Hello....

Please I'm in a dilemma, my 2year old refuses to write,even coloring is work to her. She holds pencil very well but hates the idea of writing anything. Her teacher also complains about it.

I really do not know how to go about it.

Continue teaching her, I don't want her to emulate Buharis handwriting, if not you will only be seeing cows on her papers.

Freestainworld:
Continue teaching her, I don't want her to emulate Buharis handwriting, if not you will only be seeing cows on her papers.

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Parents these days are so much in a hurry.
One moment they just had a baby, the next moment they want them graduated already.

Op, calm down and keep teaching her, and with time she'll start to like it.
Don't be too anxious. Enjoy the process.

Although, it is a bit of a worry that she hates colouring. Children at that stage, especially girls love drawing and colouring.

Kamsi04:
Hello....

Please I'm in a dilemma, my 2year old refuses to write,even coloring is work to her. She holds pencil very well but hates the idea of writing anything. Her teacher also complains about it.

I really do not know how to go about it.

Then you should lead by example. Take notes and write things down. Also colour/paint stuff.

Do all these with joy then see her follow suit

Different tales for different folks.
Meanwhile somewhere in ASABA,I just discovered that since the resumption of schools my 4yrs old son hasn't written anything in class, hasn't even come home with homefun .this is someone that reads and write excellently.

The teacher said and I quote**Anytime I called him to come write,he looks at me and throws his face away...so I kuku leavam,maybe he know like my face.

After a few shakes up here and there from me,my husband to both my son and the teacher,he appeared today from school with home fun.

Some parents self . Wetin small pikin of 2 years don know wey go make person carry am go school? . I won't even be surprised to hear that the child's school fees will be very expensive

She is just two, let her play, that is what 2 year old does. Let's kids be kids biko

It's too early for her to be writing na. What kind of teacher or school is that? They don't know what they are doing there. Please take her to a montessori school. She is only supposed to be scribbling at this age.

Maybe you're not making it interesting for her.

Try getting her coloring books with her favorite cartoon characters. That way the interest is built and she's encouraged.

Coloring will also help firm her pixa grip further and enable her to write more as I think she still needs to exercise her pixa grip with that, considering her age (2) because it looks like she was not properly drilled on that before rushing her to start writing.

Also, get her plain sheet of paper, let her express herself freely with scribbling. I know this might sound odd but trust me it works as this develops and increases her interest and flare for writing.

@just 2 and you are worried?

All these hurry hurry, where una dey go?
Intelligence is hereditary and follow come, nurture improves and from it, it is not how early that matters


Can that child articulate sentences at this age?

Writing at 2 years old? No!

Rather it should be colouring and controlled scribbling for now before transiting to writing. Writing is a developmental, so it is a process.

Make colouring a fun activity for her at home. You as the parent go on the floor and be doing some colouring of your own while you animate your face, she will be drawn to sit beside you and want also to colour!

Calm down, op.

CareerMom:
It's too early for her to be writing na. What kind of teacher or school is that? They don't know what they are doing there. Please take her to a montessori school. She is only supposed to be scribbling at this age.

Which Montessori? Montessori that don't start writing until they are five when their pixa grip is already stiff, making it very difficult to write the curved letters and numbers.

I know how many parents ( whose wards were in montessori ) contracted me because Im specialized in that area, and paid through their nose just to take their wards in writing lessons after age five because it wasn't an easy task.

I know what I saw. Their pixas were so stiff that I had to start by doing the pixa grip exercise where they wriggle the fingers, do massages and other little exercises we do before we start. Sometimes too I hold their fingers and pray on it lol.. it wasn't easy but within a month they started writing and the parents were amazed and linked me to more parents. Before you know it, they withdrew their wards from Montessori and put them in schools using British curriculum.

It's good to start early otherwise you'll pay more in the end. Imagine, that time (2014)I was charging the parents 25k per child just to teach them how to write and I only take them twice a week.

Montessori is over hyped. With all those their overly expensive materials and objects. That's where all the money goes into.

What is education becoming these days? You want your child to write @ 2? What's going on here?! Let kids be kids, biko. Some of u were still sucking even @ 2, now u want your wards to write @ dat 2. Make una go siddon abeg. In a saner clime, no school for these children until dey turn 4 and dey still become better and more independent in future than Naina kids. We need to calm down oh.

Mercychen:


Which Montessori? Montessori that don't start writing until they are five when their pixa grip is already stiff, making it very difficult to write the curved letters and numbers.

I know how many parents ( whose wards were in montessori ) contracted me because Im specialized in that area, and paid through their nose just to take their wards in writing lessons after age five because it wasn't an easy task.

I know what I saw. Their pixas were so stiff that I had to start by doing the pixa grip exercise where they wriggle the fingers, do massages and other little exercises we do before we start. Sometimes too I hold their fingers and pray on it lol.. it wasn't easy but within a month they start writing and the parents were amazed and linked me to more parents. Before you know it, they withdrew their wards from Montessori and put them in schools using British curriculum.

It's good to start early otherwise you'll pay more in the end. Imagine, that time (2014)I was charging the parents 25k per child just to teach them to write and I only take them twice a week.

Montessori is over hyped. With all those their overly expensive materials and objects. That's where all the money goes into.

It's enough to start writing at 5.

The British curriculum that you so praise is taught in countries where kids start school around the age of 5.

CareerMom:
It's too early for her to be writing na. What kind of teacher or school is that? They don't know what they are doing there. Please take her to a montessori school. She is only supposed to be scribbling at this age.

Exactly!

Hathor5:


It's enough to start writing at 5.

The British curriculum that you so praise is taught in countries where kids start school around the age of 5.

Well?? But down here that's what is commonly used where children start school at 1+.

Mercychen:

Well?? But down here that's what is commonly used where children start school at 1+.

School at 1+ is nonsense and waste of money.

Right now my daughter is one year right months, she can identify items in a text book, and hold pencil very well, scrabbling in any books she finds, as she is scrabbling she is saying Aaaaaaaaa, bbbbbbb yyyyyyy Zzzzzzzz after that she clapped for her self.
Reason is right from when she started crawling I get an old text book for her and myself and my wife do read for her and at the same time when iam writing I give her biro to write also; today, she has not started school yet, a day will not pass without looking for her textbook to read if she see anyone writing she comes to meet either my wife or me to give her her writing book and pencil.
My neighbor get jealous of us, because his 3 year 7 month child cannot write and cannot Identify anything. We do advice them to give the boy time and inform him ahead of time that he will soon be writing.
Please use book and any educational materials and play with your child.
Thank you

Mercychen:



Well?? But down here that's what is commonly used where children start school at 1+.

At 1+ is so wrong having toddlers in a school! Even in Kenya, a child has no business being registered in a school until they clock 3+/4 years.

ETIIKO:
Right now my daughter is one year right months, she can identify items in a text book, and hold pencil very well, scrabbling in any books she finds, as she is scrabbling she is saying Aaaaaaaaa, bbbbbbb yyyyyyy Zzzzzzzz after that she clapped for her self.
Reason is right from when she started crawling I get an old text book for her and myself and my wife do read for her and at the same time when iam writing I give her biro to write also; today, she has not started school yet, a day will not pass without looking for her textbook to read if she see anyone writing she comes to meet either my wife or me to give her her writing book and pencil.
My neighbor get jealous of us, because his 3 year 7 month child cannot write and cannot Identify anything. We do advice them to give the boy time and inform him ahead of time that he will soon be writing.
Please use book and any educational materials and play with your child.
Thank you

I hope your neighbour's child who can not identify anything is not experiencing delays in vocabulary development?

If in the next 3 months there isn't remarkable improvement, please encourage the parents to seek the professional intervention of a Clinical Child Psychologist for assessment and individualized treatment.

Hathor5:


Exactly!

Story!

When you come down here, youll see the challenge parents are facing because their wards cant compete with children their age who started writing earlier.

Some schools won't even admit a child into a class her age because the child cant compete with his/her peers due to the standard they operate. They mostly suggest putting them in a lower class and this can be very frustrating for most parents especially when changing the childs school from the so called Montessori. This makes them opt for extra lessons on writing for their ward just so they can be at par with other children.

Most Montessori schools are no longer thriving in Nigeria these days.

Make una dey there dey ask questions.

Mindlog:


At 1+ is so wrong having toddlers in a school! Even in Kenya, a child has no business being registered in a school until they clock 3+/4 years.

It's the parents faults so blame it on them.

The competition is high among parents here. They start stylishly from dumping them at the creche so they can have time for work and all that. Before you know it, they are requesting for Uniform and all because they feel the money paid for babysitting ( @ the creche) is a waste. Therefore they want the child to start learning so the money can be well utilized.

Hathor5:


School at 1+ is nonsense and waste of money.

You think so. They don't.

Mercychen:


You think so. They don't.

Thinking ko, guessing ni.

There is enough research and knowledge from different fields like child development psychology, neurology etc. to tell you what is appropriate at what age. Even the Chinese who drill their kids like soldiers don't start school before the age of 6.

Mercychen:


Story!

When you come down here, youll see the challenge parents are facing because their wards cant compete with children their age who started writing earlier.

Some schools won't even admit a child into a class her age because the child cant compete with his/her peers due to the standard they operate. They mostly suggest putting them in a lower class and this can be very frustrating for most parents especially when changing the childs school from the so called Montessori. This makes them opt for extra lessons on writing for their ward just so they can be at par with other children.

Most Montessori schools are no longer thriving in Nigeria these days.

Make una dey there dey ask questions.

They are not meant to compete against their peers. They are meant to develop at their natural and individual pace.

Hathor5:


Thinking ko, guessing ni.

There is enough research and knowledge from different fields like child development psychology, neurology etc. to tell you what is appropriate at what age. Even the Chinese who drill their kids like soldiers don't start school before the age of 6.

Tell it to the school owners. Until then, na theory you de yarn.

Hathor5:


They are not meant to compete against their peers. They are meant to develop at their natural and individual pace.

Direct it to the parents who want their wards to be reading Cambridge at 2.

Mercychen:


Direct it to the parents who want their wards to be reading Cambridge at 2.

I have no business telling parents anything. I was responding to the OP and to you who makes it look like it is normal to write at 2. It's not.

Mercychen:


Story!

When you come down here, youll see the challenge parents are facing because their wards cant compete with children their age who started writing earlier.

Some schools won't even admit a child into a class her age because the child cant compete with his/her peers due to the standard they operate. They mostly suggest putting them in a lower class and this can be very frustrating for most parents especially when changing the childs school from the so called Montessori. This makes them opt for extra lessons on writing for their ward just so they can be at par with other children.

Most Montessori schools are no longer thriving in Nigeria these days.

Make una dey there dey ask questions.

This should not be about competition but proper development. I am learning a lot about education from my kids and they way they are being thought. When I learnt my friends kids back home were already reading and doing maths, I was a bit worried but now I appreciate the system here. EVERYTHING they teach or do and how they do it is DELIBERATE. They seem to have researched most aspect of child development and are methodical about it unlike in Nigeria where everything goes and it's more about parents competing with each other on their children's behalf. My 2 year old cannot read or write. When he turns 5, he will start school and learn to read and write the right way. I never knew there was a way to write each letter until when I home schooled my children during the lockdown. I "crammed" the letters of the alphabet but my children were taught the "art" of writing. They were never thought A-Z. There is a sequence in which it was thought using phonics. For example they could start witth the "ah" sound and move to the "Ee" sound.
The Nigerian government needs to step up and regulate the educational sector and weed out all these quacks. I now know why most of the Nigerians that schooled in UK Universities struggle while those here appear to go through effortlessly.

dustydee:


This should not be about competition but proper development. I am learning a lot about education from my kids and they way they are being thought. When I learnt my friends kids back home were already reading and doing maths, I was a bit worried but now I appreciate the system here. EVERYTHING they teach or do and how they do it is DELIBERATE. They seem to have researched most aspect of child development and are methodical about it unlike in Nigeria where everything goes and it's more about parents competing with each other on their children's behalf. My 2 year old cannot read or write. When he turns 5, he will start school and learn to read and write the right way. I never knew there was a way to write each letter until when I home schooled my children during the lockdown. I "crammed" the letters of the alphabet but my children were taught the "art" of writing. They were never thought A-Z. There is a sequence in which it was thought using phonics. For example they could start witth the "ah" sound and move to the "Ee" sound.
The Nigerian government needs to step up and regulate the educational sector and weed out all these quacks. I now know why most of the Nigerians that schooled in UK Universities struggle while those here appear to go through effortlessly.

Very correct!

50% of the problem in the Nigerian educational system is from the parents. And it more prevalent in private schools because they believe they are paying you therefore they have the right to call the shots.
The schools on the other hand are protecting their own selfish interest ( money) so nobody is willing to do the right thing any longer.

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