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|Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by aloy/emeka: 2:47am On Feb 01, 2011|
My mom would have died prematurely if I'd married Timaya -Empress Njamah
Empress Njamah's name is synonymous with controversies. Despite this, she has held her head high and walked tall. In this interview with 'Nonye Ben-Nwankwo, the actress talks about her career and her relationship with her ex-boyfriend and singer, Timaya
We learn you are now a make-up artiste. How did you find yourself in this field?
I've been doing this for a long time. I don't have an office yet because I do a lot of things, so I really want to be sure of what I want to open an office for. The bridal make-up comes up almost every weekend. From one job, I get another job and I get another job from that one. Bridal make-up has been very okay.
You are into interior dÃ©cor as well,
I do that as well. I just finished working on a hotel in Calabar. It took me almost three months to complete the job.
But how did you come into this line? We thought acting was your love?
I don't like being idle; I'm always up and doing. I like to venture into a lot of things. I like to do new things. Acting is obviously in me. Acting is beautiful; it pays. But I just like to venture into a lot of things. But I love everything I do.
But don't you feel bad that you are no longer acting in movies like most of your contemporaries?
I really don't have a problem with that. Acting is not what you can retire from. Acting is always there for any good actor. I just finished a job, which would be premiered in the US and Canada. I would rather be into one beautiful big project, where you can demonstrate your talent. I don't want to continue doing this home video thing; I want to do movies. I'm not a square peg in a round hole. Most people who know me also know I'm good, I'm okay. I've three scripts right now. Each time I get scripts, my brothers and I talk about them.
Some people might say you went off the screen because the scripts weren't coming any longer.
Not at all! It is not true. I was in Germany for about five months. I was also in the UK for some period of time doing some things I don't want to talk about right now. I've been okay with what I've been doing. I shot a movie late last year. I was in Owerri. Mike Ezuruonye was also in the movie. I did the movie because it was so challenging. We rehearsed with real guns in the movie. It is not the usual kind of movie we are used to everyday.
Tell us what it is like being in a family of actors.
It is just like asking me how it is being in a family of doctors. There is nothing wrong with acting or engineering. It is fun and interesting. It is something we can all sit down and talk about. It helps to have a brother who does the same thing that you do. We learn from each other.
Timaya said one of his greatest regrets was having you as his girlfriend. Did you hurt him that much for him to have said that?
Ah! Empress! Seriously, I told myself that I wasn't going to talk about this in the papers because I've learnt a lot. I've learnt that being good is not really a good thing in this country. Trying to help people is not a good thing too. Whatever you do, people will try to criticise you. I've always been a good person. Apart from the fact that people are not blind, apart from the fact that people are not dumb to know the truth, I don't have to go to the papers to justify what happened in that relationship. But I've been in the spotlight before he ever thought of getting there. People have always known me for being nice. I hate proud people; so, I will not boast about things I did for people. It is so glaring who should really go to the papers and say the relationship was a mistake. I don't want to criticise anybody. I don't want to talk about it. I still give God the glory. Without events, there won't be history. It has made me not to trust people or live my life for them.
We learnt you wanted to sue him.
We had a case recently and people said I sued Timaya for an X amount of money. Obviously, money is not my problem. I started making money long before Timaya ever thought of seeing millions. I just did what I had to do. Let me give you a hint. We had some issues and I basically avoided this same person for close to two years. I had my reasons. He was somebody I was close to for a period of time and I know what he can or can't do. So, I avoided him. I will just say that Timaya was obsessed with me. He saw me driving at a particular time, he overtook me, stopped in front of me, pulled me off my car and beat me up. I did what I had to do. I had to go to the police and report the case with the pictures of my face swollen and all of that. I took the case very far. I had two lawyers. But for the love of Christ, I had to let the case go. I've been in this business for a long time. If I go to the papers, people might say Empress wants attention. How can I crave attention when I've had it for so long? He went to the papers and he got talking and talking and I was reading and laughing. I didn't say a word all through that period. The fear of God and maturity had to come in. Many journalists called me to get my comments. I always told them I didn't want to comment on the issue.
But would you, like him, say you regret the relationship?
It is obvious. I would have used that period of time to better other people's lives or concentrate on my job or my family. But I was living my life for people who didn't deserve it. If I had listened to one of his new tracks before I dropped that case, I don't think I would have dropped the case. I may preach about Christ and love, but I'm human. There are things that you should just let go. Can you imagine the arrogance? Music is not meant for you to come out and brag about what you don't have. I respect Tuface a lot. He sings songs that make meaning. He is not bragging about what he is not and you can learn through his music. His music is inspiring. If you have a problem with someone, face the problem. Do you have to sing about it? Why not do something that people can embrace, something that can go farther than this country? Why would you waste your time and go to the studio only to come out singing about an actress? Empress was something he regretted yet he sang with my name. Empress was somebody you regretted, yet you used my brothers' names in your song. E dey pepper you for bodi so much. It is because I'm or I was so important in his life. You regret Empress yet you gave me a ring? Please! It is high time we stopped talking trash. I might have said I don't want to talk about this but right now, I don't think I would mind having one on one debate with him. But then, I'm too much for such. It is obvious who should regret the relationship. It is obvious who should be thankful. In life, when you achieve something you never believed you will achieve, it is like a blow to them.
How did you feel when he beat you up?
How else would a battered woman feel? You will feel angry and frustrated. At that point, a lot of things will go through your mind. This is not what I want to talk about in the papers. It is not a good thing for any female. I'm going to do a movie on people who hit women. It is not something I want to rush into. I want to do it right.
How come your brothers kept quiet if you said he beat you up?
My brothers didn't keep quiet. They were not brought up to be brutal. A lot of friends wanted to fight for me. A lot of musicians were on my side. One of my brothers wanted to be confrontational. But I told them that two people can't be mad at the same time. The way we were trained is obviously different from the way some other people were trained. My brothers will always respect my feelings. John is a triple black belter. He doesn't even need to fight. He will just hit you one place and you will die. He is one of the best in karate and you know these people are trained not to get angry. He is calm.
Would you have married Timaya?
I would have made my mother the saddest woman on the face of this earth if I'd married Timaya. I would have sent my mother to an early grave. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. She is my happiness. My mother has never advised me wrongly and she has never advised me to be involved in anything evil. If I had moved out of my family house, I would have been wayward. But when you are under the umbrella of a good parent, you will hardly go astray. If I try to go astray, my mum will put me on the right track since I'm still living under her roof. If I had wanted to rent my own flat, I would have rented over 100 flats.
But we thought you moved into Timaya's house?
I didn't move into that house, I got that house. Please, I don't want to talk about it. Let's just leave that side. When I said I lived my life for some people, you should understand what I'm saying. I never moved into any man's house. I've never done that and I will never do that.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by mama-gee(f): 2:52am On Feb 01, 2011|
Who knew this lady before she popped out from the woodwork?
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by ifyalways(f): 10:06am On Feb 01, 2011|
mama-gee:I do and i guess some other people do.
Rumours abt her range from dating the high and mighty to being a kleptomaniac.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by Nelson**(m): 10:31am On Feb 01, 2011|
nwayi imbaise, ke ki mere?
u should let her be, everyone's got a right to a past. , timaya is just a sorry case , the sodden affair is over, which is good for them,
timaya aint willing to let her go cuz she is better than anything he ever had.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by ragdollz: 10:46am On Feb 01, 2011|
I guess the morale of this whole fiasco is, celebrities shouldn't date other celebrities. It hardly ends well. Timaya for that matter. Not exactly a perfect match
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by Nelson**(m): 11:57am On Feb 01, 2011|
given his rough ragamuffian way of life
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by spikedcylinder: 1:44pm On Feb 01, 2011|
Lol. Funny woman.
Collecting Timaya's money and buying $5000 phones did not kill your mum prematurely sha?
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by Tsun(f): 2:38pm On Feb 01, 2011|
How did she even got herself involved with Timaya
Babe na waoo , e don do plzzz no talk again u don over talk,
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by UNLEASHED(m): 3:37pm On Feb 01, 2011|
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by Outstrip(f): 4:27pm On Feb 01, 2011|
So Timaya is also a woman beater. They should just start a club in Nigeria biko. MWBW (Men who beat women)
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by semid4lyfe(m): 5:47pm On Feb 01, 2011|
Shyt+Igbe na im Timaya and Empress be. Birds of the same feather na im dem be and dem fit each other die
Shey she don forget the time wey she dey chop im money and im buy her motto come dey dedicate all im music awards to her? Shey Timaya sef don forget when im dey praise and credit to Empress dey talk se she be God sent into im life and dey of positive influence for im life . . .yeye people. As far as me dey concerned, both of dem do each other so make dem both let us hear word jare
This one wey she dey praise 2baba up and down, hope se she no dey target am as her next project cos I hear se Empress dey do jazz die and knowing 2face e nor go hard make woman jazz catch am cos im nor dey seke (fear) to shook im anaconda (D'banj nor vex but how many women you don belle? ) into _________ (fill in the space)
If I be Tubaba, I go go babalawo go do better insurance cos of this woman
Me nor go talk pass this cos the place wey I bin come from, we get proverb se the the thing wey elder dey see sitting down, small pikin nor dey see am standing up.
A word is enough for the wise. . me don talk finish
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by pro01: 12:36pm On Feb 02, 2011|
All these harlots no go let person hear word. When you were chopping Timaya's money your mum didn't die abi? By the way, why you no talk wetin you do wey make Timaya beat you? Abi Timaya just wake up one morning with divine revelation to beat u up? Now u dey form 'victim'. Stoopid gold-digging wannabe actress, bragging that she started seeing money long before Timaya, how many films you don act wey dey give u that kind money. All these wakapass ashewo wey dey hop from one man to the other - come get the audacity to take the money wey u collect from man dey boast for us, dey claim 'big girl'. Shameless tramp.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by ola olabiy: 2:25pm On Feb 02, 2011|
Now, she's talking about God.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by sylve11: 2:34pm On Feb 02, 2011|
lol i tire for the chick o. but timaya self . . . , .
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by angry190: 2:42pm On Feb 02, 2011|
who are these foooools in nigeria
wtf is timaya and njemah,
are they nigerians
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by daniel michael: 2:58pm On Feb 02, 2011|
timaya is a flibbertigibbet,a sobo-phobic andicape, hw cud he bit such a gorgeous splendous and resplendous sweet extra-additional beauty as that gal, gosh if she'd married timaya,i think they would hav bin a cataclysm in the marriage, i hate timiya wit al my souls,
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by collinsoft(m): 3:03pm On Feb 02, 2011|
@pro01 you are the bum. you just hit the nail on the head. After a serious rump with Timaya she is now claiming the holy one. empress just go stick your head in the sack of poo
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by daniel michael: 3:11pm On Feb 02, 2011|
and u xpress or xpress road,i dnt knw, do u think timaya would just wok up and dismantle ur face withawt u doing anithing,gosh i think ur face was a point of contact to him, let me tel u sth,ure a nincompoop,a kleptomaniac,a nymphomaniac and an ophobomaniac, ure practising a flamboyant display of sanctity mannerism, infact ur speech luks like ur mouth is an epitome of idolistic monopoikilation, infact ur head is pie block of two outstanding hoe, u vacabonic imbecilic and moronic prat, gett off , xpress road
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by 21-05-2011: 3:30pm On Feb 02, 2011|
my thing is
why will these celebrities stop acting like fools and STOP talking about the private affairs
she said she wont talk about it but still gave paragraphs of explanation
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by chi-baby(f): 3:30pm On Feb 02, 2011|
Timaya beat her up? Too bad and unacceptable
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by lionness(f): 3:38pm On Feb 02, 2011|
Wowo woman. Empress Njama indeed. So if your mother didnt protest, you would continue spreading your legs for timaya and would have married a man who believes you are a sex pot and a warm punching bag.
i feel sorry reading her rants, i hope timaya stop feeding her popularity and let her just fade away.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by Cupidkc(m): 3:41pm On Feb 02, 2011|
So much hatred in d house,tk am easy ppl o o o. Rememeber dt ds guys ar in showbiz anytin tn cn b heard n anytn fit happen. Theyre jst mkin name n fame.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by johnjoel(m): 3:44pm On Feb 02, 2011|
girl they sabi form
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by clickgold(m): 4:00pm On Feb 02, 2011|
" She is my happiness. My mother has never advised me wrongly and she has never advised me to be involved in anything evil"
Empress do tell, did the advise sound like this " My daughter, enjoy this ruffian's money. I will tell you when to leave him". Cos there was no complain from your ' sweet mom" when the car and other expensive gifts were rolling in from our guy. Timaya? that guy self
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by saintchux(m): 4:10pm On Feb 02, 2011|
Does it mean that express can not be richer than timaya. She is actress and a good one too. I feel she too makes money. Let us face the fact, that she is a woman does not mean she is running after men, she actress and in show biz, she can be anywhere, any time doing her business or should she be running after women.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by victorazy(m): 4:16pm On Feb 02, 2011|
let your mother fine you her heart desiring husband so that you will not be marrying and she will be dieying
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by Intrepid!(m): 4:18pm On Feb 02, 2011|
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by LoveKing(m): 4:48pm On Feb 02, 2011|
Abeg make dem go chop s h i t.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by spikedcylinder: 5:00pm On Feb 02, 2011|
What does she currently do for a living and when was the last time she acted in a movie?
I remember meeting her at a salon last year. Crazy lady and her friends took off all their clothes and started displaying screaming "I dey provoke o, I dey provoke o".
The fact that she's forming for journalists here is quite incredible.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by uglybetty: 5:04pm On Feb 02, 2011|
So is she saying that girls who live on their own are wayward? Rubbish! I heard she steals?despite the fact that she comes from a good family. Yeye.
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by UR, FATHER: 5:22pm On Feb 02, 2011|
Even John njamah, that skinny bone is a triple black belter omo make he no go fight o make timaya no go bust him head with bottle
Small thing we go hear say Aki and paw paw sef get Black belt too i go so beat them
|Re: Marrying Timaya Would Have Killed My Mom Prematurely-empress Njamah by tlops(m): 5:37pm On Feb 02, 2011|
nor mind am.
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