bukatyne:
In secondary school, we called it 'if na me'

I don't think it is a 'woman' problem because I have seen men do same on/offline.

'I wash my wife's car because she deserves it's; 'i cook because it is my hobby'; 'I do XYZ because my spouse deserves it'.

They are all married to the only good men and women in the world so going the extra mile for them or being a little patient is worth it.

Somehow, they 'enjoy' doing all the good things that would continually make their spouses happy. Those things are not 'compulsory', they just 'like' to do them.

They are so plenty here that it makes for comic relief when they goad posters into doing what is wrong while they know (from their previous posts/belief system/situation) that they are taking far more or doing something worse.

This generation also has itchy ears so when you assess the stories they bring or tell and tell them the truth, you become a 'man pleaser'; 'anti-feminist'; 'anti-women'; 'simp'; 'woman wrapper'. Etc.

That's why a Beyonce (a woman who forgave a cheating husband and immediately went on to have twins) would wear a bikini and tell girls they 'rule' the world or to summarize 'the future is female'. And girls would listen and project their inner 'Sasha' whom Beyonce left on stage at home.

Or a Chimamanda who dresses like a Pastor's wife would come out to complain 'girls are told to dress decently or cross their legs while sitting' and women would shout 'power to the ladies'.

Or Cardi B would tell women not to buy more expansive gifts for their men aka buy weed when he gives you flowers while she buys the world and more for her husband/baby daddy.

Like you rightly said, some of the people goading you also want to use you as a guinea pig for their fantasies. 'If Shade or Tunji runs it and it works for them, maybe I would try it'.

I believe anyone matured enough to have a relationship/marriage or attain certain positions must have acquired the required skill set and emotional intelligence to maintain them.

If they don't, they should go and learn.

Pochettino:
We women are heartless

Pochettino:
We women are heartless

JovialJune:
Look at this Op, you brought your youtube link for us to watch just to add to your pocket, used an enticing topic that can tigger emotional reactions, biasness, gender insults, and so on, are you okay?

So because few notable women and others missed it in their advices, means women generally is not to be listened to for advice? Who should we then take advice from? Men? Air? Animals? Who says or authorised a gender as not fit to advice anyone or their fellows? You? Or those who will gloat/already gloating on your topic/thread? Who authorised a paricular gender/species fit to advice? You? Is anyone/human perfect? Are there not wrong/right advices that comes from both genders?

I do not understand the need for some people to paint the female gender bad, in the world of old and now, 99% of men who are world leaders, have/are destroying the world as it is right now, case in point the senile being in this country, silently destroying what is left of naija, but no, y'all have to concern yourselves of anything women, men that have been giving advices from the time of old when we were not allowed to voice out, we have seen the outcome in the society, family, and kids, look how nice and glorious naija is o.....nonsense.

All of you will as usual, vent, then log out and face your daily lives, las las.

Pochettino:
We women are heartless

JovialJune:
Look at this Op, you brought your youtube link for us to watch just to add to your pocket, used an enticing topic that can tigger emotional reactions, biasness, gender insults, and so on, are you okay?

So because few notable women and others missed it in their advices, means women generally is not to be listened to for advice? Who should we then take advice from? Men? Air? Animals? Who says or authorised a gender as not fit to advice anyone or their fellows? You? Or those who will gloat/already gloating on your topic/thread? Who authorised a paricular gender/species fit to advice? You? Is anyone/human perfect? Are there not wrong/right advices that comes from both genders?

I do not understand the need for some people to paint the female gender bad, in the world of old and now, 99% of men who are world leaders, have/are destroying the world as it is right now, case in point the senile being in this country, silently destroying what is left of naija, but no, y'all have to concern yourselves of anything women, men that have been giving advices from the time of old when we were not allowed to voice out, we have seen the outcome in the society, family, and kids, look how nice and glorious naija is o.....nonsense.

All of you will as usual, vent, then log out and face your daily lives, las las.

Mindlog:
Then who should be turned to for advice that enables healthy marriages and less dysfunctional families?

mutter:


I understand but realise I wasn't referring to all women, but just sending out a caution.
Because many women break their homes based on bad advise.
That's why the message is to be cautious.
...

Mindlog:


Since you weren't referring to all women, then it means that the thread title is misleading as it conveys all not some.

In as much as you intend drawing traffic to the Youtube link, note that giving advice that does not nurture healthy relationships in marriages is not gender specific but the personality of the giver of the advice.

Mindlog:


Since you weren't referring to all women, then it means that the thread title is misleading as it conveys all not some.

In as much as you intend drawing traffic to the Youtube link, note that giving advice that does not nurture healthy relationships in marriages is not gender specific but the personality of the giver of the advice.

mutter:
One of the major marriage destroyers is women who give bad advise.
Many homes have been broken by bad advise.
Sadly as a woman I have to admit that women are often home breakers.
I know this video might get me a shit storm from some acclaimed feminists...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtNDX8DKqlw