My brother in-law staying in my house over 5years now but he will never wash his toilet and my husband feels its OK that I should kn that it is my house and that when he leaves I will still do it afterall and am not happy about it. If he was staying in his apartment as a bachelor will he not wash his toilet himself.

And you've waited now to complain?

My friend close this thread. first it's not on right section... secondly its a family issue which suppose settle amicably within you and him.

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johnmartus:
My friend close this thread. first it's not on right section... secondly its a family issue which suppose settle amicably within you and him.

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Flushing another man's shit Why not call him to do it himself?

Olunmercy56:
Flushing another man's shit Why not call him to do it himself?

this corona sit at home don make u not to understand wetin the op write? Where she talk/write about flushing of shit?

Some husbands can really have a horrible attitude. What is difficult in calling the young man to order?

Just keep talking to him sha. Don't make serious trouble out of it.

Passionate888:
this corona sit at home don make u not to understand wetin the op write? Where she talk/write about flushing of shit?

What is the different?

My dear give him a serious warning if he refuse to change order him out of ur house,

Hmmmm...how about you don't wash it anymore. If he wants to continue to use it like that, so be it! Sebi the toilet is ensuit his room ba? Just ex it...if he turns it black after several more years of unwash, you will just get it professionally washed or changed after he leaves.

He should wash his own toilet unless you have a maid that cleans the whole house. You are not his maid!

By the way, who cleans his room?

Ilola:
My brother in-law staying in my house over 5years now but he will never wash his toilet and my husband feels its OK that I should kn that it is my house and that when he leaves I will still do it afterall and am not happy about it. If he was staying in his apartment as a bachelor will he not wash his toilet himself.

All these new accounts sef.
Thank you for entertaining me tonight.
As a wife, and a woman, people around you, including your husband will use your fear against you, your fear of losing your marriage, you will work your hands to the bone, you will cook, clean, wash, scrub, bear as many babies as he wants, simp to his family and friends, all for the acceptance you should have given yourself. tsk tsk.

Ilola:
My brother in-law staying in my house over 5years now but he will never wash his toilet and my husband feels its OK that I should kn that it is my house and that when he leaves I will still do it afterall and am not happy about it. If he was staying in his apartment as a bachelor will he not wash his toilet himself.

PLEASE, I am not trying to approve of or justify what the young man is doing, I am totally against such. However, I am yet to see a married Lady complain about her own relatives whenever they visit her matrimonial home.

It's always Married Ladies complaining about their mother in Laws, brother in Laws, sister in Laws.

Yet this Lady's Relatives visit and become permanent residents in her own matrimonial home, chase the man of the house away.....

Why..? and it's getting too much.
MEN are now scared.

This topic got me confused initially

Don't wash it anymore. The worst is you change it when he leaves and should it become messy and it starts to stench, take a vacation to see your peoplr for some days and let your husband understand what he is encouraging.

APOPTOSIS:

PLEASE, I am not trying to approve of or justify what the young man is doing, I am totally against such. However, I am yet to see a married Lady complain about her own relatives whenever they visit her matrimonial home.

It's always Married Ladies complaining about their mother in Laws, brother in Laws, sister in Laws.

Yet this Lady's Relatives visit and become permanent residents in her own matrimonial home, chase the man of the house away.....

Why..? and it's getting too much.
MEN are now scared.

She wouldn't complain about her relatives because she knows how to handle them. If the reverse was the case and her brother was refusing to wash his toilet, so you think she would just go over and keep washing it even though it doesn't make her comfortable?

Heck NO. She'd call him to order.

But with in-laws the issue becomes more delicate.

That's why she'd look to her spouse to make the necessary moves. But most often guys tend to ignore or just overlook such behaviors.

That is not okay. That is nasty.

Your husband is an enabler. Something both of you should be chastising him for.

johnmartus:
[s]My friend close this thread. first it's not on right section... secondly its a family issue which suppose settle amicably within you and him.[/s]

What section should it be in? Politics?

APOPTOSIS:

PLEASE, I am not trying to approve of or justify what the young man is doing, I am totally against such. However, I am yet to see a married Lady complain about her own relatives whenever they visit her matrimonial home.

It's always Married Ladies complaining about their mother in Laws, brother in Laws, sister in Laws.

Yet this Lady's Relatives visit and become permanent residents in her own matrimonial home, chase the man of the house away.....

Why..? and it's getting too much.
MEN are now scared.

Why should she complain about her relative she have all the right to shout and discipline without consulting her husband, i have two brothers with me,dem no born them leave their toilet dirty....its only the husband family that act as if they are untouchable anyway not for me because i will knack craze commot from the person head.

Stop washing the toilet na, or is it a shared one that you all use?

Poster dont complain to your husband anymore or you become a nag,wait till your husband has gone out so there wont be a witness to your craze then confront the dirty pig,threatened him that you will do the unthinkable if he doesnt change and leave it at that,when your husband comes back dont tell him about the confrontation let the dirty pig tell him.i cant imagine him telling his brother that you confronted him about his inability to wash his toilet.very disgraceful.

Stop washing the toilet for him.

Ilola:
My brother in-law staying in my house over 5years now but he will never wash his toilet and my husband feels its OK that I should kn that it is my house and that when he leaves I will still do it afterall and am not happy about it. If he was staying in his apartment as a bachelor will he not wash his toilet himself.

As in the toilet is inside his room? Don't wash it if so, but if it's a general toilet then continue as your husband said. But if I where the one I will be helping out. Maybe that's why everybody likes Depriest2020

APOPTOSIS:

PLEASE, I am not trying to approve of or justify what the young man is doing, I am totally against such. However, I am yet to see a married Lady complain about her own relatives whenever they visit her matrimonial home.

It's always Married Ladies complaining about their mother in Laws, brother in Laws, sister in Laws.

Yet this Lady's Relatives visit and become permanent residents in her own matrimonial home, chase the man of the house away.....

Why..? and it's getting too much.
MEN are now scared.

If my sis comes to my house and misbehave, I will tell her immediately how I feel and what is expected of her. This is the person I have known all my life so talking to her won't be a problem.

APOPTOSIS:

PLEASE, I am not trying to approve of or justify what the young man is doing, I am totally against such. However, I am yet to see a married Lady complain about her own relatives whenever they visit her matrimonial home.

It's always Married Ladies complaining about their mother in Laws, brother in Laws, sister in Laws.

Yet this Lady's Relatives visit and become permanent residents in her own matrimonial home, chase the man of the house away.....

Why..? and it's getting too much.
MEN are now scared.

This is because when they are offensive, it is easy to call them to order without fear of disrespecting them or the rest of the family.


If it were her brother, she will simply tell him to wash his darn toilet and wash hers join as punishment ni

Ilola:
My brother in-law staying in my house over 5years now but he will never wash his toilet and my husband feels its OK that I should kn that it is my house and that when he leaves I will still do it afterall and am not happy about it. If he was staying in his apartment as a bachelor will he not wash his toilet himself.

You know what, just buy the small size of harpic and give to him to be washing his toilet and remind him to replace it when it finishes

Start from there pls

As you wake up to prepare breakfast, call him " Emy bobo ! There's harpic behind the door, use it to wash the toilet while I prepare breakfast.

Ilola:
My brother in-law staying in my house over 5years now but he will never wash his toilet and my husband feels its OK that I should kn that it is my house and that when he leaves I will still do it afterall and am not happy about it. If he was staying in his apartment as a bachelor will he not wash his toilet himself.

Simply ignore... Let him deal with the filth afterall its his toilet.

doublegoldcrown:

All these new accounts sef.
Thank you for entertaining me tonight.
As a wife, and a woman, people around you, including your husband will use your fear against you, your fear of losing your marriage, you will work your hands to the bone, you will cook, clean, wash, scrub, bear as many babies as he wants, simp to his family and friends, all for the acceptance you should have given yourself. tsk tsk.

Get outta my head!!!!
You put it way better than I would've!
I was gonna go full ballistic on her....

APOPTOSIS:

PLEASE, I am not trying to approve of or justify what the young man is doing, I am totally against such. However, I am yet to see a married Lady complain about her own relatives whenever they visit her matrimonial home.

It's always Married Ladies complaining about their mother in Laws, brother in Laws, sister in Laws.

Yet this Lady's Relatives visit and become permanent residents in her own matrimonial home, chase the man of the house away.....

Why..? and it's getting too much.
MEN are now scared.

That's so untrue. She would have scolded her brother from day 1. But has to be careful with a brother inlaw before it is seen as disrespect. You know the way they might put the wife under scrutiny.

Please you have no business washing your brother inlaw's toilet. Do you dress his bed and sweep his room too? I bet he doesn't wash his plate or even clear it from the table.

Don't complain to your husband or brother. Simply and silently make some changes. Stop cleaning his room/toilet. If he cannot clean the toilet he uses, then he should leave it like that.

The fact that you married the family doesn't mean, your BIL has the same privileges you give your husband.

This same thing happened to someone I know. The lady lives with her mother in law but doesn't wash toilet. The mother in law locked it up and now the lady and her kids defacate outdoors. It's an extreme measure but I wanted you to see that if it was you not washing the toilet but living with your in laws, they will lock it up.

Mizwisdom:
This same thing happened to someone I know. The lady lives with her mother in law but doesn't wash toilet. The mother in law locked it up and now the lady and her kids defacate outdoors. It's an extreme measure but I wanted you to see that if it was you not washing the toilet but living with your in laws, they will lock it up.

People will hardly bat an eyelid if it is done to the wife. But you can imagine if the OP(wife) does that to her inlaws...her husband's family, that one will be an abomination, reproach, insult, disrespect...in their brother's house??

They will call family meeting and ask her why she cannot wash the toilet her husband's brother uses. This is Nigeria where many believe a wife is the household unofficial slave.