the first time this question was asked i was not in support of it
but today i am begging to see things differently

men are beginning to see it as they are buying the woman
last night, i was listening to a programme on radio, and a lady said that
her would be husband told her that he has to test what he is going to buy

as a man myself i do not feel comfortable with that statement.
if i were a lady i would quit the relationship.
i do not know what you think.

yes it shud stop because igbo woman r nt gettin husband

Psshhh No I want a deposit in case he leaves me later.

Inked_Nerd:

^^^ Perhaps you should keep a receipt for tax purposes as well

Damn right! at least then he won't leave me empty handed.

Commot for hia wit dis topic. .

Inked_Nerd:


Na wa o!!! So you don be tax refund eh?

Lol I keep replying to you, but I have no idea what we are talking about.

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is a tradition it cant stop nd mind yu bride price is just to show ao committed yur family is nd in yoruba land is nt much even dey return it after payin bt in case of ibo nd hausa i dnt kno,,

@inked paying a bride price is nt mandatory, there many marriage without traditional marriage nd no bride price payed mind yu as far as u agree on engagement or traditional marriage in yoruba land yu we pay it,,,,

Brideprice is just a token sum; in most parts of Anambra and Enugu states, it no more than N4-5k for a university graduate. The real killer is the costs of the various stages of traditional marriage which can be very substantial depending on your taste and financial ability. If you marry a sensible girl from a reasonable family, they would not demand that much from you but only ask the basics - after all they too want their sister to marry and leave her father's house!

Things are even good these days. Nowadays, Igbo traditional marriage in most communities comprises just 3 stages - introduction (iku aka nu uzo/knocking on the door), payment of brideprice (i'me ego nwanyi) and then wine-carrying (igba nkwu nwanyi). In my area, until the early 1990s, it used to consist of up to 7 stages lasting over 2-3 years. By the time, it was over, the suitor would be almost bankrupt. I was told that in the 1950s, it took almost 10 years to complete the wedding ceremonies and some men never even completed until the woman died after living with him for decades and bearing children etc.

The thing is that Igbo families do not traditionally or generally believe in assisting a young man to marry; their thinking is that a young man who cannot afford to foot the wedding costs by himself is not yet able to provide for a family. So he should wait until he is capable even if that means marrying in his 40s.

lepasharon:

yes it shud stop because igbo woman r nt gettin husband

shut up your stinking mouth,bride price in igboland is less than five thousand naira, if you cant afford five thousand naira then you shouldnt be talking about marriage.

african1:

Psshhh No I want a deposit in case he leaves me later.

hehe

I dont think that paying bride price should stop just because some men think that they are buying their wives. It is the mentality of these men that needs to change. Maybe they need to be more educated on this aspect of their culture. I guess society is lacking in preserving our culture and teaching it properly to the younger generations.

I definitely want my husband to pay my bride price not that he is buying me in the literal sense of it. Its more like giving the girls parents a token of appreciation for taking care of her until that point where he takes her away from him.