Draslo:

You guys are actually taking her seriously? Any 20 year old girl in Nigeria today will only Bleep a much older dick for financial gain. They have guys between 20-30 they're heavily crushing and lusting on.

You are somehow right but how many of these guys are ready to settle down,most in that age group are still hustling

Main issue isn't only the age, managing step children along with the ones she will have, is also an issue, it's not as easy as she thinks, just because they don't live with their dad today, does not mean they will not be coming home in future. Anyway, with wisdom and maturity your friend will definitely cope, I wish her well.

Zzor:
You are right because the dad don't want to hear something of such,main issue is that age difference but his appearance does not reflect at all in his age,you will think he's in his 30's

Zzor:
Are you sure?at 40 he'll be 64

A woman at 40 will be looking mature already so there will be no difference

LilMissFavvy:
Main issue isn't only the age, managing step children along with the ones she will have, is also an issue, it's not as easy as she thinks, just because they don't live with their dad today, does not mean they will not be coming home in future. Anyway, with wisdom and maturity your friend will definitely cope, I wish her well.

Seriously I'm not in support either but its like she's somehow already attracted to the man

Zzor:
You are somehow right but how many of these guys are ready to settle down,most in that age group are still hustling

Zzor go abeg. Assuming your story is real, are you trying to tell me your friend is really ready to settle down already and the man in question, how long ago did his wife die? One year? Three years? Five years?

Rest abeg

Draslo:

Zzor go abeg. Assuming your story is real, are you trying to tell me your friend is really ready to settle down already and the man in question, how long ago did his wife die? One year? Three years? Five years?

Rest abeg

I swear with everything it's real but I really don't know how long the wife died

Zzor:
I swear with everything it's real but I really don't know how long the wife died

Okay if you say so. Tell your friend it will end in premium tears. Even if he satisfies her with everything in the world, she'll still go and fuckkkkk another person. Fact!

Draslo:

Okay if you say so. Tell your friend it will end in premium tears. Even if he satisfies her with everything in the world, she'll still go and fuckkkkk another person. Fact!

You already assume she's promiscuous which is untrue but can't a 44yrd old man satisfy a lady of that age or you talking based on the long term.I secretly reasoned it too sha but can't really relate it with her

Zzor:
I swear with everything it's real but I really don't know how long the wife died

Why are you so bothered than your friend? If this your story is true, then tell your friend to run away and concentrate on something else.


She should be contented with what she have and look at the money involved like a poor gold digging bitch.


Don't quote me.

YourMajesty:
Why are you so bothered than your friend? If this your story is true, then tell your friend to run away and concentrate on something else.


She should be contented with what she have and look at the money involved like a poor gold digging bitch.


Don't quote me.

I'm bothered because she really want my opinion as she does not want to take a decision she will leave to regret

A 44year old man is not that old. If they love each other fine but the problem there will be the children.
Will they accept her?
Will they give her space with their dad?

Now I'm talking from experience. I have dated a widower and yes I wish I ended up with him because he was so humble and loving but I ran without looking back because of above things I posed a question about.

This guy was 40 then, I was 28. But he was so young looking that you could hardly tell and he married early. Though his wife died from complications of childbirth. So we met a year after she died.

Now the problem started with the children. The first son didn't like me no matter how hard I tried. Though the girl was quick to bond but the boy, mba. So my guy said maybe because he feels I'm taking the place of his mother, bla bla. So I tried to ignore.

The little boy that was almost a year from whos birth the mum died can cry for Africa and I get irritated easily by cranky babies.
Whenever my guy wanted to take me out, the children will jump into the back seat and I will end up not having a private time with. Hian!
If we want to go for a walk or be together alone at the veranda, they come and jump on him and be all over him, daddy Daddy daddy... So I'll bring out my phone and be by myself because they won't play with me. Only daddy. Though my guy will be laughing out so loud at me and trying to cheer me up because my countenance has changed but what can he do .It wasn't easy for him too.

All these became overwhelming but the last straw that broke the carmels back was when I began to hear the door to his wifes room opening and closing on it's own. This happened on a day I didn't go to church with them because they were lords choosen members. So I was in his room waiting for them to come back and the door to the room where he kept their wedding pic enlargement started opening and closing. Mehnn.. I just weighed the whole thing and ran.

He called and begged. He even put the children on speaker to beg me but my mind was made up.

I knew I wasn't going to feel like a new wife and enjoy my guy if we eventually marry from the way the children behaved by not giving us space.

If your friend can cope, after weighing all these, fine.if not, let her reconsider. Though a 44year old man is still very young and full of life. Forget all those small children that can't manage a home ranting. They think everything is about sex.

Lastly, they are caring and loving. They will never take you for granted because they know they may never have the opportunity to get a young single lady

Zzor:
I'm bothered because she really want my opinion as she does not want to take a decision she will leave to regret

Give her your opinion, allow take her decision.

You can force a gold digging Camel to the stream, but you can't force that gold digging Camel to drink water.

You've done your part, so excuse yourself.

YourMajesty:
Give her your opinion, allow take her decision.

You can force a gold digging Camel to the stream, but you can't force that gold digging Camel to drink water.

You've done your part, so excuse yourself.

The mom is in full support but the dad was strongly against it and the mom started rallying round people to help convince the dad,my friend even cried and I told her to calm down and not be hasty in taking any decisions,Im also being careful as I don't want to appear as the person who influenced her decision, I know how her mom can be when she wants things to work her way

Zzor:
Please what are the consequences of marrying a man with kid/kids from a previous marriage(widower)? I really want inputs from married women here and anyone with such experience should share please. Now would you advise a 20yr old lady to marry a 44yr old man(widower)with kids(four kids to be precise),real money is involved here lol.This is the current situation of my friend and she's already kind of attracted to the man and he's very handsome,fit and so young looking you wouldn't even know he's 44yrs already,your matured response is highly needed. NOTE:Please romance section e-warriors should stay away,I always come to this section for serious issues,please respect yourselves and please I'm not the person in question. Thanks

How old are his kids? I need to know before i comment.

Zzor:
The mom is in full support but the dad was strongly against it and the mom started rallying round people to help convince the dad,my friend even cried and I told her to calm down and not be hasty in taking any decisions,Im also being careful as I don't want to appear as the person who influenced her decision, I know how her mom can be when she wants things to work her way

Don't you have your troubles to worry about? Or you escort your friend come this life?

Allow take whatever decision she feels it's best for her. Concentrate on your numerous problems.

AsherAmari:
A 44year old man is not that old. If they love each other fine but the problem there will be the children.
Will they accept her?
Will they give her space with their dad?

Now I'm talking from experience. I have dated a widower and yes I wish I ended up with him because he was so humble and loving but I ran without looking back because of above things I posed a question about.

This guy was 40 then, I was 28. But he was so young looking that you could hardly tell and he married early. Though his wife died from complications of childbirth. So we met a year after she died.

Now the problem started with the children. The first son didn't like me no matter how hard I tried. Though the girl was quick to bond but the boy, mba. So my guy said maybe because he feels I'm taking the place of his mother, bla bla. So I tried to ignore.

The little boy that was almost a year from whos birth the mum died can cry for Africa and I get irritated easily by cranky babies.
Whenever my guy wanted to take me out, the children will jump into the back seat and I will end up not having a private time with. Hian!
If we want to go for a walk or be together alone at the veranda, they come and jump on him and be all over him, daddy Daddy daddy... So I'll bring out my phone and be by myself because they won't play with me. Only daddy. Though my guy will be laughing out so loud at me and trying to cheer me up because my countenance has changed but what can he do .It wasn't easy for him too.

All these became overwhelming but the last straw that broke the carmels back was when I began to hear the door to his wifes room opening and closing on it's own. This happened on a day I didn't go to church with them because they were lords choosen members. So I was in his room waiting for them to come back and the door to the room where he kept their wedding pic enlargement started opening and closing. Mehnn.. I just weighed the whole thing and ran.

He called and begged. He even put the children on speaker to beg me but my mind was made up.

I knew I wasn't going to feel like a new wife and enjoy my guy if we eventually marry from the way the children behaved by not giving us space.

If your friend can cope, after weighing all these, fine.if not, let her reconsider. Though a 44year old man is still very young and full of life. Forget all those small children that can't manage a home ranting. They think everything is about sex.

Lastly, they are caring and loving. They will never take you for granted because they know they may never have the opportunity to get a young single lady

wao! thanks for this, I'm not in support but I don't want to be too frontal about it considering her mom's stance. Thanks a lot dear

YourMajesty:
Don't you have your troubles to worry about? Or you escort your friend come this life?

Allow take whatever decision she feels it's best for her. Concentrate on your numerous problems.

lol, how do you know I have numerous problems, I'm an introvert outside here.

AwesomeStormy00:

How old are his kids? I need to know before i comment.

13,10,8 and 6

Zzor:
lol, how do you know I have numerous problems, I'm an introvert outside here.

Enjoy your day.

Zzor:
13,10,8 and 6

Well if they both love each other she should go for it you cant help who you fall love with.

This bloke is 44, does he want another kid or kids? Because guys that age sometimes may not want kid anymore is she willing to love the guy if the guy can't give her kid or impregnate her.

Another thing to look at is the kids they are going to be jealous that someone is coming to take over their mum's position they may make.life hell for her.

She is 20yrs old, does she look 20 or younger? The kids may not see her as a step mum rather a minder or nanny.

She should follow her heart, because you can help who you fall in love with. Average human being do see the problem first etc but everything may end up.perfect for your friend. Good luck to her.

Zzor:
wao! thanks for this, I'm not in support but I don't want to be too frontal about it considering her mom's stance. Thanks a lot dear

You're welcome.

Zzor:
Let me be civil in answering you,the lady's dad is rich too and she has her own money so it's not a case of gold digging or whatever you may be thinking, everything is somehow complicated

what is complicated here?People go into marriages like this to escape poverty. Now you said she has money, and she's not only going to marry her father's age,but a man with kids..Nawa for una shall.

Scary...wat would have cause d closing and opening of door? [quote author=AsherAmari post=100149721]A 44year old man is not that old. If they love each other fine but the problem there will be the children.
Will they accept her?
Will they give her space with their dad?

Now I'm talking from experience. I have dated a widower and yes I wish I ended up with him because he was so humble and loving but I ran without looking back because of above things I posed a question about.

This guy was 40 then, I was 28. But he was so young looking that you could hardly tell and he married early. Though his wife died from complications of childbirth. So we met a year after she died.

Now the problem started with the children. The first son didn't like me no matter how hard I tried. Though the girl was quick to bond but the boy, mba. So my guy said maybe because he feels I'm taking the place of his mother, bla bla. So I tried to ignore.

The little boy that was almost a year from whos birth the mum died can cry for Africa and I get irritated easily by cranky babies.
Whenever my guy wanted to take me out, the children will jump into t

Angelacruz:
Scary...wat would have cause d closing and opening of door?

I can't really say. Very scary.

I was the only one in the whole of the flat and compound. that room was facing the hallway that leads to the Masters bedroom where I was. Even as I was coming out to link the parlor, my head was swelling. Immediately I got out of the hallway and into the sitting room, I dashed outside and sat at the veranda till they came back.

Tins dey dis life...nawooh

AsherAmari:


I can't really say. Very scary.

I was the only one in the whole of the flat and compound. that room was facing the hallway that leads to the Masters bedroom where I was. Even as I was coming out to link the parlor, my head was swelling. Immediately I got out of the hallway and into the sitting room, I dashed outside and sat at the veranda till they came back.

Zzor:
You already assume she's promiscuous which is untrue but can't a 44yrd old man satisfy a lady of that age or you talking based on the long term.I secretly reasoned it too sha but can't really relate it with her

You know it. Long term. She will get bored of him. Fact.

:lol, how do you know I have numerous problems, I'm an introvert outside here. Enjoy your day.

Zzor:
Seriously I'm not in support either but its like she's somehow already attracted to the man

Attracted kwa?She's too young for all that baggage! She's probably just infatuated.

Is she done with school?

marriage is more about companionship to me though with lots of Patience, sacrifices, understanding, maturity. etc

20 years is quite young, can she handle the pressure, the stress and issues that will arise when they're all under one roof. If she is mature enough, why not.

Zzor:
Please what are the consequences of marrying a man with kid/kids from a previous marriage(widower)? I really want inputs from married women here and anyone with such experience should share please. Now would you advise a 20yr old lady to marry a 44yr old man(widower)with kids(four kids to be precise),real money is involved here lol.This is the current situation of my friend and she's already kind of attracted to the man and he's very handsome,fit and so young looking you wouldn't even know he's 44yrs already,your matured response is highly needed. NOTE:Please romance section e-warriors should stay away,I always come to this section for serious issues,please respect yourselves and please I'm not the person in question. Thanks

If she's comfortable,compartible and matured at heart she can go ahead. With the senario you gave I wuld it a shot.

Zzor:
Please what are the consequences of marrying a man with kid/kids from a previous marriage(widower)? I really want inputs from married women here and anyone with such experience should share please. Now would you advise a 20yr old lady to marry a 44yr old man(widower)with kids(four kids to be precise),real money is involved here lol.This is the current situation of my friend and she's already kind of attracted to the man and he's very handsome,fit and so young looking you wouldn't even know he's 44yrs already,your matured response is highly needed. NOTE:Please romance section e-warriors should stay away,I always come to this section for serious issues,please respect yourselves and please I'm not the person in question. Thanks

If she's comfortable,compartible and matured at heart she can go ahead. With the senario you gave I wuld give it a shot.

If they are in love and happy together and she gets along with the kids and they have dated long enough to know something about each other, they should go ahead. But if i were the man, i wouldn't contemplate marriage now with four kids. If i must re-marry, i would wait until the kids are mature, and also go for a mature bride. It's hard to see a woman in marriage who would take care of another woman's kids as if they were hers. She should also remember that she would start having her own kids when married. Hope the money is plenty enough and can be sustained to take care of maybe 8 or more kids in all, otherwise stories will change.