Trayceey:
My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around. When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink. Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up. Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

Ordinary mehn that hooked me up in getting properties in a location to buy each time I go there I take bread along and buy wine. It's not entitlement mentality. He was wrong and won't obey traditional values if he's accepted.


Check through out scripture all old testament patriarch when attending to elders or persons in positions of prestige, they take along bread, fruit and wine as a sign of respect.

Examples

David
Abraham melchizedek
Lot and the angels


It goes on and on


That he even knew he was going there before he left home and then went empty handed shows you what you'll be getting in future.


You've not met your man.


If you want to test it. Go to his mum, take nothing along, go alone. And when you get there don't do chores just talk and go back home. It's only then he'll be smart enough to reflect and rethink.

Hunger bad

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

sorry to say, but your mother is very mad. But for u, i have nothing to say to u

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

It shouldn't cause problems although it will be nice if he come around with something, please repackage again if you luv him and put a call across, gifts must not be a reason for rtship breakup.

I hope your love for him is not based on money

JovialJune:



Reason why I want it on FP, I don't know why lalasticlala doesn't want to do the needful.

It is very easy to tell those who are troubled in their personal lives. Those who are unhappy.
You can tell by how they rejoice and enjoy other people's misunderstandings and misfortune.

No matter who they say they are or what they say they have, in reality, it's all just an illusion. A farce!

Our Naija single ladies are in big trouble oh, redpill don reach this level too


Wahala for Naija lady weh never marry as list of qualities required from suitors continue to grow longer

If this story is true, i will say your mother is a true definition of materialism. And as for you, i am not sure if you are really mature enough and ready for marriage.

donbachi:
Dis is the problem,with many relationships in nigeria..ur mum was expecting him to come with big bread,milo and milk.ur mum acted wrongly.dis is just a boyfriend and not ur husband.

even if he's the husband, he's not supposed to be coming to her In Law's house with "full hands" na, so person wey no get money no fit greet him in-law again?
If I were the guy I would just japa now because I'm not married yet you are expecting full hand what if I come marry you ni? That means na me go Dey pay your siblings school fees, your mumsy church levy and etc

Miarose:
you and your mother are too hungry. Respect and courtesy >> gift.

You are a fool.
Even if he is not going to marry the babe , how much is a bottle of non alcoholic wine.
You are seeing an elderly Person for the first time. What did he go there to discuss with the woman.

My question is "is it the first time he is visiting your family"??

donbachi:
Dis is the problem,with many relationships in nigeria..ur mum was expecting him to come with big bread,milo and milk.ur mum acted wrongly.dis is just a boyfriend and not ur husband.

I swear even if I'm a husband I can do that. Its nonsense

Does he owe your mother anything? Africans are just somehow. The likes of you are one of the reasons many men do not want to marry.

bjprodint:
aunty,this issue to worth d fight.what if ur man no get money 2 buy anything 4 her make e go collect credit?.pls go and visit ur man,settle with him then use ur money 2 buy things and give ur mum,tell her its from ur man.thats if u love the man and want things to work out.

Was he pointed a gun and forced to go. You don't go to your in laws empty handed. The Bible says don't go to the prophet empty handed. It's the same thing. Tricky tee went to Bayelsa governor empty handed, Nenyi took a gift along, did you notice the different reception they got? A man's gift makes way for him.

GayPontiff:




E dey pain me pass say all these rubbish is given with the excuse that we are Africans and gift must be presented. Who enacted that stupid law?

God punish every idiiiiot that keeps dragging this race backward with their backwardness.

The guy should treat them with a ten ft pole onwards.
They don't deserve him at all.

"We are Africans"... Look at where we are...

Trayceey:
that's your family

Are you sure the problem was him visiting empty handed or him not dropping any money when leaving?

Fact! When the foundation of a relationship is laid on materialism, it will definitely end is problems.

Miarose:
you and your mother are too hungry. Respect and courtesy >> gift.

Mariangeles:


We are Africans. Let us be honest with ourselves.

A man going alone to visit his would-be mother in-law empty handed is a red flag. Something to worry about.
What was the purpose of the visit?
Even as a female, it is still wrong to go visit the mother of the man you're going to marry empty handed.

Even if it is 100naira orange or watermelon for 200.

Smoke Mali kush & you won't hear
All these girls em, a new addiction to smoking jumbo sized Mali kush will be so good for your brain development
Why will you call him to ask why he came empty handed... Did you give him money to keep
You're supposed to educate your mom calmly that times have changed... In the present world relationship/ marriage is 50-50 ok

I hope your fiancee sees this comment
My Advice to him, is to run
Go & hustle...
No kill yourself just to impress
There's no where it's written a visitor must always present gift to his host

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

Mariangeles:


We are Africans. Let us be honest with ourselves.

A man going alone to visit his would-be mother in-law empty handed is a red flag. Something to worry about.
What was the purpose of the visit?
Even as a female, it is still wrong to go visit the mother of the man you're going to marry empty handed.

Which African law said boyfriend must give his girlfriend's mama money when he visits her?

Chujor1634:
I'm just glad the guy has left with the vibe you and your mum gave him, go and look for another guy if you think it's easy to find a man who is willing to come and see your family. i can beat my chest that you must have visited his family severally and you never gave anyone of them anything...….Nonsense

Am telling you. The guy just dodged a bullet.
The mother even complained about the drink she bought the guy. Chai!

We Africans nor try o. African men are really trying. Many Labour lifelong with nothing to show for it. They spend on relatives and inlaws yet nobody appreciates it.

The same women who say we are Africans now are those who say we are backward when we expect women to do the traditional stuff at home. Suddenly the women become European.

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

My dear, be ready to read comments from kids that are still being cared for on this matter.
How much is a bottle of non alcoholic wine that I could not buy, and he could still sit and drink there.
Sorry that boy is not serious , if he continues arguing about the subject, know thats the first pointer that he isn't ready.
Even if you both are not dating, he should still get her something no matter how small

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

I wish your fiance reads the supposed hand writing on the wall.

I think he should have bought something no matter how small. Aside being Africans, the western word also does same. Non of my American or European or even South African friends will do that, they always go with something.

Some of us, in a bid to sound western, we sound highly stupid because the Westerners you are trying to copy will always go with something when visiting, no matter how small.

Even if your inlaws are the Bill gates, Go with something, a flower, a bottle of wine, a book..... Its just courtesy not hunger.

majola:
If this story is true, i will say your mother is a true definition of materialism. And as for you, i am not sure if you are really mature enough and ready for marriage.

So buying 500 naira bread and one bottle of eva wine is materialistic. Na wa oo. Abi na lack of money dey cause this kin reasoning?

To me it seems u ain`t mature

DEAD

TransAtlanticEx:
Are you sure you really wanna do this?
Cos I'm ready when you are.
Feed me and my family( a whole my family ooo) for ages yet your mama dey want kill herself say your fiance no buy bread for am?.
Why not use that money weh you want use am feed me and my generation buy your mama provisions keep for house na
And somehow its from this miserly,miserable existence that you wanna feed my family(really rich ) from?
My eldest sister got married in 2004,in 2003 when the man came for introduction,he wore shorts and was empty handed.
You know why?There was nothing he could bring that we don't have and he knew it
What you could have done sef to even cover your bf is send some money to your thirsty mom and claim your bf sent it,but instead you fought with him over it,maybe because you and your mama don plan as una go share the stipends weh the guy suppose bring,
Yet a bottom feeder like you wants to feed my generation?

Mariangeles:


We are Africans. Let us be honest with ourselves.

A man going alone to visit his would-be mother in-law empty handed is a red flag. Something to worry about.
What was the purpose of the visit?
Even as a female, it is still wrong to go visit the mother of the man you're going to marry empty handed.

Bro oyinbo people give gifts too , don't mind those kids saying trash

Trayceey:
I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship

My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around.

When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink.

Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up.

Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

REDFLAG....
He wasn’t supposed to argue with you. All he needed to do was to apologize to you and your mom but he couldn’t do that... That’s the REDFLAG

TransAtlanticEx:
Are you sure you really wanna do this?
Cos I'm ready when you are.
Feed me and my family( a whole my family ooo) for ages yet your mama dey want kill herself say your fiance no buy bread for am?.
Why not use that money weh you want use am feed me and my generation buy your mama provisions keep for house na
And somehow its from this miserly,miserable existence that you wanna feed my family(really rich ) from?
My eldest sister got married in 2004,in 2003 when the man came for introduction,he wore shorts and was empty handed.
You know why?There was nothing he could bring that we don't have and he knew it
What you could have done sef to even cover your bf is send some money to your thirsty mom and claim your bf sent it,but instead you fought with him over it,maybe because you and your mama don plan as una go share the stipends weh the guy suppose bring,
Yet a bottom feeder like you wants to feed my generation?

very very funny reply .She will be in sefiaaaa pain now.Killer Reply