MrBrownJay1:
you have been married to the devil's daughter... keep searching for new demons to remarry.

Shalommy:
You're 58 with 4kids, what else do you need another wife for? Chaii..

Shalommy:
You're 58 with 4kids, what else do you need another wife for? Chaii..

MrBrownJay1:


companionship, love, affection, care...i would guess!

but the important question IS: why search for such woman in Nigeria, isnt there some nice women in the UK for you?! stop trying to bring yeye women from Africa that would be clueless to life in the west, and bring nothing but more chaos to your life.

remsonik:
Hmmm

remsonik:
Hmmm. Since you're now in Nigeria, you already have four daughters and she's your wife. Settle all issues with her and move back to UK with her. Don't have a surrogate mother. Female children are good too not only male children

GenBuhari:
I don't trust my wife, what could she be up to by asking me in 2019 to provide sperm for a surrogate , I think she was even suggesting her sister in-law who has been unable to have children be the surrogate.

Since returning to UK 18months ago, I learnt from her that she tried to get me abducted from my village compound and committed to mental hospital.

My wife and I are only married on paper, we are UK based, I am 58 y.o. and my wife is 43 y.o. we have been married 22 years, with 4 daughters. I returned to Nigeria in 2018 for 2 years. She made me realise that the marriage is truly dead.

Before I left for Nigeria we had long stopped all intimacy, she hand me on permanent silent treatment, when she came back to visit Nigeria she continued being hostile even to the extent of sharing bedroom with her brother instead of me......

Kobojunkie:
The story wowo, no be small!

If only it were possible to read the other side so as to make sense of many of the not so clear claims abeg..

nasonaso:
Nawa ohh

Saintmary:



Na real wah.


So, after spending the most youthful of his years with the wrong woman, he now wants to squeeze love and affection out of one stupid uneducated african woman abi.


So, African women don't deserve respect and dignity.

Na to chop crumbs of respectability.



He's legally married. That means any other marriage is null and void. See the obvious condescension.


Well, I'm sure some desperate old woman will pm you.

GenBuhari:
So I should remain alone because spent my youthful years with the wrong woman?

How did you get the impression that I think African women don't deserve respect and dignity?

To have a court wedding does not affect the traditional right of a man to get a second wife. In my opinion besides my marriage to my wife is non-existent in reality.

To be honest children are not that important but most women want children and a son would be nice if he comes but not strictly necessary.

Stereotypes:
If you want to remarry, better sooner than later.
It sounds like your wife won't even care since you are living like strangers already.

Looking for child means you'll be looking for chick in the twenties and thirties, so when you're 80,your new beloved will be around late 40s or early 50s.

Most young ladies who will look in your direction will weigh your financial capabilities and also consider that you'll most likely be a liability in 20 years tops.I'm saying this because you may be wearing pampers and needing her to wipe your bumbum by 80-85.

Without good money, this plan will cause you a lot of problems. I hope you've saved well cos it won't be easy to maintain your UK home and your Nigerian home-you will be paying school fees till you are at least 85 years old(ie if you have this son within the next 2 years).

You married your madam when she was 21,and you 35 if your OP is correct . She was very young and maybe she just doesn't want again and is waiting for you to severe the cord.

No point in pretending, why don't you just end it?

If you both won't fix it, move on and live your best lives please.

Life is too short for all this wahala.

Good luck sir.

GenBuhari:
You are spot on. there is not even anything to end sef.
My heart is set on ending my days at home I only returned to UK because of what is going on in the world right now and I cannot trust her to make right decisions for our children alone.
I think she can seek the divorce if she wishes but whilst in UK remaining officially married gives me more rights to remain in our home and have full access to my children. @kobojunkie
I have enough money to start over and start to build a new life so gold diggers would be quickly disappointed.

Kobojunkie:
And the statements in bold, along with the claims you have made so far of her and your intentions, don't add up.

GenBuhari:
1. It won't add up because your brain appears to be wired to only see things from the woman's point of view.
I cannot trust her not to decide get her and my children the C0VlD jabbed.
2. You have to be more specific in pinpointing what it is exactly that is not adding up or you.

GenBuhari:
It won't add up because your brain appears to be wired to only see things from the woman's point of view.
I cannot trust her not to decide get her and my children the C0VlD jabbed.
You have to be more specific in pinpointing what it is exactly that is not adding up or you.

Kobojunkie:
1. Wrong! It doesn't add up because it makes no sense why a some one who claims to have no trust in another person would choose to continue living and raising kids with such a one, this as he searches to add another woman for himself, on a different coast.

It does not add up because you are more willing to continue married to this same person you seem to have nothing good to speak of. You are willing to continue living in the same house with this same person.

2. I can go on, but no point since no matter how you try to explain it away, until I hear from the other side, I probably will not be convinced by anything you have to say.

cococandy:

What’s the issue with the Covid vaccine?

GenBuhari:
Madam, if doesn't add up don't stress yourself too much, the main thing is that I have my good valid reasons for remaining in the house which I have already stated but you have failed to grasp. We don't even share a bedroom anymore and I cook my own meals. If it was not for the plandemic I would be in Nigeria right now.

GenBuhari:
I am looking in Nigeria or Africa because I am still legally married to her in the eyes of UK authorities, but in Africa men can traditionally marry multiple wives. So a new wife cannot get a visa permanently for the UK, also I have a home in Nigeria and my heart is in returning home at my earliest convenience.

MrBrownJay1:


have you ever thought of divorcing ol' crazy wife?

Richy4:
Oga I believe your thinking and the way u see things might be different from any average Nigerian due to your exposure...

If u want a son, U can adopt a son...U know already that there's no stigma attached anymore.... Even if there are, I guess your level of exposure will take care of it..

We kind of have the idea on why u don't wanna divorce her... Abi no be UK again? ..

But on a serious note, think about it...@ your age at the moment, what u should be dwelling on should be strictly on things that will make u happy... Life is too short...

Permanent silent treatment is not close to that quest for the pursuit of happiness u should be seeking... It's like u are living with a flat mate...Is there nothing to salvage from the relationship?.. like rekindling the spark once again?

GenBuhari:
If I tell you that apart from her trying to get me kidnapped (which I know, had it succeeded, I stood a good chance of not surviving that incident, having resolved that I can never allow myself to be carried away), she also refused to help me get some funds when my money ran out in Nigeria , I struggled for a few months until I figured out how to release my money tied up in my financial investments.

The chances of rekindling anything would depend on her apologising and doing things to regain my trust and I have never recalled her to ever sincerely apologise or ever acknowledge any wrongdoing.

My friend, like you said life is too short, and at my age I understand that very well.

GenBuhari:
Have you not noticed my signature?

GenBuhari:
If I tell you that apart from her trying to get me kidnapped (which I know, had it succeeded, I stood a good chance of not surviving that incident, having resolved that I can never allow myself to be carried away), she also refused to help me get some funds when my money ran out in Nigeria , I struggled for a few months until I figured out how to release my money tied up in my financial investments.

The chances of rekindling anything would depend on her apologising and doing things to regain my trust and I have never recalled her to ever sincerely apologise or ever acknowledge any wrongdoing.

My friend, like you said life is too short, and at my age I understand that very well.