bukatyne:
Funny thread.

The solution to men's misbehaviors is not behaving like them: it would mean all the complaints stems from lack of opportunity and not a moral ground.

It also means that women are no different from the men they are complaining against; they do not just have the opportunity.

Instead, retain your good attitude and insist that whoever you tangle with behaves appropriately.

So much wisdom from a lady

Sylverly:
Apparently, my friend is so mad and even threatening to divorce his wife.

No, this is not a case of infidelity or unfaithfulness. My friend and his wife got married last year. Both are working and keeping personal savings. My friend works at a very far distance, however, the wife's work place is approximately 10minutes walking distance.

My friend's mother-inlaw stays in a different city, and she is close to retirement. My friend just found out that the wife sent money to his brother to get a car for the mum. Though, she was actually going to tell him or inform him about it. Just that her mum was the first to call my friend, thanking him for their kind gesture.

My friend's anger was that the wife knows how much stress he passes through this period to get to work. But she however made her choice on the best person to get a car for.

Please, what is your opinion about this. I don't even know what to say.

I don't understand. He is angry she bought a car for her own mother? Is he high on his own fart? Is it not her own money? Abeg let him go and find a wet transformer to hug.

Divorce ko, divorce ni. Eleribu somborri

Richy4:
Every Tom, Dick and Harry is talking about divorce nowadays as if it was a weather forecast..

I bow. I am sure the aproko OP is the one exaggerating though

Ishilove:

I don't understand. He is angry she bought a car for her own mother? Is he high on his own fart? Is it not her own money? Abeg let him go and find a wet transformer to hug.

Divorce ko, divorce ni. Eleribu somborri

Snr Mod, no vex nah.. . It's just this dichotomy about Mother-inlaw and wife, on who should "always" be considered first in some key decisions of a man. But, seems the opposite gender justifies putting theirs first when the ball is in their palms.

Ishilove:

I bow. I am sure the aproko OP is the one exaggerating though

I'm a very quiet, reserved young man..who minds his business most times

UjuJoan2:


Is the lady's husband pregnant? Is his calf swollen and his stomach the size of an elephant? Is he breeding, not just his bur THEIR child? How is it that you can't see that the two scenarios are completely different.

That he bought his mother a car is not even the problem here. He is driving a car himself and is letting his pregnant wife jump buses. That's where I have a problem.

Is it that you guys dont get the fact that a man ought to provide and cater for his wife? She is breeding his children for goodness sakes, shouldn't her comfort come first, before even his own?

In thia scenario the lady doesn't work yet and doesn't need a car. So the man is right to buy one for the mother first. But when the children start coming, he needs yo step up and buy a car for his wife to take them to school.

I would have applauded you on this but, your comment is quite enveloped by gender bias

wirinet:

That is a very selfish behaviour. You say her own personal account should be no issue, but his own personal account should be an issue, right?

The guy might the responsible for the house rent, feeding, school fees, medical expenses of the family, utilities, etc., and most probably, that was why he has not been able to buy a car for himself. And here you have the wife using "her own personal account" to buy a car for her own mother without consulting the husband.

A woman that puts her extended family before her nuclear family is not worth to be called a wife.

Simple truth most ladies fail to acknowledge

Sylverly:
I'm a very quiet, reserved young man..who minds his business most times

That means you are the man angry over his wife's money

wirinet:

That is a very selfish behaviour. You say her own personal account should be no issue, but his own personal account should be an issue, right?

The guy might the responsible for the house rent, feeding, school fees, medical expenses of the family, utilities, etc., and most probably, that was why he has not been able to buy a car for himself. And here you have the wife using "her own personal account" to buy a car for her own mother without consulting the husband.

A woman that puts her extended family before her nuclear family is not worth to be called a wife.

Ehhhh, so I have to consult my husband before I can spend my own personal money?

Ishilove:

That means you are the man angry over his wife's money

���..You think so

Sylverly:
���..You think so

Yelz

Ishilove:

Ehhhh, so I have to consult my husband before I can spend my own personal money?

Yes my dear. That's why it's called a marriage. Otherwise, you two should have been living as boyfriend and girlfriend without the need or trouble of signing a contract to "love honour and obey" and "till death do us part".

It seems most Nigerians enter a marriage contract without even understanding the meaning of marriage.

In addition; the husband too must inform his wife before making any major expense that might affect the fortunes of the family. It will be wrong for the man to buy an iPhone 11 for his sister, while the wife is using Itel A20.

We don't have a lot of info to judge anyone. The man earns his own money, right? He's spending on rent, food, etc., while the wife do nothing but save towards buying a car for her mother? If this is the situation, the guy should simply withdraw his "services" so wifey and her mother can feed and house each other.

The mother is responsible though. The very fact that she called her son-in-law to show appreciation tells a lot.

Ishilove:

Yelz

My profession doesn't give room for gossip

Sylverly:
I would have applauded you on this but, your comment is quite enveloped by gender bias

How? I am very sure that your friend is a Yoruba man. They are the only ones that happily relaxes and feels entitled to their wife's money. Yoruba men are just not it.

Genset:




How? I am very sure that your friend is a Yoruba man. They are the only ones that happily relaxes and feels entitled to their wife's money. Yoruba men are just not it.

hate to burst your bubbles

wirinet:

Yes my dear. That's why it's called a marriage. Otherwise, you two should have been living as boyfriend and girlfriend without the need or trouble of signing a contract to "love honour and obey" and "till death do us part".

It seems most Nigerians enter a marriage contract without even understanding the meaning of marriage.

In addition; the husband too must inform his wife before making any major expense that might affect the fortunes of the family. It will be wrong for the man to buy an iPhone 11 for his sister, while the wife is using Itel A20.

Ehhhhhh

Sylverly:
My profession doesn't give room for gossip

Which reinforces my conviction that you are the offended husband

Sylverly:
hate to burst your bubbles

I know I am 100% right.

Ishilove:

Which reinforces my conviction that you are the offended husband

lol..you might be disappointed by that

Genset:



I know I am 100% right.

no, you don't know...

Acidosis:

We don't have a lot of info to judge anyone. The man earns his own money, right? He's spending on rent, food, etc., while the wife do nothing but save towards buying a car for her mother? If this is the situation, the guy should simply withdraw his "services" so wifey and her mother can feed and house each other.

The mother is responsible though. The very fact that she called her son-in-law to show appreciation tells a lot.

You're not sure of the scenarios. Besides this here is a bad advice.