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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Sonnobax15(m): 6:52pm On May 22, 2020
undecided Dis na pure olosho na....highway ashawo 4 dat matter...a typical lover and respecter of all d regions in nigeria..NE,NW,SS,SE,MB

*spits*

i'd rather have a mad woman as a sister than have a public toilet like u op as a sister.

i spit again....

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by SoNature(m): 6:52pm On May 22, 2020
Millenniumlady:
This is deep but i think those men played you for having kids for them try to get custody of the kids so you can start earning from child support.

Nobody played her

Didn't you read the part that says she tested positive for banned substances?

Why would the government leave kids in the care of a woman who is a habitual drug peddler?

Just like a poster once said, she has to forget about her past and move on.

She has wronged a lot of people

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by IME1: 6:53pm On May 22, 2020
shocked
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 6:54pm On May 22, 2020
ur uncle is not ur problem, his curse did nothing harm to you, you are your problem since u have known it and it has been solve by not going back to ur old life. u re free, stop begging ur uncle it is God u need to beg since u have done that..... lobatan.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Strawberryginge(f): 6:54pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
Ask God for mercy pray and focus on your children at hand. And remember once God has forgiven you you are set free from any guilt as for your family continue begging the for sincere forgiveness. Jesus loves you more than anything he is specially fond of you.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by loadedvibes: 6:54pm On May 22, 2020
Chai you need to show responsibility first

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by mysweetsunshine: 6:54pm On May 22, 2020
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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by promiseland245(m): 6:54pm On May 22, 2020
You have gone through a lot. Try and watch the Movie called OVERCOMER. As you do so, a word would be dropped in your heart.
God loves you

The trailer of the Movie:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGyieGVn4P4

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Ishilove: 6:54pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:


I have a lawyer and he is fighting my case trying everything possible to convince the judge that I am a changed person if I could have a second chance with my 2 youngest , but the court refused they think I am an unfit mother and only allowed me supervise contact with my children once a year which is a big step I am very grateful because before I had no contact with them. I believe with God grace one day I will get custody of my 2 youngest. Thank you
Well then, you must remain hopeful. The bitter truth is for every action, there is a reaction. Yes, you have changed and you're now living right but the consequences of your past life will not just go away. The good thing is this time, God is by your side leading you up the straight and narrow. He will also grant you grace to face the challenges

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 6:55pm On May 22, 2020
I am sending you big hugs, life can be unfair. I hope some true Christian nairalanders can offer you good christian advice.

One thing I will say is that you admitting your wrongs is the IST step to healing. Give your family time, they will come to forgive you one day. Till then work on yourself and try to be the best version of yourself.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 6:55pm On May 22, 2020
aeion:
Dis à Dieu que tu as personnellement péché contre lui en actes, en pensées, et en paroles. Le pardon est une relation avec Dieu; par la prière, nous pouvons également amener les autres à pardonner.

Divine89, Oya reply

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by promiseland245(m): 6:55pm On May 22, 2020
You have lost something dear and it's called Sensitivity. I pray you find it someday.
mysweetsunshine:
Why don't you leave those children alone and focus on your life? Haven't you put them in pains already?
Please let them be so that they can feel the warmth of love from those who can give unbroken love...please stay away from them..

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Uyi168: 6:55pm On May 22, 2020
God... cry
Nairaland Want to finish us with fake stories... embarassed
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 6:56pm On May 22, 2020
You can start again before it gets too late forget those who have refused to forgive you the thing is have you forgiven yourself, get medical help if possible to find out the reasons why you were a drug addict and also seek therapy, then because that church behaved badly doesn't mean every church will behave badly find a good church probably a Catholic church their confession wouldn't have gone that way, then get a career an idle mind is the devil's workshop and also find a relationship and get a husband I Know it's hard but should be possible try and have two kids with him, all this have to be done as soon as possible as there is no time on your side from your age, failure is not an option

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 6:56pm On May 22, 2020
GeneralPula:
Audio France
Audio 6kids

Nah them, if you know you know!

lipsrsealed

my guy I reason am too. may be Na all dis ashewo gals we dey run from there mama dey huzzling for lag.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by PappiG(m): 6:56pm On May 22, 2020
Woman , he who has no sin , let him be the first to cast a stone. Nothing judgemental here , you just need forgive yourself first and work more on yourself, let the kids be wherever there are in good care for now, but you can still monitor their activities so you don't get lost in their growth. In all just give yourself time to heal, you need self healing since you recognize the hurt you have done and at this period I don't think you have one good degree or the other if am not wrong , get yourself through trades or diploma that could make you stand on your own with good earnings, with that you can support yourself and also the kids with the little you got wherever they are.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by pompeiimagnus: 6:56pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:


I have a lawyer and he is fighting my case trying everything possible to convince the judge that I am a changed person if I could have a second chance with my 2 youngest , but the court refused they think I am an unfit mother and only allowed me supervise contact with my children once a year which is a big step I am very grateful because before I had no contact with them. I believe with God grace one day I will get custody of my 2 youngest. Thank you

That's the best deal for you and your kids right now. Supervised visits. Your kids need a stable home which you have not shown that you can provide. So, put your affairs in order for the next 5 years and hope for the best.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by jahbiz: 6:57pm On May 22, 2020
If only this isn't a make up story, you must have really hurt your uncle and made him look like a joke by the wife.

Jus keep begging him, one day he will forgive you
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Nobody: 6:58pm On May 22, 2020
You have Beaten the SAMARIAN RECORD.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by NaijadrivaCars: 6:58pm On May 22, 2020
When I read "you live in France" and a Nigerian tongue
slawormir
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Uniquekriss(m): 6:58pm On May 22, 2020
There is hardly anybody on earth without sin, I'm not sure u killed any body among d many sins u enumerated so come out of your shadows, u can still be what God wants u to be, its important u have turned a new leaf and u recognize that theres a place of repentance. Quitting going 2church cos of what someone did isnt the best idea now. U can go to another bible believing church and serve God faithfully, u can also read books and seek counsel from reputable counsellors. I have many books and counsellors i can recommend, i bet u, ur life would take a new turn, u can be happy again. Message this number +2348038635825 or Whatsapp so they can contact u for some useful tips. God bless u

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by TotoNaRubber: 6:58pm On May 22, 2020
What an advice
She is only allowed to see one of the children once a year, to think of it. Child support is not an entitlement to a woman, it is awarded by the court if the other parent or father is not participating in the life and upbringing of his child.
Child support in developed countries depends on income, the more you earn the more you pay. You earn nothing, you pay nothing.


Millenniumlady:
This is deep but i think those men played you for having kids for them try to get custody of the kids so you can start earning from child support.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by xpressionx(m): 6:58pm On May 22, 2020
Thank God you have stopped doing drugs and living a wayward lifestyle.
I advice you start going to church because you can draw greater strength from the body of Christ.
You are still young,u can get married if you wish.
When your family see the genuine change in you,I am sure they will accept you back.
I advice you reach out to Dunamis international gospel centre,they are experts in rehab in a Christian way.
God bless you.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Ishilove: 6:58pm On May 22, 2020
Decryptor:


I once said and keep on saying it that 98% of the claims ladies and women make about them being sexually abused as children or teens is nothing but LIES TO GAIN SYMPATHY AND SEEK FOR UNDUE ATTENTION!

I was once accused by my late mother's caregiver of raping her because i refused to fall to her acts of seduction on me.

I went outside under the full glare of the moon stark naked and cursed her.

Months later, her 3 year old daughter was fatally abused by a boy of 16 and was admitted in the hospital for severe complications from VVF a year later, her 9 year old son died of a strange ailment and now, i heard she is on ARVs as a result of being positive for HIV.

Guys, if any daughter of Eve accuses you of anything you didn't do, curse her naked. That stuff is potent!
Wow...
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Renida: 6:59pm On May 22, 2020
This is heavy o
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by MyCelebRichList: 6:59pm On May 22, 2020
Inside life
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by raphok1(m): 6:59pm On May 22, 2020
You see young people misbehaving in the euphoria of youthful exuberance, you warn them, and they feel you're wicked and want to deny them of pleasure. They all end up becoming useless and full of regrets. The most annoying thing is that they read stories like this and still don't learn.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by frog12: 6:59pm On May 22, 2020
you are born again? hypocrites, after you do terrible things then they say they are christians. George Bush was a born again christian. he ordered invasion and death of many people. born again ko, born today ni. your story is very tough! the more deeper you enter the dragon's den, the difficult it is to come out. maybe you have to continue living your life as it is.



Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by agabaI23(m): 6:59pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
Your repentance is genuine. You will get all your family back. In the mean time. You can talk to me when you want if it is ok with you. I sent you a message.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Leridoo14(m): 6:59pm On May 22, 2020
Only God can forgive, what you did to your uncle is very bad but at the same time you need his forgiveness, and if he insists he won't forgive you then forget him he's not God, only God can forgive not human being, move on with your life and pray daily for � forgiveness and pray to God your children should recognize you when they grow up that's all, nothing is impossible and only God knows positive and the negatives so move on with your life that's all I can say there's nothing new under the sun �� your own story is still better if you hear another persons story you will cry for them, so live you life and pray for forgiveness.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by atoleybaba(m): 6:59pm On May 22, 2020
aeion:
Dis à Dieu que tu as personnellement péché contre lui en actes, en pensées, et en paroles. Le pardon est une relation avec Dieu; par la prière, nous pouvons également amener les autres à pardonner.
oga speak in English...must you show yourself? The French speaking lady took effort to even use Google translate so she can communicate. U came here to show u Sabi french. Oversabi human being

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