ogugua88:

Lol.
You’re putting words in my mouth. All I said is that the divorce rate is high lol. I didn’t say divorce is “to be expected no matter the sincerity or trying to make it work in situations where problem arises” lol. People get married because they love each other, but life happens simply. I said it, but that’s not my mentality. I was only trying to debate from a neutral point of view. I never revealed anything about myself in that thread. I only said women should have choice, which they should, and I gave reasons from actual women on other websites and forums who had discussed the same issue. I didn’t do much to support the men too much in that thread because some of them were being verbally abusive and the tradition idea kept arising.

There’s nothing wrong with having a plan B in anything in life. In fact, everyone should, for the fact that no one knows tomorrow. I’m not one of those people who enjoy suffering and then cursing myself, “Oh, if I had known”. My plan B is going to school. I want to be in a relationship and be able to spend plenty of time with my children. At the same time, I want to be able to provide for them. If something happens to my partner or spouse, I can use my plan B to find a job and provide for the family when he can’t. There is never a thing as being over-prepared.

My parents are not divorced actually. They have their ups-and-downs but they’re together. They’re open-minded just as I am.

I said I will change my surname if I decide to marry. I have my own reasons for doing so. The primary reason is not love for my spouse. I won’t be forgetting my plan B. I don’t plan on bailing on anyone for superficial reasons. For everything I do, I put in 500%. If anything is to happen, however, I don’t want be on my backside crying like most divorced women do. All I want to be able to do is pick myself up and move onto the next chapter in life successfully. I don’t see the crime in that.

fmniky:
CHANGE OF NAME IN NEWSPAPER.