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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 7:06pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Your mum is not a good person. He would be lucky to have someone else as a mother in law, who would appreciate him for wanting to see her, with or without bringing any goodies. Trayceey: 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 7:06pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
thatigboman:keep bringing curses upon your head |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by colestephan86: 7:07pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
GayPontiff:Trash |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by UnBanEbenezer(f): 7:08pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:shut up 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by thatigboman: 7:08pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:ur mama expected your boyfriend to come and dash her Hummer on first visit? As for you, i have no words for you. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by YorubaPrince: 7:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
bjprodint: God bless you my sister... You're indeed the best, I swear! |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by UnBanEbenezer(f): 7:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
GIANTPLUSHUB:you said it all |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by nedekid: 7:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Chujor1634:Oga even abroad oyinbo will take something along, maybe not cash but gifts. It could be even a bottle of wine. That dude should have taken something along. In this case it is even the girls mother for that matter! Haba Even if it was a small hamper with little provisions, gift chocolate etc. For a father, find out if he drinks and get him some nice brandy etc. 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 7:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: .... |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by cassyrooy(m): 7:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:See how you women cause trouble unnecessarily? The young man came to formally introduce himself but rather than assess him, properly know his intentions and plans that's welled up in his heart you people are busy looking under his palm to know what he brought, probably to know whether it's cheap or expensive. If I be that guy, I'll simply walk out of this entire thing. Person bring him esteemed self una no want am, na gifts and salary for visitation una dey look for. Old for your papa house na. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by EmekaBlue(m): 7:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
He never enter family full time..the sign of responsibilities from wife family is already showing. Na waa o...Money ehn 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by brightalo1010: 7:09pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:I thought Bible said it is not about giving it is rather about the heart in which you gave the gift? What if his heart told him not to give anything to her at that particular day? 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Bennysam: 7:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:First what do you mean he came empty handed? What did your mom want him to come with? You and your mom need a change of thinking 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by bdon123(m): 7:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:U obviously a hungry per including ur mom. How dare u ask him why he didnt bring something. Is it becos of wat u n ur mom will get frm him u are seeing him? This is too immature. His right to move on becos no man likes a woman who her mother can control like that. U obviously should hav queried ur mom on why she is expecting material thing frm ur finacee 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Commotfornigeri: 7:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: That's where you FAILED! It's not everything about relationship that should be quarrel. Why should you be unhappy with him? You can say, "babe, next time dont forget to bring gift" It doesnt mean you should become unhappy or start expressing displeasure. A gift is courteous, not your mother's right. And you have no right to take it personally. I wish you both success as you navigate this one. But, please, small things should not make you unhappy and have you start frowning. Learn to communicate the right way like a happy person. YOur unhappiness would be blackmail. 11 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by iyababs: 7:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
You shouldn't have hung the phone up on him,that's very insulting.You need to work on your emotional intelligence. 10 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by YorubaPrince: 7:10pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
thatigboman: Baba, God bless you, I swear! You too much! 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by UnBanEbenezer(f): 7:11pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hathor5:was your account hacked? Surprised this is coming from you |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by LadySarah: 7:11pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
The first time my husband then fiance visited he brought nothing and my mom never brought the issue up. All their discussion was centered on his character as a person. As it stands he's my moms favorite in-law when it comes to gifts which I have never solicited on her behalf. I'm always the last to know. please don't loose a good man cos of frivolities. Ezigbo Di Di uko! Funny though, I'm just remembering it now.let me go and ask him for African culture first time gift. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Bennysam: 7:11pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:What he said is truth but he didn’t present it well , call your boyfriend and apologize to him 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by MakyavelitheDon(m): 7:12pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: After seeing the way you replied some people here on nairaland and after saying you hung up on your future husband it's shows me some things about you 1. You lack grace 2. You're Ill mannered and Ill tempered 3. You have your priorities completely twisted and you have no idea what marriage is about 4. Youre pompous and arrogant I can go on but let me peg it there. Now that your mother had used her witchcraft to truncate your marriage plans let her go and bring husband from inside the river for you. I give that guy kudos for taking off... Both you and your mother don't seem like people a reasonable guy would wanna spend his life connected to 12 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Whois(m): 7:12pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
@Op Entitlement mentality kee you there 9 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BusinessCity: 7:12pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hathor5: Wrong. Flawed perspective. The guy is wrong. Ladies stop being stvpid. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by YorubaPrince: 7:12pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Na lie joor... You and ur mama na leech, parasite remora-fish ect... Craze dey worry una head. Just imagine.. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Banter1(m): 7:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Are you sure you're okay? so because your fiance visited your mum without buying her a gift, is now threatening your relationship with her? what if she got no money to buy her nothing at the time of visiting, did you consider that? Please don't provoke me o. 7 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by praktikals3: 7:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
mogbolade43693:Even as husband, there are times one would be broke. I doubt if she s sensible enough to know that her mother, if not checked, can ruin her conjugal home 10 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by UnBanEbenezer(f): 7:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
DontBullshitMe:chai be nice mbok |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by DarkJeddi(m): 7:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Leave all these talk.. Bringing gifts to her is not an obligation.. He is as yet nothing to her.. Even if she expected something,that he didn't bring anything shouldn't have devolved to World War 3.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ranksz: 7:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
You didn't tell us if that was the first time he's visiting or if he is a regular visitor nor did you tell us how close he is to the family. That would have helped give a better analysis. If he is not a regular visitor then it's very wrong and disrespectful, if he is a regular visitor then you can't blame him 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by tommy589(m): 7:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Thank you jare. An age long tradition of bearing gifts is now perceived differently Even oyinbo visiting will come with gift, even if it is wine Or bouquet of flower 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 7:13pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Shurup bros...you are not the only igbo here...its not a must to give gifts if you dont deem it fit...and they are not yet his in-laws yet...250# bread should not make the mum angry 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by jaxxy(m): 7:14pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Are. U thinking rationally at all?? Is that the 1st and last time he will be visiting?? So why the harassment? It may have been unplanned or unintentional. Whatever the case u should have heard him out properly b4 being rude to him especially since u were not around urself. Apologize and hear him out fully. I for one like to give bt I’m not very ceremonious so I may not put certain formalities in mind unless reminded or properly planned for. I very laid back. Good and simple communication is key. 2 Likes |
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