ollins:
I Really don't know what to do anymore as I am so tired and frustrated of begging my wife for sex.
Ok,let me try and explain my plight,I have been married to my wife since 2010 and we have been blessed with two lovely boys.
This whole issue of my wife not wanting sex with me started in December last year 2020 when we were watching a documentary about people loosing weight and I told my wife playfully that she needs to loose weight but I regretted the words immediately I said them as she is sensitive about her weight,before then we had no problem whatsoever .
2 days later ,she told me that I made her angry by suggesting to her that she was fat and that she would never ever forgive me .
I immediately apologized that I was only joking but she said she would never ever forgive me,I went down on my knees to apologise but all to no avail,I then enlisted the help of my brother in law and mother in law to beg her for me,I even asked her best friend whom she is very fond of to beg for me but none of them could change her mind.
She then moved out of my room but we still maintained our marriage and House.
Right now she has vowed never to sleep with me,at a stage I started suspecting if she had someone else as she is always on the phone chatting but I have no proof that she is cheating.
I have tried everything I can to apologise to her all to avail,I am thinking of going to her church now to report to her pastor or something (we don't attend the same church).
The most painful thing in all this is that my wife knows I have high libido for sex and she chose that to punish me.
Please advise me on what to do because I am so confused and I can't believe my wife has refused me sex since December last year till now.
I am tired of masturbating,(a married man o,�)I have cried and all that to her and she told me something last night that chilled me to my bones which I am still trying to understand,she told me she can stay without sex for years if she is not interested, please � women in the House,is that possible?for a Married woman
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tolufase:
What baffles me is the inability of your wife to forgive you. This kind of woman might likely stab to you to death if she cut you with another woman. It seems you didn't take charge of your as man right from the onset. This has made your wife to grow wings beyond your control. If all these people you mentioned had begged her and she still remains adamant, I doubt if anyone can change her mind again.

ollins:
I Really don't know what to do anymore as I am so tired and frustrated of begging my wife for sex.
Ok,let me try and explain my plight,I have been married to my wife since 2010 and we have been blessed with two lovely boys.
This whole issue of my wife not wanting sex with me started in December last year 2020 when we were watching a documentary about people loosing weight and I told my wife playfully that she needs to loose weight but I regretted the words immediately I said them as she is sensitive about her weight,before then we had no problem whatsoever .
2 days later ,she told me that I made her angry by suggesting to her that she was fat and that she would never ever forgive me .
I immediately apologized that I was only joking but she said she would never ever forgive me,I went down on my knees to apologise but all to no avail,I then enlisted the help of my brother in law and mother in law to beg her for me,I even asked her best friend whom she is very fond of to beg for me but none of them could change her mind.
She then moved out of my room but we still maintained our marriage and House.
Right now she has vowed never to sleep with me,at a stage I started suspecting if she had someone else as she is always on the phone chatting but I have no proof that she is cheating.
I have tried everything I can to apologise to her all to avail,I am thinking of going to her church now to report to her pastor or something (we don't attend the same church).
The most painful thing in all this is that my wife knows I have high libido for sex and she chose that to punish me.
Please advise me on what to do because I am so confused and I can't believe my wife has refused me sex since December last year till now.
I am tired of masturbating,(a married man o,�)I have cried and all that to her and she told me something last night that chilled me to my bones which I am still trying to understand,she told me she can stay without sex for years if she is not interested, please � women in the House,is that possible?for a Married woman
.


Go mi chat find one olsoho wear condom cure ur conji...life is simple

MightyHand:
Single and no Girlfriend, I can't relate on this

mariahAngel:
https://www.nairaland.com/6613935/wife-cries-husband-starves-sex#102947418

If the woman on the above thread could survive 4yrs without sex, I'm sure you could... After all, so many comments (by men) on that were like Is sex food?

Find a way to pacify your wife for body shaming her and hurting her!
After you killed her confidence, you expect her to sleep with you?

Playfully kor! Playfully ni!

Munzy14:

Heheehehehe....You decided to settle OP with the other thread...


OP is just a sisi man sha......A huge red flag, attending separate church....If husband and wife cannot worship God in the same boat, how will deh fight unforseen circumstances?

How will they even progress?

You mean he killed her confidence by telling her the truth. So, IF her husband doesn't tell her the truth, who will?

This is her husband for good sake..Even girl friends cannot purnish their boyfriends for this.

@Ollins bro quit the reporting, Cut off your attention and affection...Infact channel it to ur kids...And if nothing changes, u know best...Make e no be like na me tell u..

If you are good looking, and earn cool, biko do the needful...you only leave ones...Na man without class, woman go use the play ludo like this...when we have millons of classic babes out there waiting to pick the rope weh cut....

This is where we appreciate side chics...Imagine one, even your wife go naked lye down for bed if she hear your car horn... As you no longer care if her local government deh function...

Munzy14:

Heheehehehe....You decided to settle OP with the other thread...


OP is just a sisi man sha......A huge red flag, attending separate church....If husband and wife cannot worship God in the same boat, how will deh fight unforseen circumstances?

How will they even progress?

You mean he killed her confidence by telling her the truth. So, IF her husband doesn't tell her the truth, who will?

This is her husband for good sake..Even girl friends cannot purnish their boyfriends for this.

@Ollins bro quit the reporting, Cut off your attention and affection...Infact channel it to ur kids...And if nothing changes, u know best...Make e no be like na me tell u..

If you are good looking, and earn cool, biko do the needful...you only leave ones...Na man without class, woman go use the play ludo like this...when we have millons of classic babes out there waiting to pick the rope weh cut....

This is where we appreciate side chics...Imagine one, even your wife go naked lye down for bed if she hear your car horn... As you no longer care if her local government deh function...

mariahAngel:
https://www.nairaland.com/6613935/wife-cries-husband-starves-sex#102947418

If the woman on the above thread could survive 4yrs without sex, I'm sure you could... After all, so many comments (by men) on that were like Is sex food?

Find a way to pacify your wife for body shaming her and hurting her!
After you killed her confidence, you expect her to sleep with you?

Playfully kor! Playfully ni!

mariahAngel:


The truth is most men of this generation no longer respect and value wives, and to be honest, they're not worth stressing over.
At least, going by the comments I read on this forum...

Lizzyangel:


Talker!

Your comment is funny but you're as well hitting the nail on it's head....the man is just a sissy, I felt irritated reading his attitude towards the situation.... it's either the wife is the breadwinner of the house or she's an over-pampered daddy's girl....all this"do you Know who I am? Or who my dad is " ladies.

Shior!! Aya n rin mi Sha!!!

crackhaus:

Lol @body shaming... Wahala be like wetin again

If a husband can't make a comment about his wife's weight (whether jokingly or seriously), who then on God's earth should tell her about her weight?

I hope you're not overweight yourself because we don't understand this your comment on the matter, miss sensitivity.

Two days ago, I made a comment to my SO about her bum and that she needs to start patronizing those women that sell yansh cream.
She responded by sending a picture of penis enlargement cream along with the price, straight to my WhatsApp.

The argument that followed only lasted for about 5mins, everyone has moved on.
Some things really shouldn't matter...

Munzy14:

Is not about the value or respect in this case na, it is a case of a guy being honest with wify, and wify change am for him...The guy gave room for the nonsense from onset.

Ur wife attends a different church, thats rubbish...she go grow more wings..A woman is very fragile, you don't give her soo much freedom because she will be oliver twist, just like you don't build a fortress around her...

Everything is on a medium cost, if not she will abuse it....Even bible is against OP's wife action..If you read proverbs or 1Corinthians 7 gbada wa... chai I know no say I sabi bible o...I thought my sin plenty sef ....

6months no sex for an active OP aru!...Nwaanyi a gbara wicked..OP don beg tire... I can't make any excuse for this kind of wife....Even God no go forgive me if I do.

I am sorry is the most cherished words in life.. If a wife cannot accept it....To hell with her...If she do anyhow, nwoke eweputa ruggedity......Ones a confirmed, always a confirmed....A man should be a man...and not sisi.

Yxwqq:
While you should've been more careful with your words /specifically the delivery of those words [considering you knew it's a sensitive issue for her], punishing you for it for 6-months+, is too much. She should forgive you.

Solution
Words can make or break: the same way you've used words to cause this quarrel is the same way you should use words to fix it. Because telling her you're sorry has not sufficed, tell her how beautiful she is, how good of a mother and wife she is, along with other compliments to make her smile, then start tickling her. Before you know it...