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am 22 going to be 23 in December.... I've a cousin sister who is been married since 2012 without a child yet... Her husband is actually my uncle childhood friend.... He is very rich and my cousin is happy in her marriage but this guy is not serious... He has pregnated 2 women including my own cousin who was 19 then... He has caused my aunty his wife mother to disowned everyone in the family including us who were innocents ..... She changed her location and phone number... We don't even know where she is only her children knows but they don't tell us ... Imagine a man who only came to my family to cause nothing but trouble and pain... My cousin sister has a 5 years son for him... He takes good care of the boy... His other girlfriend has 2 children for him which is taking care of.... This guy has been disturbing me since I was 19 which I refused...now he told my mum he want to marry me which she has agreed.... My mum and uncle are pressuring me to accept his proposal because of the money they don't want him to spend the money elsewhere... How can I marry my own cousin husband and the same man who caused so much troubles in my family... My mum and uncle doesn't care about what had happened in the past... All the care about is the money... How wil my own cousin feel when she will heard about my marriage with her own husband and what about her mum who disowned us... How will she take this news... I don't want to hurt my cousin but my mum and uncle are on my neck even my grandma has agreed.... I refuse to marry him and my mum says she will disown me... I want to run away from home and go to my dad's house but my step mother is very wicked.... I don't know how to survive with my shameful family.. I hate everything about them... I am working and my salary is 35k I don't know if I will be able to survive on 35k salary... I want to to leave as soon as possible... Note I have a boyfriend who live alone but I don't want to stay with him before marriage.... Please advice me i am depressed...

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Testimony988:
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am 22 going to be 23 in December.... I've a cousin sister who is been married since 2012 without a child yet... Her husband is actually my uncle childhood friend.... He is very rich and my cousin is happy in her marriage but this guy is not serious... He has pregnated 2 women including my own cousin who was 19 then... He has caused my aunty his wife mother to disowned everyone in the family including us who were innocents ..... She changed her location and phone number... We don't even know where she is only her children knows but they don't tell us ... Imagine a man who only came to my family to cause nothing but trouble and pain... My cousin sister has a 5 years son for him... He takes good care of the boy... His other girlfriend has 2 children for him which is taking care of.... This guy has been disturbing me since I was 19 which I refused...now he told my mum he want to marry me which she has agreed.... My mum and uncle are pressuring me to accept his proposal because of the money they don't want him to spend the money elsewhere... How can I marry my own cousin husband and the same man who caused so much troubles in my family... My mum and uncle doesn't care about what had happened in the past... All the care about is the money... How wil my own cousin feel when she will heard about my marriage with her own husband and what about her mum who disowned us... How will she take this news... I don't want to hurt my cousin but my mum and uncle are on my neck even my grandma has agreed.... I refuse to marry him and my mum says she will disown me... I want to run away from home and go to my dad's house but my step mother is very wicked.... I don't know how to survive with my shameful family.. I hate everything about them... I am working and my salary is 35k I don't know if I will be able to survive on 35k salary... I want to to leave as soon as possible... Note I have a boyfriend who live alone but I don't want to stay with him before marriage.... Please advice me i am depressed...

wow!

It's definitely a terrible idea. It's obvious your cousin husband doesn't value marriage.

I know you're under a lot of pressure but please don't make a decision you'll live to regret

What's the guarantee if he marry you, he won't leave you. Don't bow to pressure from family members.

Put yourself in your cousin shoe. It's obvious your family are only after money. They don't care about your happiness.

Be careful.

You will regret it.
Those who pushed you to it will be in their graves by then.Be careful.

What is waiting for you is much more bigger and better than this one.Again, be careful.
You come from a highly irresponsible maternal home.Little wonder you have a step mother.Your father did well.

Is he going to spend 100 million naira?

Do you have any sensible males in your family who can tell the idiot off, OR talk some sense into your mom and grandma?

aroundtheearth:
Do you have any sensible males in your family who can tell the idiot off, OR talk some sense into your mom and grandma?

My uncle is the only male in the family

If i were in your shoes, i will pack my things in the night and go stay at a good friend's place. Note, they friend that nobody in my family knows. I will switch off my phone or get an alternate line to be using. I will disown myself before they disown me. I can't imagine staying in an unhappy marriage all because i want to please my people.

Arrant nonsense

mardis:
If i were in your shoes, i will pack my things in the night and go stay at a good friend's place. Note, they friend that nobody in my family knows. I will switch off my phone or get an alternate line to be using. I will disown myself before they disown me. I can't imagine staying in an unhappy marriage all because i want to please my people.

Arrant nonsense

I don't have any friends who lives alone... I don't want to go far away because of my job and was thinking about renting a room not far away from my workplace and I don't know if I will be able to survive on 35k a month..

Married one cousin
Impregnated the other cousin
Now wants to marry a third cousin.

Not to mention another mistress with 2 kids for him.
And that’s the only ones you guys know. Probably has multitudes of girlfriends littered around.

Smh

I refuse to believe that a single family made up of grown humans can be this stupid.

This is too ridiculous.

cococandy:
Married one cousin
Impregnated the other cousin
Now wants to marry a third cousin.

Not to mention another mistress with 2 kids for him.
And that’s the only ones you guys know. Probably has multitudes of girlfriends littered around.

Smh

My mum and uncle don't care about that... all the care about his money... He is been taking advantages of my family because he knows they are so greedy... I don't blame him but I blame my shameful family

crackhaus:
I refuse to believe that a single family made up of grown humans can be this stupid.

This is too ridiculous.

They are not stupid but lazy... They don't want to hustle only want to depend on the guy when they are not even sure if his money is genuine or not... The want to sell me just because of money.

Testimony988:

They are not stupid but lazy... They don't want to hustle only want to depend on the guy when they are not even sure if his money is genuine or not... The want to sell me just because of money.

Your story is ridiculous, this is what I meant.

But if you want anyone to believe it as you have narrated it, then your family is in fact made up of stupid people after all, not just lazy ones.

discipline yourself, you will survive. If the pressure is too much, find a place, rent a small place and move there. Also explain to your cousin, the man's wife and ask her to help you as you have decided to leave your family because you cannot betray her to marry her husband. if she can rent a small place for you, save and continue from there.

Take your fear to God in prayer and move.

Goodluck.

Well you obviously know better than them so do your best to not become a victim of their greed. There’s no way you can have a happy marriage with that man.

Good luck .

Testimony988:


My mum and uncle don't care about that... all the care about his money... He is been taking advantages of my family because he knows they are so greedy... I don't blame him but I blame my shameful family

Testimony988:


My mum and uncle don't care about that... all the care about his money... He is been taking advantages of my family because he knows they are so greedy... I don't blame him but I blame my shameful family

If you don't mind me asking; are you from the north region?

Your story is just too incredible to be true.

Ah! I can't believe this, despite his randy lifestyle. Your family is greedy. Follow your heart. Don't fall prey to their whims and caprices

It must be sad, having shameless shallow people as family. If you mistakenly marry that Man, u will suffer.

mariahAngel:


If you don't mind me asking; are you from the north region?

Your story is just too incredible to be true.

We are not from the North region.... I know my story sound unbelievable but its true... Sometime I wish I had the power to change family from both sides but my mum side is the worst one

They want to use you as the sacrificial lamb. You will just go and be suffering while they will keep pleading with you to endure because you will be nothing to them than their cash cow.

Abeg don't budge. Marriage is a very serious thing to just throw away for greedy family members.

Stand your ground. Move out.

Would advice you leave the house and get your own accommodation. Trust me you can survive with 35k salary as long as your not the extravagant type.

I'm so sorry you have sell out as families, people that don't care about your own happiness, other than their selfish selves. Tell your uncle to give his daughter out to the so called man

You are definitely from the east.Money worshiping people.

Testimony988:
I had created this account for this purpose
am 22 going to be 23 in December.... I've a cousin sister who is been married since 2012 without a child yet... Her husband is actually my uncle childhood friend.... He is very rich and my cousin is happy in her marriage but this guy is not serious... He has pregnated 2 women including my own cousin who was 19 then... He has caused my aunty his wife mother to disowned everyone in the family including us who were innocents ..... She changed her location and phone number... We don't even know where she is only her children knows but they don't tell us ... Imagine a man who only came to my family to cause nothing but trouble and pain... My cousin sister has a 5 years son for him... He takes good care of the boy... His other girlfriend has 2 children for him which is taking care of.... This guy has been disturbing me since I was 19 which I refused...now he told my mum he want to marry me which she has agreed.... My mum and uncle are pressuring me to accept his proposal because of the money they don't want him to spend the money elsewhere... How can I marry my own cousin husband and the same man who caused so much troubles in my family... My mum and uncle doesn't care about what had happened in the past... All the care about is the money... How wil my own cousin feel when she will heard about my marriage with her own husband and what about her mum who disowned us... How will she take this news... I don't want to hurt my cousin but my mum and uncle are on my neck even my grandma has agreed.... I refuse to marry him and my mum says she will disown me... I want to run away from home and go to my dad's house but my step mother is very wicked.... I don't know how to survive with my shameful family.. I hate everything about them... I am working and my salary is 35k I don't know if I will be able to survive on 35k salary... I want to to leave as soon as possible... Note I have a boyfriend who live alone but I don't want to stay with him before marriage.... Please advice me i am depressed...

be wise make your own demand and conditions if your family keeps putting pressure on you, tell them you want assurance for you to agree that you will open a fix deposit account and he should transfer 200m into it..

These are Ibo people am sure

Is the man as rich as elon musk?. You are from a greedy family

na this kind women, mosdii see plenty and he came to the conclusion that naija ladies are useless...... @ OP, u should be able to manage 35k now, is transportation that expensive in ur area?