Truvelisback:
If the older child keep beating the younger child, when they grow up to be man or woman, the younger child would still have that fear and regard for the older.

Kobojunkie:
And if it so happens that the younger one is stronger than the older child, the younger one can keep beating the older one and his self-esteem into the dust and that younger child will forever think his older sibling a wimp abi?

Na you be genius for una house?

Truvelisback:
From tender age, the older whether male or female have the advantage to beat the younger ones because of the age advantage.

Kobojunkie:
And if it so happens that the younger one is stronger than the older child, the younger one can keep beating the older one and his self-esteem into the dust and that younger child will forever think his older sibling a wimp abi?

Na you be genius for una house?

sisisioge:




Thank you o. My friend has two kids aged 8 and 4. The 4yrs old is a male while the 8yrs is a female. When they start fighting, the boy fights dirty....throwing punches at the girl's belly, face....anywhere like he wants to kill her. Hian! Their mother doesnt even want to tolerate any fight or raise them into violent people. Which one is encouraging older to beat younger or allowing a fight? Family should be all about the loving arms not the hating fists. Some families who hate one another have this feeling dating as far back as their childhood fa. God forbid bad thing!

Truvelisback:
At that tender age, 4yrs difference is a enough advantage for the female child to beat the 4yrs old boy. She is just too weak for allowing her 4 yrs old brother to beat her. If i were ur friend, i would be beat the female for been weak. After beating her thorougly(this will make her heart to be hardened to beat her younger brother), i will reset the match btw she and her younger brother again. And i must make sure she beats him mercilessly while i watch them to know whether to hold the fight or not. If she cries, i will do the same method again. Note: This will make her to be strong and able to challenge other kids outside.

faithfull18:
Violence isn't the way. It's the parents' job to instill discipline by punishing the younger ones when they disrespect the older ones.

ImaIma1:


Don't you think you will be destroying her rather than helping her? You have to study each child individually and try to nurture them according to their differences.

If she seems weak, putting her in a wrestling match to make her stronger might not be the solution. You can teach her to be bold and stand up for herself in more loving ways, rather than with violence.

I hope your crude methods won't come back to bite you in the butt later.

Richy4:
What kind of article is this?.. No wonder some people keep on saying that it's not everyone that deserves to be call a parent... I guess that they are correct

Truvelisback:
Give ur reasons. I give my points based on experience. Many parents especially mothers, do make their younger ones to respect their older brother or sister by over-pampering and defending them, giving them the effontery to dare their older ones in exchange of words, quarrel or a fight.

Richy4:


Violence has never solved any thing... Parents train children nowadays with hope that the world is now a global village... There are chances that your children might find themselves in another country where there are zero tolerance of violence...
Do u know what that might do to them if they should grow up and found themselves in such situations? They might go to jail for violent behaviour due to something that should have been avoided from the beginning...

kids learn from their home and environment.. and whatsoever they learn, that will be with them for a long time... If violence were a way to go at home, when they grow and starts their own family, There's a tendency for it to continue.. and it will be passed to generations..

Truvelisback:
From tender age, the older whether male or female have the advantage to beat the younger ones because of the age advantage.

Iyaebe:
As the only lady in the midst of four heavy guys,they know well never to lay a finger on me,my parents especially my dad ensured that right from childhood, but na me find trouble pass lol but at the same time I know my boundaries.It is wrong for parents to allow violence between their kids,each kid should know his/her boundary.Truvel change this wack mindset else you may eventually ruin your home.

Truvelisback:
Give ur reasons. I give my points based on experience. Many parents especially mothers, do not make their younger ones to respect their older brother or sister by over-pampering and defending them, giving them the effontery to dare their older ones in exchange of words, quarrel or a fight.

Truvelisback:
U have a point. Violence isn't the way but if u instill discipline by punishing the younger ones for disrespecting or beating up their older ones, the older ones might be weak or appear weak to the younger ones and might want to report every little quarrel to u. What if u aren't around and something like that comes up?

faithfull18:

I shared what worked for me. As parents there are several ways to ensure the older ones are never disrespected in your presence or absence. My parents were able to ensure that asides meting out the appropriate punishments, letting the younger ones know those who came before them even if it's by a minute deserves to be respected in words and actions. Then, we the older ones too respect ourselves and don't conduct ourselves in ways that attract disrespect.

Truvelisback:
Lol, u aren't the last born. Are u? In ur own case, it's understandable, since u are the only female among them. They would consider u. Atleast, u know ur boundries. But there are some younger ones that wants to form gragra, stubborness, Alagbara or power Mike towards their older ones. They are the ones i am refering to.

Oizee:
I really doubt that, when we were younger, my younger sister used to oppress me, she would always finish her food quickly and come for mine, all I could do was to cry every time...she can fight.
She's a calm person now and very respectful.... let us just pray for good kids, I don't think their tender age character have any thing to do with them when they become adult

Truvelisback:
Give ur reasons. I give my points based on experience. Many parents especially mothers, do not make their younger ones to respect their older brother or sister by over-pampering and defending them, giving them the effontery to dare their older ones in exchange of words, quarrel or a fight.

re·spect

noun
1. a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements.
2. due regard for the feelings, wishes, rights, or traditions of others.

Kobojunkie:
Do you even know what respect really means?
It is love!

If your way of getting a sibling to "love" an older sibling is by letting them fight each other, what does that say of you as an individual and as a parent?

Truvelisback:
From tender age, the older whether male or female have the advantage to beat the younger ones because of the age advantage.

Favfables1:


OP...
This is true, until the younger one gets to a certain age...

I for one know for CERTAINTY that my elder sister can't beat in a fight...buh I respect her so much so that I don't even dare call her by name, na "sister" I dey call am...

And no..
It's not because she beat me up when I was younger...

There's something called mutual respect...
If you teach your kids ((both old and young)) not to be disrespectful to each other, there will be no need for anyone to beat anyone up

Truvelisback:
When u both of u were very young, she could beat u. Although, some younger kids do use to be stubborn and rude to their older ones inspite of the teachings.

Dailyparrot:


Your argument is flawed. Some kids use less than 2 years to senior their younger ones and in few years time, they may be looking bigger and stronger. It becomes more pronounced when the two genders are not the same.

If you want to gain respect by encouraging physical fist, then you aren't helping any of the children. You are teaching the older child violence and the younger one hatred.

What happens when the older child in an attempt to instill this fear cause a lifetime injury to the younger one? Do you know that the younger child could lose his or her eyes, legs, spinal cord or some more severe body harm in this process?

Why should the younger child fear the older child as an adult? Do you understand that the younger child may not see things from your perspective and may end up hating the older child for life? The fear you so much craved for may turn out to be resentment, avoidance of each other and disunity which you may have to fight as a parent to bridge that gap.

The work of any responsible parent is to ensure constant love and unity among the children. If the younger child grows up to be richer and more successful than the older child, who do you think should respect the other? Will respect and fear still hold because the younger one was beaten mercilessly by the older one?

There's no gain in violence. I will rather suggest you ask the younger child to report to you whenever the older child beats him or her instead of encouraging them to fight. And tell the older child to exercise restrain whenever the younger child misbehaves.

The same misdemeanor that you want the older child to beat the younger child for, he also has his own flaws. It is your duty as a parent to train your children and not the responsibility of the older child to instill discipline in the younger ones.