what are your views? my cousin is marrying a ex christian woman on monday and she reverted few months ago but her family opposed this and refuse to have anything to do with her or her marriage, her brothers and uncles have threatened to cause damage to my cousin and his property i just got a call that her family has even threatened to come to our home town to disrupt the marriage

if you are in this situation would you revert, would you avoid such a relationship in all

if you are in this situation would you revert, would you avoid such a relationship in all 

 
I would only avoid the relationship if the other party begins to ask me to convert to his or her religion or school of thought.
As long as he or she practices her philosophy in his or her own corner of the house or without bothering me, we are cool.
Convert or revert to what?
If Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, Mohammed or Ghenghis Khan were to all be in the same room singing 'kumbaya'. . . I ain't reverting or converting to no shiaaate!
I see that as a sign of weakness.
Because of a poohsie or a de-ek?
Heavens forbid!

I would not go to all that length to disrupt this and that. The family members should respect their wishes and let them be. Jobless peeps!
Even if I would NEVER do such a thing as convert to another religion because of another human being OR animal. . .free world.
All a matter of choice for any individual which MUST be respected.

Truth be told,religion and ethnicity are major considerations in marriage atleast according to NIgeria standards.

i agree, even more religion

~Bluetooth:

Truth be told,religion and ethnicity are major considerations in marriage atleast according to NIgeria standards.

i'm sure you belong to a religion, even if you are atheist you will meet alot of people who don't follow what you follow, its just the way it is and plus we all have to make decisions if you are christian and your wife is atheist you'd obviously care what your children will be unless you don't then you are a no person

Blazay:


Convert or revert to what?
If Jesus. Buddha, Krishna, Mohammed or Ghenghis Khan were to all be in the same room singing 'kumbaya'. . . I ain't reverting or converting to no shiaaate!
I see that as a sign of weakness.
Because of a poohsie or a de-ek?
Heavens forbid!

I would not go to all that length to disrupt this and that. The family members should respect their wishes and let them be. Jobless peeps!
Even if I would NEVER do such a thing as convert to another religion because of another human being OR animal. . .free world.
All matter of choice for any individual which MUST be respected.

namfav:

i'm sure you belong to a religion, even if you are atheist you will meet alot of people who don't follow what you follow, its just the way it is and plus we all have to make decisions if you are christian and your wife is atheist you'd obviously care what your children will be unless you don't then you are a no person

I am a free-thinking agnostic. Not an atheist.
I really do not care what my children believe or worship.
They have been exposed to ALL schools of thought.
As long as they learn to use their minds and not follow blindly. . . I have done my job.
God can do his or hers.
Not my business.
Every man and woman for himself or herself.


I nor dey for 'follow-follow' club!

Blazay:

I am a free-thinking agnostic. Not an atheist.
I really do not care what my children believe or worship.
They have been exposed to ALL schoos of thoughts.
As long as the learn to use their minds and not follow blindly. . . I have done my job.
God can do his or hers.
Not my business.
Every man and woman for himself or herself


I nor dey for 'follow-follow' club!

i pity your children

Blazay:

I am a free-thinking agnostic. Not an atheist.
I really do not care what my children believe or worship.
They have been exposed to ALL schoos of thoughts.
As long as the learn to use their minds and not follow blindly. . . I have done my job.
God can do his or hers.
Not my business.
Every man and woman for himself or herself


I nor dey for 'follow-follow' club!

you have every right to express your feelings but did consider your partner when typing this ?

namfav:

i pity your children

Me too!
Thank God they are still alive and all A students with brains not dunces like yours!

~Bluetooth:

you have every right to express your feelings but did consider your partner when typing this ?

The reason we are still married and without coming to NL to look for a spouse or get married to an online recycled 'partner'.

Blazay:

Me too!
Thank God they are still alive and all A students with brains not dunces like yours!

breathing is a right the same for having a brain

namfav:

i pity your children

Pity them that what?

@Blazay, nothing like a free thinker. you really do need GOD if you don't realise that now, you will someday.
If you are really a parent, your comments are way too irresponsible.

Blazay:

I am a free-thinking agnostic. Not an atheist.
I really do not care what my children believe or worship.
They have been exposed to ALL schools of thought.
As long as the learn to use their minds and not follow blindly. . . I have done my job.
God can do his or hers.
Not my business.
Every man and woman for himself or herself


I nor dey for 'follow-follow' club!

orbaxy:

@Blazay, nothing like a free thinker. you really do need GOD if you don't realise that now, you will someday.
If you are really a parent, your comments are way too irresponsible.

Need God for what?

What happens if you do not have God?

Where do you buy, see or get God?

Sagamite:

Pity them that what?

for having a parent that does not care what their children choose

namfav:

for having a parent that does not care what their children choose

If he didn't care, he wouldn't have exposed them to such information that he did, but he respects their views.

coming from a mixed religious background, it's great asset in life, really, no differences, finished the quaran by 10, joined xtainity by 17, I will still take my kid to my father to teach him the ways of islam, and still expose him to xtianity, that's the only way he can understand the essence of perspective, and that, everything in life is all about the PERSPECTIVE, and not really what you BELIEVE,

damola1:

If he didn't care, he wouldn't have exposed them to such information that he did,  but he respects their views.

coming from a mixed religious background, it's great asset in life,  really,  no differences, finished the quaran by 10, joined xtainity by 17,  I will still take my kid to my father to teach him the ways of islam, and still expose him to xtianity,  that's the only way he can understand the essence of perspective,  and that,  everything in life is all about the PERSPECTIVE,  and not really what you BELIEVE,

Good job!
Thank God for civilized peeps on this thread!
In "phat", lemme quote it again.

damola1:

If he didn't care, he wouldn't have exposed them to such information that he did,  but he respects their views.
coming from a mixed religious background, it's great asset in life,  really,  no differences, finished the quaran by 10, joined xtainity by 17,  I will still take my kid to my father to teach him the ways of islam, and still expose him to xtianity,  that's the only way he can understand the essence of perspective,  and that,  everything in life is all about the PERSPECTIVE,  and not really what you BELIEVE,

You said you don't need Jesus,please you are making a hell of mistakes.accept Jesus today and your life and situation will not remain the same.Get a copy of the Holy Bible,read and hold on to what the bible teaches.may God minister to you as you make attempt to draw close to Him-amen

Thank you Prophet Jehoshaphet!

Julbu:

You said you don't need Jesus,please you are making a hell of mistakes.accept Jesus today and your life and situation will not remain the same.Get a copy of the Holy Bible,read and hold on to what the bible teaches.may God minister to you as you make attempt to draw close to Him-amen

if only you can move mountain for me to see, preach and pray on brother Jero

I'm not super religious myself, and have dated several non-Christians before.

If you aren't that religious, then probably not a big deal. But if you are passionate about religion, or later on down the line become passionate, it might cause problems in the future.

As far as marriage goes, I think it is more convenient/practical/less annoying to marry someone who shares the same religion as you. But for me personally, if the choice is an ugly, poor, mean Christian woman versus a beautiful, rich, kind Hindu/atheist woman, I'll probably pick the latter

I dunno, just my opinion on the matter. Though my parents strongly disagree with my beliefs on this subject

by saying inter-religious marriages, i mean a situation where one of the couple is fully practises a religion and the other doesn't practise any or practise another religion, and i can tell you cantegorically that it doesn't work, just forget it!!! both parties, most of the times, are just tolerating each other

Fashola and tinubu are muslems but their beloved wives are christians.this is rampant in yoruba societies,what maters is compatibility not religious belief.my mother just converted to christianity hence my relatives are muslems

Blazay:

Good job!
Thank God for civilized peeps on this thread!
In "phat", lemme quote it again.

Civilized? did you say civilized? This must be a joke right? dude there's nothing personal to it but it will give me a great deal of joy to size you up and see how "civilized" you're.
i wont give a smoking sh.it on the beta-kappa thing cos we've been there done that.
I bet you're part of the class of people that say spirits don't exist. Think again.

I honestly wish to respect your view but "BROS" without GOD life sucks.
I ain't hyper-religious but i know the cards.

@OP
Its possible to co-habit peacefully with different people who share different belief.
my girlfriend is Indonesian and she's a moslem. We're together and we're happy but i bet you (if you're a christain) the moral responsibility is yours to guide the other partner aright in a most respectable manner. C'mon peeps, christains have fundamental belief so does moslems. THESE BELIEFS ARE LIKE WATER AND OIL THEY DON'T MIX.
In as much as tolerance is great but trust me, under the same roof, compromise will visit someday.
Better to align your relationship with peeps of same religious belief. Why get yourself the stress?


Am OUT!!!!

armyofone:

if only you can move mountain for me to see, preach and pray on brother Jero

How we go do our own now?

orbaxy:

@Blazay, nothing like a free thinker.[b] you really do need GOD if you don't realise that now, you will someday.[/b]If you are really a parent, your comments are way too irresponsible.

orbaxy:

Civilized? did you say civilized? This must be a joke right? dude there's nothing personal to it but it will give me a great deal of joy to size you up and see how "civilized" you're.
i wont give a smoking sh.it on the beta-kappa thing cos we've been there done that.
I bet you're part of the class of people that say spirits don't exist. Think again.

I honestly wish to respect your view but "BROS" without GOD life sucks.[/b]I ain't hyper-religious but i know the cards.

@OP
[b]Its possible to co-habit peacefully with different people who share different belief.
my girlfriend is Indonesian and she's a moslem. We're together and we're happy but i bet you (if you're a christain) the moral responsibility is yours to guide the other partner aright in a most respectable manner. C'mon peeps, christains have fundamental belief so does moslems. THESE BELIEFS ARE LIKE WATER AND OIL THEY DON'T MIX.
In as much as tolerance is great but trust me, under the same roof, compromise will visit someday.
Better to align your relationship with peeps of same religious belief. Why get yourself the stress?
Am OUT!!!!

Who is this STARK illiterate?

o boy na no go area o

orbaxy:

Civilized? did you say civilized? This must be a joke right? dude there's nothing personal to it but it will give me a great deal of joy to size you up and see how "civilized" you're.
i wont give a smoking sh.it on the beta-kappa thing cos we've been there done that.
I bet you're part of the class of people that say spirits don't exist. Think again.

I honestly wish to respect your view but [b]"BROS" [/b]without GOD life sucks.
I ain't hyper-religious but i know the cards.

@OP
Its possible to co-habit peacefully with different people who share different belief.
my girlfriend is Indonesian and she's a moslem. We're together and we're happy but i bet you (if you're a christain) the moral responsibility is yours to guide the other partner aright in a most respectable manner. C'mon peeps, christains have fundamental belief so does moslems. THESE BELIEFS ARE LIKE WATER AND OIL THEY DON'T MIX.
In as much as tolerance is great but trust me, under the same roof, compromise will visit someday.
Better to align your relationship with peeps of same religious belief. Why get yourself the stress?


Am OUT!!!!

Errrm . . . . actually, it's a she!

namfav:

what are your views? my cousin is marrying a ex christian woman on monday and she reverted few months ago but her family opposed this and refuse to have anything to do with her or her marriage, her brothers and uncles have threatened to cause damage to my cousin and his property i just got a call that her family has even threatened to come to our home town to disrupt the marriage

if you are in this situation would you revert, would you avoid such a relationship in all

I've always believed that people should stick tho their own kind. A christian marrying a non-Christan is not a true Christians because the bible expressly teaches to stay away from 'unbelievers' . . . . except the person's intentions is to convert him/her!

I can never marry a con- christian so I stay away from them, no matter how 'attractive' they are!

I know my values and those of my family and I don't intend to destroy them in the name of marriage.

Ujujoan:

Errrm . . . . actually, it's a she!

Mtchewwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!
You have come again?
Which wan consine you?

See this one . . . . did I talk to you

Ujujoan:

See this one . . . . did I talk to you

Looky hia!
Sorry, I do not do 'indirect' speeches or write-ups, pungent with innuendos to address my inferiors. Neither am I in the habit of cowardly 'talking to the wall' when addressing people on or off the cyber airways, no matter how irritating or stoopid. Even if your father owns this website or message board?
Oh, you berra bet your stinking, Igbotic, poohsie that you and your nauseating Igbotic/Ngbatic, ugly gang of ner-do-wells all over NL and beyond berra NOT 'talk' to or address moi!

If you or the other UGLY, boring, man/woman-hungry, polymonikering, jobless, scumbags ESPECIALLY of despereaux-single, cyber-'operatives' are responsible for starting this thread or others I may ACCIDENTALLY feature in on account of your surreptitious, polymonikering moves . . .lemme know and I will GLADLY delete all my posts. As you can see, I do a good job avoiding verminous threads that can ONLY attract the most dense of intellectual 'locusts'-hoard of brain-dead, love-starved, low self-esteemed posters like you and your cursed, LOCAL ilk. Enough of your boolsheet! I am not even gonna cut you any slack or give you an inch to make a bloody nuisance of your bush self around me

Do you understand?

So, who is the 'she' or 'this one'? You phocking, Igbotic Onitsha-market, bush-piglet?
I absolutely cannot stand you. Marra-o-fact. . . .  I HATE YOU!!!!

Reason? There is absolutely NOTHING genuine or wholesome about you. I know. Somethings are just spiritual huh?
So, just mind your business ok?
Directly or indirectly, you may NOT address me as long as you live, or from your grave of IGBOTIC OSUS.
Or, I will physically breaaaaaaaak that your tolo-tolo neck on/off the cyber airways or in your made-in-Ohafia casket of rafia palms!
You meddlesome, gutter snipe and spiritual orphan!!

No one called you into the chatter-logue!
Learn to make your point without butting in, especially where no one solicits your daft opinion!
Learn to mind your gaddem business!
Mama 'O' Seun Jesus' of NL!
Always crawling around NL looking for trouble in your typical 'born-again' fashion.
Miserable Okija witch!
Nor go marry or born one pickin at least!
Ewu!

~Bluetooth:

Truth be told,religion and ethnicity are major considerations in marriage atleast according to NIgeria standards.

na lie o or at least temporarily


When the Guy becomes Governor/Senator/Minister they will all say we are worshiping one God and they are a modern family  

Money, Kudi, Owo, EeGo is a major contribution in naija marriage!!

Ujujoan:

've always believed that people should stick tho their own kind. A christian marrying a non-Christan is not a true Christians because the bible expressly teaches to stay away from 'unbelievers' . . . .  except the person's intentions is to convert him/her!

I can never marry a con- christian so I stay away from them, no matter how 'attractive' they are!

I know my values and those of my family and I don't intend to destroy them in the name of marriage.

I respect this POV. But where in the Bible is this explicitly prohibited?

I try to judge a person's worth on a case-by-case basis, not just on the basis of their religion. I've met Hindus before who are far more upright, kind, humble, honest, etc than your typical churchgoing "Christian." My best friend here is a not-too-religious Hindu, but I'd trust him with (for example) money or the safety of my first-born child over 99% of Christians.

Dude has never let me down, never failed me. Which is more than I can say for more Christians I've interacted with.

ekt_bear:

I respect this POV. But where in the Bible is this explicitly prohibited?

I try to judge a person's worth on a case-by-case basis, not just on the basis of their religion. I've met Hindus before who are far more upright, kind, humble, honest, etc than your typical churchgoing "Christian." My best friend here is a not-to-religious Hindu, but I'd trust him with (for example) money or the safety of my first-born child over 99% of Christians.

It doesn't matter how 'upright' a person is . . . that is left for God to judge.

The bible say the ONLY to get to heaven is through JC. I wonder how someone who doesn't believe in him will manage that.

I'm not very religious, but I remember clearly the aspect of the scripture which says "there is NO connection whatsoever between light (believers) and darkness (unbelievers).

Jesus says "I am the way, the truth and the life, NO ONE comes to the father except through me"!

Those are the core teachings of Christianity.

It makes me wonder what the people marrying non Christians are thinking!