is independent? So this is ur definition of independence? Have children here and there and still require another man to accept them? What happened to independence? She should have stated single and independent after the two kids. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Shancca: 10:48am On Mar 13, 2020 |
You shouldn’t have bothered us when you know you got those bills and the man is like a broken Congo record. Follow the first advice and allow that man some peace. Vyvyanvyvy: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by omoharry(f): 10:49am On Mar 13, 2020 |
SoNature:Well said. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by xyz123456: 10:49am On Mar 13, 2020 |
LadySarah:Men, you see your life.... Some of us are mumu. Real mumu. You see the thinking of most women, it's their children first. Not husband. And some men will be taking their wife as first abandoning friends & family. Some Men are real mumu. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Divay22(f): 10:49am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Nooil:Exactly 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by drnoel: 10:49am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: It's a difficult one and ur hubby is not mandated to allow the boy stay with u people. Problem there is that the boy may become a torn in both Ur fleshes in the future if his excesses Vis not controlled. How old is the boy? Can he still be put right with love and good home training. Am sorry but u are at the mercy of Ur husband on this one. He has to agree to the responsibility and u have to attempt not fighting but begging him to see reason. Cheers 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by decision01: 10:50am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:God will never forsake u..Nothing should ever come in between your kids & u. 7 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by nini007(m): 10:50am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Where I have the problem is when you started saying you foot 70% of the bill at home. Women are all the same. I just wish I can hear from the man. I will never believe stories like this. I wish the man can read what you have posted here as well. I hope you will listen to those who said you should take your children and live with them separately. As some people cannot think properly! You better beg the man well. He's not responsible for all the problems on ground. Just beg him ooo 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by ElSherriff: 10:50am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Hello Vivian, Do not let anything anyone here say drag you into self pity. You have two kids for someone you thought was sane and he failed you. You are not a failure in anyway. You just have a difficult period. You can tarry a while. Let your husband calm down. Make him understand that depending on the love and affection he shows to a child, he may well end up having a son he doesnt have yet because the boy will grow to love and cherish him as a father. It is a win win thing. we have had instances where biological children failed us and adopted kids exalted us. Take it easy on him for now and appeal to his senses and not emotion. and whenever you can, visit your boy, counsel him, love him, never scold him for stealing, care for him even with the distance and learn to teach him the ways of God. He will come good. Peace Vyvyanvyvy: 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:50am On Mar 13, 2020 |
So many juveniles on this nairaland churning out bitterness in its purest form. Is it not amazing that a woman who contributes 70% of the house income is subjected to such heartwrenching situation? Madam, please bring your son closer to you. Between husband and children, no man on earth will love you as much as your children. And if you abandon that boy, posterity will judge you. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by drmikeadams(m): 10:51am On Mar 13, 2020 |
she needs to get a house for d boy,,then the boy needs a father figure |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by mystery22: 10:51am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Godsfavour78:olosho game aka having children for different men "game" 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:51am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: It is well sha |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by AFONAMARO: 10:52am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Oyindidi: It's obvious you are a kid, and yet to get married. So you mean the husband should shoulder another man's responsibilities when the man is still alive all in the name of marriage? Do you know if he has the means? More importantly, for the wife to agree that her own siblings rejected their nephew is a sign that the boy is not a good example to kids. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Chamber2000: 10:52am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:This is the balance you will do. Tell your brother to allow him to sleep in his house but during the day he should be in your shop where he can help you out and also get the mother care he needs |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Goldmhide: 10:52am On Mar 13, 2020 |
are you second mary don't ur only son gt his own father? |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by TellBlazer(m): 10:52am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:You made a mistake by agreeing to marry your second husband without moving in with your children no matter how many they are.Marriage is a life long union and you children are you.A man that cannot accommodate you and your children does not love you and will kick you out when his gotten enough... Summary,go rent a house, bring your children together, love them,teach them,help them.Don't put that innocent boy through pains and misery. You can always get sexual satisfaction any time. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by gabicon: 10:53am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: I sympathize with you on your plight, the truth is that you didn't make any concrete plans for your children before you got married. What your husband is doing is called bait and switch, he knew the only way to get you was to agree to taking your kids even if he doesn't want them, now he has you, he can now switch to his natural inclination. Secondly, every man knows how difficult it is to raise boys, not to talk of a teenager that the man has no history with, now a maltreated teenager who assumes the whole world is against him, I can tell you for free that they will clash with each other which could end badly and put a strain on your relationship with your spouse. No man wants anything or one that will trample on his authority. You fell in love but never considered the implications of integrating a blended family together, better put you had no concrete plans on how this would work, your plans were based on assumption. I will suggest you get professional help, go see a councillor who have experience in dealing with these kind of family crisis, I will recommend Mr Praise Fowowe. Add him as a friend on Facebook and see if you can get an appointment. I will also suggest you don't get extended family on the matter yet, a councillor will guide you on how to navigate them in the process. P.S don't go about telling people you fund your family 70%, men have ego as thing as a thread, you need your husband to embrace your son, that's the goal do not create another problem that will take your attention away from the goal. Also make the necessary plan for the rehabilitation of your son, he has gone through a lot and will need professional help too. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Shegzy8(m): 10:53am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:Stop been myopic!! if he accepted the boy and left the girl, people like you will say he is misogynistic. Leaving one for the other is wrong. Stop making all decisions look shady. Reasons like this are why men don't tangle with single mom, little issues get overbloated and underlying detectives starts suspecting him for every action or steps he takes towards the kids. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by decision01: 10:53am On Mar 13, 2020 |
xyz123456:Are u a father? I know u are not.. I am one and no human being nor gods can travel close to me & mine baby girlie.. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by Nobody: 10:53am On Mar 13, 2020 |
ElSherriff: See this one, did she tell u that her name is Vivian.. Nigerian and assumption sha |
Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by FMCASH(m): 10:53am On Mar 13, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy:taking him to boarding school and take him to learn a skill during the holiday. |
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