Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

Bros you are the one that have problem. You need to council yourself, the fact that she do not have interest but she never deny you herself. Infact she has sacrifices her interest to satisfy you. You are not grateful

Congratulations man.
You are a lucky man.
Hold on to her, cherish and adore her.
Man you're lucky, in this immoral world, you find such a woman and you are complaining.
Wait until you marry ndi "harder harder", only then you will scream "ANWUAMUO".

Go make her happy, try surprising her, buy her gift, play with her... Please make sure she is very happy, then try going with her pace.

Come back with your Thanksgiving offering.
Shalom.

Strickly for the married

Ok

MrBrownJay1:


every person knows what they desire about sex, you just havent ask the right questions and/or open the right door to her fantasies. here is a clue: you have done the same things for 9yrs unsuccessfully, what about going into another direction?!?!? do things differently, approach the issue in a different manner.



then i suggest you blame your church, and not your wife...



... and did you take your time to let her open up to you, or just mount her regardless of her fears/insecurities in lovemaking?!?!? probably your wife was emotionally damaged for good as the result of not taking your time to understand her.



how can you catch fun when you dont even know what turns your woman on? the fun your are talking about is ONE SIDED. thats selfish to think that because its fun for you, it should automatically be fun for her too. brotha, you have to put yourself in your wife's shoes and try unlock the blockage that she gets. communication, care, time, understanding... and more communication is what is needed here.

here is a simple clue: after 9 years, you still dont know this woman (aka stranger).

you are the only one that just made a sensible comment , others are just yabbing God bless you for this..

Bro, as long as you enjoy yourself and she's not complaining. I would advise you leave it at that. She likely can't help the situation, you complaining would make matter worse.

You have a few options here.

Remember your "for better for worse" vow and stay true to it. Accept her challenge as your cross. I believe you can manage so far you are still getting sex and she's not denying you. If you leave her because of this heaven would judge you harshly.

Or

Ask her if she would believe for restoration of her sexual appetite. If she would, then do a prayer of agreement on the matter and I believe God would restore her.

Or

Enlist her to sexual therapy.

Pastor iwu onye otu ....so as onye otu wey u be , try and teach her to be onye otu like you .....# if you don't understand Igbo, sorry for you #

AmazingELixir:



After 4kids what are you still looking for MOG....gaan concentrate on your bible study so you won't go to the pulpit and preach hearsay or blasphemy to your congregants

how old are u? so even if they have kids sex should end there abi? d fact he is still attracted to her is a sign he is a good man, some men will b looking else where to enjoy.

plz type like who dey go sch

When you knock, the woman answers, unhindered and without conditions.

She's generally a good woman and doesn't give you headache.

You married her a virgin and can even vouch she doesn't have any lovers or ex that you have to compete with sexually.

Oga, you don't have any problem.

Take your time and go through marital issue posts on Nairaland, after reading all of them, you'll count your blessings and double your tithe.

Gobdddd:
Time without number.
She doesn't even know what she desires or likes about sex.

If found out that there's pre marital sex, my Church will cancel the marriage and make it look very dishonorable.
So,I can't risk that.

From the first day, she was afraid of it.

Never showed any interest afterwards, despite spending our honeymoon at Obudu cattle ranch.

Our last babe is 2. We have closed childbearing.

We are supposed to be catching fun.

Did you do any pre marriage course? And was sex/good sex taught in any of them?

Before marriage, did you talk about sex? Did you discuss your expectations and hers? Did you discuss whether either of you may be open to learning new things?

She’s a church virgin and I’m guessing you were initially her pastor before marriage. In all honesty, what you’re going through now is your fault because you have conditioned her and people like her to abhor sex and anything related to sex.

Ignore people saying sex is not food. It is food in your marriage. If it wasn’t, you would have adopted a child and continued living your life.

I don’t see any solution working for you. For aphrodisiacs to work, your mind first has to be opened to concept of enjoying sex. From what you explained, her mind is numb and blocked to the pleasures of sex. She only spreads her legs for you because she’s been conditioned to see it as her duty as a wife.

I know you will see pornographic materials as dirty and evil but it’s looking like that will be your only recourse because even a sex therapist will suggest pornographic activities to find what works for you both and her especially.

You should also see a marriage counselor and a sex therapist as stated above.

If you don’t talk dirty to her then it’s best you start.

Initiate random sex chats.

Ask for thirst traps.

Send her sexual pictures and videos, start from the light stuff in order not to overwhelm her.

Talk about your fantasies and ask about hers.

If she gets angry or pulls away, give some time and try again. Be playful about it, you shouldn’t be talking about sex with stern face and voice. Make sex talk fun. I know you’re a pastor but Don’t quote bible for her when talking about sex abeg.

Learn how to be the best at pre-intimacy.

Randomly buy her sexy, thin underwear and randomly ask her to wear it while you’re on your way home from work.

F0nd!e her randomly in the house.

If she’s the wrapper tying type, it’s best you decree she stops and starts wearing bum shorts.

Rewiring a woman’s brain when it comes to sex is easy but will take time and effort if you don’t know what you’re doing.

Take away any guilt she may feel from sex or engaging in it cos the church has always made it seem dirty.


Marriage is fun, sex makes it even better.

Body no be firewood.

Ciao.

Are you the enter the dragon type ..... men that just goes straight to sex without pre-intimacy ?


switch the gear ...... suck the suckables, pull the pullables , lick the lickables and go down on her gently .


Sex is food and sex is life for the married oooo

just eat and enjoy it right !

f**k her hard bro Asin very hard ... don't nonsense will stop ... I'm sure u have been given her slow sex .... change your ways ... remember to say thank you ...

You a blessed man if all these you said about her is true

Imagine being sure your wife not cheating on you or seeing another man plus you said she is a good woman and you both stayed 9years with 4kids

You are blessed!

If her sex enthusiasm is her only shortcoming, i urge you to keep going on with her and bearing it and we all have our shortcomings cuz no one is perfect

If you decided to go for another woman with high libido sorry to say she's coming in with opposite of everything your wife already is cuz its really hard out there to see or meet a woman that don't cheat on their husband or lover

I repeat! You are blessed!

Keep sensitizing her in bed the best way you can and you as well keep enjoying your sex with her as you have always been.

Sex is just sex, few minutes pleasure and you out just to relieve your stress

Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

Mmadu2:


And what if you end up getting the scars instead. Or you think you have exclusive monopoly of violence. Stupid.

Only wimps make statements like you did. You can't stand a fellow man in martial combat. You are probably a woman. If you are otherwise, you must have lived a life ostracized by male friends.

Check well,, me might have circumcised. Check if she still has her clit.

Employ a sexy housemaid

Perfect remedy to ur problem

And watch how ur wife change to ur taste

Notateflonguy:


LOL.. She's probably a female just looking for cheap attention. Over 5 lines of total gibberish

I swear, complete garbage

Take her to a female sex therapist.

Oga, you want to taste girls that hang girls like caterpault. Girls that their punna can open Coke. Girls that can wind their waist like wheel spanner.
And you are a Pastor?

Baba oni Korope wan drive Ferrari

Employ a sexy housemaid and see ur wife change to ur taste

Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

Get her Goronut . It's makes one to HV high libido , make a lady to be wet down and it reduce pussy odour .....it will will and for men take tiger nut...it enable one to last long naturally in bed. .....well, Sir use ur church mind Help a broke Nairalander na ! Put joy for my weekend. But of a truth my recommendation works 100 percent....they are natural process and u can browse on it ...thanks

You are married for 9 years and don't have an idea of what she will respond to?

Are you even sure she's satisfied sef? You have not pressed the right buttons when you do she will respond.

Also she's nor denying you, you want her to enjoy too abi press the right buttons

Mr pastor, you want to gain it all here on earth, no nah.since she is good on other aspects, then carry your cross on the sex aspect.
Na only for heaven life balanceooo, but for earth! You gat to bearam on some aspects of life. Sex is overrated, there is more to life and marriage than sex.

Will choose a rigid woman that gives me peace of mind over a sex freak any day any time twice on Saturdays

ayomilore:
Bro. Don't spoil your marriage because of what you can fix. I heard there are some recipes that improve libido, try it, you can watch some adult films together too, try serious romance prior to your lovemaking, I believe there should be improvement...
But your wife will be good for all these abroad hustlers ooo that are scared of all these local predators..

Life...your own is good na, sebi she still doesn't deny you sex...

Hmmm... honestly I've come to conclude that there's no solution anywhere for such women not even counselling. So I see it as a cross one must carry. I have carried mine.

One thing though that works, when she's excited and happy you could have a good sex. So if you can afford it do a get-away, go for trips or just an outing that ends in a hotel or anywhere not home. It works. But when you get home you carry your cross

In addition, is she over stressed with chores or care of the kids? Was she like this from day one? At times economic challenges at home could lead to such loss on interest, because they calculate and worry far ahead of us.

Peace.

Don't expect total perfection from any mortal being.
If your wife is good in other areas don't trouble her.
If you force her to jack up you may not be able to handle her again and can take her outside to look for satisfaction. Don't take her to a level where you will blame yourself.
Use this time to plan for a better future instead of thinking of daily satisfaction that is not even there.
You eldest child must be around 8 since your marriage is just 9.
Your youngest 2 as said. They will go to school and considering Nigeria situation now the hour is far than you think.
Put your mind at something reasonable
Plan for the future

Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.

We married 9years ago.
She was a virgin in my Church. I am a pastor too.
Though we were not in the same state.
She was the first woman I had sex with after our marriage.
But I noticed that she has no interest in anything called sex.
She will not deny me sex, but I do not enjoy it because she's not enthused to it.

I have tried all I could to make her love sex, but all to no avail.
If you do not demand for sex, she'll not show any interest, even if you stay one year without talking about it.
And I am 100% sure that she's not seeing any man anywhere.

I took my time to educate her from the little research I made, but she wouldn't pay any serious attention.

I querried myself as to wether I do not satisfy her, on another point, sometimes, I'd last for 10-15 mins which, according to research is not bad.

Last night, I got angry at her attitude towards it. To me, she just try to open legs for me to satisfy myself and get down.

This has affected my psyche towards her.
But apart from her low libido, she is a very wonderful and good woman to be with.

So, last night, I opened up to her once again and told her she's making me to think twice and that am not happy at her actions.

Since today, our relationship has dwindled.

Alot of things have been going through my mind.

I don't know what to do. Am confused.
I can't go to another woman and leave such a good woman that have given me 4 kids.

Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

Please you guys should go for serious counseling.
Thank you

Gobdddd:
Strickly for the married

Good evening tweeps, my marriage is jerking. Needs a quick solution.



Pls is there any known solution?

I need help.

Practical answers from a female;

Dear Pastor, your wife is tired. Ever stayed with kids for a whole day without your wife before? To cater for the home, church, kids and her own career is a big task. She is doing the good wife by not rejecting sex advances. (I tell married friends, when a woman is too cool and calm, always following you, whatever you say, she agrees, a man gets bored with this lifestyle)
Your woman is the good wife material with 1000yards.
SOLUTION; Keep the kids with trusted grandparents and give pastor Mrs a break! Take charge of simple chores while the children are away. Let her prepare good meals. Watch romantic movies together not P. O. R. N. Set the motion for romance; do it right there in front of the TV.
Repeat this once in two weeks. If she doesn't commend you or still quick glances at your handsome self; you need medical help- female circumsion could cause this.

4k her sister or get a side piece and don't bother her about sex anymore since you guys already have 4kids. Try the much you can to not get caught,na people wey dem catch Dem dey judge.

Na u want virgin na . Mumu man

freakydaddy:


Confirm G. Do you sell royphnol?

Bro, I don't deal drugs plz. I only deal on adult sexual stuffs. Thanks

Pastor after having 4 good children's you are still complaining habar .fear Jesus Christ nah . You should have complaining from day 1