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Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by kingreign(m): 12:10pm On Apr 17, 2022
Some days ago, the whole nation was shaken by the sudden demise of a gospel minister and social media was suddenly flooded with stories, pictures and videos of men netting out violence towards women.
As a husband, a brother, a son and a father, I strongly condemn violence of any kind be it, violence against a tribe, a religion, a sovereign country, a gender or age group or race and I speak very strongly against such.
But in recent times I have come to ask myself some questions and carried out research only to find out that a lot of men go through a lot of challenges, violence and acts which is swept under the carpet.
Like I stated earlier, I’m totally against ALL forms of violence towards all gender; But it seems these violence against women advocates are getting it loop-sided.

Folks in Nigeria and outside the country are getting this whole thing wrongly mixed up. Most times, even the male are the ones who are abused emotionally, mentally and psychologically.
When you see most men walking down the street, they are in deep thoughts of how to make up for their families, spouses, children etc.
They go out face all sort of risks, come back and instead of being appreciated, they face abusive wives who compares them to their richer well to do neighbours or family members. As a result of these constant issues, the men become unsettled and desperate most times, to even top it up, when the man is about to leave home for his daily work/livelihood, his wife will stand up and block his door, screaming at her voice, pointing towards him and even dragging his clothes because the man didn’t have enough to give her.
At times, these women even go the extreme lengths of tearing his clothes, dousing him with water or oil or soup, and beating him up or slapping him
I am not making this up, It happens. We have stories of men murdered in cold blood by their spouses/partners and at the end of the day, everybody goes quiet.
As a human being, I strongly speak against any form of human violence against anybody be it a woman, man or a child. The society who raised dust and cried about violence netted out towards women and children will hush all men and down play these atrocities committed against male folks telling them to be strong to man up and not to complain.
We have all sorts of organizations and societies speaking and working against gender based violence. Let’s ask ourselves, which gender are they protecting 80% of the time?
Female gender!!
Where then is the equality which these organizations and societies speak of?
The male gender is left out in the cold to suffer left out in the dark to be battered by storms of life.
Most times a male folk graduate from school as a high flyer, a female graduate mid class or lower class but most times, the female is more likely to get the job if both applies to same position in same organization.
I think it’s time for male folks to stand up and speak against violence targeted towards us lest we become endangered species in the nearest future.

Thanks.


Mike writes from Nigeria.

Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Candidlady: 12:17pm On Apr 17, 2022
Story ! Like ego will allow you guys speak up! undecided

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by kingreign(m): 12:18pm On Apr 17, 2022
Candidlady:
Story ! Like ego will allow you guys speak up! undecided


A violent woman spotted!!! angry
Happy Easter to you dear tongue
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by duro4chang(m): 12:19pm On Apr 17, 2022
Nobody is talking abou that. Men go just ...
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Candidlady: 12:21pm On Apr 17, 2022
kingreign:

A violent woman spotted!!! angry
Happy Easter to you dear tongue


Iam so the oppose of violent paladin wink lucky is that man who eventually wins the heart of this girl_fact_


Happy Easter to you too
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Mindlog: 12:24pm On Apr 17, 2022
Men need to lead the charge, stand up and speak up against abuse they experience from their intimate partners and not feel emasculated for verbalizing their experience.

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Tickles001(m): 12:26pm On Apr 17, 2022
We live in a society where men are loved less and their sacrifices not recognized.
Nobody wants to hear about a man's problems. But the whole world will stand in line to defend a woman even when she doesn't want to be saved.
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Blakjewelry(m): 12:48pm On Apr 17, 2022
Omo na male discrimination many pass o, but nobody take talk because of the brothers wey over wicked come use rob all of us
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Nobody: 1:20pm On Apr 17, 2022
Yeah, violence in marriage happen in both ways men too can be abused( and some have been abused) but the problem is who will believed the man when he narrates his ordeals at the hands of an abusive wife? imagine a man telling his inlaw or family members that his wife is fond of slapping or heating him at home during little quarrels, off course they would all laugh at him and call him names , some may even say he is not man enough & call him (woman wrapper), the problem is that our society donot take men serious when we reports issues of domestic violence, which is sad sad sad sad
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Biglittlelois(f): 1:33pm On Apr 17, 2022
What is stopping you men from speaking up for yourselves? Is this a competition? That Hausa lady that stabbed her husband to death, didn't everyone condemn her? Wasn't she tried and served jail term? Are there not many DV from men and women that has been condemned? Or you want everyone to neglect DV on women and face DV on male simply because you hate the attention it is bringing and want all the attention for yourselves? Or what exactly is the problem

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by kingreign(m): 1:39pm On Apr 17, 2022
Biglittlelois:
[s]What is stopping you men from speaking up for yourselves? Is this a competition? That Hausa lady that stabbed her husband to death, didn't everyone condemn her? Wasn't she tried and served jail term? Are there not many DV from men and women that has been condemned? Or you want everyone to neglect DV on women and face DV on male simply because you hate the attention it is bringing and want all the attention for yourselves? Or what exactly is the problem[/s]
Pls, don’t bring this silly disgusting comment into serious talks which involves lives and complete wellbeing of human being next time. Be guided!

Thanks.
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Biglittlelois(f): 1:39pm On Apr 17, 2022
Johnnycastro18:
Yeah, violence in marriage happen in both ways men too can be abused( and some have been abused) but the problem is who will believed the man when he narrates his ordeals at the hands of an abusive wife? imagine a man telling his inlaw or family members that his wife is fond of slapping or heating him at home during little quarrels, off course they would all laugh at him and call him names , some may even say he is not man enough & call him (woman wrapper), the problem is that our society donot take men serious when we reports issues of domestic violence, which is sad sad sad sad


You can start by campaigning vigorously for men to speak out for themselves and be recognized as also victims, or what is stopping you? You men dominate this society so start by talking to your kind to desist from the discrimination, start by having conferences, opening NGOs, creating awareness that men can also be vulnerable, weak and victims cos they are humans too, very simple.

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by kingreign(m): 1:41pm On Apr 17, 2022
Biglittlelois:



You can start by campaigning vigorously for men to speak out for themselves and be recognized as also victims, or what is you? You men dominate this society so start by talking to your kind to desist from the discrimination, start by having conferences, opening NGOs, creating awareness that men can also be vulnerable, weak and victims cos they are humans too, very simple.

Young lady, you sound embittered. What’s the matter?
If you have been disappointed or heartbroken or used and dumped by unfortunate men you relate with, We are sorry but please, don’t bring this bitterness into this thread. The world has had enough bitterness and pains to deal with.

Thanks.

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Biglittlelois(f): 1:43pm On Apr 17, 2022
kingreign:

Pls, don’t bring this silly disgusting comment into serious talks which involves lives and complete wellbeing of human being next time. Be guided!

Thanks.


Truly comprehension is not that hard, can't you read? Or the truth hurts cos it's coming from a woman? Y'all don't really want to be seen as victims, you just hate that all attention is on women and want a part of it, because my comment shouldn't have hurt you if you really care for yourselves.

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by kingreign(m): 1:44pm On Apr 17, 2022
Biglittlelois:



Truly comprehension is not that hard, can't you read? Or the truth hurts cos it's coming from a woman? Y'all don't really want to be seen as victims, you just hate that all attention is on women and want a part of it, because my comment shouldn't have hurt you if you really care for yourselves.
Here we go again, pls stop it already!
You’re sounding like a broken record with your boring rants.
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Nobody: 1:44pm On Apr 17, 2022
Biglittlelois:



You can start by campaigning vigorously for men to speak out for themselves and be recognized as also victims, or what is stopping you? You men dominate this society so start by talking to your kind to desist from the discrimination, start by having conferences, opening NGOs, creating awareness that men can also be vulnerable, weak and victims cos they are humans too, very simple.
well you are right, the society needs reorientation about abuse on men, would play my own part in my little way to voice this, you are welcome wink wink
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Biglittlelois(f): 1:46pm On Apr 17, 2022
kingreign:


Young lady, you sound embittered. What’s the matter?
If you have been disappointed or heartbroken or used and dumped by unfortunate men you relate with, We are sorry but please, don’t bring this bitterness into this thread. The world has had enough bitterness and pains to deal with.

Thanks.


Ahn ahn see deflection, their point of attack is to go personal when faced with facts, so emotional with no thought process, I gave suggestion on how to campaign and create awareness for yourselves, you are hyperventilating about, una never ready.

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Biglittlelois(f): 1:48pm On Apr 17, 2022
Johnnycastro18:
well you are right, the society needs reorientation about abuse on men, would play my own part in my little way to voice this, you are welcome wink wink


Thank you.


You are obviously the only sensible guy here.

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by BrianGriffin: 2:23pm On Apr 17, 2022
@OP are you in a competition with women? Why are so many men on here just full of hate. A lady made a very good suggestion which men should look into rather than seeing it as that, you are exchanging words. If the females are so bad why not turn to our own gender, maybe a GAY partner will give you the peace you want more. Since only males have suddenly become perfect without blemish. @ the topic we need more men to speak up, if no one believes quit the damn marriage, no body deserves to be maltreated.

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Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by kingreign(m): 2:31pm On Apr 17, 2022
BrianGriffin:
@ [s]OP are you in a competition with women? Why are so many men on here just full of hate. A lady made a very good suggestion which men should look into rather than seeing it as that, you are exchanging words. If the females are so bad why not turn to our own gender, maybe a GAY partner will give you the peace you want more[/s] . Since only males have suddenly become perfect without blemish. @ the topic we need more men to speak up, if no one believes quit the damn marriage, no body deserves to be maltreated.
Re: Violence Against Female Folks, What About The Male Folks? by Richy4(m): 2:34pm On Apr 17, 2022
OP, do you think Nigerians are ripe, matured and ready to have this kind of discussion?... The way I see it, it's not gonna happen anytime soon...

A populous nation like Nigeria, no domestic violence hotline..So where and how are u gonna begin to have this kind of discussion?

If those basics are not available, who will refer the abused to centre for men in crisis... The funny part is that most of this leaders graduated abroad... They have seen how some of those things work... But they will never implement it to better the lives of the citizens..

Do you think that someone can ever open such an NGO in Nigeria for men in crisis Considering the misconceptions that men don't cry or feel pains...If men should speak up, after speaking what next?

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