GenBuhari:
I am right now in UK and she recently travelled to Nigeria without telling me although we live under same roof in UK. Some one who has done what she did can never gain my trust again. She can never apologise and for that reason I can never settle our issue and trust her.

Kobojunkie:
Another wogowogo aspect of your story be say you no even bother tell us true why your wife started giving you the silent treatment, even moving to room with her brother, long before your 2018 trip to Nigeria but here you skipping the koko all so you can play victim for us, as if seeking validation for your intentions.

You didn't really need to tell us about your looking for wife wey you go sit put down there in Nigeria, you know?

GenBuhari:
I don't trust my wife, what could she be up to by asking me in 2019 to provide sperm for a surrogate , I think she was even suggesting her sister in-law who has been unable to have children be the surrogate.

Since returning to UK 18months ago, I learnt from her that she tried to get me abducted from my village compound and committed to mental hospital.


sharing bedroom with her brother instead of me.

She made this strange request and even two of her brothers tried persuading me after I refused.

cococandy:

Are all vaccinated folks currently poisoned?

It’s okay to have issues with being forced to vaccinate. People should have medical freedom even though I would encourage anyone on the fence to get vaccinated. But saying that it’s poison isn’t true. I respect your choice not to get it but don’t spread false information.

That being said, it’s not even a legit excuse to use as your reason for staying married because married or not, your wife can get the kids vaccinated without your permission.

If truly he is an anti-vaxxer, I'm just wondering how he circumvent from it and find his way to UK.. considering the fact that there's a policy of no vaccination certificate, no entry policy in place..Abi has Nigeria started playing their games again

Ybaby:


You and your current wife are birds of a feather made in heaven.

I beg you , do not bring an innocent woman into this una Yama yama o.

Just be managing each other with your gbas gbos..... in the next 70 years at most both of you would have cleared to heaven.

70 years is not a long time... pls donot bring any woman into una drama

GenBuhari:
I am right now in UK and she recently travelled to Nigeria without telling me although we live under same roof in UK. Some one who has done what she did can never gain my trust again. She can never apologise and for that reason I can never settle our issue and trust her.

GenBuhari:
What is not clear? I am still hear for clarification.

Saintmary:



Na real wah.


So, after spending the most youthful of his years with the wrong woman, he now wants to squeeze love and affection out of one stupid uneducated african woman abi.


So, African women don't deserve respect and dignity.

Na to chop crumbs of respectability.



He's legally married. That means any other marriage is null and void. See the obvious condescension.


Well, I'm sure some desperate old woman will pm you.

Richy4:

In the event that she did not apologize, do you have a plan B?...
Like building a life outside the one you already have... Fresh start...
Do u have a time frame like where and when u gonna start all over again?

Kobojunkie:
And the statements in bold, along with the claims you have made so far of her and your intentions, don't add up.

GenBuhari:
Madam, if doesn't add up don't stress yourself too much, the main thing is that I have my good valid reasons for remaining in the house which I have already stated but you have failed to grasp. We don't even share a bedroom anymore and I cook my own meals. If it was not for the plandemic I would be in Nigeria right now.

cococandy:

Are all vaccinated folks currently poisoned?

It’s okay to have issues with being forced to vaccinate. People should have medical freedom even though I would encourage anyone on the fence to get vaccinated. But saying that it’s poison isn’t true. I respect your choice not to get it but don’t spread false information.

That being said, it’s not even a legit excuse to use as your reason for staying married because married or not, your wife can get the kids vaccinated without your permission.

Kobojunkie:
Another wogowogo aspect of your story be say you no even bother tell us true why your wife started giving you the silent treatment, even moving to room with her brother, long before your 2018 trip to Nigeria but here you skipping the koko all so you can play victim for us, as if seeking validation for your intentions.

You didn't really need to tell us about your looking for wife wey you go sit put down there in Nigeria, you know?

I don't trust my wife, what could she be up to by asking me in 2019 to provide sperm for a surrogate , I think she was even suggesting her sister in-law who has been unable to have children be the surrogate.

cococandy:
If she really did try to get you kidnapped, there’s no coming back from that.

Apology or not

GenBuhari:
She told me herself.

GenBuhari:
We have issues in our marriage like most people and I would not be foolish enough to say that I am blameless, but I did not warrant that type of silent treatment in my opinion. It could be for any reason because people who do silent treatment often do not discuss issues and expect you to automatically understand their reasons.
So many things were going on , she lost her mother 2017 and we lost our second male baby at 5months pregnancy which she may have found a way to blame me for and some other issues and ongoing relationship issues or It could be just pure manipulation on her part.

I don't need external validation for seeking a new wife. Her actions has given me all the validation and justification I need.

NoToPile:
I might be wrong but the main issue here is the male child brouhaha,

Wifey doesn't want to risk carrying another pregnancy which after 4 children and a miscarriage which he stated here is very understandable. Husband wants a male child and Wifey has told him the surrogacy option, husband wants another wife.

My own question is what if you don't have a male child with the other wife.

That abduction part sha I hope it's not true.

remsonik:
Hmmm. Since you're now in Nigeria, you already have four daughters and she's your wife. Settle all issues with her and move back to UK with her. Don't have a surrogate mother. Female children are good too not only male children

LilMissFavvy:
If you are very sure that your wife truly planned your abduction and you are not safe living with her, abroad or in Nigeria, then I think you should get another apartment. It is difficult to believe that a woman can stay with a man she doesn't love for 22good years, then suddenly thinks of abducting him. This is a woman you claimed bought some lands, meaning she's not a broke asssss. So don't you think you may have hurt her badly at some point in the marriage? If you did, then appologise and seek forgiveness.

You did not mention if the surrogacy idea was meant for you/wife, or your childless sister in-law. If you/wife aren't contented with 4 daughters, then pay someone for the surrogacy. Your wife's idea of using her sister to be the surrogate mom isn't good.

Daughters are known to love and sacrifice for their fathers a lot. So if truly you were a good father to your daughters, one or two of them may want to come live with you when you get another home. I do not believe in the concept of "two wives", besides you are almost 60yrs. Also, getting another wife may offend your daughters and make them strick to their mom, while seeing you as the bad one.

Beremx:
Oga, I would advise you go for surrogacy because you can determine the sex of your baby through the procedure. The chances of you remarrying and having male kids through sexual contact is minimal.

Ndidi2:
tell us that u didn't hurt that woman..
Did u cheat on her?
Some women will never forgive you if u cheat on them especially the ones that truly love and respect you.

GenBuhari:
I have never cheated in the marriage.

Beremx:
GenBuhari

It seems after 22years of marriage, you still don’t understand your beloved wife. Your wife is desperately in need of a son and rather than you remarrying and getting a son, she prefers to go through surrogacy which has a better chance of having a male child. What I understand in your story is that she wants surrogacy and you wants to remarry, all for having a male child.
The reason you want to divorce her is simply because you don’t have a male child.

The5DME:
You bored and old folks will conjure up any story, just to get attention. Smh

Ndidi2:
u HV already concluded she is a wrong woman when u hvnt heard her own side..

GenBuhari:
She told me herself she had arranged my abduction even though I had told her beforehand that if anybody ever tells her I have been kidnapped, that she shouldn't bother with a ransom as in cannot be carried away alive. She is not remorseful.

I am okay in the UK, she knows if she try any criminality in UK the police would come and collect her.
She has been very hostile I just ignore, I know she trying to provoke me to violence so police can remove me.

I don't care anymore if she feels hurt, I feel hurt also so we are even.

Surrogacy was for us to get a son which I don't believe because in back then I couldn't trust her (imagine after never-ending silent treatment to suddenly make such a request out of the blue).
I don't consider I have any wife at this present time so essentially my new wife would be my only wife.

Kobojunkie:
1. Wrong! It doesn't add up because it makes no sense why a some one who claims to have no trust in another person would choose to continue living and raising kids with such a one, this as he searches to add another woman for himself, on a different coast.

It does not add up because you are more willing to continue married to this same person you seem to have nothing good to speak of. You are willing to continue living in the same house with this same person.

2. I can go on, but no point since no matter how you try to explain it away, until I hear from the other side, I probably will not be convinced by anything you have to say.

Saintmary:



She's not a wrong woman as a person, just wrong for that particular man.



That is why I don't support women who stay married to a man who doesn't want them, or force his ring on their finger.




Na she go suffer am las las.