QuinModah:

We've all agreed and rightfully so that a man has no business hitting his wife. So how then do you stop a wife raining verbal missiles at you? Leave the house? Okay. But you'll return and it will continue. What next? Leave again? For how long?

Recently, I visited a senior friend, an important man in the society and while we were downstairs gisting, the voice of his wife could be heard upstairs. She was spewing unimaginable bile against the man. She called him all sorts of unprintable names. Impotent, wretched fool, miserable man that was nothing when she married him, etc. This is a well respected man. A father of 4 children. She tore at his very core and mocked everything society respected him for. She said he'd soon crash and she'll be there to laugh at him.
I was so uncomfortable as I beheld the man. He was shrunken before me. He was deflated. He tried to gamefully continue the gist to distract me but it was not working. The woman's vitriol was a ceaseless torrent. Uncomfortable silence ensued. I excused myself and left his house.I was really sad.

You want to know the truth? This is what most men go through in their houses. They labour and toil and build respect but when they return home, the one who ought to speak to the king in them tears them to shreds and tries to deflate their self-esteem. When they are outside, they try to act cheerful and happy but back home, they are shrivelled because the person they live with makes it a point of duty to verbally assault them.

QuinModah:
Our bars are filled with men who are afraid to go home to their wives for fear of what verbal torment they will go through. Men are finding every excuse to travel because they'll rather be anywhere than in their own homes.

Everybody is focusing on men as culprits in domestic abuse. Who is talking to the women?
- Author Anonymous

Kobojunkie:
The reason for the focus is the issue of physical assault which happens to be a crime even in Nigeria..

Verbal and emotional abuse are not criminal offense but physical assault is a crime and punishable by law..

malik28:
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QuinModah:
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QuinModah:
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Kobojunkie:
The reason for the focus is the issue of physical assault which happens to be a crime even in Nigeria..

Verbal and emotional abuse are not criminal offense but physical assault is a crime and punishable by law..

HiideaConsole:


Verbal abuse even emotional abuses are not crimes in the law court but could be used against you when presented against you in a court case

It's absurd for anyone to think they can get away absolutely with both forms of abuses without one form of consequence or the other. You can't have your cake and eat it

QuinModah:

HiideaConsole:





Good morning to you...

Have I said something not accurate?
Pretty sure there's no one in Nigeria who's not heard the phrase 'anything you say can be used against you in the court of law' including useless talks wey some women pride themselves in

Na only recording of some of the things wey you talk go nail you for court...

How about emotional abuse, Johnny depp and amber heard case is a typical example of how abuses of any kind could get you in trouble and work against you in court...

Let's face it, abuse is abuse, period...

You can't sow the wind and not want to reap the whirlwind. You keep on dishing abuses and expect peaceful reactions? Nah, one way or the other the subject of the abuse will get tired of bullshît

HiideaConsole:
Verbal abuse even emotional abuses are not crimes in the law court but could be used against you when presented against you in a court case

It's absurd for anyone to think they can get away absolutely with both forms of abuses without one form of consequence or the other. You can't have your cake and eat it

Fahvvy:
Honestly, I still don't understand why men tolerate abuse of any kind... Like, you would be responsible for a grown adult, paying her bills and taking care of her, prolly even start a business for her and yet she speaks bile at you on a regular basis and you do nothing about it!!! What sort of stupidity is this?!!

Either ways Sha...
Na wuna matter be that o ....
All I know is that the day my wife abuse me in any way, whether verbal, emotional or otherwise is the day the marriage ends ...

She will go back to her father's house and go and run her mouth ...

pansophist:
The pain men feel doesn't start when he becomes a husband, it starts the very day a human is born a man. Most men live in quiet desperation, with no end in sight to their agony. They see women get for free what they must work like a camel for.

As a boy grows older, responsibilities from society, himself and relationship heaps high and high. And he is only appreciated or awarded with the basic things of life such as intimacy and respect when he delivers.

Ask your average woman who is very well aware of the gender conditions if they would like to be a man in their next life, and they will tell you no. You don't want to be a man in Ukraine right now. You must stay back and fight even if you're dumb, deaf, blind and cripple.

The only qualification one needs to have is to be born a man, and he must stay back and fight regardless if he is weak and stupid, while a female boxer and wrestler can leave freely. I guess dying is a privilege.

And if men's life was easier as some dumb misandrist believed, we should be seeing women transgender to men in masses, but the opposite is the case. Go look at the brothers of your average slay queens, and see how wretched they look.

Women's live are hard, no denying of that, but for someone to honestly beat their chest and say men are privileged and have it easier in their scapegoated "patriarchy" Is not only an idiot, but not a good person.

pansophist:
The pain men feel doesn't start when he becomes a husband, it starts the very day a human is born a man. Most men live in quiet desperation, with no end in sight to their agony. They see women get for free what they must work like a camel for.

As a boy grows older, responsibilities from society, himself and relationship heaps high and high. And he is only appreciated or awarded with the basic things of life such as intimacy and respect when he delivers.

Ask your average woman who is very well aware of the gender conditions if they would like to be a man in their next life, and they will tell you no. You don't want to be a man in Ukraine right now. You must stay back and fight even if you're dumb, deaf, blind and cripple.

The only qualification one needs to have is to be born a man, and he must stay back and fight regardless if he is weak and stupid, while a female boxer and wrestler can leave freely. I guess dying is a privilege.

And if men's life was easier as some dumb misandrist believed, we should be seeing women transgender to men in masses, but the opposite is the case. Go look at the brothers of your average slay queens, and see how wretched they look.

Women's live are hard, no denying of that, but for someone to honestly beat their chest and say men are privileged and have it easier in their scapegoated "patriarchy" Is not only an idiot, but not a good person.

uthlaw:
who send them go marry, married is sweet when you meet the right person,na d right person de kill Ena one by one!

HiideaConsole:


Verbal abuse even emotional abuses are not crimes in the law court but could be used against you when presented against you in a court case

It's absurd for anyone to think they can get away absolutely with both forms of abuses without one form of consequence or the other. You can't have your cake and eat it

Autobot05:
I'd record extreme verbal abuse , call her parents over and play it for them ... if she tries it again she go land for their house back . I cherish my peace of mind a lot