Good day nairalanders

There is a very serious issue in our home right now .its about my sister marriage .there is a guy my sis love she cherish this guy a lot because the guy do take care of her and he's financially stable I even shared a good rapport with him and he sometimes give me free money .he also loves my sis a lot and has even proposed to her and my sis said yes she will marry him

But the problem now are my parent they didn't approve the marriage because they are triabalist or should I say triabalistic. The guy is Yoruba and we are Igbo. my parents told mY sis that if she wants to marry she should marry an Igbo guy . I've tried to persuade them yet they still remained opinionated .I don't know what to do else my sis has been crying .pls what should she do now .

First, your sister isn't married.

Second, if she is of age, the court doesn't need your parents consent for them to may.

In addition, if she thinks your parents consent is a big deal, them both of them need be patient and keep talking to your parents. Some would say involve those they respect but I do not subscribe to that.

Lastly, she should take it to the Good she worships in prayers.

your sisters marriage is about to crash like say she don marry already.. oga carry your family problem solve for your family...

Why re ur parents making marriage decisions for ur sister?

Are they the ones going into the marriage?

I'm sure they would start taunting ur sister by the time she reaches 30 and not married yet.


Tell ur parents to better wise up and let her be with who she loves and who loves her..... Ur sister's happiness should be their Paramount concern and not any fking tribe

GboyegaD:
First, your sister isn't married.

Second, if she is of age, the court doesn't need your parents consent for them to may.

In addition, if she thinks your parents consent is a big deal, them both of them need be patient and keep talking to your parents. Some would say involve those they respect but I do not subscribe to that.

Lastly, she should take it to the Good she worships in prayers.

thanks bro I really appreciate

ogashman:
Why re ur parents making marriage decisions for ur sister?

Are they the ones going into the marriage?

I'm sure they would start taunting ur sister by the time she reaches 30 and not married yet.


Tell ur parents to better wise up and let her be with who she loves and who loves her..... Ur sister's happiness should be their Paramount concern and not any fking tribe

that why I've been talking to them I will no relent oo they have to marry beside there is no more time

What an elderly man see from sitting position , climb iroko tree u will not see it

Do u know another Yoruba guy can come they will agree ?

What's he doing for a living , it's not about giving your sister money , what business he is into ?

In your story up there, I laughed when you Said and I quote,
"I have a good rapport with him and he sometimes gives me free money",

Do you have a good rapport with him because he gives you free money

So how come shes married


He just proposed to her na

Tribalism disgust me.

It's her happiness she wants! If I were the one, I'll definitely marry who complements me. They'll have to agree when the bond is too thick to be disagreed.

even shared a good rapport with him and he sometimes give me free money

You need to think twice doing this.

duduade:
So how come shes married


He just proposed to her na

The ‘marriage’ at hand.

blazepascal:
Good day nairalanders

There is a very serious issue in our home right now .its about my sister marriage .there is a guy my sis love she cherish this guy a lot because the guy do take care of her and he's financially stable I even shared a good rapport with him and he sometimes give me free money .he also loves my sis a lot and has even proposed to her and my sis said yes she will marry him

But the problem now are my parent they didn't approve the marriage because they are triabalist or should I say triabalistic. The guy is Yoruba and we are Igbo. my parents told mY sis that if she wants to marry she should marry an Igbo guy . I've tried to persuade them yet they still remained opinionated .I don't know what to do else my sis has been crying .pls what should she do now .

Apart from money, what other value(s) has he shown your parents?

They seem like people not moved by money.

bukatyne:


Apart from money, what other value(s) has he shown your parents?

They seem like people not moved by money.

money is not even the problem my parent are financially stable my dad is a chartered accountant he earns about 200k if I'm correct it seem they dont just like Yoruba tribe

Gone are the days when tribe is a major criteria in choosing who to marry. People now can marry whoever their heart desire irrespective of backgrounds and traditions. Keep talking to them, i'm sure they would understand

My Uncle married from osun state against his parents advice, that marriage is one of the most successful marriage I have ever seen. BTW we are from Anambra

You first have to recuse yourself from the matter because you've been compromised - you're venal. As much as old age doesn't automatically confer wisdom, it's, however, insulting to dismiss your parents opinion outright without dissecting the reason for their objections. But as a typical venal person, you've self-absorbingly concluded that tribalism is the core reason for their objections.

As much as your sister is entitled to her rights to liberty, and by extension has the sole right to choose whom to marry, she shouldn't, however, allow some fickle emotions built on the basis of ephemeral things to becloud her sense of reasoning, the same way she shouldn't allow baseless sentimental opinion of anyone to deprive her an opportunity to marry the right man for herself.

She should simply do what she knows is right under the circumstance, devoid of self-gratification and sentiments and be ready to assume the full responsibility of her choice in the future. It's better to be dead than to live on others opinion, when one is certain of themselves.

1:your sister never marry so no marriage dey crash
2:the fact that he gives you money now does not make him a good person
3:one thing i know and i will obey is never marry without your parents consent no matter how supid you make think their reasons are
4:seek the face of God before you marry anyone because the human mind is deep, very deep.

GboyegaD:
First, your sister isn't married.

Second, if she is of age, the court doesn't need your parents consent for them to may.

In addition, if she thinks your parents consent is a big deal, them both of them need be patient and keep talking to your parents. Some would say involve those they respect but I do not subscribe to that.

Lastly, she should take it to the Good she worships in prayers.

But if it is d man's family that doesn't want to accept the wife. You will start hearing u better listen to your mother advise., what an elder sees while sitting down, don't marry anybody your family isn't in support of bla bla bla. Reverse is d case now and you are saying the lady should marry without her parents consent. Such double standard. I'm not insulting u oo just generalising my post. Thanks

Liposure:
Gone are the days when tribe is a major criteria in choosing who to marry. People now can marry whoever their heart desire irrespective of backgrounds and traditions. Keep talking to them, i'm sure they would understand

OK bro I will continue to do that

Solsix:
My Uncle married from osun state against his parents advice, that marriage is one of the most successful marriage I have ever seen. BTW we are from Anambra

really??

RightToReject:
You first have to recuse yourself from the matter because you've been compromised - you're venal. As much as old age doesn't automatically confer wisdom, it's, however, insulting to dismiss your parents opinion outright without dissecting the reason for their objections. But as a typical venal person, you've self-absorbingly concluded that tribalism is the core reason for their objections. Thank u very much I stick to ur idea

As much as your sister is entitled to her rights to liberty, and by extension has the sole right to choose whom to marry, she shouldn't, however, allow some fickle emotions built on the basis of ephemeral things to becloud her sense of reasoning, the same way she shouldn't allow baseless sentimental opinion of anyone to deprive her an opportunity to marry the right man for herself.

She should simply do what she knows is right under the circumstance, devoid of self-gratification and sentiments and be ready to assume the full responsibility of her choice in the future. It's better to be dead than to live on others opinion, when one is certain of themselves.

thank you very much I stick to your idea

franashi:
1:your sister never marry so no marriage dey crash
2:the fact that he gives you money now does not make him a good person
3:one thing i know and i will obey is never marry without your parents consent no matter how supid you make think their reasons are
4:seek the face of God before you marry anyone because the human mind is deep, very deep.

OK ..noted

franashi:
1:your sister never marry so no marriage dey crash
2:the fact that he gives you money now does not make him a good person
3:one thing i know and i will obey is never marry without your parents consent no matter how supid you make think their reasons are
4:seek the face of God before you marry anyone because the human mind is deep, very deep.

No 3 is plain trash!

Some parents don't care about you. Some parents are too damn selfish. In such cases, marry without their consent.

blazepascal:
Good day nairalanders

There is a very serious issue in our home right now .its about my sister marriage .there is a guy my sis love she cherish this guy a lot because the guy do take care of her and he's financially stable I even shared a good rapport with him and he sometimes give me free money .he also loves my sis a lot and has even proposed to her and my sis said yes she will marry him

But the problem now are my parent they didn't approve the marriage because they are triabalist or should I say triabalistic. The guy is Yoruba and we are Igbo. my parents told mY sis that if she wants to marry she should marry an Igbo guy . I've tried to persuade them yet they still remained opinionated .I don't know what to do else my sis has been crying .pls what should she do now .

it is unfortunate that your parents are bigots but they would be the first to crucify buhari when he appoints a northerner.

jesmond3945:
it is unfortunate that your parents are bigots but they would be the first to crucify buhari when he appoints a northerner.

loI i swear

Icesnow:
But if it is d man's family that doesn't want to accept the wife. You will start hearing u better listen to your mother advise., what an elder sees while sitting down, don't marry anybody your family isn't in support of bla bla bla. Reverse is d case now and you are saying the lady should marry without her parents consent. Such double standard. I'm not insulting u oo just generalising my post. Thanks

Aunty, why generalize on my post? Have you read me write such or you are just excited to quote me?

Ok. And did you see the 'I' there?

Karleb:

Ok
No 3 is plain trash!

Some parents don't care about you. Some parents are too damn selfish. In such cases, marry without their consent.

franashi:
Ok. And did you see the 'I' there?

Doesn't matter. You shouldn't become unhappy to please your parents especially when it's unnecessary.

If you and your sister know what is good for u, u better listen to your parents. Besides u sound like a very young chap who doesn't know Jack about life. What's fascinating you is that he dashes you money.

The truth is that despite your parents being tribalistic, there could still be a yoruba man that your parents will accept, and I don't mean a richer person.

What your parents perceive, you don't know half of it. If she forces her way and goes ahead, she will suffer alone cos she won't have the face to go back to them when it comes crumbling down and you are little brother won't be of help either.

My own is, if you make mistake to marry the wrong person, you will so suffer. I can tell you that for free.

djsjxjfjdisjdjb:
your sisters marriage is about to crash like say she don marry already.. oga carry your family problem solve for your family...

which kind response be that?

Pacesetter2021:
If you and your sister know what is good for u, u better listen to your parents. Besides u sound like a very young chap who doesn't know Jack about life. What's fascinating you is that he dashes you money.

The truth is that despite your parents being tribalistic, there could still be a yoruba man that your parents will accept, and I don't mean a richer person.

What your parents perceive, you don't know half of it. If she forces her way and goes ahead, she will suffer alone cos she won't have the face to go back to them when it comes crumbling down and you are little brother won't be of help either.

My own is, if you make mistake to marry the wrong person, you will so suffer. I can tell you that for free.

So what do u mean she should follow her parent advice

blazepascal:
Good day nairalanders

There is a very serious issue in our home right now .its about my sister marriage .there is a guy my sis love she cherish this guy a lot because the guy do take care of her and he's financially stable I even shared a good rapport with him and he sometimes give me free money .he also loves my sis a lot and has even proposed to her and my sis said yes she will marry him

But the problem now are my parent they didn't approve the marriage because they are triabalist or should I say triabalistic. The guy is Yoruba and we are Igbo. my parents told mY sis that if she wants to marry she should marry an Igbo guy . I've tried to persuade them yet they still remained opinionated .I don't know what to do else my sis has been crying .pls what should she do now .

Your sister is the one involved in this matter

She knows where her happiness is

Your parents are against it because the Yoruba people can marry and keep on to marry another woman so your parents wouldn't want that for your sister

The Ibos do marry too but is not easy to marry another woman while you are are still presently married

Let her calm down and take a decision that will make her life better or mar her future