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Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by cococandy(f): 6:51pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
GloriousGbola: They asked for it and they got it. 1 Like |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by cococandy(f): 6:59pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
Iyaebe: Apart from pregnancy, the rest of the things you mentioned can be done by men. it’s not set in nature. As much as some people will prefer the traditional arrangement, sometimes financial reality doesn’t allow for it. That means both partners have to work Take your cue from all the men who keep complaining EVERY SINGLE DAY about women who are leeches, lazy, gold diggers, dependent etc. this tells you they do not want to be providers.The majority of them don’t want to provide. They have nothing but insult and derision for women who expect them to be traditional providers. Which forces you as a woman to have to work (even if you don’t want to), In order not to depend on them. Now if you are doing that and still think it’s your role by nature to do everything else you mentioned, you’ll be severely overworked and resentful. Men of today don’t want dependent women. Therefore women of today should learn self preservation by not holding onto 100% of their traditional feminine roles while doing the man’s work too. Your body will ache. 5 Likes |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by Nobody: 7:24pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
cococandy:Ok I get your point and I also agree that women should assist when needed,it’s just that 50:50 thingny that can’t sink in my head.I believe any man who brings that 50:50 mindset into a relationship does not truly love you,sounds like a business enterprise,it’s such a huge turn off.I don’t think I can ever be submissive to any man who demands such from me,I won’t be a liability,I will work,earn and assist when necessary without been told but what I’m finding hard to come to terms with is a man having his eyes fixed on my earnings and requesting that I bring 50percent of it,no naaaaa if God wanted me to be a provider,he would have given me muscles and more strength.If a man can’t provide,what then makes him a man?because that’s the only thing that should place them above women in marriage and relationships .Well,I’m glad there are men who don’t even care about their wife’s earnings,they just want to be respected and taken care of while they totally provide(masculine men). 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by Thebig4: 7:26pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
@Op you have no right to decide for anyone on how he or she should manage their homes, some couples prefer splitting bills 50-50 and some do not, every home is different what works for MR A may never work for MR B keep your advise to your self and stop causing troubles in peoples home. 1 Like |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by postmann: 7:26pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
Nuellavanz96: So many Twists and turns in your post that I found them, intriguing, amuzing, then confusing, then outright grandstanding. Your header was a bashing, calling men who wants financial assistance from their women infidels, which is nothing but the simple truth. I thought the rest of your argument would follow similar line. But then, you went on a numerical rampage of 50 - 50 responsibilities between the man and woman. And there at number 5 did I begin to perceive the emotional side of your argument outweighing your sense of reality and logic. Not everything can be split evenly across board and sex and it's resulting consequences is one of them. They didn't bring equal energy and chromosomes to the table to begin with. He came with both X & Y chromosomes and you came to the party with just an X. He's not going to charge you for the extra chromosome. Neither will he be charging you for the extra work rate that got his heart racing, pumping blood at a faster than normal rate to achieve and maintain the rigidity of his shaft while injecting his seed into you. You on the other hand was only more or less a passive passenger on this love boat. He won't charge you for all that because nature forbids him to. It was all dictated by nature. Same way nature have you bear the grunt of the resulting pregnancy. If you find a 50:50 partner, you can as well ask him to pay you for the time you spent dealing with the discomfort and inconvenience that come with your menstrual flow. Lastly, you said "provision is easy" and you'd prefer being the breadwinner over getting pregnant and giving birth and house chores Well, when a woman denounces her natural disposition as a nurturer, prospective mother and caregiver and rather prefers that which nature bequeaths to a man, then we have the psychological problem of identity crisis and gender dissatisfaction disorder. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 7:50pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
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Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by efficiencie(m): 8:01pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
Nuellavanz96: This is disgustingly stupid. First they ask for 50:50 and now they see that they cannot stand the heat they are saying ohh no more 50:50. As far as I am concerned, if a lady will not submit then she should not be married. She can remain single all her life it's her choice. Any respectful and loving man who marries a lady that won't submit is a comprehensive fool. If a man will not provide, protect, lead, sacrifice and take responsibility for his wife and children he should not be married. He should remain single all his life and any lady who marries or allows such a man sleep with her is a certified idiot. If we chose right we would rid our world of emasculated men and saucy women but because good men fund the stupidity of low life bitches and good women spread their legs for emasculated imbeciles who call themselves men we continue to have a deluge of bitches and imbeciles everywhere! 1 Like |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by Kobojunkie: 10:58pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
cococandy:And many marriages crumble for that very reason. 1 Like |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by Kobojunkie: 11:03pm On Mar 21, 2022 |
Iyaebe:The pregnancy and breastfeeding of babies are obviously not roles in marriage. Ask any unwed woman out there about this. What many refer to as roles in marriage are mostly chores that can be handled by either partner in the marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by Acidosis(m): 4:43am On Mar 22, 2022 |
Is this still a marriage or bill of quantity?? All these calculations because you want to outsmart a so called partner and love of your life?? This "bill of quantity" will only thrive in a loveless marriage. That marriage will crash anyway. A little inflation or life threatening sickness and that marriage is over. Before you accept an idea, it is important to look at the lives of those who adopt that idea. How many "bill of quantity" marriage do you know? How many thrived after 10 years? How many survived 30 years? The only person that will sit with you to calculate the 50-50 role is your ENEMY. The second person is your EX. This thing is somewhat innate. If it's not there, then forget about it. |
Re: Men Who Want Assistance In Splitting Bills Are Simply INFIDELS by Nobody: 8:10am On Mar 22, 2022 |
The op tried to make sense but actually ended up making non. No exclusive formula works for all marriages because of income disparities, cultural values, personalities, economic outlook etc. I know men who also pay their working wives personal salary(different from feeding allowance) at the end of every month. Does that make it the standard? I also know women who shoulder over 70% of their family responsibilities. What makes op think the roles she is offering as reason for splitting bills cannot be outsourced and vice-versa, she hasn’t heard of surrogacy and gigolo right. So why should he/she want to marry you with all the attendant headache when such roles can be outsourced on a cheaper bargain. If it doesn’t works for you, simply run along, your mindset can never be a standard. Mr A’s template might not be applicable in B’s home due to a lot of factors. |
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