Youngwiz71:
You for kukuma build another house give your wife then build another house give your children then you self you stay for another house entirely , when una want do family meeting una fit connect through Zoom ehn

But seriously it's not cool na, am not married but I'll advice you to listen to the advice of your parent and in laws..

Besides that staying in different rooms can send a very bad message to the minds of your children, it makes it look like you guys are separated or doesn't love it other which can adversely affect them...

My opinion tho, but you're at liberty to build your home the way you want..

Abujaexpress:
I have been facing a lot of criticisms from some of my in-laws and my relatives, particularly my mother in-law who has frowned at why I will build a three bedroom flat, with separate rooms for me and my wife.

ValCon888:
Oga. It's your marriage do whatever makes you
and your wife comfortable.

Go and watch Things Fall Apart and then tell me whether "Ebube Dike" was sleeping in the same hut with his wives.

Let's stop with the pontification. This is a case of "crying wolf" when there is no sheep.

In ancient times our great grandparents and grandparents had separate rooms.

Even lived in separate huts.

And yet their marriages are still the litmus test for longevity today.

Stallionhorse:
No don't share a room!! Infact don't share the sane house! Pack out to another county sef that will be most preferably.. Anofia.. May you remain unfortunate till you have sense!!

Richy4:
What was the plan of your room and hers like?... I mean is it a connecting room or just an adjourning room?

Abujaexpress:
Adjoining room and wife prefers it because it allows her to sleep to her comfort. Be I be sex type and she frowns at doing it everytime

I can now see why your mother in-law was complaining.. connecting room would have been the best in this case...

It mustn't be sex all the time YES but that warmth, the cuddling at night before sleep claims u guys is still something...The little pillow talk while in bed and settling little misunderstanding in the bedroom would be missing..

Besides, as the kids starts growing up, anytime their mother goes to your room or u sneak into her room at an ungodly hour they will know what you came for at that hour of the night but if it's a connecting room, u both would just use the connecting door..

Richy4:

I can now see why your mother in-law was complaining.. connecting room would have been the best in this case...

It mustn't be sex all the time YES but that warmth, the cuddling at night before sleep claims u guys is still something...The little pillow talk while in bed and settling little misunderstanding in the bedroom would be missing..

Besides, as the kids starts growing up, anytime their mother goes to your room or u sneak into her room at an ungodly hour they will know what you came for at that hour of the night but if it's a connecting room, u both would just use the connecting door..

Abujaexpress:
This is superb expository. thank you

U are welcome buddy but remember, I have nothing against your decision...
If it's convenient for both of you, cool... The most important thing is that you both are happy

Abujaexpress:
I have been facing a lot of criticisms from some of my in-laws and my relatives, particularly my mother in-law who has frowned at why I will build a three bedroom flat, with separate rooms for me and my wife.

I married my wife in 2016 and we have been been living in a rented One Bedroom Flat, i.e. A bedroom and living room. We have got 3 kids and just early this year, we moved to our own house- a three bedrooms flat all ensuite. The master bedroom for me as the husband and my Wife's room and the other room for the kids, all tailored to suit our respective tastes.

But my mother-in-law, on coming to greet us recently was not comfortable with me and my wife's having different rooms, even when we have allayed whatever fears she may be nursing. According to her reasons, husband and wife living in separate rooms will not bond the love or marriage stronger compared to if we are living or sharing the same room. Apart from her, a few of my people too, including my foster mother have also raised a concern about, saying that the best for us was for both of us to share the same room so that there will be more bonding and attachment.

I really want to ask, which is better and is there anything bad about a husband and wife living apart in different rooms or it's better to share and live in one Room?

oluplus:
Why exactly did you build a separate room for your wife?
Did you not enjoy your stay together while you were in a rented apartment?
I use the same room with my wife but I have a room I go to sometimes when I have some things to do that need concentration.
I also do not support separate rooms for couples.

When one partner snores, separate room is advisable for one's sanity

Richy4:

When one partner snores, separate room is advisable for one's sanity

ValCon888:
Oga. It's your marriage do whatever makes you
and your wife comfortable.

Go and watch Things Fall Apart and then tell me whether "Ebube Dike" was sleeping in the same hut with his wives.

Let's stop with the pontification. This is a case of "crying wolf" when there is no sheep.

In ancient times our great grandparents and grandparents had separate rooms.

Even lived in separate huts.

And yet their marriages are still the litmus test for longevity today.

Introvertedgirl:

After my dad built a separate room for himself, it didn't take long for him to get a new wife. They've got 3 little kids now

Amarisco:


Nope. Sorry that’s for very different reasons.

1. You are referencing polygamous homes - but wives wouldn’t all just share one bed. Each wife will know when it’s her turn to lay in her husband’s bed.

Will OP now be booking advanced appointment to sleep with his wife?

2. In ancient times our ‘grandparents’ were traditionalists. As such, there are some things that a menstruating woman cannot go near.

Is OP keeping any charm or staff in his room?? Did he do any spiritual bath?

The basic concept here is simple, separate rooms diminishes intimacy.

Ebubedike ko Oluebube ni.

naija4life247:


No single woman will make Heaven because of their selfishness like the one displayed by this daughter of Eve

naija4life247:


No single woman will make Heaven because of their selfishness like the one displayed by this daughter of Eve

Abujaexpress:
I have been facing a lot of criticisms from some of my in-laws and my relatives, particularly my mother in-law who has frowned at why I will build a three bedroom flat, with separate rooms for me and my wife.

I married my wife in 2016 and we have been been living in a rented One Bedroom Flat, i.e. A bedroom and living room. We have got 3 kids and just early this year, we moved to our own house- a three bedrooms flat all ensuite. The master bedroom for me as the husband and my Wife's room and the other room for the kids, all tailored to suit our respective tastes.

But my mother-in-law, on coming to greet us recently was not comfortable with me and my wife's having different rooms, even when we have allayed whatever fears she may be nursing. According to her reasons, husband and wife living in separate rooms will not bond the love or marriage stronger compared to if we are living or sharing the same room. Apart from her, a few of my people too, including my foster mother have also raised a concern about, saying that the best for us was for both of us to share the same room so that there will be more bonding and attachment.

I really want to ask, which is better and is there anything bad about a husband and wife living apart in different rooms or it's better to share and live in one Room?