i think its a bad thing that society will always find a way of blamming women for their husbands infidelity, somehow it is always their fault-
lack of attention cos of work,
cos of children,
sex wit her is boring cos she lacks immagination,
shes gone fat,
shes no more sexy,
she nags,
she cant cook
she is dis
she's dat
but the thruth is a man will cheat as long as he believes he can get away wit it and this rule applies to evry man,married or not,saint or sinner cos to a man its has and will always be just a physical thing(sex that is)(something todo with the way mens brains are programmed me thinks)if real emotions where involved men wudnt cheat.so in response to the post i wud suggest that the woman not leave her home for the maid cos believe me it will all count for nothing stay and protect whats yours cos as long as its got a hole in it he'll try to screw it , evrytime

I wont leave him but i will only have sex with him when and if i want it not because he wants it and i will make sure he spoils me silly i will just cross my legs and watch him pamper me in a bid to make me happy and forgive him i wont make it look like i havnt forgiven him i will paint a picture of pain like he realy broke my heart and i need TLC to get me back on my feet afterall if he had caught me with the house boy he wont even let me speak a word to beg or plead so he should appreciate the fact that i forgave him and nurse "my poor bleeding soul" back to health by paying for hollidays abroad if he can and getting me a car or build me a house depending on his pocket cos i aint ready to leave my home to any house help why not get rewarded for my emmotional trauma?

All i will need to do is just go back,get myself together and come back home as if nothing has happened.

Windywendy,
I just stumbled into this thread.I find it amazing how you are spending so much energy trying to convince some people on the seriousness of infidelity and God's opinion about it.I guess your arguments are pretty sound and clear.

However,I want to make the following submissions:
1. ONLY a man who has trully had a personal encounter with Christ can stay absolutely FAITHFULL to his wife.This is a fundamental fact every wife needs to understand.If a woman is born again and her husband is not,she needs to understand this especially.Therefore,as she continues to wait on God to touch his life,she may have to put up with a few things.Unfortunately infidelity may be one of them!

2. An unredeemed man who has the financial resources and is not impotent,is INCAPABLE and I repeat,INCAPABLE of staying with one woman,no matter how pretty or good she is.This is because,by nature,all male creatures are polygamous.(If you dont agree with this point,it simply means to me,you are insufficiently experienced in these matters).This ranges from Lizards to Cocks,to Lions etc,who control territories of females.Unfortunately this tendency is also innate in homosapiens(MAN) albeit suppressed by social restraints. That such an unreedemed man has not been caught commiting adultery does not mean he is not doing it.Dont forget that even looking at a woman lustfully constitutes adultery.So one asks- When do you say a spouse has been caught in adultery?? Note that it is only a Spirit filled man that has the ability to flee from fornication.

3. Painful as cheating is,a wife needs to understand these facts before taking a decision to leave her husband on the grounds of infidelity.The question is,when you leave him,do you plan to remain celibate the rest of your life or do you plan to re-marry? If you re-marry,what's the guarantee that your new husband wont be worse than the first.And if your worse fears are confirmed,are you going to run off again.Now,counsellors will ask you: HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU INTEND TO RUN FROM ONE FAILED MARRIAGE TO ANOTHER? And if you choose to be celibate ,what is the gurantee that you can handle it without sinning against God?

4. I totally agree that adultery is a biblically acceptable ground for divorce but remember,you dont always have to apply this right especially when it may not be expedient for your situation.Past records of one's husband must be taken into consideration.I dont believe an incorrigible,indiscrete adulterer should be put on the same pedestal as a one time offender.This of course,is the same basis for judges in our courts commuting sentences or giving paroles or even outright acquittals to some offenders.Secondly,genuine repentance from the offender should be carefully assesed and considered.

5. One should be very careful not to say NEVER when it comes to matters of adultery.I fear so much when I people say "I will NEVER commit adultery". When one comes across the "RIGHT" person under the "RIGHT" circumstances,carefully schemed by the ever patient devil,will power alone may be insufficient to save.That is why the bible advises us to FLEE fornication.Dont wait to resist it,why? because we can't.

6. In summary,there is a place for forgiveness in cases of infidelity and I know countless marriages where wives or even husbands, have forgiven there spouses and the marriages have been TOTALLY healed and they have moved on as though nothing ever happened.If you consider all the points I raised above,you will see that it is an issue to be handled with a lot of tact and wisdom.Not one to rashly decide on.Some things ought to be weighed carefully before opting for divorce,which of course,is one's entitlement.Pls dont get me wrong.Adultery is a serious breach of trust and must ALWAYS be viewed as such.

7. I WISH ALL OF US SAFE,TRUSTWORTHY AND BLISSFUL MATRIMONIES.

@ anabel from prev post, child abuse is a serious thing o

as for me NO female house help, no female secretary. My dude was even the one that suggested it.

@ajebota,
No female secretary or househelp IS NOT the solution to sexual abuse.The only solution is a man knowing God trully in his heart.

@Topic

No problem with that.  She has a pussy and he has a deek. . . they have found each other.  I will wish them well.

Marrer of fact, it happens everywhere in the world. . .and some of these love birds happen to live happily ever after too.

No big deal.

Let us just call it a "Fatal Attraction"! Some pussies are sweeter than others, just as some deeks are definitely sweeter than others. When you find the sweetest one. . .you definitely cannot let go!

Next topic please. Like it is the 10th wonder of the world or something?

Well the woman in me will carry pepper and put in the girl's vagina and send her outside naked (o let it not be daylight where the hot sun will burn her vagina, if it's nighttime, I will hold alighted candle under her vagina so that it can cook the pepper well)
I will then walk away from my husband, but the next day, I will act like nothing is wrong, when he gets in the shower I will take ororo and pour everywhere on the bathroom floor and take off my belt. When he gets out he will slip and fall and that's where the beating will begin.

*Ever seen or heard a grown man cry?*

He will cry like a baby that day.


But the Christian in me, will send her packing and me and my husband will have some serious talks, then he will have a lot of making up to do, if we can work it out.

If he tells me that I will leave if I make the girl leave, I won't argue, I will make the girl leave and then leave myself. I will leave with my children (if any) and all the kobo he has at that time and in the future. He will be paying me for life.

Octupus:

Windywendy,
I just stumbled into this thread.I find it amazing how you are spending so much energy trying to convince some people on the seriousness of infidelity and God's opinion about it.I guess your arguments are pretty sound and clear.

However,I want to make the following submissions:
1. ONLY a man who has trully had a personal encounter with Christ can stay absolutely FAITHFULL to his wife.This is a fundamental fact every wife needs to understand.If a woman is born again and her husband is not,she needs to understand this especially.Therefore,as she continues to wait on God to touch his life,she may have to put up with a few things.Unfortunately infidelity may be one of them!

2. An unredeemed man who has the financial resources and is not impotent,is INCAPABLE and I repeat,INCAPABLE of staying with one woman,no matter how pretty or good she is.This is because,by nature,all male creatures are polygamous.(If you don't agree with this point,it simply means to me,you are insufficiently experienced in these matters).This ranges from Lizards to Cocks,to Lions etc,who control territories of females.Unfortunately this tendency is also innate in homosapiens(MAN) albeit suppressed by social restraints. That such an unreedemed man has not been caught commiting adultery does not mean he is not doing it.Dont forget that even looking at a woman lustfully constitutes adultery.So one asks- When do you say a spouse has been caught in adultery?? Note that it is only a Spirit filled man that has the ability to flee from fornication.

3. Painful as cheating is,a wife needs to understand these facts before taking a decision to leave her husband on the grounds of infidelity.The question is,when you leave him,do you plan to remain celibate the rest of your life or do you plan to re-marry? If you re-marry,what's the guarantee that your new husband wont be worse than the first.And if your worse fears are confirmed,are you going to run off again.Now,counsellors will ask you: HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU INTEND TO RUN FROM ONE FAILED MARRIAGE TO ANOTHER? And if you choose to be celibate ,what is the gurantee that you can handle it without sinning against God?

4. I totally agree that adultery is a biblically acceptable ground for divorce but remember,you don't always have to apply this right especially when it may not be expedient for your situation.Past records of one's husband must be taken into consideration.I don't believe an incorrigible,indiscrete adulterer should be put on the same pedestal as a one time offender.This of course,is the same basis for judges in our courts commuting sentences or giving paroles or even outright acquittals to some offenders.Secondly,genuine repentance from the offender should be carefully assesed and considered.

5. One should be very careful not to say NEVER when it comes to matters of adultery.I fear so much when I people say "I will NEVER commit adultery". When one comes across the "RIGHT" person under the "RIGHT" circumstances,carefully schemed by the ever patient devil,will power alone may be insufficient to save.That is why the bible advises us to FLEE fornication.Dont wait to resist it,why? because we can't.

6. In summary,there is a place for forgiveness in cases of infidelity and I know countless marriages where wives or even husbands, have forgiven there spouses and the marriages have been TOTALLY healed and they have moved on as though nothing ever happened.If you consider all the points I raised above,you will see that it is an issue to be handled with a lot of tact and wisdom.Not one to rashly decide on.Some things ought to be weighed carefully before opting for divorce,which of course,is one's entitlement.Please don't get me wrong.Adultery is a serious breach of trust and must ALWAYS be viewed as such.

7. I WISH ALL OF US SAFE,TRUSTWORTHY AND BLISSFUL MATRIMONIES.

in the spirit of the olympics, i will award you gold for common sense. God bless you. it is always good to see people with brilliant mind in this forum

Octupus:

Windywendy,
I just stumbled into this thread.I find it amazing how you are spending so much energy trying to convince some people on the seriousness of infidelity and God's opinion about it.I guess your arguments are pretty sound and clear.

However,I want to make the following submissions:
1. ONLY a man who has trully had a personal encounter with Christ can stay absolutely FAITHFULL to his wife.This is a fundamental fact every wife needs to understand.If a woman is born again and her husband is not,she needs to understand this especially.Therefore,as she continues to wait on God to touch his life,she may have to put up with a few things.Unfortunately infidelity may be one of them!

2. An unredeemed man who has the financial resources and is not impotent,is INCAPABLE and I repeat,INCAPABLE of staying with one woman,no matter how pretty or good she is.This is because,by nature,all male creatures are polygamous.(If you don't agree with this point,it simply means to me,you are insufficiently experienced in these matters).This ranges from Lizards to Cocks,to Lions etc,who control territories of females.Unfortunately this tendency is also innate in homosapiens(MAN) albeit suppressed by social restraints. That such an unreedemed man has not been caught commiting adultery does not mean he is not doing it.Dont forget that even looking at a woman lustfully constitutes adultery.So one asks- When do you say a spouse has been caught in adultery?? Note that it is only a Spirit filled man that has the ability to flee from fornication.

3. Painful as cheating is,a wife needs to understand these facts before taking a decision to leave her husband on the grounds of infidelity.The question is,when you leave him,do you plan to remain celibate the rest of your life or do you plan to re-marry? If you re-marry,what's the guarantee that your new husband wont be worse than the first.And if your worse fears are confirmed,are you going to run off again.Now,counsellors will ask you: HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU INTEND TO RUN FROM ONE FAILED MARRIAGE TO ANOTHER? And if you choose to be celibate ,what is the gurantee that you can handle it without sinning against God?

4. I totally agree that adultery is a biblically acceptable ground for divorce but remember,you don't always have to apply this right especially when it may not be expedient for your situation.Past records of one's husband must be taken into consideration.I don't believe an incorrigible,indiscrete adulterer should be put on the same pedestal as a one time offender.This of course,is the same basis for judges in our courts commuting sentences or giving paroles or even outright acquittals to some offenders.Secondly,genuine repentance from the offender should be carefully assesed and considered.

5. One should be very careful not to say NEVER when it comes to matters of adultery.I fear so much when I people say "I will NEVER commit adultery". When one comes across the "RIGHT" person under the "RIGHT" circumstances,carefully schemed by the ever patient devil,will power alone may be insufficient to save.That is why the bible advises us to FLEE fornication.Dont wait to resist it,why? because we can't.

6. In summary,there is a place for forgiveness in cases of infidelity and I know countless marriages where wives or even husbands, have forgiven there spouses and the marriages have been TOTALLY healed and they have moved on as though nothing ever happened.If you consider all the points I raised above,you will see that it is an issue to be handled with a lot of tact and wisdom.Not one to rashly decide on.Some things ought to be weighed carefully before opting for divorce,which of course,is one's entitlement.Please don't get me wrong.Adultery is a serious breach of trust and must ALWAYS be viewed as such.

7. I WISH ALL OF US SAFE,TRUSTWORTHY AND BLISSFUL MATRIMONIES.

It shall be well with you

be a husband can start cheating on his wife maybe his wife is not satisfying him at home with enough sex

i wont do anything! i wont even go sleep with anyone 4 revenge or all that crap. the girl will find her way, i dont even need 2 tell her 2 leave.

i wont ask why he did it. we will just carry on as if nothing happened.

i won't be suprised because some men are not satisfied with one woman,if it happens to me,i will continue with my life.na today that kind tin dey happen.

I don't care if he fell and his d**ck entered her, he is a freaking cheat. Once a cheater always a cheater, one of the things I can't stand in people. I don't know how I would react at that point in time but for me that relationship will definitely be over.

Lady u are quite bold,
but are you sure that doesnt destroy thr total fabroc of the marriage
i pray we dont find ourselves in that shoe

the best thing to do to avoid this to to hire an ugly maid.
One of my uncles has 2 maids in Lagos. their room is outside the main house, the maids (God forgive me) are wowo to the core (i think my aunty did this on purpose).

Be real temptation is everywhere y give it a helping hand. 

Got me all pensive now