Mariangeles:


For your mind you too get sense abi?

ebonflexy:
I love this girl.
She told me she is an "Ada".
I understand that to mean that she is the first born daughter of her village (Somewhere in Abia state).

She is very beautfiful, hard working and industrious.
If I marry her, what specifically am I to expect in terms of "first daughter" from her village people?

crackhaus:

Excess sense...

Mariangeles:


If you're lucky marry an Ada, you gain not just a wife, but a mother too.
They're special. A whole package.

ebonflexy:


You're a woman so your input is biased.
Scam.

Klass99:


Where is this girl? Today is Tuesday o!

Please come and finish this gist I am interested.

You cannot be lazying from Saturday up till now nah!

Klass99:


Why na? You just dampened my amebo enthusiasm

I'm doing very well, thank you. I hope you are too.

Are you an Ada yourself? You seem too sensible to be one actually.

Klass99:


Lol , I didn't mean they don't have sense.

But from the way the whole Ada concept has been described here (and like you said, it would take one with a mind of her own NOT to bow to undue pressure from her family) I didn't think you were a good fit for the Ada thingy.

crackhaus:
Despite all the accolades showered on these 'Adas' here, I have met and know a few who are nothing but extremely silly, entitled, and very badly-behaved.
This entitled trait is actually quite common with a lot of 'Adas' – this is the part no one likes to talk about.

However, I'm usually of the opinion that people ought to be judged based on their unique individualities, than on what their position in the family "represents".

Mariangeles:
In a desperate bid to shade, they end up not making any sense!

descarado:


Watch some old naija movies.
You will know how first son, first daughter, second son, second daughter etc in that order behaves.

Second sons and daughters are mostly rebellious, jealous and competitive.
3rd are in their own world trying to outdo themselves.
Last is entitled but somehow they surprise people.
As for the first born, they are automatically parents, fiercely protective and somehow arrogant.
Where do you belong?

Klass99:


I honestly had the same issue with the part in bold, while thinking to myself, this is how we groom lazy ass adults, who expect their older and more successful siblings to do things for them as if they are handicapped.

While I understand that as the oldest child in any household, it is not out of place to help provide good guidance and direction for younger siblings, younger siblings are not invalids who need to be catered to or catered for, they should learn to take responsibility for their own lives at an early age, without putting that burden on the eldest child.

I kukuma love my eldest sister and our first born die, she does not tolerate bullshit from any of us and doesn't let herself be used as a crutch by anyone sef. All the while managing to do good and do right by us as a sister.

Kondomatic:


This might look like an advantage but I personally don't like it.


Most Ada do not marry outside their state though.

Kondomatic:
I see it in my mom and it's annoying. It's like the unity in her father's fam is hinged on her, everybody will be doing rubbish and talking nonsense and she will take it all without saying anything. She will be busy making peace here and there. I hate that.

pocohantas:


Me ke? I am always ready for [i]vawulence.

crackhaus:

I am glad I belong to Jesus...

Do you know that song?

Kondomatic:
This country is not structured to accommodate soft people. We are full of shits and it's difficult for women because they're expected to take shits without saying a word simply because they're women.


As if the preconditioning of women by the society is not enough, your own family will start raising you in a way that will enable you to take more shits obediently. Chukwu aju.

I want my daughter to be an eye for eye type of woman. If you treasure your eyes then don't touch her own.


A strong stubborn woman that has sense is always the best


Office wey no get profit. Even when they wan do burial nah Ada and Okpara them dey put everything for head. I no want
You wey I know? I was in Lagos once and wanted to meet but when the person that gave me your address told me your bus stop, I changed my mind. See Pic bellow for the Bus stop name.

cricifixo:
If u marry an ada in most families, be prepared to accomodate the whole members of ur wife's family especially d mum who will always try to seize control of ur home through her.
Not to discourage you op, not all are like dat but majority carries d vote

Klass99:


You had me lol, you see why I said you don't fit the description of an Ada?

Even your own father has seen it, that this one na werey, there is no hinging family unity or sibling care on her.

Kondomatic:
Adas are usually surrounded by responsibilities at a very early age, they're like deputy mothers.
This prepares them for life when they're still very young. Being the first daughter means that their parents raised them with special attention unlike last borns that are raised with past questions.

There's just one disadvantage, most of them take shits from people since they grew up cleaning after their siblings, they tolerate too much.

This might look like an advantage but I personally don't like it.


Most Ada do not marry outside their state though.