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Re: Lizzyangel by Nobody: 2:33pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Raalsalghul: You just dey laugh up and down at someone's serious matter ba? |
Re: Lizzyangel by ahnie: 2:49pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Beloved3:If na you,you no go run? |
Re: Lizzyangel by Newborn27(f): 2:50pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
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Re: Lizzyangel by sisisioge: 2:51pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Newborn27: Sweetheart, your story is becoming scary! Very sad! This boy will soon build major time on your face and the rest of your body. Let him carry foam biko. Sleep on the floor if it comes to that! OMG! So sorry you had to go through all of this! May God help you at this point....please stay away from that guy, let him not fatally harm you. It is really well. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by sisisioge: 3:02pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Newborn27: Haaaaaa! @ bolded makes it sound like you don't really need advice mami...you have again obeyed the elders fa. If you really want advice......GO BACK HOME TO YOUR FOLKS OR STAY FAR AWAY FROM HIM AND TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND KIDS. That's all you need for your now. But if you want to follow the elders again,let me wish you well and pray God show you His face soon. By the way, there are millions of women of substance in Nigeria! There are several millions of unmarried women of substance in Nigeria. There are several millions of married women of substance in Nigeria....the list is endless. One thing that is usually constant for women that could hold their own is having sound minds. May your mind be sound. Pele. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by ahnie: 3:13pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
sisisioge:Smell the stale coffee,she has given in to reconciliation again. Abeg this people matter Taya mi. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by Stereotypes: 3:25pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
This is one of the reasons why women in abusive relationships are isolated and without any friends. The friends do everything, render assistance, talk to them, listen to them but the cycle is on endless repeat and they keep going back. It gets very exhausting and the friends end up disappearing so they can preserve their own sanity. It's a vicious never ending cycle till the victim of their own accord is mentally and physically strong to break the chain. Before that, all the yarning is a waste of time. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by mandysmum: 3:29pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Newborn27:Madam, why do you keep using the words 'husband' and 'marriage'? Did that man marry you in any form? Has he even done any formal introduction to your family,suggesting marriage? Why are you making an already bad situation worse for yourself and kids? What is even the real purpose of this thread and updates? Which of the advice given to you did you follow? See ehn! You are not lost or confused. You are just plain stupid. Continue following the elders' and chief tenant's advice and pleas. Keep roaming from his house to the police station. All you ve confirmed here is that you are not mentally okay and unfit to keep those kids. Silly woman 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by Teddiie(f): 3:41pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Omooo!!. Madam, what you need is not advice. What you need is mental liberation and revamping!!!. Gosh!!.. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by Prettiepearlz(f): 4:15pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Beloved3:Na that part weak me ooooo, if I was the one, the chief tenant will sleep at the police station for two weeks, that way he would learn to mind his business. What rubbish! This lady's story annoys me because I followed it from the beginning and I thought she was coming to give story about being liberated, instead it's the same old story. How do you explain allowing a beast that sent you packing move into a home you suffered to rent? Na wa ooooo. It seems to me that she just want to sit and lament. Pocohantas part killed me though. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by Ishilove: 4:20pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
mandysmum:Her story is exhausting. When I saw her referring to folykaze as 'husband', I knew she is a hopeless case. I'm going to sit this one out going forward. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by greenie77: 4:25pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Newborn27: One thing fundamental is that you are very delusional with your belief that you are a wife and your baby daddy is your husband when no marriage has happened between you two. You do not have a home, you just have 2 children with a man who no Nigerian law recognizes as your husband. You are so disconnected from your reality, better seek the help of NGOs who have psychologists in their team because there is a lot that has to be excavated from your mind. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by Righteousness2(m): 5:09pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
What you are going through is quite in fans Pathetic. Errors and Mistakes have been made here and there. When the Foundation is Faulty, the building will not hold. You may pass through some pains in rectifying the Foundation, but you need to stay strong for yourself and your kids. You do not have a Husband. You are not married. You need to move away from the young man. Right now, you both are just sin Partners. You need to make Peace with GOD. Repent from all the Iniquities and ask Him to Show you Mercy. This is the Point of Fresh Beginning for you. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by Graxie(f): 6:18pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Rip loading. You even lied to the police woman that he is your husband. How many lies you don dey tell those people wey dey beg you? Na so dem advice world bank worker for gwagwalada make she leave her genuine husband, husband wey pay bride price and do wedding but she decide to be prayer warrior. My sister d koko be say, the horseband drive the woman car, drag her from gate to another people gate. Hmmmmm, she die oh, my sister she die, she never wake. Dem Don beri am. Her children no get mama again, her mama no get her again, even her prayers no get answer, her money she no enjoy, her husband dey alive. Use your head!!! 14 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by Ishilove: 6:31pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Graxie:I remember this story. Was he later prosecuted? |
Re: Lizzyangel by peacefulhome(f): 6:43pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
You keep referring to him as husband instead of saying sperm donor. If he was really your husband , he would never hurt you or your children. It is only a sperm donor that will be so heartless with the mother of his kids. Madam !! Think ! Before this man kill you . 3 Likes |
Re: Lizzyangel by Uyi168: 6:55pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
ahnie:.. So na Folykaze be the husband?? Shit. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by RightToReject(m): 7:24pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Assuming that you are coming from a just position outright and are tired of pandering to his whims and caprices, all you need to do is make a conscious decision to gain/regain your dignity by either losing in principle and leaving him to his fate or having him treat you with dignity in victory. Well, to start with, you have to stop giving a damn about any social construct that has been a source of inhibition in gaining your dignity all this while. The major problem people like you always have in a situation like this is caring a lot about having a greater number of people giving you support instead of doing what you know is the just thing to do without giving a damn about the number of people supporting you or whatever inconsequential and unjust people think. All that said, your partner isn't the sole cause of problems in the union. Your shortcomings have been quite glaring right from your previous threads on your previous monikers, despite throwing around the submissive woman's card to appear unblemished. On the other hand, if both of you sincerely wish to continue together healthily and happily, forgive yourselves and create a just bond that will hold two together with everyone respecting the bond. This is achievable, even as both of you do not share the same ethical leanings. Both of you should give up greed and conceit because they are the core causes of the problem in the union, not money, and start being altruistic towards each other and conscientious in general. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by Munzy14(m): 7:41pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
mariahAngel:You have been groomed to be a mom I swear.. Maybe thats why you are very comfortable with family section. |
Re: Lizzyangel by BRATISLAVA: 9:22pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
keepingmum: Forget about advising her. It's a perpetual cycle. She is hoping he will come back to his senses—believe it. In fact, the next step is to accuse anyone who advised her of being a household destroyer, and she's gradually working up to that with her recent posts. Every twist and turn in the story is beginning to look scripted. It will end in vigorous intercourse and more posts at a later time. This particular woman believes in enduring in marriages, and even though she is not married, she is sticking out her neck to remain with the man by all means. She's not worried he could beat her to death, she's more interested in being in love him/his violence. They have fought numerous times, according to her he even threw her out, and after struggling to get a place to lease, she's suddenly being beaten by him in her new place? What happened to his old place? Why should the man be evicted? How does he know where she lives? Who invited him into the house? What have they been doing together in the house since he arrived? Doesn't he have a job, apart from dropping oily takeaway packs in her bin? Why is he suddenly a fixture in her new house? If he was not invited, how did he get there? There are a lot of absurdities in the story, a lot of things unsaid. It is true she has been cohabiting with a woman batterer, but if she didn't like it, he wouldn't be back in her house. 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by lilioj: 9:23pm On Aug 22, 2021 |
Ha this lady! Don't you love yourself?? So if we advise you to go back to this guy, you will?? One thing struck me in all you said he did; sending out your baby in the wee hours, I can never forget. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by AmazonTopaz(f): 12:02am On Aug 23, 2021 |
This woman doesn't learn, since you have refused to have sense what more can we do for you Stop bringing your problems to nairaland since you are not ready to heed to any advice 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by waywardpikin: 4:52am On Aug 23, 2021 |
This thread annoyed me to no end. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by UDUJ(m): 6:30am On Aug 23, 2021 |
MMotimo: Words on Marble. This should be laminated and pasted on their brains. That's if they will listen. They never listen. I have seen it happen countless times |
Re: Lizzyangel by UDUJ(m): 6:38am On Aug 23, 2021 |
Newborn27: I really don't like commenting on such issues but your story is both painful and annoying to me at the same time. If you are always on the giving end in the relationship; if you’ve accepted indifference, abuse, or manipulation because you don’t believe you deserve or can get better, it’s time to take charge of your life and to make some changes. Get some therapy for yourself. Build up your self-esteem, develop the skills you need to be successful in the world, and increase your confidence in yourself. A stronger you will be able to hold out for the loving relationship that you deserve. I don't know the dude but he seems like an asshole (if your story is true). You need psychological help. You are not okay mentally, sorry that's not an insult just a truthful assertion. Cheers. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by Klass99(f): 7:17am On Aug 23, 2021 |
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Re: Lizzyangel by BRATISLAVA: 9:57am On Aug 23, 2021 |
AmazonTopaz: The funny thing is that all this is a sex attachment at best. The fear to be a woman on her own, if need be at worst. The need to be submissive because it shows she's a good woman, even when being beaten publicly from one house to the next. Many good women are in the grave. The worst they will do is parade him, and his guys on the forum will go: what did she do to turn him into a beast, stupid asewo, she was not a good woman, she enjoyed it, etc. Both of them have deep issues. They are like two magnets that can't be separated. He's a narcissist and she's his supply. If that isn't the case, then both of them are in some kind of forum game. The latter is more likely. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by cococandy(f): 10:09am On Aug 23, 2021 |
BRATISLAVA: I’m literally staring wide eyed at everyone advising her about how she’s tolerating his abuse but many of them will turn around to support ideas and schools of thought that breed women like her who end up with such a deep need to man-please that they lose all sense of self (no offense honestly intended). But like how can they dissociate themselves from the cause and effect that’s obviously playing out right in front of us? Even in her state, she still has stuff to say about feminists. When all they really want is for her to choose her own well-being over the excesses of any man whether it be society wise or relationship wise. I just can’t. She’s publicly calling me out that I refused to respond to her emails (just negodu) . My sister I helped when I thought she needed help but now I don’t believe she needs help. There’s nothing I’ve got to say that’s not feminism inclined and she doesn’t roll like that. What more can we do? Am I supposed to feel bad now or what? Or feel guilty? I don’t get why she’s doing this. I wanted to ignore that mention as well but I recognize it for what it is. Some sort of guilt trappings like we are folks who owed her something but failed her. 15 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by mariahAngel(f): 10:17am On Aug 23, 2021 |
Munzy14: I was groomed to be a strong woman. A very strong woman. Happy new week. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by BRATISLAVA: 10:28am On Aug 23, 2021 |
cococandy: Under certain circumstances your post would be terribly amusing, @calling you out. But we are actually reading from two very strange humans: one semi-animal, the other almost zombified. Two— for lack of a better word— psychopaths. You even tried to help her, but it's getting obvious what she needs help with is how to get back with that man. He's her oxygen. That she has strength to fight feminists from her sinking pseudo-marriage remains a thing of amusement. At this point in time, her greatest desire is to be a good and submissive woman. Which is one of the reasons she and the man were back between the sheets without a second thought in a building they have not paid the lease on. Which brings us back to the key question: what is her point? With all the advice, even from the police, are we still dealing with a normal person? Or did the boyfriend use a spell on her? He should come and carry her. Their unending situation is becoming more of a format for something only the two of them understand best. It seemed like a joke when people said they were after money, but it's plain to see that that is one of the side attractions to this daily update. Nobody should feel guilted by the two of them. Narc and supply. @bold: You couldn't have said it better. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Lizzyangel by ashatoda: 10:44am On Aug 23, 2021 |
But this lady is first class mumu Sha. I'm a man and can literally see that you have a DSc in stupidity. Those advising you to settle it will they follow you to the grave after he kills you? What I believe is that you disrespected your parents by sticking with him. They initially had their reservations about him which you ignored and that's why you are afraid of going back home. You are only using their financial state as an excuse to avoid the shame of going back. But let me tell you as you look at your kids and don't wish they die so also your parents look at you and don't wish you die before them. If you don't want your parents to mourn you just pack your kids clothes and leave him in the house you rent and go back to your parents sleep on the mat and live before thinking of the next step. Sincerely I don't have the story from the other party but for him to have been beating you there's the need to first think of your life. Get out before it is too late 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Lizzyangel by Teespice(f): 11:03am On Aug 23, 2021 |
Newborn27: Who bashed you? You call constructive advice coming from a place of tough love bashing. No disrespect to all those who are typing epistles... This OP doesn't value all what you have been saying so far...it is only best to wish her well. 7 Likes 1 Share |
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