Abeg, this is trying to tear a family apart. Wife wants a male help while hubby won't hear any of it.

Lol . . . someone doesn't trust her husband!

female is better

grown and ripe

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How r u? How's the married life coming along?

^^^hahahahaha

fine o, i am still somewhere around your territory resting

^^^ Good for you . .

Meanwhile your siggy needs to be updated.

koko_oro:

Abeg, this is trying to tear a family apart. Wife wants a male help while hubby won't hear any of it.

Stay without help then as u both don't trust urselves.jeez
Besides,i know your idea of help is a teen that wud act as cook,laundry-man,cleaner,gardner,driver,child-minder,messenger all for a paltry sum . . .child abuse.You guys shld do it all urself .
Ehen,I thought your wife is staying at Abuja with her beloved FG appointment?oooh I see,she dont wanna leave u all alone with a female help.Una don settle dat issue  If she don't play her part as wife and mother,def. another woman wud.

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None thank you very much. I will try and do my house work myself.

It does not really matter to me as long as nobody sleeps in my house. Come in a few hours a week do your work and then leave us in peace

Its not about trust here btwn spouse? I'm more concern about d children? I have a four yrs old daughter I can't imagine leaving her wit a male house help? Even d female as parents we oath to be very careful. I knw I have a fantastic relationship wit my daughter whereby God forbid if anything like an abuse of any sort she will tell me. I'd rather it doesn't happen.

@ TOPIC

Hmmm, you are scared of people abusing and violating your own children, your flesh and blood, yet feel no remorse in equally employing children barely in their teens as slaves to do your dirty bidding, which again, equally constitute abuse of a minor, ONLY IN NIGERIA

Ehen,I thought your wife is staying at Abuja with her beloved FG appointment?oooh I see,she dont wanna leave u all alone with a female help.Una don settle dat issue  If she don't play her part as wife and mother,def. another woman wud.

@ifyalways : what gives you such an idea. Well, howz ur family.
issues like this just make me wonder if couples ever really think it will be all rosy all way through.

Hmmm, you are scared of people abusing and violating your own children, your flesh and blood, yet feel no remorse in equally employing children barely in their teens as slaves to do your dirty bidding, which again, equally constitute abuse of a minor, ONLY IN NIGERIA

I hate to say this, I am not in any way in support of using a child as slave for another child. However, I have seen situations where a house help was made a member of the family, she just couldn't leave after the expiration of her term. The question is what makes some house help-Oga relationship so divine while some others aren't.
Human beings from eternity have been known to take advantage of one another. Some people just need all the help they can get. Same goes for both the helper and the helped.

Get a 50yr old Grandmother

dayokanu:

Get a 50yr old Grandmother

With the way they over use house help in Nigeria, a 50yrs old woman will be of no help to them.
That's why they always like using kids and teens.

chaircover:

How about them cleaning up after their own mess and go to the market themselves to buy their own food and cook it their own-selves.

Much cheaper and less stressful option all round

How would they? Money dey trow away like pure water, so let them buy wahala with their money, not too long they will cry of what house help is doing in their house as if househelp blow wistle call them at the first place. Lazy generation!

It is better to get someone who only comes to clean without living in the house.

A full grown busty sexy chick + some good buttocks would be my pick. . . . .

Don't give a monkey azz what the world thinks, we are talking about house help here dammit, they should come fully equipped and off course with all the accessories too and besides, its my house, kapesh

@Topic
If you must have a house help and since there is seed of distrust amongst the couple, it is best to decide the gender based on who spends more time with the help. As in, if the husband spends more time at home, it is better to get a male help and vice versa.

I love my nairaland sisters,some thread topics really have a way of bringing out the W-O-M-A-N in them

naijafrend:

@Topic
If you must have a house help and since there is seed of distrust amongst the couple, it is best to decide the gender based on who spends more time with the help. As in, if the husband spends more time at home, it is better to get a male help and vice versa.

Fa fa fa foul
That logic doesn't always work.Have you not seen/heard of married men/women with children who're attracted to their own sexI used to know one very highly placed Schlumberger manager like that in Warri

rasputinn:

Fa fa fa foul
That logic doesn't always work.Have you not seen/heard of married men/women with children who're attracted to their own sexI used to know one very highly placed Schlumberger manager like that in Warri

Hire a male and female help, both of them would get busy with each other !!!

On a serious note, a man who has to cheat WILL cheat, female househelp or no female househelp.

None abeg

desthan:

A full grown busty sexy chick + some good buttocks would be my pick. . . . .

Don't give a monkey azz what the world thinks, we are talking about house help here dammit, they should come fully equipped and off course with all the accessories too and besides, its my house, kapesh

God help us women, i wish we can cope without them. Even if you trust ur husband do u trust them. most of them are already sexually active if ur husband don't look at them, they seduce ur husband if you allow them & ur children is another issue they either molest them or corrupt them.

fatpitan:

God help us women, i wish we can cope without them. Even if you trust your husband do u trust them. most of them are already sexually active if your husband don't look at them, they seduce your husband if you allow them & your children is another issue they either molest them or corrupt them.

Wahala dey

But there're steps to be taken to forestall all that abnormal stuff

Old woman better pass but when i was growing up we had both male and females adult maids but the females didnt last long but the male did

Well ,i prefer a male helper some are very hard working and u dont have to worry about him snatching ur man ,the best way is to do all house chores ursef,hubby should help out too.

fatpitan:

God help us women, i wish we can cope without them. Even if you trust your husband do u trust them. most of them are already sexually active if your husband don't look at them, they seduce your husband if you allow them & your children is another issue they either molest them or corrupt them.

very true. Theere's always something to worry about. The best is to do without them. Use the money U'll pay a househelp to get the necessary gadgets e.g dishwasher, washing machine etc. Or get someone who'll come in twice/thrice in a week to work and leave.