crackhaus:

Lmao...

The man wey go marry you will have a lot of work cut out for him ehn.
If you don't nag him to death, nothing else will be able to kill him in this world.

AngelicDamsel:
Will you be happy if your wife hangs out with her friends till 11pm, all in the name of hangouts. Op, let's face the fact, most women would react the same way your wife did.

What were you expecting? just come home that late and she should pat your back for a job well done.

Hangout, hangout.....Naso e dey start!

Apologize to your wife for such an irresponsible act. You owe her an apology, seriously!

I know many men who respect their wives and would not stay up late for whatever reason. You see them rushing home to honour their matrimonial obligation.

11pm.......... is irresponsible.




That's why small girls slaughter them like chicken.

mariahAngel:

I fit do pass op wife make I no lie

...but I'm reasonable and understanding sha.
If I nag, it's for your own good.

destiny4luv:
My wife called me to know when I will be home because I don't stay out late at most 7:30 or 8:00pm am home, but as at yesterday some minutes past 9:00pm my wife called me to know where I was and when I will be home; I told her am with my pals that I will be coming home late, she can go to bed without waiting up.

Myself and my friends really had good time together, discuss a lot and celebrated each other. And after everything we all parted ways and before I got home was some minutes past 11:00pm thinking my wife will be asleep by then since I told her not to wait up. Lo and behold I got home open the door and saw my wife sitting in the sitting room with so much hanger on her facial expression,

Yxwqq:
Growing up, one of the things I loved most was seeing my Dad hang out with his friends. They would come over to the house, drink beer (lol), talk loudly about sports, Nigerian issues, etc; while my mom would cook lots of food for them to eat. I love seeing men, whether married or single, spend time with each other, gisting or cracking each other up. Men need each other the same way women do.

Left to me, you did nothing wrong, especially if you never stay out past 8pm and you only did this one-time because you were having a get-together with your buddies [whom you rarely get the chance to see due to your busy lives and schedules]. I would be thrilled to see you spend time with your friends after so long.
You should be allowed to have a life.

PlayMaker14:
Always remember the SUPER TV CEO Incase you are thinking something else.

Karleb:
What about we that enters our parent house by 11pm? How are we not being accused of cheating on our parents?

Na the OP Bleep up sha. Nothing wrong with coming home late once a while for a young man, married or not. If you don't do that now, a time is coming you're going to be too old for that.

Rozcol:
You are a confused married man and no responsible man stay out that long for no justifiable reason and expect to be welcomed with an open mind by his wife,you are selfish and manipulative,obviously you wife has fallen deep into your manipulative prowess. Remember Chidinma and Usifos case ooo in case you want to be a sugar daddy.

JovialJune:



Staying out late in your parent's house shows the type of upbringing and home training you had/have.

A married man that stays outside late will one day entertain the thought of having a side hen, fact.

And what you guys can't condone, don't do to others, how will you feel if your wife comes home late every night cos she's hanging out with friends? Won't you at a point have negative thoughts on what they do that late at night? Would you even allow it?

JovialJune:



Staying out late in your parent's house shows the type of upbringing and home training you had/have.

A married man that stays outside late will one day entertain the thought of having a side hen, fact.

And what you guys can't condone, don't do to others, how will you feel if your wife comes home late every night cos she's hanging out with friends? Won't you at a point have negative thoughts on what they do that late at night? Would you even allow it?

mariahAngel:
Op, your wife loves you very much.
No woman who loves her husband will go to sleep while her husband is still out so late at night.
So, however your wife reacted, it was out of love. She was being protective of you.

The moment you came home late to her, she was no longer your wife, but your mother.
If she hadn't scolded you, she wouldn't have been calm, so don't take it to heart.
She loves you very much. And was probably a bit jealous that you chose to stay out so late to hang with friends instead of her, while she missed you.
Did you at least get her something on your way back to pacify her?

destiny4luv:


I brought babique and pepper soup home that's what we ate after resolving our conflicts and made sweet love before going to bed. Marriage is fun when u with ur soul mate, friend and caretaker.

GboyegaD:


How did the society breed insecure people like this? Since when did marriage become a cage. A man that will chat need not come home late to achieve that.

Did you read the post that he came back late this one time?

mariahAngel:


Hahahahhahhahahahahahahahahahaha

Ooooooooooooooooshey!

Karleb:


Your first paragraph shows you are both ignorant and foolish.

There are people who have multiple concubines who don't come home late. I'm talking about both genders here.

Coming home late once a while is okay, so long you have a tangible reason.

Who is stopping you from coming home late?

Many of you who spill fire and brimstone here are obviously not married or not a good fit for marriage.

Karleb:


Your first paragraph shows you are both ignorant and foolish.

There are people who have multiple concubines who don't come home late. I'm talking about both genders here.

Coming home late once a while is okay, so long you have a tangible reason.

Who is stopping you from coming home late?

Many of you who spill fire and brimstone here are obviously not married or not a good fit for marriage.

GboyegaD:


How did the society breed insecure people like this? Since when did marriage become a cage. A man that will chat need not come home late to achieve that.

Did you read the post that he came back late this one time?

JovialJune:



What has insecurity got to do with that? Must you guys stay out late cos you want to have fun with your friends? Can't you limit it to a time that will be suitable and convenient for your spouse and family like at 8pm? Must your fun of drinking, smoking and whatnot be a late hour? Even if a man can cheat regardless of the time, day, or hour, must you prove a baseless point by staying out late? Have fun with your kids and wife, spice it up by going to fun places and vacation with them, or limit your hanging out with your friends to 8pm.

Octopusssy:

The person you're quoting is a spinster who knows how to give detailed analysis on how a marriage should be run. Don't even bother responding to their crap

mariahAngel:
Op, your wife loves you very much.
No woman who loves her husband will go to sleep while her husband is still out so late at night.
So, however your wife reacted, it was out of love. She was being protective of you.

The moment you came home late to her, she was no longer your wife, but your mother.
If she hadn't scolded you, she wouldn't have been calm, so don't take it to heart.
She loves you very much. And was probably a bit jealous that you chose to stay out so late to hang with friends instead of her, while she missed you.
Did you at least get her something on your way back to pacify her?

GboyegaD:


Aunty, marriage has never been a cage and never will. There's no crime in night hangouts irrespective of gender. If my wife and her friends are going to hang out, I will babysit. Marriage is meant to enhance and not stifle life.

Octopusssy:

The person you're quoting is a spinster who knows how to give detailed analysis on how a marriage should be run. Don't even bother responding to their crap

JovialJune:



You are the foolish and ignorant one

Except you want to kid yourself or be smart by quarter, the probability of guys who stay out late having side hens is very much higher than those who don't, what time does the Chidimma/Ataga type come out for their work, during the day?

Fine, make sure you allow your wife have a blissful night life, she deserves it

You that is fit for marriage we've seen how blissful it is for you, you're still squatting with your parents and you have the audacity to yapp about, nsidime.

GboyegaD:


Aunty, marriage has never been a cage and never will. There's no crime in night hangouts irrespective of gender. If my wife and her friends are going to hang out, I will babysit. Marriage is meant to enhance and not stifle life.

Hathor5:


That's my belief too.

Your wife is a lucky woman.

JovialJune:



Uncle, how is not having a night life a cage? Can't you have fun without staying out late?

Hathor5:


Exactly! It is also unhealthy to place all your needs on one person, your spouse. There are things a woman/man can't give you. There is something called girl's talk for a reason. Some of the things me and my girls like to do is not what our spouses enjoy and vice versa.

Hathor5:

How can I like this part 10 times?

The wife has a responsible spouse and can't be happy for him when he spends time with his buddies once in a while? How insecure can you be and how empty is your own life?

I would miss single life too if I were OP.

Yxwqq:
Right on. That's why 'healthy space' is one of the keys to a lasting relationship or marriage. In marriage, there's a joint-identity that occurs, which is expected, but at the same time it's healthy for each individual to have their own hobbies, friends, and time for self. It encourages each to maintain their own sense of identity [something you're not supposed to lose after marriage] while still being a couple, and it fosters independence and strength rather than neediness and clinginess. It also keeps the marriage interesting, fresh, because you're not spending every waking moment together but have time to develop yourselves, hence by the time you're back together you've things to share and teach each other, rather than staring at the walls, watching the clock tick.


Yup, OP's a responsible husband and hasn't given the wife any reason to be insecure or not trust him. It's possible the wife has an unhealthy attachment style. I know he said they've made up but I hope he's free enough to start doing this once in a while without the fear of getting his wife angry.

If I've a spouse of 11-years who always gets back home from work by "7:30 or 8pm"
and whose daily routine revolve around work and home, I would be appreciative, but at the same time I would start finding activities for him to get involved in outside the house [say, a men's soccer or baseball team or something, depending on the time of year] or calling up his married friends and trying to set up a get-together for him to attend. These would not only be important to his wellbeing as a man, but would enhance the marriage.

destiny4luv:


Good talk, so matured and reasonable. Anyways my life does not just revolved around just work and home only "aba, u wan kill person, how I go just put myself for cage because of marriage" I have other fun activities outside work and home and on Sunday's especially is a steady flexing with my family and hook up with neighbor's around and family get together. I be flexing husband oh no dulling at all oh...