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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by padi94(m): 9:40am On Aug 13, 2020
Jiji
Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Mo3891: 9:40am On Aug 13, 2020
cool



Nice one .. stylish Buba without agbada would do

You are a real man... Trying to make your wife happy


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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Kestolove(m): 9:40am On Aug 13, 2020
U made a great choice, Yoruba lady not igbo

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Day169: 9:40am On Aug 13, 2020
This is the kinda guy you call an "Omowale"! smiley

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by kingreign(m): 9:42am On Aug 13, 2020
Coldfeets:
How will this put an end to covid19? undecided undecided undecided

Saddists and hater!

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Rilwayne001: 9:43am On Aug 13, 2020
Lovely kiss
Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Openbusiness: 9:44am On Aug 13, 2020
I swear, this is just too beautiful. Woooweeezy grin

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by proudly9ja(m): 9:45am On Aug 13, 2020
Mancala:
Ekaso y'all? That's straight up gangsta dude grin. JK, kudos on making an effort to speak the lingo.
If your intent is to please/ make your wife happy, only you can answer the question. But I can give you some practical tips to help you figure this out. First, the full native wear comprising of the buba (shirt), sokoto (trousers) and agbada (flowing wide sleeved robe) is equivalent in formality to wearing a three piece suit (if you're old school) or just a regular 2 piece suit. But there's a further twist to it. The type of material the native wear is made of also determines the degree of formality. In general (old school thinking), the "Ankara" material would be at the lower end of the formalilty spectrum whilst "aso oke" would be at the higher end of it. But these days, there are real fancy Ankara materials that could pass for formal.

My questions for you are thus: How did your wife react to your wearing a suit to pick her up at the airport and going directly to a fancy restaurant? Do you think she may have felt underdressed or wanted to change out of her travel clothes to match you? Did she enjoy the experience? If she did, then go for it with the Nigerian clothes. But this time, bring her a change of clothes, perhaps bring her matching Nigerian outfit so y'all are both dressed up. You may also up the ante and research a good Nigerian restaurant in your neck of the woods. Call ahead and have them prepare her favorite Nigerian dishes. I am yet to meet a Nigerian in the diaspora who does not miss Nigerian food! Lastly, if you've had any experience wearing an agbada, you know that it takes a certain level of Pizzaz to pull it off effectively. It's really not suited for the tasks of fetching luggage and rolling or carrying any distance through the airport, especially if its of the "aso oke" variety. Feel free to leave the agbada in the car and wear only the buba and sokoto if that makes it easier to go get her. Good luck and let us know how it went. We're rooting for ya cheesy

One last thing. Some folks have strong sentimental feelings about their wedding outfits and may not want them worn anyhow. Figure this out first that your wife will not go nuts if you wore your wedding attire out to pick her up from the airport. Maybe go with the non wedding attire?

This post here says it all. Just to add one more note of advice: I will not recommend eating Nigerian food (especially if it's 'swallow') when you have your agbada on. You can take it off as mentioned by Mancala when it's time to eat. Failure to heed to this advice will cost you some money with your dry cleaners cheesy

All the best!

PS: Will you not be ruining the surprise if your wife gets to see this post? (I am assuming the picture above is yours?) Given the popularity of Nairaland, chances are that she or someone who knows her will be here reading the post.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by picked(m): 9:47am On Aug 13, 2020
Mancala:
Ekaso y'all? That's straight up gangsta dude grin. JK, kudos on making an effort to speak the lingo.
If your intent is to please/ make your wife happy, only you can answer the question. But I can give you some practical tips to help you figure this out. First, the full native wear comprising of the buba (shirt), sokoto (trousers) and agbada (flowing wide sleeved robe) is equivalent in formality to wearing a three piece suit (if you're old school) or just a regular 2 piece suit. But there's a further twist to it. The type of material the native wear is made of also determines the degree of formality. In general (old school thinking), the "Ankara" material would be at the lower end of the formalilty spectrum whilst "aso oke" would be at the higher end of it. But these days, there are real fancy Ankara materials that could pass for formal.

My questions for you are thus: How did your wife react to your wearing a suit to pick her up at the airport and going directly to a fancy restaurant? Do you think she may have felt underdressed or wanted to change out of her travel clothes to match you? Did she enjoy the experience? If she did, then go for it with the Nigerian clothes. But this time, bring her a change of clothes, perhaps bring her matching Nigerian outfit so y'all are both dressed up. You may also up the ante and research a good Nigerian restaurant in your neck of the woods. Call ahead and have them prepare her favorite Nigerian dishes. I am yet to meet a Nigerian in the diaspora who does not miss Nigerian food! Lastly, if you've had any experience wearing an agbada, you know that it takes a certain level of Pizzaz to pull it off effectively. It's really not suited for the tasks of fetching luggage and rolling or carrying any distance through the airport, especially if its of the "aso oke" variety. Feel free to leave the agbada in the car and wear only the buba and sokoto if that makes it easier to go get her. Good luck and let us know how it went. We're rooting for ya cheesy

One last thing. Some folks have strong sentimental feelings about their wedding outfits and may not want them worn anyhow. Figure this out first that your wife will not go nuts if you wore your wedding attire out to pick her up from the airport. Maybe go with the non wedding attire?

And I will go with the above suggestions ☝️.
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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by TheManOfTheYear: 9:47am On Aug 13, 2020
Looking good.. Nice couple.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Mgtowmonk: 9:48am On Aug 13, 2020
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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Nobody: 9:48am On Aug 13, 2020
loneprof:


You're an insane human being... that animal in the picture is wiser than you.

Na so una go use tribalism and hatred spoil happy marriage, useless people. Since your people can't see anything good in another person's tribe, Oyinbo that has eyes for better things appreciate this one!

Get a life!

I don't understand them, if they have the power that the Fulani have today, with this their attitude, they would be worse. They don't want progress for others, they laugh at poor northerners calling them poor beggar, they will blame rich northerners why they are not poor like the rest. Just ignore him.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Michelle55: 9:48am On Aug 13, 2020
Mgtowmonk:
probably couldn't land a hot white chick so he settled for less undecided

Dude you could have gotten women who are way hotter than her from Russia, Croatia, serbia.
Why did you settle for this!
You cheated yourself!
Huncle, you need brain transplant asap..
If you really do not have any creative or awesome idea to give to the young man kindly read and pass.
What's with the bitterness and frustration?
What did African women do to you to deserve such a vile remarks about them? You better respect yourself and dey your dey.
No be we do you!

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Emmanuelcann: 9:49am On Aug 13, 2020
Just wear the Buba, Sokoto and cap without the Agbada (i.e. the outer covering garment) and that will be sufficient, else you could appear to be overdressed.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Bestboy11513(m): 9:50am On Aug 13, 2020
I think that's too much, you could wear a senator type cloth that'd be better.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Nobody: 9:50am On Aug 13, 2020
thedarkfuzz:
Ekaso y'all. I'm an American white guy married to a wonderful Yoruba lady. We live in America.

My wife is travelling for work 4 days out of 7 the last two weeks. When she came home last week, I put on a suit and took her out to a fancy restaurant to let her know how incredibly happy I was to have her home.

This week, I want to surprise her again - she's expecting the suit, so I thought I might go with my buba and agbada instead. I have one from our wedding and another that she bought me for general fancy occasion wear.

I've only ever worn this kind of dress to local events with lots of Nigerians (birthday party, wedding) and once to a friend's wedding. I haven't ever used it for something like a dinner date. I have a general sense (from growing up here) of when it's right and not right to put on a suit, but I have no clear idea of what occasions are ok/not ok for a buba and agbada.

Should I pick up my wife at the airport tomorrow for a dinner date in Nigerian formal dress?

Photo used for illustration
u can wear a Senator attire...that's will still be cool for the diner outing u have in mind..Agbada is for very serious occasions.I have good tailors that can make some of these Senators and Kaftans for u here in Lagos..Dm if your are interested.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Nobody: 9:51am On Aug 13, 2020
MinorityOpinion:


I don't understand them, if they have the power that the Fulani have today, with this their attitude, they would be worse. They don't want progress for others, they laugh at poor northerners calling them poor beggar, they will blame rich northerners why they are not poor like the rest. Just ignore him.

I don't even want to point fingers because I see the same hatred and ignorance displayed by those in the South-South too, not just Igbos. But whoever the person is, whatever tribe he is from, I pray his insanity gets a cure.

Tribalism has ruined them more than they know.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Nobody: 9:51am On Aug 13, 2020
This was what nairaland was all about back then when it started , before politics and celebrity gist infested it’s system. Nairaland use to be the first place I run to when I have real life problems as a Nigerian.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Nobody: 9:51am On Aug 13, 2020
Michelle55:

Huncle, you need brain transplant asap..
If you really do not have any creative or awesome idea to give to the young man kindly read and pass.
What's with the bitterness and frustration?
What did African women do to you to deserve such a vile remarks about them? You better respect yourself and dey your dey.
No be we do you!


All these red pill men and their nonsense.

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by dogmart(m): 9:57am On Aug 13, 2020
Interracial marriages can be sweet o wink

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by Dayoebe(m): 9:59am On Aug 13, 2020
Beautiful

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by sodiqapril(m): 10:00am On Aug 13, 2020
post=92765774:

First of all,
Bawoni Y'all! cheesy




Yes do,
She will be so suprise and love you more by seeing that.
And the odd of she planting a kiss on your lips at the Airport will be very sure odds.
Confirmed!


Awwwwww kiss
American guys can be so ROMANTIC sha.
'Some' Naija guys, please make una learn something from dis biko!
Take your wives out for dates....na beg we dey beg una!

@thedarkfuzz,
You can go on something informal like the below images.......

Photo used for illustration
Shut the fxck up

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Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by MANNABBQGRILLS: 10:01am On Aug 13, 2020
If you throw stones at every dogs that bark at you on the road, you will never get to where you are going in life.

Dem MANNA say so wink
Re: Wearing Buba / Agbada As An American Married To A Nigerian by xxxXXXxxx: 10:03am On Aug 13, 2020
Make sense!

You have an easy choice,you could wear the one from your wedding or the one she gave you as gift.

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