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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by sonnie10: 7:00pm On May 22, 2020
Millenniumlady:
This is deep but i think those men played you for having kids for them try to get custody of the kids so you can start earning from child support.

where is the sense in what you just wrote? Can't see were she said they were all given out for adoption? The men you are talking about, do they even have custody of the children? Did they even know that those babies were going to test positive at birth? If I may ask you, what is the men's motivation for your comment?

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by iamclime(m): 7:00pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
I'll send you a pm. Please reply once you see it. We take it from there. There's still plenty of hope if you really want to make a change. Best wishes.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Eddygourdo(m): 7:00pm On May 22, 2020
sisisioge:
Lobatan!

I hereby pray for you as a Christian that you at least receive forgiveness from those you've hurt as they continue to sensibly socially distance themselves from you.

As for your two youngest kids, may they find good homes for them soon.

As for yourself.... May God have mercy on you. W
A very honest and practical advise. Madam France listen to this and leave those people whose lives God saved from you alone.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by shineeye1: 7:00pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.


Have you ever heard the saying: the evil that men do, live with(and after) them! God would be unrighteous if that is otherwise! All glory be to God that you are now rightly reaping the evil harvest of your own evil sowing. You need to glorify God for His Justice!
IT IS A FEARFUL THING TO FALL INTO THE HANDS OF THE LIVING GOD.
Now, judgment is not the end to any remorseful and penitent repentant sinner. Mercy may be available, if and only if, it is soberly sought! Labour to convince the heavens of the genuineness of your repentance. There is still chance of God's refreshing.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Slymonster(m): 7:00pm On May 22, 2020
6 children from 6 different men. Mehn even future the American will hail you on this lol
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by richlv1995(m): 7:00pm On May 22, 2020
Nawao! This one be as e get o.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Uniquekriss(m): 7:01pm On May 22, 2020
Carloslehder:

You deserve way worse than what you're currently facing, I hope things get a lot worse for you from now on,CAIO
don't be mean mean. Plz be nice a bit
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by nextdoor84(m): 7:01pm On May 22, 2020
Millenniumlady:
Go let them know you're a change person so you can get you children back......Child support is not something to joke about you can build/buy a house from the check you'll be receiving from their dad's annually

Lols! You think France is one shit hole of a country? The best you can do is to migrate to other European countries or Canada and start a new life (this I even doubt is possible cos your records would show that you were an ex convict with drug problems). As a citizen of France you can migrate to some good countries even without a Visa. Go there and sin no more! When your people see that you've genuinely changed they will surely come around. Good luck

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by incogni2o: 7:01pm On May 22, 2020
moved my post to page 2

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by geswith: 7:02pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
Believe in the Lord Jesus Christ with All of Your Heart. Continue to Pray and Trust in Him. it will be Well with You.
you can send me a mail via martiallaw333@gmail.com ,lets Talk.
Shalom
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by cocolacec(m): 7:02pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.

If your story is true and you have truly repentened from your old ways.Try to relocate to another country like the UK or Ireland and start a new life and family there.You can also change your name in your new country to avoid french social service tracking you to your new country.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Carloslehder: 7:03pm On May 22, 2020
Uniquekriss:
don't be mean mean. Plz be nice a bit
You mean I should censor the truth to make her comfortable, my only regret is that she still has some access to her kids,she does not deserve that.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by giles14(m): 7:03pm On May 22, 2020
Righteousness89:
Deep... really Deep.

My Sister, My Bible tells me that " For all have sinned and Come Short of the Glory of GOD"

If there is sin, there is also Mercy!

Praise GOD You are still alive because it's only the Living that can obtain Mercy. Irrespective of all You have done and those who have looked down on you and Disowned you due to your dirty past, There is a Loving FATHER who is Available to Receive you , Purge you ,Clean you up and Make you the most adorable.

HIS Name is JESUS CHRIST..

Man can fail you
Pastor can fail you
Parents can Disown and Fail u
Uncle and aunties can fail u
Your Twin can Fail and Disappoint you
I can Fail and Disappoint you

Only JESUS will never Fail, disown ot Disappoint you. HIs hands are Wide open to Receive and Forgive you.

My Admonishment to you is this;
Put All the Challenges , Events and Troubles away.

Take your Focus to JESUS CHRIST.
Follow HIM with all of your Spirit, Soul and Body.

Let HIS Word be your food.. Let HIM be your FATHER, Mother and Partner. Let HIM be your Pirioty



You will suddenly notice that all the Burdens will be lifted off your shoulders .

I Believe you have a job or some means of income.


Search for a Bible Believing place of Worship or GENUIE Believers of like minds. Don't Focus on the Pastor! Focus on GOD..


As for your kids, Uncle, Aunty , Parents and all who have Abadoned you.. The Master who has The Heart of Everyone in His Hands, He will Restore all of them to you in due Season

Leave all those Worries and Face JESUS CHRIST The Prince of Peace.. Walk with HIM with all your Heart. Love Him with all your Heart


I Pray For you that as you seek GOD ALMIGHTY, you will find HIM.
I Pray For you that as you turn to GOD as your Focus , the Peace that passes all Understanding will envelope you
I Pray For you that as you Completely Surrender to JESUS CHRIST, you will smile again and Everything that you have lost will be Restored to you IN THE NAME OF JESUS.. AMEN


I see you being a Great light of JOY Soonest


no sinner shall go unpunished

forgiveness is for sure but you must pay for your sins
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by paulshedrach31(m): 7:03pm On May 22, 2020
It is well with you.

Its so unfortunate that things turned out like this. To err actually is human, but to forgive is divine.

I will not focus my attention on blaming you again, since you showed penitence.

On the part of the pastor that revealed what you confided in him with, he did wrong if I must say. And his wife on the other hand demonstrated weaknesses, which resulted to you leaving the church.

What I will therefore advice is this; you will still need to press further with your plea for forgiveness. This time, I will encourage you go to another pastor and relate everything to him, because not everyone is the same.
You will also request that, himself joining you in the company of others join you to your uncle's place, to see if he will grant audience and forgive you.
I strongly believe this approach will work.

And for your children, I also believe that when the authorities in charge see the fruit of a changed life, they will grant you assess or maybe custody.

There is no curse too great that cannot be forgiven or lifted.
I pray and hope this works.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Onliie(m): 7:03pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

But when I turned 12, I went to secondary school. I met some bad friends there. This is where the problem started.I became a very difficult child. I will go to school come home late. My uncle will beat and beat me but I never listened. I smoked my first cigarette at 12 and had my first sex at 13 and I started running away from home to stay with boyfriends. Sometimes I can go for a week and when uncle reporta me missing, the police will be looking for me, then they will bring me back home.

Then at 14 I went to school and lied to my teacher that my uncle was abusing me. I told them he was beating me with belts, electric wire, they don’t give me foods and I really said a lot of bad things about them doing to me to make my teacher believe my story so they could take me away from them because I wanted freedom and my teacher believed me and reported to the police and child protection, they are people who take away abused children from their parents. They took custody of me and my uncle three children, the youngest was 6 months old to their care and they gave us to this white lady to care for us and my uncle and wife were arrested for child abuse and the police were doing some investigation.

After spending 1yr 9 months in care of the white lady I dropped out school. They found out that I was a difficult child that I lied to get freedom so they have decided to give my uncle his children back to him while I stayed in care of white people but my uncle had sworn because I made him lost his children for 1yr 9 months that I will never found happiness in my life and I will never enjoy the fruit of my labour which it is true as I am typing this.

I have given birth to 6 children by 6 men and none of the children is living with me. The first one was taken away from me at 2 months old because I beat her up and fractured her hands and I also tested positive for heroinn (drugs), so that did not stop me from giving birth second child was removed from my care 4 hours after birth she also tested positive for heroin the same way my other children were removed at birth too so I carry on with my lifestyles. I did not care about my children at that time all I care about was sex, alcohol and drugs this is what I wanted and I have been to prison several times for selling drugs and fraudsters. The longest I have spent in prison was 2 years then after i left prison, I met with this sister who introduced me to this church she attended so I went along with her, the pastor told me to confess my sin to him and promised it will be a secret between I, him and God which I did repented and accepted Jesus as my saviour. To be honest, my life did changed a lot, I fell the peace in my heart , enjoyed going to church every Sunday but this pastor went tell his wife my life story and the wife told everyone in church my life story and started using it against me so it made me so angry that I left the church in November 2017 without looking back. I have decided not to attend any church again. I have stopped alcohol, taking drugs and sleeping with men I no longer do it. I prayed at home, read my bible and behaving good and it's almost 2 years I havnt slept with a man and i went to look for my uncle asking him for forgiveness but he has refused and I send him many text messages begging him to forgive and I still no heard anything from him or the wife even their children I have tried to ask them forgiveness they have blocked me and they all want nothing to do with me even my own parents and siblings in Africa they have rejected me, none of them want to talk to me, my parents said i am dead to them, it is so painful I cry everyday in my prayers, as for my children 4 of them are adopted with new family. I can't see them again maybe until they are 18 years old If they want to know me if they don't want I will have no choice to accept it and my 2 youngest children i am only allowed to see them once a year in a children play centre with someone supervise because they don't let me to be alone with them and soon I will stop visiting them because they are planning to adopt them to a new family too that will mean I will have nobody on this earth.

I regret my mistake so bad I wish I could change it but it will no be impossible. I can't have more children because they will be removed from me like the others and I am only 31years old. I don't know if my repentance was genius because my family has refused to forgive me and my question goes like this if they never forgive me will I ever found happiness again or I will just have to accept it until I died?

Please, advise me in a Christian way maybe if there's more I can do and also prayed for me so my family will be able to forgive me and also pray for my two children that nobody will adopt them so I can get custody of them and i promised to be a good mother to them, please I am begging you in the name of God.
Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord : though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool. If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land.

If any man be in Christ, old things have passed away, all things have become new. What you need is to come to Christ. Christ has redeemed is from the curse of the law being made curse for us..... Go to God in prayer, tell him to soften your uncle's heart.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by dannex4adx(m): 7:04pm On May 22, 2020
since you have asked God for forgiveness that's fine. pray to God for to show you the way forward. Don't be discouraged about joining a good Church of God. pray to God to show you which Church to join too.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by hhmmcj: 7:04pm On May 22, 2020
Righteousness89:
Deep... really Deep.

My Sister, My Bible tells me that " For all have sinned and Come Short of the Glory of GOD"

If there is sin, there is also Mercy!

Praise GOD You are still alive because it's only the Living that can obtain Mercy. Irrespective of all You have done and those who have looked down on you and Disowned you due to your dirty past, There is a Loving FATHER who is Available to Receive you , Purge you ,Clean you up and Make you the most adorable.

HIS Name is JESUS CHRIST..

Man can fail you
Pastor can fail you
Parents can Disown and Fail u
Uncle and aunties can fail u
Your Twin can Fail and Disappoint you
I can Fail and Disappoint you

Only JESUS will never Fail, disown ot Disappoint you. HIs hands are Wide open to Receive and Forgive you.

My Admonishment to you is this;
Put All the Challenges , Events and Troubles away.

Take your Focus to JESUS CHRIST.
Follow HIM with all of your Spirit, Soul and Body.

Let HIS Word be your food.. Let HIM be your FATHER, Mother and Partner. Let HIM be your Pirioty



You will suddenly notice that all the Burdens will be lifted off your shoulders .

I Believe you have a job or some means of income.


Search for a Bible Believing place of Worship or GENUIE Believers of like minds. Don't Focus on the Pastor! Focus on GOD..


As for your kids, Uncle, Aunty , Parents and all who have Abadoned you.. The Master who has The Heart of Everyone in His Hands, He will Restore all of them to you in due Season

Leave all those Worries and Face JESUS CHRIST The Prince of Peace.. Walk with HIM with all your Heart. Love Him with all your Heart


I Pray For you that as you seek GOD ALMIGHTY, you will find HIM.
I Pray For you that as you turn to GOD as your Focus , the Peace that passes all Understanding will envelope you
I Pray For you that as you Completely Surrender to JESUS CHRIST, you will smile again and Everything that you have lost will be Restored to you IN THE NAME OF JESUS.. AMEN


I see you being a Great light of JOY Soonest



End all this rubbish and stop giving someone false hope all in the name of the Jesus and all these nonsense. This lady did some horrendous and evil things to alot of people and there is something called "KARMA" & she's paying for all the bad things she made some good people suffer because of her selfishness & wickedness.
Tell her to forge ahead with what her life is worth and move on from here. There's no going back to the past. You religious fanatics are one of the real problems of this generation especially to the poor and the vulnerable. Tell her something like starting afresh somewhere else with a new identity and leave her past behind. Raise some money and move elsewhere to start a new life, even a family if she will do right from here. Stop feeding people this "only Jesus can save" infatuation bullshiit, when yourself won't do her the miracle of accepting and marrying her if you have the chance but you want to come here and sell Jesus stories for her.


RUBBISH!!!

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by darigho: 7:05pm On May 22, 2020
Divine89:

Thank you very much for the prayer I receive and believe in Jesus name . I am hard working , i work 2 jobs cleaning, one in the morning and the other in the afternoon. As I am typing I am at my second job I will finish at 7pm

You're on track already, maintain this relationship with God and watch everything fall in place, you'll be fully restored my dear. I know this
as i know my name. God has forgiven you and u need to forgive yourself. You can listen to messages from Bishop David oyedepo of LIVING FAITH CHURCH, David Ibiyomie of SALVATION MINISTRY, Paul Enenche of DUNAMIS and E.A Adeboye of RCCG all on YouTube. Jst pick any of them or as many as u can. Stay faithful and God will show up on your behalf. You're doing well already. Also check for ELIJAH AMUSAN on Facebook for counseling, you'll thank me later . God bless you. Praying for you too

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by yusluvad(m): 7:05pm On May 22, 2020
You're good to go sister.
Go and sin no more...
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by afecgivers: 7:05pm On May 22, 2020
More than 100million mothers are unfit to mother a child in Nigeria, yet they kept telling you...i,m praying for you for your bad condition to automatically turn good. It is only in Nigeria that giving birth to you is license to keep feeding them at old age without necessarily contributing to your success. Pastors, imam, native people promotes it too. Nothing like a mother. Magic Country.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by TotoNaRubber: 7:06pm On May 22, 2020
Sometimes you have to accept defeat, you had everything planned out for you but you ruined it all, you beat up a 2 month old and fractured her hand. Whatever you do, do not go back to your old habit, find ways to keep asking your uncle for forgiveness even if he spits on you. Do you know what it means to make a man lose his child for 1 year and 9 months.

I don't know how you feel about losing 6 children but i can imagine what it feels like losing a child for a short period let alone a lifetime.
Just console yourself with the fact that you get to spend time with them from their 18th birthdays and work from now till their 18th birthdays to develop yourself.

There are people in worse situations than you...

Divine89:
Hello everybody. I am Nigerian based in France. My English it is not 100% perfect but I will try to make it possible for you to understand me with the help of google french to English translator and my story is also long sorry for that.

When I was 9 years old I joined my uncle, my mum's younger brother in France. He declared me as his daughter. During that time he only had one child, 2 years old. He and the wife were so loving to me. I never lacked anything in their house.

Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Hezmatosky: 7:07pm On May 22, 2020
Let somebody shout hallelujah!!!!!!! shocked
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Ijawwomaninoyo: 7:07pm On May 22, 2020
Thank God she didn't add sexual harassment and paedophile, the man and the wife shouldn't have escaped. There are a lot of innocent people in the prison while some have been executed for doing nothing.

Pastor asked you to confess to him and God then went ahead to tell his wife. What sort of a stupid Pastor is that? Pastor "Alade hu iwo".

For you, your matter is best left unsaid.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Faithful4real(m): 7:07pm On May 22, 2020
PigTormentor:
[[s]quote author=Righteousness89 post=89833896]Deep... really Deep.

My Sister, My Bible tells me that " For all have sinned and Come Short of the Glory of GOD"

If there is sin, there is also Mercy!

Praise GOD You are still alive because it's only the Living that can obtain Mercy. Irrespective of all You have done and those who have looked down on you and Disowned you due to your dirty past, There is a Loving FATHER who is Available to Receive you , Purge you ,Clean you up and Make you the most adorable.

HIS Name is JESUS CHRIST..

Man can fail you
Pastor can fail you
Parents can Disown and Fail u
Uncle and aunties can fail u
Your Twin can Fail and Disappoint you
I can Fail and Disappoint you

Only JESUS will never Fail, disown ot Disappoint you. HIs hands are Wide open to Receive and Forgive you.

My Admonishment to you is this;
Put All the Challenges , Events and Troubles away.

Take your Focus to JESUS CHRIST.
Follow HIM with all of your Spirit, Soul and Body.

Let HIS Word be your food.. Let HIM be your FATHER, Mother and Partner. Let HIM be your Pirioty



You will suddenly notice that all the Burdens will be lifted off your shoulders .

I Believe you have a job or some means of income.


Search for a Bible Believing place of Worship or GENUIE Believers of like minds. Don't Focus on the Pastor! Focus on GOD..


As for your kids, Uncle, Aunty , Parents and all who have Abadoned you.. The Master who has The Heart of Everyone in His Hands, He will Restore all of them to you in due Season

Leave all those Worries and Face JESUS CHRIST The Prince of Peace.. Walk with HIM with all your Heart. Love Him with all your Heart


I Pray For you that as you seek GOD ALMIGHTY, you will find HIM.
I Pray For you that as you turn to GOD as your Focus , the Peace that passes all Understanding will envelope you
I Pray For you that as you Completely Surrender to JESUS CHRIST, you will smile again and Everything that you have lost will be Restored to you IN THE NAME OF JESUS.. AMEN


I see you being a Great light of JOY Soonest


[/s]


Ha ee dey pain you oooh.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by rosy1992(f): 7:08pm On May 22, 2020
It's a phase of karma you are passing through. You should not relent in your repentance. Try to build a new life for yourself in order to get those two kids. With time, your uncle will forgive you. Continue praying about it.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by okonyia(m): 7:08pm On May 22, 2020
Quite unfortunate. But if you have truely repented, God has also forgiven you. One thing you should know about God is that He will never forsake anyone that come to Him, He is righteous God.
Now , try to seek for forgiveness from your uncle. You betrayed him. He was broken, his family was broken. Imagine his children was taken away for close to two years.
Continue to ask him to forgive you, he coursed you out of anger and frustration. But he is still your uncle,he will forgive you,but will never trust you again.
My prayer is that you will find peace again. And your children will be giving to you
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by humblemikel(f): 7:09pm On May 22, 2020
Truly I'm speechless
You were a deadly bad person to everyone around you.
But what kind of peer pressure could make one so deadly to his/ her own family.
I don't know what to advice but the truth is
If I were in your uncles shoes I will forgive you but keep you at arms length in case you have not sincerely repented.
You're story just made me reason if God put all my sins together in a book, possibly I will look this irritating in the eyes of God and humans alike.
Sometimes I wish we can have a world with no sin and no evil.
You're story actually woke the consciousness in me about the damaging effect of sins to humanity.
May God have mercy on you and forgive you.
God!!!!!!
That was terrible.

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by SpeakOut007: 7:09pm On May 22, 2020
"All have sinned and come short of the glory of God" but God's mercy endures forever.

Don't give up, just live up in Christ Jesus.

Just believe that God is with you.
And truly, HE is with you.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by frog12: 7:09pm On May 22, 2020
dis na behavioural problems.. olodo. start a new life ko, start a bad one ni

nextdoor84:


Lols! You think France is one shit hole of a country? The best you can do is to migrate to other European countries or Canada and start a new life (this I even doubt is possible cos your records would show that you were an ex convict with drug problems). As a citizen of France you can migrate to some good countries even without a Visa. Go there and sin no more! When your people see that you've genuinely changed they will surely come around. Good luck
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by MrHighSea: 7:09pm On May 22, 2020
You chose a life and live it to the fullest.

If I'm your Uncle, I wouldn't want to associate with you again either.

Forgive and Go.

Simple.
Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Eketem: 7:09pm On May 22, 2020
I am sorry your uncle doesn't owe you forgiveness , if things went well with you, you probably would not remember this wickedness you did to them. Imagine what may have happened to their kids almost 2 years in foster care bacause of your lies.

It is good you have changed please face your own front and leave them to lick their wounds in peace . My empathy is for your uncle and his family. I sha wish you the best

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Re: I Cause Pain To A Lot Of People by Faithful4real(m): 7:10pm On May 22, 2020
hhmmcj:


End all this rubbish and stop giving someone false hope all in the name of the Jesus and all these nonsense. This lady did some horrendous and evil things to alot of people and there is something called "KARMA" & she's paying for all the bad things she made some good people suffer because of her selfishness & wickedness.
Tell her to forge ahead with what her life is worth and move on from here. There's no going back to the past. You religious fanatics are one of the real problems of this generation especially to the poor and the vulnerable. Tell her something like starting afresh somewhere else with a new identity and leave her past behind. Raise some money and move elsewhere to start a new life, even a family if she will do right from here. Stop feeding people this "only Jesus can save" infatuation bullshiit, when yourself won't do her the miracle of accepting and marrying her if you have the chance but you want to come here and sell Jesus stories for her.


RUBBISH!!!



It is not rubbish. No matter you sin God will forgive give you. But that doesn't mean you will not face the consequences. Take David for example he committed adultery and he paid for it for his whole life God forgave him. But his son tried to killed him many times.

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